Potsmoking Parenting

What do you think of being a parent and keeping your smoking habits?

I have an ongoing conversation with someone, who will remain nameless, about whether or not keeping your habits when entering a parenting lifestyle is a responsible decision. I don't smoke anymore, but I know one day I'll likely give in and get it going again. I figured that if I ever had kids, I'd just keep the smoke private, and use all my known and practiced techniques to completely illiminate the smoke/smell factor (thanks to the spoof, a.k.a. doobtube), so as to not corrupt the lungs or brain of the child. Of course, you'd also need to definitely think through the times you're going to be smoking, as when the kid begins to grow up, you're going to have to drive him/her to this function and that, to soccer practice and the friend's sleepover, etc.

The person I'm having the conversation with, however, disagrees, stating that smoking at all (even though he/she used to be quite the heavy smoker) and being a parent at the same time is completely irresponsible, and when the time comes to become a parent, the potential dad or mom should put fun behind and really get serious.

I'd like to hear whatever anyone has to say, especially the slightly older crowd who've needed to ponder this before. I know you're out there!

lateralus stalks me in my sleep...

How heterosexual. :cool:

i just noticed on your greets im like the only one still around.

I think to remain a reasonable person, fairly fun parent and suitable mate I will continue to smoke after I have children. I've talked to him about it, and we intend to keep it very limited, however I am a medical user so that opens different doors.
I would not smoke while pregnant though, too risky.

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Originally Posted by king kong bong

i just noticed on your greets im like the only one still around.

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Yeah, I noticed that too - I'm thinking, WHOA there're a lot of newbies since I've been gone, and where the hell is everybody on my signature? Better change it - oh well, no, I'm much too lazy for that.

as for the kids thing um if i have a kid im tryin to decide if i should send him to school or home school em. i'm leanin towards the latter.

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Originally Posted by ScarlettCrush

I think to remain a reasonable person, fairly fun parent and suitable mate I will continue to smoke after I have children. I've talked to him about it, and we intend to keep it very limited, however I am a medical user so that opens different doors.
I would not smoke while pregnant though, too risky.

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Sounds reasonable, and I agree with witholding during pregnancy. Damn near anything a woman does can damage that poor baby, eh? Heh.

First I heard of 'fetal marijuana syndrome'. Then I heard that fetal marijuana syndrome is a myth, and the studies were conducted by amateurs, etc, but you can't be too sure. The sad fact is, we don't know for a fact whether the condition exists or not, because researchers all come up with different findings. What's the point?

home school= fucked up kids

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Originally Posted by king kong bong

as for the kids thing um if i have a kid im tryin to decide if i should send him to school or home school em. i'm leanin towards the latter.

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Teach that kid to read as soon as he can say 'The System Is A Sham'. He'll thank ya for it. :)

regular school=fucked up kids not to mention brainwashed

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Originally Posted by lateralus

Teach that kid to read as soon as he can say 'The System Is A Sham'. He'll thank ya for it. :)

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i will give him all my conspiracy books and teach him to handle weapons.

Yes I will give up smoking weed before I become a mum. Weed drains me of energy and I'd like to be an active parent so it makes sense to stop. Not saying I'd never ever smoke it again, but not as much as I do now. Think I'd rather spend my money on my kids than on weed, just now I dont have any dependants so it doesnt really matter

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Originally Posted by king kong bong

regular school=fucked up kids not to mention brainwashed

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Growing up in modern day society = fucked up kids

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Originally Posted by king kong bong

i will give him all my conspiracy books and teach him to handle weapons.

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That reminds me, you didn't happen to hear about the guy who broke into Nasa's network did you?

Alright, this guy is 40 years old, unemployed, stoner, ex system-administrator conspiracy theorist living in the U.K.. He hacks into the NASA computer network because he believes NASA has been researching anti-gravity aircraft, and is witholding it from the public, and thus slowing down the world's technological progress. He wanders around the network for weeks, when one day the F.B.I. or something finds out and arrests him. People asked him what he saw in the network, and he responds something like "I don't know, I was smoking a lot of weed at that time." True story. :)

yea i heard something bout that but i thought he was a bit younger. was it the one where he was living with his gf or something?

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Originally Posted by king kong bong

yea i heard something bout that but i thought he was a bit younger. was it the one where he was living with his gf or something?

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Yeah, and he broke into NASA in his bathrobe.

yea i heard bout that one. he was goin hard when he was in their system. smokin pot and hackin, what a life.

Don't forget the bathrobe part.

And one day he'll be working for them. Or maybe that guy is Kong Bong. :eek:

I grew up with both parents smoking pot, dad grew and used it for medical use and mom smoked every once in awhile with friends i think if you just keep it private until they are mature enough to understand its use they should be fine

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Originally Posted by lateralus

Don't forget the bathrobe part.

And one day he'll be working for them. Or maybe that guy is Kong Bong. :eek:

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who blew my cover this time?

At least read the second one.

http://news.zdnet.co.uk/internet/sec...9203033,00.htm
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20060427/...in_hacker_dc_1

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Originally Posted by Sauce

I grew up with both parents smoking pot, dad grew and used it for medical use and mom smoked every once in awhile with friends i think if you just keep it private until they are mature enough to understand its use they should be fine

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Yes, but that brings up another interesting question: what then? Do you tell your kids the truth about your usage? Hide it from them? Stop? Use marijuana as an incentive for good grades? ;)

i have never lied to my kids about drugs or the fact that i use them ...my oldest son is 14 and i have smoked in front of him since he was born ..he knows that i use for medical reasons... and that it is not to be discussed outside the home... because it is no one elses buisness how our family deals with medical issue's.... he knows that i also use for recreational purposes. and that is also no body's buisness....he has been told he can smoke at home with me or his mom when he turns 16 .IF he maintains a 3.5 GPA otherwise he has to wait till he is 18...since he has been raised around pot smokers all his life it is no big deal to him...as it should not be..it's just a plant... so i really doubt he will start till he is older if ever...he also understands that any use of drugs other than cannibis will result in a severe beating and will never be tolerated in our family using cannibis while raising a family is no differant than using alcohol /caffeine/chocolate /tobaco or any other mild mood altering substance..until people realize that cannibis is just as harmless as caffiene or chocolate and safer than alcohol and nicotine we will always have people who will be brain washed into believing that a parent who uses mild intoxicants are not as good as parents who have become monks just because they now have a couple of rugrats running around the house

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Originally Posted by rowjimy

i have never lied to my kids about drugs or the fact that i use them ...my oldest son is 14 and i have smoked in front of him since he was born ..he knows that i use for medical reasons... and that it is not to be discussed outside the home... because it is no one elses buisness how our family deals with medical issue's.... he knows that i also use for recreational purposes. and that is also no body's buisness....he has been told he can smoke at home with me or his mom when he turns 16 .IF he maintains a 3.5 GPA otherwise he has to wait till he is 18...since he has been raised around pot smokers all his life it is no big deal to him...as it should not be..it's just a plant... so i really doubt he will start till he is older if ever...he also understands that any use of drugs other than cannibis will result in a severe beating and will never be tolerated in our family using cannibis while raising a family is no differant than using alcohol /caffeine/chocolate /tobaco or any other mild mood altering substance..until people realize that cannibis is just as harmless as caffiene or chocolate and safer than alcohol and nicotine we will always have people who will be brain washed into believing that a parent who uses mild intoxicants are not as good as parents who have become monks just because they now have a couple of rugrats running around the house

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You're awesome. :)

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Originally Posted by rowjimy

until people realize that cannibis is just as harmless as caffiene or chocolate and safer than alcohol and nicotine we will always have people who will be brain washed into believing that a parent who uses mild intoxicants are not as good as parents who have become monks just because they now have a couple of rugrats running around the house

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I dont believe that at all. In fact, parents that smoke weed are probably a lot more open minded and better communicators than parents (like mine) who are totally anti drugs therefore encouraging their children to keep secrets from them
Personally, I cant really be bothered with people when Im stoned so I can imagine being pissed off with crying babies around, just think I'd cope better sober

I like your views though, its good to be open with your children

I think with little ones around you have to watch them 24/7
I don't Know how old your kid's are just smoke when you put them to bed
Or a little when they nap.I just would not smoke in front of the kid's
Maryjane you sound like a good parent

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Originally Posted by rowjimy

i have never lied to my kids about drugs or the fact that i use them ...my oldest son is 14 and i have smoked in front of him since he was born ..he knows that i use for medical reasons... and that it is not to be discussed outside the home... because it is no one elses buisness how our family deals with medical issue's.... he knows that i also use for recreational purposes. and that is also no body's buisness....he has been told he can smoke at home with me or his mom when he turns 16 .IF he maintains a 3.5 GPA otherwise he has to wait till he is 18...since he has been raised around pot smokers all his life it is no big deal to him...as it should not be..it's just a plant... so i really doubt he will start till he is older if ever

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That sounds good. How about your spouse's family? Do they know? Their reaction?

I wonder about a spouse's family's reaction. I believe that reputation is important, and I don't think I've been with anyone whose family wasn't at least moderately critical. I'd be worried that keeping the knowledge of the fact that I was keeping a smoking habit on the low would be hard to confine to my household. And, I believe that keeping said knowledge private is important, because later on, other parents could find out, and you could find yourself in a potentially very awkward position, or you'd find that you, or your kids, had been harshly judged by people whose noses should've been kept in their own affairs.

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Originally Posted by rowjimy

i have never lied to my kids about drugs or the fact that i use them ...my oldest son is 14 and i have smoked in front of him since he was born ..he knows that i use for medical reasons... and that it is not to be discussed outside the home... because it is no one elses buisness how our family deals with medical issue's.... he knows that i also use for recreational purposes. and that is also no body's buisness....he has been told he can smoke at home with me or his mom when he turns 16 .IF he maintains a 3.5 GPA otherwise he has to wait till he is 18...since he has been raised around pot smokers all his life it is no big deal to him...as it should not be..it's just a plant... so i really doubt he will start till he is older if ever...he also understands that any use of drugs other than cannibis will result in a severe beating and will never be tolerated in our family using cannibis while raising a family is no differant than using alcohol /caffeine/chocolate /tobaco or any other mild mood altering substance..until people realize that cannibis is just as harmless as caffiene or chocolate and safer than alcohol and nicotine we will always have people who will be brain washed into believing that a parent who uses mild intoxicants are not as good as parents who have become monks just because they now have a couple of rugrats running around the house

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Just how it should be, youre my hero dude :rasta:

im 29
i got 3 lil ones
my 9 year old boy got on honor roll
my 8 year old girl can do it all
my 2 year old is very very bright

i smoke all day every day in front of em
i blow the bong rip outside so they dont get smoked out
when they see me blaze they dont even care
there is no shock factor cuz im open about it
they know its wrong they wont smoke
when i come home grouchy my kids tell me
to go smoke so i can be cool
the funny thing is when i drink they get real mad
they hate alcohol but like weed
good kids

lol

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Originally Posted by SensiRide

I dont believe that at all. In fact, parents that smoke weed are probably a lot more open minded and better communicators than parents (like mine) who are totally anti drugs therefore encouraging their children to keep secrets from them
Personally, I cant really be bothered with people when Im stoned so I can imagine being pissed off with crying babies around, just think I'd cope better sober

I like your views though, its good to be open with your children

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moderation is the key ....i would never be tending to a newborn infant when stoned ....but a couple tokes to take the edge off in the AM for me and some others is a good thing ....for others it can be a problem... i very rarley get totally baked out of my mind any more ...except at say concerts or family get togethers ..after 30 + yrs of smoking.. getting super stoned every day has lost its lustre...A slight buzz is plenty for me now adays...as far as screaming babys go the next ones i hear will be my grandkids and that better not be for a few more yrs yet ..as my 3 kids are all in there early teens.but the weed did help give me patience when i had to deal with them screaming when they were still lil guys...one of my ex's felt the same way it made it ezer for her my other ex couldnt deal with the kids while buzzed ..i guess it comes down to whats best for the individual but hiding any thing from people you love and are close to can never produce any good results

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Originally Posted by lateralus

That sounds good. How about your spouse's family? Do they know? Their reaction?

I wonder about a spouse's family's reaction. I believe that reputation is important, and I don't think I've been with anyone whose family wasn't at least moderately critical. I'd be worried that keeping the knowledge of the fact that I was keeping a smoking habit on the low would be hard to confine to my household. And, I believe that keeping said knowledge private is important, because later on, other parents could find out, and you could find yourself in a potentially very awkward position, or you'd find that you, or your kids, had been harshly judged by people whose noses should've been kept in their own affairs.

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yes they know my kids moms parents smoked when they were young and still do ocassionally as does my mom and my step dad did till he passed

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Originally Posted by friendowl

im 29
i got 3 lil ones
my 9 year old boy got on honor roll
my 8 year old girl can do it all
my 2 year old is very very bright

i smoke all day every day in front of em
i blow the bong rip outside so they dont get smoked out
when they see me blaze they dont even care
there is no shock factor cuz im open about it
they know its wrong they wont smoke
when i come home grouchy my kids tell me
to go smoke so i can be cool
the funny thing is when i drink they get real mad
they hate alcohol but like weed
good kids

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yea i dont drink much any more but when i go to visit my oldest and his mom me and her will usually go out for drinks the night i get there so the next morn my boy will avoid me till i have had a soda and a joint to kill my hangover...he knows when i smoke im no differant than when i dont ..but if im hungover i cab be grouchy till it goes away

I grew up with smoking parents. But god damn they were good at hiding that shit. it didnt affect me once so ever. i didnt even find out until i was like 13 and snooping in their room.
once i got to the age where i realized what things were, they put it completely out of sight. Actually i remember my dad rlling a joint when i was like...3. but thats it.
I know for a fact that they both quit, but it wasnt for parenting reasons. they just wanted to feel healthier.

so becuase of this, i will probably follow in the same footsteps. Keeping personal stashes here and there. Quitely smoking before bed as they did and passing out to wonderful dreams after a hard days work.

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Keeping personal stashes here and there. Quitely smoking before bed as they did and passing out to wonderful dreams after a hard days work.

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Sooooo true. :)

I've got a two year old little girl and I still smoke. I've been smoking for close to 25 years though and, like rowjimmy so excellently put it, "getting super stoned every day has lost its lustre". I had actually stopped smoking for about 5 years a while back but started again a few years ago when it was suggested I try it for medical purposes, to help relieve pain from back spasms that flare up every few months.

Other than for medical purposes, I mostly I just get high at night, after my daughter has gone to bed. Sometimes I'll have a drink instead. Sometimes both ;) Just something to help me relax at the end of a long day. I don't have the type of job where I could get high at work and even on weekends I'm usually so busy doing yardwork or running errands I just don't have time to be baked all day. Every now and then I'll take a day off from work to just stay at home by myself and I'll usually wait until these times to get really, really high.

I'm almost never high around my daughter and never get high in front of her. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with it and am not trying to hide anything from her. It's just that when I'm spending time with her she is the focus of my attention. And, I can honestly say I enjoy sitting on the floor with her, playing with playdough or having a tea party, more than I enjoy getting high. The only exception is that I will occaisionally get high just before I read her bedtime stories. I can get into the story a bit more and get a bit goofy which she seems to enjoy.

When you become a parent you have to make a lot of sacrifices. I don't think that smoking and being a parent are two things which have to conflict with each other, however. When you have a child you have to alter your previous lifestyle but not give it up completely. Being a parent and getting high every now and then is no worse than being a parent and going to excercise. If you're an excercise freak, however, and do it so much that you ignore your children, that is just as bad as a parent who gets high all the time and ignores their kids.

I have 3 kids, they still not old enough to know what i smoke. I try to keep my smoking weed till they have gone to bed, or at the weekends i'll go in the garden.

Yes they have seen it, yes they have asked questions and yes they say it makes my eyes go funny. I tell them there are lots of diff. type of ciggs :)

Peace and good luck us stoner mum's and dad's!

thank you to all of you who have kids and smoke or who have had parents that smoked when you were growing up. I smoke every day part for fun and part for medical use and what im going to do once i have kids have been a big question in my mind. It's nice to know that it can be done in a way that wont harm my kids growing up.

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Originally Posted by rowjimy

i have never lied to my kids about drugs or the fact that i use them ...my oldest son is 14 and i have smoked in front of him since he was born ..he knows that i use for medical reasons... and that it is not to be discussed outside the home... because it is no one elses buisness how our family deals with medical issue's.... he knows that i also use for recreational purposes. and that is also no body's buisness....he has been told he can smoke at home with me or his mom when he turns 16 .IF he maintains a 3.5 GPA otherwise he has to wait till he is 18...since he has been raised around pot smokers all his life it is no big deal to him...as it should not be..it's just a plant... so i really doubt he will start till he is older if ever...he also understands that any use of drugs other than cannibis will result in a severe beating and will never be tolerated in our family using cannibis while raising a family is no differant than using alcohol /caffeine/chocolate /tobaco or any other mild mood altering substance..until people realize that cannibis is just as harmless as caffiene or chocolate and safer than alcohol and nicotine we will always have people who will be brain washed into believing that a parent who uses mild intoxicants are not as good as parents who have become monks just because they now have a couple of rugrats running around the house

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you are so right its always good to be honest to your kids about what you do, and people need to understand that, ive been smoking for 27 yrs i started at 12 ill be 39 in a few days and i have a 4 yr old daughter people need to understand it should be do as i say not as i do when they are kids until theyre ready to become an adult and make thier own decisions then the choice will be thiers peace to you and yours

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Originally Posted by lateralus

Yes, but that brings up another interesting question: what then? Do you tell your kids the truth about your usage? Hide it from them? Stop? Use marijuana as an incentive for good grades? ;)

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Yeah my dad convinced me when i was young that he grew and used medical marijuana for his back and my grandfathers stroke. Mom came out the closet when i started high school and i've never really had problems myself with it. I think its best to be honest when they are mature enough to understand its use. Just keep it private if you wish, haha incentive for good grades that lady is facing some charges aint she