If my husband gives me one more lecture...

I am going to strangle the man. He's in AA (court ordered) and now I have to hear his sermons about the psychological dangers of marijuana "addiction," how I smoke way too much and need to cut back, blah, blah, blah...he can't smoke because he gets randomly tested. Sometimes I think he's just jealous.

I try to counter his lectures with some of my own because I've done extensive research about the dangers and benefits of weed. Unfortunately, he's a stubborn pig and thinks he's always right.

Not that he's stopping me...I made it very clear that I have no intention of quitting, for him or anyone else. If I someday decide to quit, fine. But until hell freezes over, he's just going to have to deal with it.

Thanks for letting me vent. I'm cranky because I'm out of weed and can't find any right now.

Wow its usually the other way with me.... my gf tellin me to stop smoking so much but then she usually joins me.....
maybe you should get him to start smoking but he gets tested randomly.... hmm.. think he's just jelous...lol

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Originally Posted by sophiastarchild

I am going to strangle the man. He's in AA (court ordered) and now I have to hear his sermons about the psychological dangers of marijuana "addiction," how I smoke way too much and need to cut back, blah, blah, blah...he can't smoke because he gets randomly tested. Sometimes I think he's just jealous.

I try to counter his lectures with some of my own because I've done extensive research about the dangers and benefits of weed. Unfortunately, he's a stubborn pig and thinks he's always right.

Not that he's stopping me...I made it very clear that I have no intention of quitting, for him or anyone else. If I someday decide to quit, fine. But until hell freezes over, he's just going to have to deal with it.

Thanks for letting me vent. I'm cranky because I'm out of weed and can't find any right now.

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maybe he's not the one thats being a stubborn pig...

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Originally Posted by sophiastarchild

I am going to strangle the man. He's in AA (court ordered) and now I have to hear his sermons about the psychological dangers of marijuana "addiction," how I smoke way too much and need to cut back, blah, blah, blah...he can't smoke because he gets randomly tested. Sometimes I think he's just jealous.

I try to counter his lectures with some of my own because I've done extensive research about the dangers and benefits of weed. Unfortunately, he's a stubborn pig and thinks he's always right.

Not that he's stopping me...I made it very clear that I have no intention of quitting, for him or anyone else. If I someday decide to quit, fine. But until hell freezes over, he's just going to have to deal with it.

Thanks for letting me vent. I'm cranky because I'm out of weed and can't find any right now.

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If I was you, the second he starts the lecture I would crack a beer.

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Originally Posted by pabloescobar209

If I was you, the second he starts the lecture I would crack a beer.

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That's hilariously cruel.

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Originally Posted by sophiastarchild

I am going to strangle the man. He's in AA (court ordered) and now I have to hear his sermons about the psychological dangers of marijuana "addiction," how I smoke way too much and need to cut back, blah, blah, blah...he can't smoke because he gets randomly tested. Sometimes I think he's just jealous.

I try to counter his lectures with some of my own because I've done extensive research about the dangers and benefits of weed. Unfortunately, he's a stubborn pig and thinks he's always right.

Not that he's stopping me...I made it very clear that I have no intention of quitting, for him or anyone else. If I someday decide to quit, fine. But until hell freezes over, he's just going to have to deal with it.

Thanks for letting me vent. I'm cranky because I'm out of weed and can't find any right now.

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me and my wife had the 'i'll quit if i want to quit, otherwise deal with it or leave' argument, needless to say, we're still together and she 'deals' with it... lol :thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by pabloescobar209

If I was you, the second he starts the lecture I would crack a beer.

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ROFL
omg that shit had me in tears
lmao dude your a sick fucker

what if he's a liquor man?

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Originally Posted by sophiastarchild

Thanks for letting me vent. I'm cranky because I'm out of weed and can't find any right now.

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WTF??? You can be cranky but, he has to sit there strait and shut up??? God bless the man for not strangling you...

skink, she is a woman, find me one damn woman that doesn't expect their man to put up with them being 'cranky' once in awhile with a big assed smile on their face...

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Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho

skink, she is a woman, find me one damn woman that doesn't expect their man to put up with them being 'cranky' once in awhile with a big assed smile on their face...

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a whore...

if you're talking about a prostitute, that doesn't fit in this situation, as i said her man, not her customer... if you're talking about a sexually promiscious woman (doesn't do it for money or other items, but just cuz she wants to or w/e), well, 'whores' get periods too..

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Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho

well, 'whores' get periods too..

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Haha! Right you are.

What the hell is wrong with you people?

I'm drinking a beer right now. And so is he. Yes, he's in AA. Because he has to be. Didn't say it was working, or that he wanted to be there, or cares at all about quitting drinking.

What the hell is all this whore crap? We've been married for eight years and have two gorgeous children.

We're both bitchy all the time. It's an equal thing. Men can be bitches, too.

Here, you can show him some of these.

The Neuroscience of Natural Rewards: Relevance to
Addictive Drugs
http://www.psychiatry.wustl.edu/Reso...May/Kelley.PDF

Marijuana Myths, Claim No. 9
CLAIM #9: MARIJUANA IS AN ADDICTIVE DRUG
http://www.erowid.org/plants/cannabi...is_myth9.shtml

What if you knew that some research indicates that marijuana is not physically addictive?
http://www.kqed.org/topics/news/pers...juana/1no.html

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Originally Posted by sophiastarchild

What the hell is wrong with you people?

I'm drinking a beer right now. And so is he. Yes, he's in AA. Because he has to be. Didn't say it was working, or that he wanted to be there, or cares at all about quitting drinking.

What the hell is all this whore crap? We've been married for eight years and have two gorgeous children.

We're both bitchy all the time. It's an equal thing. Men can be bitches, too.

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...i think you're getting the wrong idea... mmmhmm... oh and if you came to be serious.. you came to the wrong board :p :thumbsup:

Dude, I'm never serious :) It's all cool...

g/f and i have lived together about 5 years. she's never smoked. she doesn't really care that i do, but she'd occasionally hold it over my head.

a few months ago my main connect decided to move on with his life and stop selling. i knew it was coming and told g/f that maybe i should do the same. so i quit smoking. that lasted all of about 2 or 3 weeks. when i started back up i didn't tell her.

for the last 4 months she's had no idea that i've been smoking... and we have never gotten along better. i wish i had tried this little experiment sooner

Big homie...you may be on to something...he knows I smoke, but maybe if I keep it on the down low and just don't ever mention it or let him know I'm doing it, he'll lighten up, and so will I! I'm just a really open person...it's hard for me to keep a secret. I'm the kind of person who gives presents days before the actual holiday and birthday. I told my mother when I lost my virginity as a teen because I just cannot keep a secret. But it's worth a shot! Maybe if I do, I'll be mellow and cool because I'm high, and he'll be proud of me because he's not realizing I'm getting high as often as I actually am. Yes, I'm going to cut back, a little. Because the man has a point in some ways. But I won't quit.

i could tell her right now and she wouldn't be mad. i'm not really sneaking around or anything. she works crazy hours and i work from home. i smoke all over house... for some reason she isn't smelling it... i smoke about a pack and a half of ciggs a day too, that might have something to do with her not smelling it. the only thing really different is i'm not talking about it or smoking in front of her. when she's here i'll leave the room to smoke or blaze while i'm walking the dogs.

we used to argue over little stuff all the time. now that i think of it, we haven't had an argument in the last 4 months... even a small one... how scary is that.

last night she was thanking me for helping her with something... then she gives me this weird look and says, "things have been really good lately." i just smiled.

we never fought about me smoking, but it must have been on her mind. otherwise why the change? don't get me wrong... i'm not saying things were bad between us before. i guess we were just ur average couple. but things are great now- better even then when we first met.

good luck to you, whatever you do.

How did that whole telling your mom you're not a virgin thing go over?

I wouldn't bother with research, people will continue to believe what they will. However, if your husband is in COURT APPOINTED AA AND IS STILL DRINKING, maybe he's the one who should be considering the psychological aspects of other, legal drugs.

I drink, not too often. I don't like it, I don't like the way I feel when I'm drunk. I smoke, because I like how I feel when I'm on it. Personally, I think cannabis is much less destructive then alcohol.

So what was I getting at with that less paragraph? That it's all about personal preference. Choose what you like best, and if your husband doesn't agree, well, you can complain about it to us I guess.

Big Homie, you work from home, too? So nice to find someone to relate to! My hubby works all kinds of weird hours and unless I made production out of it, it's unlikely he'd even know I'd been smoking!

Normally, I'm like, "I'm going in the bathroom to smoke cigarettes and read magazines..." which means, I'm going to get high. Maybe I'll just start being more stealthy about it and not letting him know...

I'd imagine I'm easier to deal with when I'm high...I know he is...he's been forced to AA because of some legal crap...he tried to quit drinking but we both decided we liked him a LOT better when he was permitted to drink a beer here and there, so he does...and I don't give him shit..I uphold his lie to his friends, family and everyone else (except you guys, of course!) and I would hope that he extended me the same courtesy with weed, but alas, he is more judgemental and bitchy than I. The funniest thing is...is that when I get the worst lectures out of him, he's torn his way through a twelve pack of cheap beer first..

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Originally Posted by BigHomie

g/f and i have lived together about 5 years. she's never smoked. she doesn't really care that i do, but she'd occasionally hold it over my head.

a few months ago my main connect decided to move on with his life and stop selling. i knew it was coming and told g/f that maybe i should do the same. so i quit smoking. that lasted all of about 2 or 3 weeks. when i started back up i didn't tell her.

for the last 4 months she's had no idea that i've been smoking... and we have never gotten along better. i wish i had tried this little experiment sooner

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I did the exact same thing. :thumbsup:

Except I never told her I was going to quit, she just assumed it since I couldn't get ahold of anything for awhile.

I agree with graph though, what's the big deal? He was born without alcohol and if he's going to let him effect him like that, he's being weak in my opinion.

Though I don't know either of you on a personal level so I can't judge anyone, but I don't understand why people always let the influence of drugs get ahead of everything else.

Moderation.

An addiction is something you can't stop and something that gets in the way of relationships and responsibilities. It sounds like your hubby is headed down a much traveled road..

Graph...my mom was so preoccupied with her Vicodin addiction, her new stoner husband and her newly born (my bro and sis, now 12 and 16, I'm 28) that she didn't care. She was happy to be rid of me, her illegitimate child fathered by a promiscous police officer (no joke...the fucker's still a cop and has fathered several other illegitmate children in our town -- I've actually met a couple of my half-siblings -- who he has no intention of supporting or knowing...he was what you would call a man-slut)

She didn't care to the extent that when I ran away and dropped out of high school, she signed the papers to allow me to marry him. Eventually, he beat the crap out of me, I left, and met the man who is now my husband. I love him...we've been together for 13 years...married for 8 now...and have two totally gorgeous yet mischevious sons...and although we fight about each others' habits and shit we cannot seem to live without one another...

I've made it clear that I've been smoking weed since I was thirteen years old. It's never harmed me, only done me good, and I have NO intention of giving it up. I have sat many a night, even pregnant, wondering where my man was...and he was somewhere with his buddies...getting drunk...so how dare he call me on a habit that does nothing but makes me more agreeable towards him and our boys??? It's that AA propoganda they're feeding him that's poisoining his brain...they're so one sided...they don't dare touch on the benefits of weed...

it can be so frustrating dealing with non-tokers... you can talk about ur own experiences and show them every study ever done under the sun... you might even convince the person all the anti-pot ads are wrong, and that there are much worse legal drugs out there, but the argument still almost always ends with:
them- "well, it's still illegal"
me- "well, it shouldn't be"
them- "doesn't matter, it's still illegal"
me- "go fuck yourself"
lol

Why, oh why...isn't there some sort of dating service that hooks us up with each other before we marry unsympathetic persons??? I am what I would call fairly attractive and guarantee I could find a mate on these boards alone that would live with me in stoned bliss forever more...unfortunately that's not how my life worked out..I guess it's never too late...I dream of when my kids are adults and I'm a hot, stoned grandma with lots of lovers...

lol...

Oh, and may I add...those lovers are stoned, too...I don't care how nasty you people think old people sex is...I'm looking forward to it...no kids, no responsibilities....now I'm 28 and feel like a spinster....maybe when I'm 55 I'll be a hot bitch!!!

Listen you guys...I am in major need of escapism...I am trapped in a loveless marriage with a man who doesn't understand me..although that's just the beginning of my issues...I just wish I could run away...are there any male stoners who would take me in??? Maybe just wishful thinking...but in my utopia, we'd listen to Tori Amos, lay in bed, smoke weed, watch TV and eat pizza...I'm sorry if I offend feminists...yes, I understand the women's movement...I am a mother of two and a successful writer...but honestly, I want a man who I can come home to who will kiss and hug me instead of ignoring me...I need affection, attention, and a man who smokes weed with me...anybody out there who loves kids, chinese food, books and weed? And a chick with baggage?

I swear to Goddess I'll get on a fucking bus now if there's weed (and an understanding person...I'm bisexual...at the other end) at the other end of the journey

bwahahahahaha...
woe ya

This is NOT the place to be doing this, your going to end up in a world of hurt if you develop habits like this.

Stop running
Open your eyes
Face your demons
Gain your freedom

What the hell are you talking about???

I want OUT...my momma is a klepto Vicodin addict. My husband is an alcoholic who swears he and the kids are better off without me...and I agree...I belong somewhere with other stoners that understand me.

BTW...I am a 29 year old mom of two...I have been there, I have done the whole responsible thing...I have tried to make it a happy family, but it's just not possible...I need to get away for awhile...please, someone help me escape. My hubby says that if I left, my boys (ages 3 and 6) would be better off with him and without me...so fine..I'll go, and try to pursue my own happiness.

this thread should be removed for being so heartbreaking...

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Originally Posted by HazardousToking

This is NOT the place to be doing this, your going to end up in a world of hurt if you develop habits like this.

Stop running
Open your eyes
Face your demons
Gain your freedom

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haha yea what the hell are u talkin about.

Thanks a lot, asswipe. Here I am, begging for help...a way out...and you are calling it too heartbreaking. Listen, if you think I am ugly, think again. I can provide pics. I am reasonably attractive. Basically, I want to start over elsewhere. Preferably Amsterdam. But, somewhere else if I have good support. Anywhere. Anywhere that I feel accepted. Loved. I am an attractive woman, but to my husband judging by him, I am an ogre....

How the hell do I post pics??? I would if my dumb ass could figure out how...

Unfortunately we all have tough times in life. While I feel your frustration, perhaps you should think of your children first. How are they gonna feel if Mommy abandons them? Also think of the danger of an online "Knight in shining Aluminum", you don't know what you're getting into. You need to seek counseling if only to help you feel better about yourself. I am not a mental health proffesional, and this is not a mental health site. While I wish I could help you in some way, I (like EVERYONE in life) have my own family and issues to deal with. I do wish you all the best.