SO mad @ friend and need help guys

hey everyone Im so fucking pissed off right now because of a really good friend to me. The reason I underline to me is because I dont think he values our friendship as much as me.

Now I do sell pot and what escilated this problem was the both of us. Now I have fronted him 5-10 buds quite a bit, and Ive only recieved the payment for 1 front. Now it came to the point where I have to take money out of my pocket to make the next bag because of the cash Im missing from him, and I told him that if he expects me to front him weed I expect him to pay me back.

We were on msn and he changed his name to 'stupid white people piss me off' Of course he's first nations and half of this town is. So he started bitching to me about how he barely gets money and I asked if his name was directed at me and what not and he said it might be.

The past couple of weeks hes been talking about how he use's other drug dealers around the area to get him high, and the past few days he's been a major dick to me, like we used to talk about alotta shit laughing and what not and now its I mention something and try to talk about it like old times and he just says what he wants and thats it, I havent seen him laugh when we're chilln in along time. I feel like he's using the fuck out of me and there's nothing I can do because hes a friend, recently I feel that all of my friends seem to be using me, I stopped selling my shit and they stopped coming around. We match down and talk here and there, but I dont know my life is really fucked up right now.



Alright its a fuckload to read but I REALLY need help.

don't be stupid. ignore the free-loading minority. subtle

haha stupid weed friends, i have alot of friends like that too but i have a few closer friend who will come hang out even if i dont have weed ( i usually have to have beer though instead hahah )

I admit having beer and weed makes things nice, but arent friends suppose to come over and chill out, ya know what I mean right?

I dont know Im second guessing shit in my life right now because of my friend situation, I only have maybe 1 really good friend now and he isnt that good of a friend.... I dont neccessarily go out into the party scene but my friend made it very frank that Im an asshole for what ever reason... Do you guys know any way to be LESS of an asshole, I guess I can shut my mouth more and keep my comments to my self. But dont as friends make joke about other people just for fun and what not, I think thats what hes getting at cuz sometimes we do that.

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Originally Posted by Jeff Spicoli

don't be stupid. ignore the free-loading minority. subtle

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Plan on it, but I dont wanna lose my buddy because he is a really good friend but can really push some buttons.

Also , ya know when you really hate someone for a damn good reason and think you can kick there ass, arent your friends suppose to be supportive saying fuckn ya you can and all this shit, but this guy lately tends to be 'you'll get your ass kicked you idiot' no laugh at all just straight up

just be nice, but dont offer yourself up for charity, because people will suck u dry.

dont support bums unless its a hot girl who likes u.

FUCK, how hard it is to accept that , but by doing that and becoming my friends buddy again I would only go in a continuous loop. I told him the only reazon I fronted him wuz because he was a friend and he would pay me back , but apparently not.

Just tell him you need the money now, and if he doesn't pay up then just say get the fuck out of my house, i never wanna see your bitch ass face again.

Dude, tell your friend to fuck off until he gets his act together. Also tell him youll stab him in the face with a sauldering iron unless that nigga pays you your goddamn money!

he doesnt sound like a good friend to me. dude you can find more friends tell him to fuck off. it sounds like he is acting like a little bitch about it to.

dude, if you did your friend a favor and he gets mad at you for it, then what can you do? doesn't sound like it's your fault, so don't beat yourself up over it. and if you really wanna keep this guy around cuz he's a good friend, then you'll prolly hafta sit him down and talk about it face to face. good luck.

friend,s just dont do that 2 friend,s...
the word friend is thrown around 2 much...
he sound,s like he got a problem...
tell him 2 pay up, or get lost...
this world is full of looser,s like him...
good luck...

look man if they are around when you got reefer and gone when you don't they ain't your friends, they are what expierenced ppl call "drug buddies" fuck 'em and find some real friends that like you for you and not your product.

Hey man,

You're a dealer who has a "friend" who only comes around to get free weed and hang out with you over weed. Thats not a friend, thats a customer. A non-paying customer at that.

First and foremost, forget about thinking of this guy as a friend. He's gotten enough freebies already. Let him know in no uncertain terms that free time is over and if wants to smoke, he needs to pay. Then you can smoke with each other. Don't smoke with him unless its his weed. You'll see how quickly that "friend" disappears.

Second, this guy is using you big time. That needs to stop immediately. Once that stops, find some new friends or go back to some old friends, as in friends you had before this douche. Real friends give back at least once in awhile. Users just take, take and take.

Good luck man.

Yah guys I really wanted to realize this sooner.

But giving that when I had barely any friends, geeked out for along time we played alot of computer games together and were friends then, smoking weed. Ever since I started selling drugs, its been constant he usually chills out when he wants to get high, I always front him shit.

I do got a couple of buddys that like me for who I r and I plan on hanging with them alot more. I do continue to push drugs but I usually pushed them around the place I chilled with him , and all his friends were my friends and so thats all SHIT , I guess they wernt my friends so fuckem they got my celly #.

thx all.

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Originally Posted by Trivium

I admit having beer and weed makes things nice, but arent friends suppose to come over and chill out, ya know what I mean right?

I dont know Im second guessing shit in my life right now because of my friend situation, I only have maybe 1 really good friend now and he isnt that good of a friend.... I dont neccessarily go out into the party scene but my friend made it very frank that Im an asshole for what ever reason... Do you guys know any way to be LESS of an asshole, I guess I can shut my mouth more and keep my comments to my self. But dont as friends make joke about other people just for fun and what not, I think thats what hes getting at cuz sometimes we do that.

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Asshole?You are not the asshole here and dont let your piss taking friends put you down.Yes they are using you so get the fuck away from them and meet some decent people who know how to treat people.

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Originally Posted by Trivium

hey everyone Im so fucking pissed off right now because of a really good friend to me. The reason I underline to me is because I dont think he values our friendship as much as me.

Now I do sell pot and what escilated this problem was the both of us. Now I have fronted him 5-10 buds quite a bit, and Ive only recieved the payment for 1 front. Now it came to the point where I have to take money out of my pocket to make the next bag because of the cash Im missing from him, and I told him that if he expects me to front him weed I expect him to pay me back.

We were on msn and he changed his name to 'stupid white people piss me off' Of course he's first nations and half of this town is. So he started bitching to me about how he barely gets money and I asked if his name was directed at me and what not and he said it might be.

The past couple of weeks hes been talking about how he use's other drug dealers around the area to get him high, and the past few days he's been a major dick to me, like we used to talk about alotta shit laughing and what not and now its I mention something and try to talk about it like old times and he just says what he wants and thats it, I havent seen him laugh when we're chilln in along time. I feel like he's using the fuck out of me and there's nothing I can do because hes a friend, recently I feel that all of my friends seem to be using me, I stopped selling my shit and they stopped coming around. We match down and talk here and there, but I dont know my life is really fucked up right now.



Alright its a fuckload to read but I REALLY need help.

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Phew! I'm tired. I'm gonna go to bed.

Why did you feel the need to do that beachguy?

trivium if you dont collect your money from this freeloader ull be his biatch,you cant sell weed and let wanka's rip you off,it dont matter how you do it either ,if he is bigger than you come from behind with a bat and cave his fukin head in ,he deserves no better,he is a parasite,a fuckin leach living off every1 else,and if you let him get away with it every1 around will take whats urs,where the fuck are you from?

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Why did you feel the need to do that beachguy?

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Because I was gonna joke around and say that he's thinking about himself, too much. But, I understand he's just ranting and all that work tired me out.

Thanks for that useless help beachguy. Is there a problem that I value friendship?

He was a really good friend until I started selling,then he became my 'drug buddy' and nothing else.(forgot who put it that way but thx).

gromorebud, I would love to kick the livin shit out of him, but the only thing that's stopping me is his cuzins, hes got some big people in this town that can do alot more to me.

Im not saying that I dont have some big people behind me but its just not worth fighting him over 3 5buds I havent got, like fuck its 15$. Still the grass runs for 200$ an oz up here, not cheap.

trivium the same thing kind of happend to me the only way i could solve it was just not smoke with him, maybe if youre going out sum night to a bar and your not smoking invite him and only hang out with him when there is no weed involved.i know this might not work but maybe its better than nothing.
good luck!

as for the "drug buddy, that was me and i had the same thing happen and i got so fed up with all the free loaders that i just quit selling all together, now i know who my true friends are, if you still want to sell then don't mix business with pleasure, as the saying goes "gas, grass or ass, noone rides for free"
peace
JD

To be honest it's all a joke!!
For fucks sake man get over it , so some dick say's " I'm not your friend" you're going to lose sleep ??
It's playground stuff man.

hello

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Originally Posted by Trivium

Thanks for that useless help beachguy. Is there a problem that I value friendship?

He was a really good friend until I started selling,then he became my 'drug buddy' and nothing else.(forgot who put it that way but thx).

gromorebud, I would love to kick the livin shit out of him, but the only thing that's stopping me is his cuzins, hes got some big people in this town that can do alot more to me.

Im not saying that I dont have some big people behind me but its just not worth fighting him over 3 5buds I havent got, like fuck its 15$. Still the grass runs for 200$ an oz up here, not cheap.

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What beach means is this:

When you talk about things, you have a tendency to talk about yourself. Let's say one of your friends just talks about himself, his accomplishments, what not, it's kinda boring right?

I'm not saying this like you intend to talk this way. It's just miscommunication of your thought processes.

I have the same problem, just be observant of yourself and so you can see yourself doing this.

hey, i'm kinda in the same boat but reversed. one of my best freinds sells herb and they fronted me like a week ago, but my check was less then i expected and i had to pay other bills first, rent, phone...... ect now my freind wont even call me and talks shit to our mutal freinds saying i'm a free loader and a bum.

unfortunatly you need to take your freind aside and talk to him about this. start haning out with him and not smoke weed unless he presents money. if he starts being a bitch about it call him on it, like you said he's your buddie and you value the freindship.

Yah I think he aint my buddy no more, so Im done with him.


But thcbongman. How do you deal with the thoughts, I have so many thoughts and I dont know what to say when to say it .... gah so much shit runs through my head man is there some kid of med for this>>>>

man i exactly know what u talkin about and how u feel the only difference is i dont sell shit...but then again most of my friends wont come see me less i have some weed or anything to get them hi man....aint that a bytch..like they wont come chill just to talk have a drink or something...but thankfully i got some real friends that will hang with me whenever wherever so i just neglect them and let them do whatever they want to...but since u sellin shit...man u gotta get that money...nuff said i guess

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Originally Posted by Trivium

Yah I think he aint my buddy no more, so Im done with him.


But thcbongman. How do you deal with the thoughts, I have so many thoughts and I dont know what to say when to say it .... gah so much shit runs through my head man is there some kid of med for this>>>>

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I know exactly what you are talking about. Does it seem like your entire thinking is like a slideshow? Thoughts that flows to another in rapid succession that you can't seem to control?

You have to try to be calm and relax your defenses so to speak. Don't be consicious of what you say, just say it. Not saying it won't change your view and thoughts on something. Might as well say it honestly. Don't try to be someone you are not, because all it ends up with fakeness all around you. There are going to be people who like you for who you are, and people who don't like you for who you are. It's the case for everybody. Try to get interested on new hobbies, activities, books, media. That'll help you keep your thoughts fresh and slowed down.

Hey now, beachguy wtf. Fucker.

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Originally Posted by thcbongman

I know exactly what you are talking about. Does it seem like your entire thinking is like a slideshow? Thoughts that flows to another in rapid succession that you can't seem to control?

You have to try to be calm and relax your defenses so to speak. Don't be consicious of what you say, just say it. Not saying it won't change your view and thoughts on something. Might as well say it honestly. Don't try to be someone you are not, because all it ends up with fakeness all around you. There are going to be people who like you for who you are, and people who don't like you for who you are. It's the case for everybody. Try to get interested on new hobbies, activities, books, media. That'll help you keep your thoughts fresh and slowed down.

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Hey dude, that is exactly what happens. I have learned to deal and cope with it, but sometimes when I just say what Im thinking about, I get confused in the middle and then I try to correct feel so fucking dumb... I dont know what the hells wrong with me:(

I try to keep focused by growing marijuana but thats just not a fast enough process to keep me focused. ermmmm I need something else

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man i exactly know what u talkin about and how u feel the only difference is i dont sell shit...but then again most of my friends wont come see me less i have some weed or anything to get them hi man....aint that a bytch..like they wont come chill just to talk have a drink or something...but thankfully i got some real friends that will hang with me whenever wherever so i just neglect them and let them do whatever they want to...but since u sellin shit...man u gotta get that money...nuff said i guess

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Yah Im getting the money, he told me that I would be getting the money and then hes outta my life. I'll still sell drugs to him and what not, aslong as he has the money, no more front, no more trust. There has been bridges burnt and they cannot be repaired. I ended up having to force my way into his home to grab my ps2 back wich he was withholding from me, I almost fucking lost it.

I noticed this with one of my friends too. I used to work for a big mortgage company and made pretty good dough, had very little expenses, so i would buy a lot of weed. About 1/8th every 2 days. More on the weekends. One of my buddies would always come over, and we would pack thumbers in my bong and just smoke the rest of the night. This would happen almost every night as I have my own pad too, parties on the weekend. My friend rarely had nug or would offer to pitch in. Whether I bought an 1/8th or an ounce or two.

The point is, I met my buddy while smoking 2 years ago. From last year to this year, I totally think he was using me for the weed. I have been unemployed for the last few months, and whenever we smoke now, he always asks me to pitch in and almost like hes strapped for cash or something. I know hes not strapped for cash, because I got him a job that pays well over his expenses. I never asked him to pitch in, because I could afford it, and I thought he was true buddy who would come to my need I needed anything. (I donâ??t usually hit my buddies up for cash like that, because almost all of them have been there for me when I needed them)

Iâ??m slowly kicking him out of my circle of friends (he hangs out with all of my friends) and heâ??ll realize he fucked up. His fault.

Just goes to show who your true friends are...

It's pretty clear this person isn't your friend at all. Doesn't take a genius to figure out that he's using you hardcore. A real friend will be there for you no matter what. Take that to the bank. If he's not, then he's not your friend. There is no grey areas.
It just seems like you are lonely and will take whatever kind of friendship you can get. This person is a jerk and a user. Don't enable him to hurt you anymore, finding new friends isn't hard. Make a day out of it. Make some new friends.

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Originally Posted by Trivium

Thanks for that useless help beachguy. Is there a problem that I value friendship?

He was a really good friend until I started selling,then he became my 'drug buddy' and nothing else.(forgot who put it that way but thx).

gromorebud, I would love to kick the livin shit out of him, but the only thing that's stopping me is his cuzins, hes got some big people in this town that can do alot more to me.

Im not saying that I dont have some big people behind me but its just not worth fighting him over 3 5buds I havent got, like fuck its 15$. Still the grass runs for 200$ an oz up here, not cheap.

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My condolences. Unfortunately there are a lot of people out there that are just like your "friend." For me, I always find it is best to pretend you have only a little bit of weed at any given time. If people know you have a lot of weed, they WILL take advantage, that's just how it works. I learned the hard way as well...