Providin The Basics For Talking To Chicks

This is for you guys you are always saying "I cant get a girl"

Heres what Ive learned. You other guys who know what your talking bout can add what you know that I may have missed.

Flirting

The first few seconds are key, she will automatically label you as a "friend" if you send that message off, trust me you dont want to be a friend. Heres an easy way to get a chick to come to you that sends the right message from the start, if you see her from across the room look at her till she looks back and your yes meet, but act confident, make eye contact and mouth the words "come here" she usually will come over. Then you gotta know what to say when she gets there. Now for your flirting three keys; confident, cocky (yes cocky) and funny. You gotta be funny with your cockyness, after while all or at least most will be second nature.

Go into talking with chicks, and just about everything with the "fuck it" attitude. This means if she blows you off, and says no, you think to yourself fuck it, and try with another chick. On average if you ask 10 girls for their number at least one will give it to you, 1 in 10 odds aint that bad eh.

Also dont play her game, say no to her, try not to do directly if you can this sends the "jerk" signal to them, you dont want that. It depends on the situation but most of the time its no and you gotta think on the spot how to tell them.

Now heres where I think most guys have problems at first is they want to get to the main prize, sex as soon as they meet a chick and this messes most guys up at first. Go into flirting and talkin just for fun, you know those feeling you get in your stomach, well make it positive and push it as far as you can go, when you get the feeling make it more intense cuz what you are really fearing is just that, so think of it as a high, and the more you talk and flirt the "higher" you get. Soon youll have to flirt more and more to get the feeling, well thats good. I use the drug referance because it sorta is and most people on this site are familiar with drugs, well girls are the drug for now.

Oh and about being funny dont be stupid funny, that gets you NOWHERE, be cocky funny and use inuendo. Inuendo is the best! It shows you not some shyass mofo and it shows that your looking for more than being "just friends", inuendo is your best friend also because its SOO EASY to make almost anything sexual. Also listen to the way she says what she says after you say it, you will learn what its supposed to sound like I cant explain with typing but you will soon learn, it will have a slight laught to it. You know.

Becoming More Than Just Friends

This is after youve already screwed yourself and not taking my advice, which I think is pretty good and it works, you have to get out of the "friend zone". Heres a few easy tips, be unpredictable, actually this works for even when your first with her, like say you have plans together, well like 2 days before make an excuse and say that you cant do it. I know your thinking WTF, but it will make them want more. Another thing, dont overexpose yourself cuz she will get bored with you. And USE INUENDO its great! Then a little after the inuendo youve been dropping has been landing, maybe grab some ass, make sure its "safe" to other wize your gonna need to find someone new cuz once your labeld "perv", GAME OVER your done.

Being Confedent

Dress in something you think you look really good in, this will help alot subconsiously because it makes you less self-consious. Also make your self belive that you are the "prize", when I say this I mean act like a girls should greatfull to be with you. Im gonna say it, girls really dont need us guys, but we gotta make them think that they do. They dont really need us cept for babies.

Cocky

This goes almost hand in hand with inuendo, you gotta be cocky to use inuedo but be funny with it.

Joke With Them

Compliments get you NOWHERE fast if you take to many of them out or take them out to early. You want to joke with the girl by... well insulting them. Yes I said it, or rather typed it. But yes it works like a charm, maybe the best term isnt insult them but make fun of them, they gotta laugh about it too, phrase and say it so that it is a joke, you will have to learn these skills too.

Conversation

When your talking with her do all the steps above but you have to be serious at times to, try to get the "me too" statement into the conversation as much as you can without overdoing it. Whether you say it or she does, but make it about 60% her and 40% you. Like say she says that she used to live in floraida say " Oh ya, me too" even if its a lie. And see she also gave you and openended statement for you to ask questions, like "So why did you move" shit like that. It shows that you have stuff incommon. Try to just ask questions, people will talk about them selfs aslong as there is someone to listen, keep them talking, but dont ask personal questions.

Try what Ive written here, it does work belive me. Guys who have tried what Ive said and guys who also know about women, give me feedback. Ill post more later if their is demand.

or just keep bugging till they fuck you to shut you up

He speaks the truth guys. If you need help getting girls, listen to him. It's all about confidence, cockiness, and humor.

But, uh, I probably wouldn't lie just to work in the whole "me too" thing, cause she'll probably ask you about whatever you just said "me too" about, and find out it's a lie. So don't lie, or make sure you know what you're lying about.

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Originally Posted by psychopixi

But, uh, I probably wouldn't lie just to work in the whole "me too" thing, cause she'll probably ask you about whatever you just said "me too" about, and find out it's a lie. So don't lie, or make sure you know what you're lying about.

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Agreed.

Being fake, lying etc. does not build emotional intimacy. If she cant trust you she is not likely to share more with you. Lying is always a dead give away when it comes to body language. Honesty, integrity, reliability and loyalty are important issues when communicating with women. These four things form the word trust.

When your not honest and she asks you questions it will be a dead give away if your not honest, as you will: subconsciously look away, look down, swallow or figet. You cant hide this. And she subconciously picks up on it.
Women are also more skilled at reading facial expressions than men.


You also say to avoid asking personal questions. How do you build emotional intimacy without it? This is exactly what she is looking for. This is one of the main things she wants from you is emotional support and sharing. She doesnt want you just for "babies". She wants a connection.

She wants to know herself through you. You are her reflection. A mirror. If she cant trust you with the general stuff then she wont open up more about herself with you.

You want to ask questions about her life, of course just not too personal in the beggining. You have a lot to offer a woman by being a skilled reflective listener and a man who can read through her non direct levels of communication to understand what she really means.

When it comes to touching. This is my rule. She touches first. You touch her less than she touches you. If you exceed that, you might exceed her comfort level. So its best to touch her after she signals you thats its ok and not to exceed that.

Its best to tease her by touching after she touches you then pull back. This way she comes to you and you avoid unessessary rejection. If you follow this rule she is not likely to push you away. If she leads with the most touching then how can you be rejected? This is one way to build sexual tension. You undermine it when you want to go right to it and not let it build over a period of time.

This is another aspect of being a challenge as there are many, emotionally and physically. So remember those words, COMFORT LEVEL as it is important to women.

You lose sexual value in an instant if you come off as a guy that paws at women. You appear sloppy and inexperienced.

You can be an honest man, an emotionally challenging man yet one who provides good feelings and mystery.

Confidence is mainly self esteem. You have to accept yourself and like yourself as she can only get what you got from you.

Confidence is shown through body languange mostly. Its the pace of your walk, how you hold your shoulders, keeping the chin up, eyes up, not looking down, hygeine and how you engage others in conversation. Its reflected of course like you say in the way you dress.

What about other things like tests? Can you react to tests properly.
Like when she says, "So when was your last relationship"? Do you look away,
figet, look down etc before answering? There are alot of these tests that catch you off gaurd.

Can you handle her hugging another guy in front of you to test your response after you have dated her for some time? Do you get uptight, clobber the guy, or act as though your not phased by it?

Even the nicest women will test you to find the strengths of your character.

Here's some advice that explains it all in very little words,





Make the girl think you are bettter than them, you aren't in reality, but if you make them think you are; then they will set their inital opinion about you and while thats not the key it is helpful.

Most of all just be yourself, because if u aren't yourself then you have to change who u are to be with a girl, and that sucks.

If u wanna get some pussy without the whole relationship bullshit then I think BestTonic is right. act cocky make them admire you because they don't know any better (unless u get a girl who's very experienced)

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Originally Posted by Ganjasaurusrex

You lose sexual value in an instant if you come off as a guy that paws at women. You appear sloppy and inexperienced.

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So so true.
Incidentally Ganjasaurusrex, do you remember to follow your own rules when you're talking to a girl?

......Here's some advice that explains it all in very little words

Just Be yourself.

Then if they dont like you tough shit, at least they dont like the real you instead of liking the fake you.

I agree with most of what you said, until you got to ass-grabbing and lying about living in Florida.

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Originally Posted by psychopixi

So so true.
Incidentally Ganjasaurusrex, do you remember to follow your own rules when you're talking to a girl?

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Do I remember to follow my own rules when talking to a girl?

Well after a while it becomes second nature.

I dont believe in "just be yourself". If "being yourself" means you are doing things that turn her off like spilling your emotions early on, letting your hands wander, being too available and MANY more things which may be a way of "being" for the guy, then that is something that is anti-seductive or a (turn-off) and needs to be eliminated from a guy's personality.

So Ill tell any guy to have a good look at what, "just be yourself" actually means.

That phrase overlooks all the things in your personality that turns her off and offers an excuse not to change those things as it is "the way you are".

Well if being this way turns women off then the only alternative is to change those THINGS in the personality which produce that result. NOT THE PERSONALITY ITSELF. There is a difference.

You are not a fake man because you have improved yourself and your way of communicating with women. Your personality is still the same.

Seems easy huh. "just be yourself". I can easily think of a dozen things that guys do that a part of just "being oneself" that turn women off.

Well I dont buy it. Never have.

It is all about eliminating all those behaviors that are anti-seductive or turn women off and building the things that make her feel the way she is looking to feel and creating perceptions, which is not lying or manipulating. How she percieves you is only her imagination.

Im only saying lie occasionaly, but the ass grabbing works to get you out of the "friend zone" it makes her think of you as a guy not some friend, it tells her that you interested in more than just being friends, but subtlely, and its not even close to the first thing you do, you gotta work up to it. But to the lying, it keeps the conversation going to, thats an important part, your want to be interesting.

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Originally Posted by BestTonicIsChronic

Im only saying lie occasionaly, but the ass grabbing works to get you out of the "friend zone" it makes her think of you as a guy not some friend, it tells her that you interested in more than just being friends, but subtlely, and its not even close to the first thing you do, you gotta work up to it. But to the lying, it keeps the conversation going to, thats an important part, your want to be interesting.

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But when she asks you where in Florida you were living, and realises you don't know the place you're talking about she's not gonna think you're interesting, she's gonna think you're pretty dumb. Yeah, try to keep the conversation going, but you don't need to lie about stuff just so you can "prove" you have some things in common. Using your example of Florida, well isn't that a perfect excuse to ask her where she was living, and what it was like, and why she moved etc...


Oh, and a bloke doesn't need to grab my ass for me to realise he's an available guy, not a "friend".

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Originally Posted by cannabis campbell

......Here's some advice that explains it all in very little words

Just Be yourself.

Then if they dont like you tough shit, at least they dont like the real you instead of liking the fake you.

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CC, you got it right .... nothing else needs to be said.

Listen to ganjasaurex, you can't just be yourself. There's many things that guys do that they would consider being themselves that are major turn offs.

Ya really being yourself is good in all, if it is attracting a girl, but if its pushing them away, you might want to change for the better, cuz you will definatly thank yourself if you a virgin, and you change and you get laid, thats for sure.

Try to just ask questions, people will talk about them selfs aslong as there is someone to listen, keep them talking, but dont ask personal questions.


Solid advice. You dont want to sit there with dead air not talking. Asking girl about herself can keep conversation going for hours.
Sadly the me too lying does work. I know a guy who just tells outragous lies of the me too variety. No matter what she says, he did it too. It works because it makes her feel fake connection, but its sleazy, can be very transparent if the female askes follow up questions or is on guard for sleazey types. Its for girls you arent planning long term thing for, dont build marriage on lies..

Alright heres an update this is about being "cool", just go with me on this. Here are a few of the Do's And Dont's to be cool. K the dont's first because I know alot of you guys are doing these.

First, dont be a smart ass, now this is differant from being cocky, a smart ass will argue to prove that they are always right, and will always fight the opposite side of an arguement to seem smart, DONT DO THIS!! Be cocky, if your right make and they realize it, then reassure them by saying something "Of course" or something else cocky, and if your wrong be cocky as well, DONT ARGUE!
Second, DON'T BE THE NICE GUY! As they say "nice guys finish last" and their right who ever said it. By doin whatever they ask, and letting them walk all over you, you are tellin them your not a man, because you are being pushed around and being a wuss.
Third, DONT BE THROWING COMPLIMENTS AROUND!! They make the girl feel like shes already won, by you just comming out and saying it, you have to make her work for that kind of affection, you gotta act like you dun giva shit for her affection, this in turn will get you ''on top'' and make her have to work for you, BTW they do like it belive it or not.

Now for the do's. First, like Ive said previous, tease them, treat them like youve know them for years and are good friends with them, be comfortable with em, and in turn they will be comfortable with you. Now you have to learn how to use this to not come off as wierd or a perv. You have to get to know them a little, and they have to get to know you a little, but not to worry all this can be done in ONE NIGHT thats right ONE NIGHT, no more having to spend quality time with em before. Once you are comfortable with them, bust their balls a little, I know that sounds bad considering Im talking about girls, but its a metaphore, make fun of em a little, THEY LOVE IT.

Second, this takes effort, practice and BALLS. Try ignoring them, like you get introduced to them, say hi, get her name, then turn away and talk to your buddies, as if she means nothing to you. Like Ive said previous in this post, act as if you dont need them, make them have to chase you.

Now women want someone who is also independant, indefferant, socialaly adjusted, and funny, but not just women but everyone. They do not want depandant, awkward, non-funny, people.

Third, now this one is a stretch too, be blunt (lol blunt), and say shit like "I dont think your my type" or "If we did have a realationship, it probably would go past the physical". Be laid back, they love it. Again act as if you dont need em, they will chase you.

Now this dosnt just work for women, it can work on friends, just you know tune it so it dosnt come off as you trying to pick your buddy up. LoL. Ppl will wanna be with you if you are laid back, casual, and fun, also havin a shit load of chicks around you all the time helps with making yourself look good.

Thats too much work..

just be clean dress good and know how to talk to a chick and its easy, no matter how ugly you are you can always find a chick 4 you..

Well do you just want a few girls, or do you wanna work for it and follow what Im saying here and live the good life, having all kinds of pussy after you.

lol, not everyone is after a different woman every night...

Ya well me neither, but its just fun to go out there and not have to worry at all bout the right thing to say n shit like that, see to me all this is second nature, like driving, or talking. I just feel I should share what Ive learned, cuz I wished someone would have told me all this shit instead of having to "wing it".