The pleasure train hits the girls... ??

Why is it that the girls always want more pleasure, but they won't give the same amount of pleasure back to the guy? I have had many girl friends and each one is the same way. I pleasure them WAAYYY before they pleasure me and it seems like they go soft when they try to pleasure the guy. When i pleasure the girl i finger her or kiss on her and feel up on her boobs and everything, and when the girl trys to pleasure me all she does is maybe rub my dick with my shorts on. She doesn't even go underneath my shorts and give me a handjob. Also, most girls won't give blowjobs. Why is this? I just feel like i'm getting screwed over on the whole "pleasure-ville" thing. Girls get more pleasure than guys, and then the girls don't wanna give the pleasure back. Why is this? It really ticks me off at times..

Maybe your attitude says 'just fuck me' instead of 'I want to be with you'. I can't say that I've experienced the same. Then again, every female I've been with I've showed them that I genuinely wanted to be with them and not just 'bone'.

hah. maybe your just an uglymotherfucker?





aw im just playing.... :)

Nope, i'm sure not an 'uglymotherfucker' lol. :thumbsup: If i was, i wouldn't be getting as many girls as i do. I get told all the time i'm the "hottest guy a girl has seen" so yeah.. idk. I do show the girls that i do want to be with them. I mean hell, i even by my girls stuff and take them to dinner all that good stuff. I have never had the attitude of being like "Let's fuck everyday." I'm not like that. I don't know.. Maybe the girl is scared?

uh, i onno then. i mean if i get some i sure as hell dont mind giving some in return. ;)

haha u sound 14....am i right? tell me your age and you will get the ANSWER

me?

No, i am not 14 dude. Believe me, i am 17 right now. That is far from the little kid years of 14. How old are YOU? Why do we need to question upon eachother's age?

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Originally Posted by OreO

haha u sound 14....am i right? tell me your age and you will get the ANSWER

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with 12 year old girls.

Maybe all the girls you've been with have chronic tonsilitis.
OR
Maybe they're just scared they won't live up to your past girls.

Well that explains it...you're friggin 17...you're probably dating other 17yr olds...most girls don't get 'freaky' until college or beyond. Patience grasshopper.

i spit gatorade outta my nose reading this

i just dont know what to say

No, believe me, girls get freaky way before college years. My past girl friends have been pretty kinky/freaky. So, idk. I guess i'll just have to talk to her about it and see how she feels about all this stuff. That is the best way to do it if you want answers from the girl i guess. Plus, the girl i'm dating is 18. 1 year difference which isn't bad.

Well, that was something else I was going to throw out there...just talk about it. My wife and I are different sexually, I'm a little freaky while she's more conservative. When we were 'courting' each other, that was a topic of conversation and before we got married, she knew what I liked and knew what I expected. Hasn't disappointed me yet.

My experience is totally opposite of yours.. seems like every woman I meet is the most loving giving person I have ever met... can't keep their hands/mouth off of me...

iloveyou

Well then, i declare you one lucky SOB!! haha, yeah.. i'll talk to her about it. Should go smoothly.. i hope.:D

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Originally Posted by Garden Knowm

My experience is totally opposite of yours.. seems like every woman I meet is the most loving giving person I have ever met... can't keep their hands/mouth off of me...

iloveyou

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what about those girls you meet who like boys taller than 5 foot nothing?

love :)

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Originally Posted by MaryJaneScott

what about those girls you meet who like boys taller than 5 foot nothing?

love :)

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LOL ...... OUCH!!!!! ...I knew you'd find me and flog me..

iloveyou

If you truly give a girl a ton of pleasure it's always reciprocated.

I think you need to to be more of a 'man.' Being overtly nice doesn't get you pussy :P

You say that all your past girlfriends have been freaky or kinky. But they're still not giving blowjobs? :rolleyes: That's probably because they're 17/18 and think that sticking a penis in their mouth is gross. Just a thought.

And two.. I'm a chick and all my girlfriends give blow/hand jobs to their guys... So I don't know what your problem is?

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Originally Posted by zephyrinne

And two.. I'm a chick and all my girlfriends give blow/hand jobs to their guys... So I don't know what your problem is?

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yeah....

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Originally Posted by thcbongman

If you truly give a girl a ton of pleasure it's always reciprocated.

I think you need to to be more of a 'man.' Being overtly nice doesn't get you pussy :P

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I don't be "overtly nice". I have never been super nice to any girl i date. If i was that nice to a girl then she would probably dump me anyways for being such a pussy. I'm no pussy though, cause i show her where i stand in this world. She understands.

My past girl friends have givin blowjobs to me. It's just my girl friend now that won't at the moment. If you read up the page a bit though you will see that i'm talking to my girl about all this and it should be worked out soon. I'm sure she will have no problem with doing it, since i give her pleasure multiple times a day.

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Originally Posted by Mr. TBAGU 420

Why is it that the girls always want more pleasure, but they won't give the same amount of pleasure back to the guy? I have had many girl friends and each one is the same way. I pleasure them WAAYYY before they pleasure me and it seems like they go soft when they try to pleasure the guy. When i pleasure the girl i finger her or kiss on her and feel up on her boobs and everything, and when the girl trys to pleasure me all she does is maybe rub my dick with my shorts on. She doesn't even go underneath my shorts and give me a handjob. Also, most girls won't give blowjobs. Why is this? I just feel like i'm getting screwed over on the whole "pleasure-ville" thing. Girls get more pleasure than guys, and then the girls don't wanna give the pleasure back. Why is this? It really ticks me off at times..

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Could be inexperienced or not enough sexual tension.

Low sexual tension means low intesity sex or no sex.

She has to know what it is like to be rejected sexually from time to time.

You cant be the one that intiates sex 80-90 percent of the time.

Initiate meaning shes grabbing your crotch and kissing your neck.
In other words she has to complete the process. Struting around in her panties doesnt count.

Tease her.

To get her to initiate more is where it is important to build sexual tension.

Women have active imaginations and emotions and if you upset these things then they have to balanced or resolved sometimes sexually.

Dont make the sex an issue or let her know that this reciprocation issue bothers you. If you make it an issue it will get worse. If its not an issue with you then its not with her.

Instead of making the lack of reciprocation an issue its better to create sexual tension. Its about thoughts of resistance.



You could compliment her and insult her at the same time.
Tell her she has a pretty feature but then tie that to an alleged turn-off in an indirect way.

You could tell her that there is something she does sexually that turns you off but you dont know what it is yourself.

You could imply statements of an arrogant nature that you know she will resist. But it is percieved arrogance not the real thing. As long as she resists who cares.


You get the idea.


You also want to send the message that:

1. You are confident.
2. You are an emotional and sexual challenge.
3. She has to earn it.






Later

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Originally Posted by Mr. TBAGU 420

Why is it that the girls always want more pleasure, but they won't give the same amount of pleasure back to the guy? I have had many girl friends and each one is the same way. I pleasure them WAAYYY before they pleasure me and it seems like they go soft when they try to pleasure the guy. When i pleasure the girl i finger her or kiss on her and feel up on her boobs and everything, and when the girl trys to pleasure me all she does is maybe rub my dick with my shorts on. She doesn't even go underneath my shorts and give me a handjob. Also, most girls won't give blowjobs. Why is this? I just feel like i'm getting screwed over on the whole "pleasure-ville" thing. Girls get more pleasure than guys, and then the girls don't wanna give the pleasure back. Why is this? It really ticks me off at times..

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You're just going out with the wrong type or girls

Tell me what type of girl do you go for?

the kind that wont give head

u gotta make the girl work for her pleasure, next time tease her for a lil bit then stop then just kiss her and shell eventually go down on u or do w.e u wantt cuz she wants hers

I bet she's just scared. Maybe she's never done it before and is afraid she'll mess up or something.

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Originally Posted by smitty420

u gotta make the girl work for her pleasure, next time tease her for a lil bit then stop then just kiss her and shell eventually go down on u or do w.e u wantt cuz she wants hers

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That's a pretty good idea. I should have done that tonight to her, cause she was wanting pleasure so i gave it to her. I ended up fingering her and got her all wet and she was moaning like there was no tomorrow! I should have stopped then kissed her and been on my way, that way she would have pulled me back and done pleasure to me so i could have pleasured her some more. Oh well i guess, i'll get my pleasure hopefully tomorrow nite when we are together.:thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by napolitana869

I bet she's just scared. Maybe she's never done it before and is afraid she'll mess up or something.

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Maybe she is scared, maybe she isn't. Her body language tells me she isn't COMPLETELY scared to do sexual activities. Also, i'm not sure if she has done it before, because i am the first REAL boy friend she has had, cause i actually care for her so much and i love her more than anyone could love her. So, idk.. she probably hasn't had much sexual experience. If she has, she hasn't done it in a while possibly.

Ummm... "some" of what what said in this post is true, but maybe you might want to diregard the compliment mixed with insult part. I'm telling you right now as a female, that'll just piss us off, and a pissed off woman is not the kind of woman you want giving you a blow job.

Actually after re-reading that last post, it sounds like you're being given instructions on how to play head games with your woman. If that's how you want to go about a relationship that seems important to you, by all means. But I don't think that a blow job is worth fucking with someones feelings by complimenting/insulting on purpose, or telling them something they do is a turn off but "your not quite sure what it is". Or deliberately making her feel rejected from time to time. Damn, I'd dump a guy in a heartbeat if I felt he was manipulating me like that.

Well, now to the other part. I'm thinking that since she's 18 she doesn't really know how to give a blow job. Most 18 yr olds dont unless they've had way too much exp and it sounds like yours hasn't (which is probably a good thing). And I'm guessing that maybe she's afraid that 1) Your dick is going to stink or taste bad, even if it doesn't and 2) She's afraid she might screw it up, turn you off or possibly even cause you discomfort.

If she's willing to watch some porn with you, get something that shows alot of blow jobs being given in it. It would help her in alot of ways as she could see different techniques, you could even comment on some of them to show her that it's something you're interested in trying with her. But, if she won't watch porn with you, then it's quite possible that she's a bit conservative and you'll have to work a bit more slowly on her.

Anyway, hope that helps :)


Sabrina

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Originally Posted by Ganjasaurusrex

Could be inexperienced or not enough sexual tension.

Low sexual tension means low intesity sex or no sex.

She has to know what it is like to be rejected sexually from time to time.

You cant be the one that intiates sex 80-90 percent of the time.

Initiate meaning shes grabbing your crotch and kissing your neck.
In other words she has to complete the process. Struting around in her panties doesnt count.

Tease her.

To get her to initiate more is where it is important to build sexual tension.

Women have active imaginations and emotions and if you upset these things then they have to balanced or resolved sometimes sexually.

Dont make the sex an issue or let her know that this reciprocation issue bothers you. If you make it an issue it will get worse. If its not an issue with you then its not with her.

Instead of making the lack of reciprocation an issue its better to create sexual tension. Its about thoughts of resistance.



You could compliment her and insult her at the same time.
Tell her she has a pretty feature but then tie that to an alleged turn-off in an indirect way.

You could tell her that there is something she does sexually that turns you off but you dont know what it is yourself.

You could imply statements of an arrogant nature that you know she will resist. But it is percieved arrogance not the real thing. As long as she resists who cares.


You get the idea.


You also want to send the message that:

1. You are confident.
2. You are an emotional and sexual challenge.
3. She has to earn it.






Later

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Originally Posted by Sabrinaleena

Ummm... "some" of what what said in this post is true, but maybe you might want to diregard the compliment mixed with insult part. I'm telling you right now as a female, that'll just piss us off, and a pissed off woman is not the kind of woman you want giving you a blow job.

Actually after re-reading that last post, it sounds like you're being given instructions on how to play head games with your woman. If that's how you want to go about a relationship that seems important to you, by all means. But I don't think that a blow job is worth fucking with someones feelings by complimenting/insulting on purpose, or telling them something they do is a turn off but "your not quite sure what it is". Or deliberately making her feel rejected from time to time. Damn, I'd dump a guy in a heartbeat if I felt he was manipulating me like that.

Well, now to the other part. I'm thinking that since she's 18 she doesn't really know how to give a blow job. Most 18 yr olds dont unless they've had way too much exp and it sounds like yours hasn't (which is probably a good thing). And I'm guessing that maybe she's afraid that 1) Your dick is going to stink or taste bad, even if it doesn't and 2) She's afraid she might screw it up, turn you off or possibly even cause you discomfort.

If she's willing to watch some porn with you, get something that shows alot of blow jobs being given in it. It would help her in alot of ways as she could see different techniques, you could even comment on some of them to show her that it's something you're interested in trying with her. But, if she won't watch porn with you, then it's quite possible that she's a bit conservative and you'll have to work a bit more slowly on her.

Anyway, hope that helps :)


Sabrina

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Thanks, that was actually really good information on this whole subject. I feel what you are saying and it's good. I'm not sure if she will watch porn with me, but i'll try to bring it up with her tonight when i see her. The whole thing about her not knowing how to give a blowjob is probably true, and i'm actually glad she hasn't gave one before because i'll be the first time for her and hopefully she can just gain experience from doing it with me. Thanks for the information.

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Originally Posted by Mr. TBAGU 420

Girls get more pleasure than guys, and then the girls don't wanna give the pleasure back. Why is this? It really ticks me off at times..

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Have you ever had a long-term relationship with a girl? If you have, and it's that hard for you to get a hand job, that is sad and it isn't the norm. Also, just because you finger a girl and feel her boobs doesn't mean she is cumming from that so maybe you didn't really earn cumming yourself. If you are in a relationship with a girl and you aren't being "pleasured" you should openly talk about it and ask for what you want in a sensitive way and ask about how you could possibly do things better for her. The best for me is when my man eats me out and makes me a cum a couple of times (it doesn't take him long, he's well trained lol) right before sex and I give him head whenever he wants unless i'm not feeling well at that moment. Communication will help your situation...unless it's a random slut ur hooking up with for the first time..then you're probably shit outa luck. ;)

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Originally Posted by Ganjasaurusrex

You could compliment her and insult her at the same time.
Tell her she has a pretty feature but then tie that to an alleged turn-off in an indirect way.

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roflmao...wow, that is some bad advice :eek:

Lol, yeah. Well, thanks for the good advice (and bad). Everything seems to be working out now with me and her. So yeah.. happy times!:thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by WeedFaerie420

roflmao...wow, that is some bad advice :eek:

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Really, seems to work on the rest of the sisterhood and unless you knew it was being done to you, you wouldnt have a clue.



Its called state of confusion.

1. She will be flattered by the compliement.
2. Confused about whether she is a sexual turn-off.
3. Wondering if she is sexy in your eyes.
4. The inner need to satisfy this unsettling feeling< sexual tension.


How about state of value? (rejection).


1. Flattered by the idea that you initially wanted her.
2. Feelings of being rejected (pseudo rejection).
3. Wondering what she did wrong.
4. The human need to correct her (percieved) problem creates an urgency to
(actually) initiate (not passive). < sexual tension.


How about state of beauty, using another beautiful woman in proximaty to make your girl feel pretty instead of telling her so without risking making comparisons to the other girl?

Using competition is the only way to make her feel that way.


There are many mind states where women crave sex, these are just a few.
But I can easily think of at least 10.

Now if any women want to talk about manipulation and game playing when it comes to dating and relationships bring it on.

Im 19 and the reason why i wanted to know how old you where is cause i thought if you were 14, usaully 14 year old girls dont give head and shit like that(atleast the majority that i knew)....anyway i dunno what the prob is cause when i was 16 i remember girls giving head and having sex...its just prob the croud of girls you chill with. Try chillin with diffrent types of girls

in general.. you dont want head from a LADY who does not want to give it...

95% of the fun is HER desire to perform the "disapearing KAK" trick along with other magical feats. using your MEMBER as their primary PROP..

iloveyou

^ Indeed, i know what you mean on that one. If a girl actually wants to do it, then she will go crazy and creative on the man. If she doesn't though, then she will be sloppy and not creative, leading to a sexual downfall and sexual loss. I guess its the same way with a guy giving oral to a girl. If he isn't wanting to eat her out then it won't feel good to the girl as much, and she will get bored and won't desire the sexual needs.

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Originally Posted by Sabrinaleena

I'm thinking that since she's 18 she doesn't really know how to give a blow job. Most 18 yr olds dont unless they've had way too much exp and it sounds like yours hasn't (which is probably a good thing).


Sabrina

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hey, now....some people can be good without blowing half the town...naturally talented....

^ Lol