A Question to All Parents!

So.....last night was amazing went out had a few beers, played a few games of beer pong, had an amazing time...and my parents were fine with it.

I get home around one in the morning, knowing i have to wake up at 7 i drink a few glasses of water and eat some bread. I then woke up at 7 had breakfast, swept the kitchen (w/o being asked to do so) we leave and i go to play in my basketball tournament. I played like amazing and was asked by another coach to come play with him in a tournament in Las Vegas, actually he asked me to try out but i would probably make it based on my play at this weekends tournament. Then i come home paint some flower boxes with my mom, this lasts for about 2 hours. I make dinner for the family by grilling out some burgers. We ate around 6 and after dinner i clean up the entire kitchen. I decide to chill for about an hour and let my food settle, then i go out and shoot baskets for an hour and a half. Come back inside with a good sweat, take another shower, and ask to go out again tonight. My parents say let us think about it, i feel pretty confident about my chances so i go to watch some TV.

Around 9 i get ready to leave and my parents say NO. So i calmly point out to them all of the chores i have done, how well i played in basketball, that i was fine in the morning not tired at all, come up with a damn good argument on why i should be able to go out. They come back with, "Its to late to leave." I come back with, "Well whats the difference on what time you leave? If i left at 7 i would still be gone at 9, so why does it matter? They never came up with anything to refute that point, like they didnt say anything about it once i brought that up. Then they say,"Well we dont want you to go out b/c your grades are low." I was like what? my grades are good right now, yea i dicked off the first 6 weeks but then you guys grounded me one weekend and i hated every second off it and decided i would bust my ass to get them to good, and i did. I have an A, B, C+, and a F. The story behind the F is longer than this is but the point is once this one project is graded my grade boosts up to a C ( the teacher even called and told them that). Then there only reason becomes, "Well we are you parents and we say no, and thats final."

Now I understand that they are providing me with a house to live in, a car to drive, and other things, but like why do parents just have to be gay as shit and not let a 17 year old kid make some of his own decisions? Im going to be going to college in one year, and my parents like dont realize there not gonna be there to stop me from doing anything....they dont realize that i have to make mistakes to learn from them. I dont want to come off as a like spoiled snob i just feel like i have done everything that a parent could ask for. And they already know i smoke weed and drink and dont have a problem with that sometimes there just gay and dont like me do anything.....but i havent gotten arrested, never have driven after taking a single sip of beer, never have driven with someone who has taken a sip of a beer, i have driven while blazed many many many time. I know i shouldnt do that but i gotta do what i gotta do.

I feel like they should trust me seeming how i have been honest about everything i do and have done. I guess this is just a extremely pissed off rant but can some parents please shed some light on why you are like this?........please dont say that you are older and therefore know more, b/c i absolutly despise when people say that shit. Im sorry but my grandma is older than them and they called her fuckin retarded all the time, b/c she does stupid shit.

You're 17, and your parents allow you to drink and toke.

NO condolences.

they don't have to have a reason really, you're still not 18, they can still 'imprison' you... i seee where you're coming from and all, but they are still your parents, and can still tell you what to do.... maybe they had a reason, and they just didn't wanna tell you, maybe they just had a feeling..

they may not want you partying two nights in a row, which is understandable

smoke your parents out

and then to top that.. make them dinner when their baked

it works with everything

:)
hope this helps

I'm 17 but my parent's let me do what I want. I dunno what to say, keep talking to them I guess. Tell them how you feel.

they let you drink/smoke/party, dont make you pay for anything, provide you with a car which means they pay insurance too, and they dont beat you....

They are likely afraid of you growing up and being gone. Why else would they have no reason to make you stay home when they've already speant time with you that day, and they dont really have problems with you partying? They pribably just want the security of you being in their house all night and them knowing where you are and what your doing.

Get a cell phone. That might help.

You seem like a good kid, and they seem like very reasonable parents. I know it sucks, but one night in once in a while won't kill you... and it won't be much longer til you're 18. :) Hang in there!

well man, sounds like you got it pretty lucky.
2 loving parents who give you all / most of what you need.
You gotta think in their shoes man.
They are probably just worried about your safety, so you getting all worked up and stressed out only makes them believe your going out and doing things they wouldnt approve of.
At this point, you gotta just go by their rules and coast under their radar until yer off to college.
If you can't do that, I'm sure there's a nice apartment somewhere for rent.

Well dont take them for granted!

Peace

It's a hard age for you because your more less grown up but your still considered a minor by the rents and courts. As parents it's not an easy time either. This is the last ditch effort to try to make sure your on the right path. Like "The Wall" album, they've been building the wall; protecting, providing, nursing for so long and they can see the end coming.

Keep in mind that parents are people to....ever have a day that was just complete shit and by the end of that day it didn't take much to set ya off? We, as parents, have employers, bills, taxes, etc.......sometimes unfortunately the kids get the backlash of a bad day.

Have a good one!:thumbsup:

ok its the day after, and i have settled down a little. I was just really pissed off about not being able to go out and now i realize it really wasnt that bad, i just stayed home waited for them to go to sleep drank a bottle of their wine and smoked some nice kind buds......i think i was just over reacting last night, thanks for listening to my little rant

u seem 2 it have goin on pretty good ...better than most ur age, id dare 2 say...
ur r not 18 yet, so u need 2 b respectful 2 ur parent,s 4 just a bit longer...if they didnt love u they woodnt care...

peace

if my parents let me blaze, i would be fine with not going to many parties. shit, that is my dream world.

Seems like they have good reason to trust you, but I think they were just exercising their power of control while they have it. A couple of these others were explaining it beautifully. They're trying to hold onto their baby, and although it sucks for you, it's all they're able to do right now. Keep up the dialogue with them and tell them how you feel reasonably and unemotionally. Work on those lower two grades. School's about out. You can party this summer!

I made the choice to drink and smoke when I was 17.

Well to me, the point at which you turn 18 is seen as mature enough to go out late at night - from a parents point of view. I mean, youre allowed to drink legally at 18, so they automatically think youre maturer when you hit 18.

I personally think thats bollocks. A persons age shouldnt dictate their maturity - its whats inside that counts.

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Originally Posted by ShWeave

ok its the day after, and i have settled down a little. I was just really pissed off about not being able to go out and now i realize it really wasnt that bad, i just stayed home waited for them to go to sleep drank a bottle of their wine and smoked some nice kind buds......i think i was just over reacting last night, thanks for listening to my little rant

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You found the perfect way to deal - and your parents are totally just worried about your safety, health, and well-being. Procreating and having another human being to protect and take care of makes you feel life and every emotion so much more, it makes you a little nuts. You are so close to being out of the house and on your own, enjoy it while it lasts. :)