I Need Some Serious Help...

Please only reply to this thread seriously, I'm really worried about this... I mean I can take a joke, but I just need some help right now.

Alright so last night I was smoking outta my glass pipe, some pretty good shit I might add, but I had put a towel under the door, clogged my airvent with sheets, and then opened the windows and put the fan on blaring right out the window. I made SURE to blow each hit into the fan. I left the fan on about an hour after, just to make sure. Now, this was at like, 2:00 in the morning. I got a very rude awakening this morning. It was my dad... he woke me up & told me my room smelled like pot. This is the second time he's said that after I've been smoking. Now, my dad used to smoke himself, he actually stopped about a year ago. I know he used to, I found his pipes and we talked about it. Now to the good part...

So I'm just playing Socom3 today, minding my own business. I get a phone call from my dad, he basically said good morning, make sure I take the dog out, do the dishes, etc... but then near the end he asked if I was smoking last night. I didn't know what to say, so I just denied it... trying to sound offended. Then, about 25 minutes later I got another call; this time it was my mom. She sounded worried on the phone, but not mad at all. My dad had e-mailed her and told her he has suspisions. I denied it to my mom also. Here's the part where I'm lost...

The gentlemen below me (I live in an apartment) tokes up every now and then. His room is directly below mine, so where does the smoke go? Up to our apartment. I used this as a cover up to my parents, saying it was only him smoking again... but I get the feeling that this time the smell was too strong to be coming from his place. Now, when my dad called he said this, "Corey, were you smoking last night? I'm just curious... I wanted to know, not so I could yell at you or ground you, but just incase something was wrong." Now I was a bit upset yesterday afternoon when I was talking to my dad. I dunno if that means that he wouldn't really care if I was or did in the future or not. He's also said to me about 2-3 months ago, that as long as it didn't effect my grades, he wouldn't really mind if I did. Being an ex-smoker, do you guys feel like my dad would understand all of this? He's usually pretty understanding about things that I do. I'm not worried at all about my mom, she's lived with my dad doing it around me as a child and before that for years, and she's already said she doesn't really see the big deal of it and she doesn't mind it at all.

So... after my enormous (I'm sorry about that, just trying to explain everything in detail.) story, I'm just stuck whether I should let my parents know or not. I know neither or them would send me to drug rehab, or turn me in. I'm just worried I'd have to give up toking till I was 18. (I'm 16 now btw.) Both parents being very, very familiar with weed, I don't know if they'd be more understanding, or if they're trying to lure me into false alarm and into a trap of grounding for the rest of the summer.

Like I said, I'm sorry about the extremely fucking long story. :D

Tell them. But be mature about and and explain to them that you're able to function and still deal with everyday life with it. Tell them that if you're ever caught, you'll take responsibility. Also, emphasize that it won't effect your schooling (if it will, then don't bother lying). Oh, and make sure that they know it won't lead to other drugs or alcohol, parents worry about that more than anything.

Then ask them if they wanna smoke up with you.:thumbsup:

IMO just tell them if your grades drop you will stop until they are back up and staying up. Grades first.

lol, I think my dad wouldn't take kindly if I asked him to toke ever...

But yeah, I just don't how to bring it up. I don't know what to say, I don't know what would happen if anything were to go wrong... I don't know anything. :(

Don't bring it up until they do. Make sure to wait until it's on THEIR mind, then tell them what's on YOUR mind. They both sound like very cool parents, just afraid that their son is going through something in his life that is forcing him to use drugs to make him feel better.

I don't think they'd make you stop, they both sound pretty cool. Just tell them like Alive and Zeebo said and all, it won't affect your grades, and you won't be doing other drugs as long as they don't make toking out to be the devil, adding more stress to your already stressful life.

I think they'll be cool with it.

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Originally Posted by Gothen

Don't bring it up until they do. Make sure to wait until it's on THEIR mind, then tell them what's on YOUR mind. They both sound like very cool parents, just afraid that their son is going through something in his life that is forcing him to use drugs to make him feel better.

I don't think they'd make you stop, they both sound pretty cool. Just tell them like Alive and Zeebo said and all, it won't affect your grades, and you won't be doing other drugs as long as they don't make toking out to be the devil, adding more stress to your already stressful life.

I think they'll be cool with it.

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I think you've pretty much hit the nail 100% on the head with what you're thinking. I've decided to tell them, well I'll tell my dad first cause he'd be pissed if I told my mom before I told him. I never really got the best of grades in the first place (I think I have something that makes me not apply myself and not try.), so I maybe weed could make me do better? Thanks for the help guys, if anyone else has any suggestions on a back-up plan incase they flip shit then or anything else let me know.

I knew this would be the place to ask - very bright guys here, thanks again. :)

Edit: Oh yeah, they've also been thinking I have depression, it runs in the family. I think they're scared I'm using weed as an escape from reality, anything on how to convince them that's it's an enhancement not an escape?

for depression convince them that you feel fine when not high you just do it for a little excitement

I've always had the same problem. My grades have ALWAYS been average. School has never really challenged me, I felt I already knew almost every thing that those people were trying to teach me, at least when it came to subjects with words. In math, I never applied myself because I never believed in myself.

What you should tell them, I think, is that they KNOW that you've never had the best of grades, but that you will promise to not let any of your grades fall to failing or below average (D range) if they just let you toke when you need to, and not get on your back about it.

If they do flip out when you tell them that you smoke, I think you should tell them that you'll quit doing it in their house, or around them, that you'll never come home high, etc etc. That way, you're not completely lying to them, they'll know you smoke, but you won't let them know how much you really smoke, and they'll think you're doing okay with it.

Just make sure not to smoke all the time. Depression, suicide, and a whole list of other life-fucks run in my family, and over time I've allowed marijuana to turn into my panacea. Meaning, I use it for everything negative in my life. I'm depressed? Smoke. I don't feel good? Smoke. I'm bored? Smoke. I'm hungry? Smoke.

It goes on and on, don't let it happen to you, mi mano!

I hope this all goes well... If I don't post back for awhile... you'll know why. :(

Thanks to everyone though.:stoned:

Edit, Allright, this is all sounding pretty good now. I have all of the major bases covered. I'm about 85% sure they won't be all that mad, I know they'll be upset at first, but in time I know they'll grow to accept it. Thanks once again, really helped me out here. :) :thumbsup:

Mission Accomplished!

Err, well half way anyways. :p

I called my mom and I was talking to her about just normal stuff, going to a movie next week & everything. Then I just thought I had better come straight out and tell her. I couldn't tell her myself, I just felt too guilty for lying to her. (I guess if some of you who are really close to your mom would know... it's not the same as lying to your girlfriend or something.) So, I had a friend call her and tell her. This friend has talked to my mom & met her and they're a lot alike. They share a lot of interests and get along great, so I figured it'd be best if she told her.

And the results were better than I had expected. My mom didn't really act all that much different, just said to call her later when we've both had time to think, and to watch out for my dad because he might want to search my room/me tonight. I got rid of everything that was bad... except for that. I have it hidden inside a speaker of my stereo. I don't think my dad would look there, but does anyone had a better spot? I don't wanna give it to anyone... as I don't really trust them, and I'm not totally sure my dad will search my room.

50% of the weight has been lifted. I wish I could smoke a bowl of relief now. :(

If you have a PS2, and aren't using it, I would also think about putting it in your Expansion Bay. I used to use that all the time, and my rent never looked there, ever.

I'm glad for ya, though, mi mano! I think your dad might be the same way, but your mom is just trying to make sure you don't get into too much trouble with him. That's really badass, I think! Congrats!

Yeah my dad just got home and is also in a LOT better mood than when I talked to him before. He mentiod the smoke last night, and said, "I don't know if you were smoking last night or not, but even if you were it's not like it's the end of the world anyways."

Things are looking pretty good. My dad still doesn't know for sure, but I think he does have a pretty good idea.

BTW, Gothen do you have AIM or something?

Glad to hear it, man! I'm pretty sure he knows you were smoking, though. lol He probably just said it to calm you down. It sounds like he realizes that you smoke, but that you're doing okay with your life right now, so he isn't going to really interfere.

Oh, and yeah, I do, I usually am on on the name NoWhereElseLeft

I would tell him like a man, he will at least respect you if you don't deny things that he already knows. Keep your grades up and it should be a nonissue.

Yeah, I think that's how it is too Gothen. I also added you to my buddy list so I'll message you whenever you get on. I'll post again if anything happens.

I am A 35 year old Dad of 2. I went through the same shit.

Here is my 2....

Get some Balls and go talk to your DAD, and MOM. ( i got kicked out of the house twice for smokin weed)

Tell them If I am Man enough to smoke... i am Man enough to

Do all chores asigned........ALL

Keep Job at all times.......

Must keep a b average at school.......

Never bring it in the House........ Keep it in Car, under rock what ever

Dude dont smoke in your room late at night. Do you think you Dad is stupid. I would Kick your ass for LYing to me...RIGHT NOW.

If they dont go for it............do what your going to do.




Picture a fucking gorilla (me) yelling at you about an inch from your face so loud you would feel it in your soul........all i would be yelling at you about is LYING. Thats what would go down at mt house. Then after you got back to earth...... we would smoke a doobie

Do you know what fucking honor is? Treat your fucking parents with some.

stop bein skitsy n tell them u do then u can smoke more lol :P

Bong30 you've got the right idea and all but you're getting a little emotional at the end there. no offense or anything.

And as people said earlier tell your dad. If hes smoked it before he should know its not a horrible drug. Be straight about everything from when you started to how much you smoke

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Originally Posted by invoke

Please only reply to this thread seriously, I'm really worried about this... I mean I can take a joke, but I just need some help right now.

Alright so last night I was smoking outta my glass pipe, some pretty good shit I might add, but I had put a towel under the door, clogged my airvent with sheets, and then opened the windows and put the fan on blaring right out the window. I made SURE to blow each hit into the fan. I left the fan on about an hour after, just to make sure. Now, this was at like, 2:00 in the morning. I got a very rude awakening this morning. It was my dad... he woke me up & told me my room smelled like pot. This is the second time he's said that after I've been smoking. Now, my dad used to smoke himself, he actually stopped about a year ago. I know he used to, I found his pipes and we talked about it. Now to the good part...

So I'm just playing Socom3 today, minding my own business. I get a phone call from my dad, he basically said good morning, make sure I take the dog out, do the dishes, etc... but then near the end he asked if I was smoking last night. I didn't know what to say, so I just denied it... trying to sound offended. Then, about 25 minutes later I got another call; this time it was my mom. She sounded worried on the phone, but not mad at all. My dad had e-mailed her and told her he has suspisions. I denied it to my mom also. Here's the part where I'm lost...

The gentlemen below me (I live in an apartment) tokes up every now and then. His room is directly below mine, so where does the smoke go? Up to our apartment. I used this as a cover up to my parents, saying it was only him smoking again... but I get the feeling that this time the smell was too strong to be coming from his place. Now, when my dad called he said this, "Corey, were you smoking last night? I'm just curious... I wanted to know, not so I could yell at you or ground you, but just incase something was wrong." Now I was a bit upset yesterday afternoon when I was talking to my dad. I dunno if that means that he wouldn't really care if I was or did in the future or not. He's also said to me about 2-3 months ago, that as long as it didn't effect my grades, he wouldn't really mind if I did. Being an ex-smoker, do you guys feel like my dad would understand all of this? He's usually pretty understanding about things that I do. I'm not worried at all about my mom, she's lived with my dad doing it around me as a child and before that for years, and she's already said she doesn't really see the big deal of it and she doesn't mind it at all.

So... after my enormous (I'm sorry about that, just trying to explain everything in detail.) story, I'm just stuck whether I should let my parents know or not. I know neither or them would send me to drug rehab, or turn me in. I'm just worried I'd have to give up toking till I was 18. (I'm 16 now btw.) Both parents being very, very familiar with weed, I don't know if they'd be more understanding, or if they're trying to lure me into false alarm and into a trap of grounding for the rest of the summer.

Like I said, I'm sorry about the extremely fucking long story. :D

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Your lucky because you have parents who are understanding about it so you dont have to hide it

I think that you should definately tell them about it, because they are only looking out for you and im sure you dont want to get crap grades either you'll regret it.

Grades first then weed, you can smoke weed 10, 15, 20, 50 years later you cant go back in time and change your grades...

i dont really see why you bothered lying to them if they both already told you they were ok with it if it didnt affect your grades. this title makes it sound like you are facing ten years in jail, when as far as i can tell from my story you are facing...nothing??

Well, as so much as I really appreciate the flaming, I'll try to explain this as best I can.

You have to know my dad, he's very hypocritical and no matter WHAT I do he will critisize me for it and never let it go. He also went through this same thing with my 2 brothers, so I guess he's come to expect it, but he also has a history of loosing his temper at times. So it's either A) "Dishoner my dad" and lie to him, or B) Not get my ass kicked and admit to him that I lied and was wrong. I can't go back for what I did lie about, and if I could, I would. You have to talk to my dad when he's calm and can see it coming, if ANYTHING is a surprise to him, he over-blows it way out of proportion.

Also, I really don't value having my life taken away. When I get grounded, everything goes. Friends, computer, games, TV, even leaving the house. I seriously cannot do a damn thing but sit there and stare at the walls. Now, if you want to call thinking about something before I actually make a stupid decision being a pussy, so be it. Each person has their own mind set, and they think differently. But don't come here trying to bash on me for being a little worried of my dad's reaction.

Yeah but at the end of the day he cant really critize (sp) you for smoking weed if he did it himself can he? because that would just make him hyprocritical (sp)

Like I said, it is just like my dad to do that. If I say anything with the word hypocrite he uses the old, "I care about you and I want you to have a better life than me." He'll also stop while he's ahead. If we're in an arguement and I bring up a good point, he'll just sit there and shake his head and tell me my punishment and send me to my room. If I walk out? I move out. No option after that.

CC i dont care about your spelling.... people that just sit here and correct grammer need to get a life..


And yes guys I was just tring to Show him what Being a Man is like. Not flaming anyone.

When you guys are 35, read my post again.. then give me a high 5.

Yes Im an asshole.....tell me something i dont know

Heh, guess you are a man of Tough Love...

Edit: I understand where you're coming from Bong, I'm not trying to make you out to be an asshole... I just never really had someone whip me into shape when I was growing up so I'm not used to someone explaining something to me in the way that you did.

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Heh, guess you are a man of Tough Love...

Edit: I understand where you're coming from Bong, I'm not trying to make you out to be an asshole... I just never really had someone whip me into shape when I was growing up so I'm not used to someone explaining something to me in the way that you did.

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I didnt have a DAD.......

now that i am a DAD and Have learned every thing the hard way

i have tons of information for you guys......


Like this 5th commandment i am no bible thumper either....

"Thou shalt honour your father and your mother..."
The obligation to honor one's parents is an obligation that one owes to God and fulfills this obligation through one's actions towards one's parents


Do you know how go you will fell walking away from that conversation. You Dad might not let you smoke dope. BUT HE MIGHT THINK YOU ARE ON YOUR WAY TO BEING A MAN. If you are a man... he cant stop you from smoking SEE?:thumbsup:

Damn it, now i'm on the brink of telling him... I just don't wanna do it while he's been drinking because I dunno what'll go through his mind then. I just don't know how to get the conversation started.

Thanks for the insight Bong. :thumbsup:

you need to get your thoughts together.........

write some stuff down...... when you get into it you dont want to go off track. good or bad.


I wish you the best of LUCK... Hang in there.

Remember right after i would have Ripped you a new asshole... i would have hugged ya...

Parents are like that... best of Luck.

cliff notes?

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Originally Posted by WeedFaerie420

cliff notes?

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Hummm?????

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Originally Posted by invoke

Well, as so much as I really appreciate the flaming, I'll try to explain this as best I can.

You have to know my dad, he's very hypocritical and no matter WHAT I do he will critisize me for it and never let it go. He also went through this same thing with my 2 brothers, so I guess he's come to expect it, but he also has a history of loosing his temper at times. So it's either A) "Dishoner my dad" and lie to him, or B) Not get my ass kicked and admit to him that I lied and was wrong. I can't go back for what I did lie about, and if I could, I would. You have to talk to my dad when he's calm and can see it coming, if ANYTHING is a surprise to him, he over-blows it way out of proportion.

Also, I really don't value having my life taken away. When I get grounded, everything goes. Friends, computer, games, TV, even leaving the house. I seriously cannot do a damn thing but sit there and stare at the walls. Now, if you want to call thinking about something before I actually make a stupid decision being a pussy, so be it. Each person has their own mind set, and they think differently. But don't come here trying to bash on me for being a little worried of my dad's reaction.

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i wasnt bashing you you flatout said he and your mom both said they were ok with it. had they not said it i could understand not telling them

hey man im a smoker and a dad bong 30 is right dont talk shit if you can take the crap respect your dad its his fucking house not yours you dig. tell the truth and do what your told if you cause problems then you desere them back.Dont try to bullshit you way through it that will piss him off worse adn if you dont tell him get the fuck out of her you got busted do the time

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Originally Posted by invoke

Well, as so much as I really appreciate the flaming, I'll try to explain this as best I can.

You have to know my dad, he's very hypocritical and no matter WHAT I do he will critisize me for it and never let it go. You have to talk to my dad when he's calm and can see it coming, if ANYTHING is a surprise to him, he over-blows it way out of proportion.

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I totally get that. My step-dad was like that very much and was very stubborn about it. If anything surprized him or even confused him.....I was just introuble no matter what.

You sound like you'll be cool tho. Just do it in a gentle way. Like others have said if they've pretty much told you, you could smoke then I think your fine. Maybe their actually just waiting for you to tell them.

I do agree with the showing him your a man thing. I got kicked out when I was 17 but damn it I stood up for myself and now me and my parents are better then ever and it didnt take as long as I expected. The whole situation was water under the bridge in no time.