Wife left me, took everything.

Hi, I'm pretty new to these forums and haven't posted but once or twice. Recently, I had a knock-down drag out with my old lady. Nothing new, but this time a little different. Skip forward a little and she starts breaking shit and I leave. Like I said, nothing new, but this time different. So, I come back home after a couple hours of calming my nerves to find that everything in the house is gone. Everything of value anyway. My computer, my jewelry, tv, etc. all gone. Things are broken everywhere and nobody's home. First thing I thought was a burglary, and start freaking because my wife and child are gone, but then I see a note saying she did it and she doesn't wanna be with me anymore. Needless to say, I'm a little angry. She took all of my posessions including $500 for the rent. Everything is gone or broken (she cut a brand new pair of jordans in half). So, I leave and haven't heard from her since. I've been in a state of quasi-deppression and binge-drug abuse. I'm sure I haven't handled the situation correctly, but I just don't know what else to do. Honestly, I'm trying to vent a little but would also like a little input from some of the older males on the boards. Maybe someone else has been through this situation, but being only 19, it's kinda hard on me. Thanks for any help.

well dude i dunno what to tell you, me and my wife (i'm 20) have those hellish fights all the time, but we never split up.... it's threatened.... but i don't think either of us could really ever leave the other.... first thing's first, go back w/e and take pictures, lots and lots of fucking pictures of everything she did, next, itemize (sp?) everything, and either find a reciept, or estimate what it's value was at the time it was 'stolen'...

in texas, once your married, everything is equally as much your wife's as it is your's, even if you both brought things into the relationship, that the other wasn't even around for.. once the marriage is 'final', everything becomes 'ours' instead of 'mine' and 'yours' not sure if it goes that way for everystate...

the reason for itemizing (sp?) and taking pictures, is so that if you do have to go to court, divorce or w/e, you have proof of everything she did, and blah blah blah... you might also want to call the local police, file a police report, and find out what your options are, if any.

i promise you, that if you don't take the pictures and shit.... and she takes you to court for spousal support, child support, custody or any of the like, you will get fucked... you need proof of what transpired, how much damage was done, so that the judge can decide fairly, who was in the 'right' and who was in the 'wrong' even tho you both might have been.. the person who handled it 'less correctly', are often the ones that end up paying for it in the end.

either way, keep track of shit that you might need, if court should come up, starting with getting that list and the pics done ASAP... and make sure you atleast call the police and file a report, otherwise if this issue comes up in court, and you didn't file a police report, the judge is going to look at you and say "well, you didn't file a police report, obviously it wasn't that big of a deal to you at the time..." or something like that... good luck :thumbsup:

That really sucks... can you get a lawyer? Or the police involved? I know, not the best option, but at least maybe you can get some of your stuff back...? Good luck...

Old timer with two divorces here. Just write the stuff off and start over. I know it's hard to do but it's really your only option. If you two were getting to that point the split it probably for the best.

My last divorce, when the wife was packing, my ex-father-in-law asked how I could just sit on the couch while his daughter packed all the stuff without me having any knowledge what she was taking. I told him that peace of mind was alot more important than stuff, that can be replaced but a war is just going to be trouble.

Your young, there'll be more stuff in the future and a lady too! It's going to be a rocky ride....KEEP YOUR HEAD!!!

Have a good one!:thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by Mista Sippi

Hi, I'm pretty new to these forums and haven't posted but once or twice. Recently, I had a knock-down drag out with my old lady. Nothing new, but this time a little different. Skip forward a little and she starts breaking shit and I leave. Like I said, nothing new, but this time different. So, I come back home after a couple hours of calming my nerves to find that everything in the house is gone. Everything of value anyway. My computer, my jewelry, tv, etc. all gone. Things are broken everywhere and nobody's home. First thing I thought was a burglary, and start freaking because my wife and child are gone, but then I see a note saying she did it and she doesn't wanna be with me anymore. Needless to say, I'm a little angry. She took all of my posessions including $500 for the rent. Everything is gone or broken (she cut a brand new pair of jordans in half). So, I leave and haven't heard from her since. I've been in a state of quasi-deppression and binge-drug abuse. I'm sure I haven't handled the situation correctly, but I just don't know what else to do. Honestly, I'm trying to vent a little but would also like a little input from some of the older males on the boards. Maybe someone else has been through this situation, but being only 19, it's kinda hard on me. Thanks for any help.

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Well..my ol'gal left me and i'm so glad she did
my ol' girl left me and i'm glad she took the kid
Now i have less mouths to feed and more room to sleep in my bed
I got the good news blues
smilin' on a rainy day
I got the good news blues
i sung all my troubles away
aint got no aches and moans
aint got no bill to pay:dance: :dance:

dai*ma:stoned:

That sucks buddy. Good luck with all of that. Wish I could help.

Heres a lil' country tune for ya....hope ya like it!:thumbsup:


You Ain't Leavin' (Thank God Are Ya)...Toby Keith

Till death do us part
Was what she told that preacher man
Now she says this ain't worth dying for
She's had all she can stand

She's boxed up momma's china
It's loaded on the truck
She just got started packing
And I'm thinking this could suck

Now there goes my lazy-boy
My flat-top guitar
Here comes her big sister
What's she doing in my car

As they drive off to the city
I just wave
From the top of my lungs
I hope she heard me say

You ain't leaving Thank God are you
You can't be gone fast enough
What seemed to take a lifetime
Just left in a cloud of dust
This will make my girlfriend happy
She's the one who never thought you would
You ain't leaving Thank God are you
Let us pray you're gone for good:dance:

She forgot her new laptop
So I know she'll be back
I'll have a hot tub full of hotties
Icing down a 24-pack:D

She'll cuss me like a sailor
But I don't care
I'll have a few choice words
When I come up for air:D

You ain't leaving Thank God are you
You can't be gone fast enough
What seemed to take a lifetime
Just left in a cloud of dust
This will make my girlfriend happy
She's the one who never thought you would
You ain't leaving Thank God are you
Let us pray you're gone for good

You ain't leaving Thank God are you
Let us pray you're gone for good

Adios:thumbsup:

i feel your pain homie
girls are my biggest problem
its a real thin line between love and hate
your only 19 thats good in a way
some people go thru this at like 44
and when your older its much harder to snap out of it
the pain you feel is one of the worst pains out there
the only cure is time
whatever you gotta do to make it thru the day
and the long fucking nights then do it
youll snap out of it as soon as you meet a new lady

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Originally Posted by friendowl

i feel your pain homie
girls are my biggest problem
its a real thin line between love and hate
your only 19 thats good in a way
some people go thru this at like 44
and when your older its much harder to snap out of it
the pain you feel is one of the worst pains out there
the only cure is time
whatever you gotta do to make it thru the day
and the long fucking nights then do it
youll snap out of it as soon as you meet a new lady

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Tension
Tension
I got tension and it's all that i know
I got tension with my girlfriend
I got tension with my wife
I got tension and it's everywhere that i go:confused:

dai*ma:stoned:
The more you suffer the happier she'll be:D

Good luck man! Try keep ur head up, dont turn to the bottle! Im sure you be ok.

Peace

You got your whole life in front of you. What you've encountered is a momentary setback...happens to the best of 'em. Lick your wounds, suck it up, and get back pon your feet! I mean honestly, if all you ever had was knock-down/drag-out fights, you (and your child) are probably better off in the long run. Best of luck to you.

I'd say the minute people start throwing things, it's time to go. Especially since you're my age. You're too young to waste life on such fervently negative emotions.

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Originally Posted by Mista Sippi

Hi, I'm pretty new to these forums and haven't posted but once or twice. Recently, I had a knock-down drag out with my old lady. Nothing new, but this time a little different. Skip forward a little and she starts breaking shit and I leave. Like I said, nothing new, but this time different. So, I come back home after a couple hours of calming my nerves to find that everything in the house is gone. Everything of value anyway. My computer, my jewelry, tv, etc. all gone. Things are broken everywhere and nobody's home. First thing I thought was a burglary, and start freaking because my wife and child are gone, but then I see a note saying she did it and she doesn't wanna be with me anymore. Needless to say, I'm a little angry. She took all of my posessions including $500 for the rent. Everything is gone or broken (she cut a brand new pair of jordans in half). So, I leave and haven't heard from her since. I've been in a state of quasi-deppression and binge-drug abuse. I'm sure I haven't handled the situation correctly, but I just don't know what else to do. Honestly, I'm trying to vent a little but would also like a little input from some of the older males on the boards. Maybe someone else has been through this situation, but being only 19, it's kinda hard on me. Thanks for any help.

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Dude,,,You just don't know how lucky you are right now...

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Originally Posted by Skink

Dude,,,You just don't know how lucky you are right now...

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LOL! now i keep seeing santa clause in my head holding a bong saying "duuuuuuude!"

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Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho

LOL! now i keep seeing santa clause in my head holding a bong saying "duuuuuuude!"

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if it makes it better I just shaved my beard for summer...

good luck w/
whatever crazy idea you
pick from these blokes

I believe your first problem was getting married at nineteen. My fucking head exploded when I read that.

Anyways, just get a lawyer and sue her. It should scare her into giving most of the shit back. Then you'll probably wind up having to give most of your shit to her anyway pending a divorce.

Well, 19 is too young to be married and have a kid. Live a little.

The property and everything else destroyed or taken will have to be resolved by a judge when you get divorced.

When a relationship is over there is nothing you can do to change that.
Getting back together no matter how many times youve heard it doesnt work because when you go back you go back to a dirty slate.

When things come to this point in a relationship it is due to resentment that has occured over a period of time.


You cant go back because there is only now and the future. What is done is done. So dont think with enough time she will see the light because going back means:

1. She will get rid of you (again).
2. She hasn't changed.
3. She is going to hurt you some more.

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Originally Posted by Ganjasaurusrex

1. She will get rid of you (again).
2. She hasn't changed.
3. She is going to hurt you some more.

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These words couldn't be more true. Take it from someone who learned it the hard way. Keep your hopes high man.

Thaht's a real bummer man. But ya, listen to slip, he's right on the money. Good luck.

Go get a saturday night special and take care of the crazy hag

Oh, and stear clear of the bottle. Stick to the green.:thumbsup:

Dude, no offense but she fucking ass raped you hardcore. I don't really know of a good opinion. Got any nudes of her you can post all over the internet? :D

Well I am not going to join in slagging your mrs off because she may of had a good reason to leave,there is always two sides to a story but I will say that she was out of order to do what she did.I would be more concerned about seeing my kid again then worrying about my stuff.I really hope everything turns out good for you.

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Originally Posted by RevolverBlaze

Got any nudes of her you can post all over the internet? :D

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If not, there's always Photoshop. ;)

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Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho

well dude i dunno what to tell you, me and my wife (i'm 20) have those hellish fights all the time, but we never split up.... it's threatened.... but i don't think either of us could really ever leave the other.... first thing's first, go back w/e and take pictures, lots and lots of fucking pictures of everything she did, next, itemize (sp?) everything, and either find a reciept, or estimate what it's value was at the time it was 'stolen'...

in texas, once your married, everything is equally as much your wife's as it is your's, even if you both brought things into the relationship, that the other wasn't even around for.. once the marriage is 'final', everything becomes 'ours' instead of 'mine' and 'yours' not sure if it goes that way for everystate...

the reason for itemizing (sp?) and taking pictures, is so that if you do have to go to court, divorce or w/e, you have proof of everything she did, and blah blah blah... you might also want to call the local police, file a police report, and find out what your options are, if any.

i promise you, that if you don't take the pictures and shit.... and she takes you to court for spousal support, child support, custody or any of the like, you will get fucked... you need proof of what transpired, how much damage was done, so that the judge can decide fairly, who was in the 'right' and who was in the 'wrong' even tho you both might have been.. the person who handled it 'less correctly', are often the ones that end up paying for it in the end.

either way, keep track of shit that you might need, if court should come up, starting with getting that list and the pics done ASAP... and make sure you atleast call the police and file a report, otherwise if this issue comes up in court, and you didn't file a police report, the judge is going to look at you and say "well, you didn't file a police report, obviously it wasn't that big of a deal to you at the time..." or something like that... good luck :thumbsup:

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Excellent....Excellent excellext post! Great points.
I wonder if he can prove the $500.00 too?

I'm at this liquor store underage trying to score some beers. 50ish drunk bum starts going on about his troubles. I don't know why but it's stuck in my head.

He had some advice about women. He said, "You may fuck them now but they will fuck you later.":)

Thanks for all the help and insight. I didn't plan on going back to her, already got the pics and proof I need, and nude photos. Doubt I'll release em on the net tho (so don't ask) but I'm sure her family and coworkers would get a kick out of em. Right now, I just really miss my little girl. :sadcrying At least I have my first love, Mary Jane.

Yeah dude. Good luck. Go get some whitestrips, too.

That was totally wrong on her part. I can't give her the benefit of the doubt like HiddenBeauty did. If men are supposed to give women "equality" then the women can't "steal" when the men turn their backs. It throws things in reverse and prompts more sexism.

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Originally Posted by Psycho4Bud

Heres a lil' country tune for ya....hope ya like it!:thumbsup:


You Ain't Leavin' (Thank God Are Ya)...Toby Keith

Till death do us part
Was what she told that preacher man
Now she says this ain't worth dying for
She's had all she can stand

She's boxed up momma's china
It's loaded on the truck
She just got started packing
And I'm thinking this could suck

Now there goes my lazy-boy
My flat-top guitar
Here comes her big sister
What's she doing in my car

As they drive off to the city
I just wave
From the top of my lungs
I hope she heard me say

You ain't leaving Thank God are you
You can't be gone fast enough
What seemed to take a lifetime
Just left in a cloud of dust
This will make my girlfriend happy
She's the one who never thought you would
You ain't leaving Thank God are you
Let us pray you're gone for good:dance:

She forgot her new laptop
So I know she'll be back
I'll have a hot tub full of hotties
Icing down a 24-pack:D

She'll cuss me like a sailor
But I don't care
I'll have a few choice words
When I come up for air:D

You ain't leaving Thank God are you
You can't be gone fast enough
What seemed to take a lifetime
Just left in a cloud of dust
This will make my girlfriend happy
She's the one who never thought you would
You ain't leaving Thank God are you
Let us pray you're gone for good

You ain't leaving Thank God are you
Let us pray you're gone for good

Adios:thumbsup:

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Sweet talk made me love you, but Prozac made me stay:D

dai*ma:stoned:

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Originally Posted by minnesota man

Yeah dude. Good luck. Go get some whitestrips, too.

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need no whitestrips, that's gold

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Originally Posted by beachguy in thongs

If men are supposed to give women "equality" then the women can't "steal" when the men turn their backs.

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I agree - that is definitely a double standard. Oh, they're 'equal', so therefore they deserve more. :rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by RevolverBlaze

Dude, no offense but she fucking ass raped you hardcore. I don't really know of a good opinion.


Got any nudes of her you can post all over the internet? :D

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then the next line is...Wanna buy some?


but seriously now...the best you can do now is move on. forget the money and other crap, salvage what you can if you can avoid a confrontation and GET A LAWYER! then find yourelf a nice lady and go from there...