Fun sex?

Ok heres how it goes.....

I been in a long relasionship with my gf 8 yrs to date.

Our sex is still very active, but she said to me the other day, we need to have FUN sex! She thinks im too serious?? i dunno! So like theres times where i cant keep it up cos of thos evil damn condoms! and wen this happend i get all frustrated and pissed as im all embarressed, but shes like we should just laugh n stuff?? what the im thinking lol

So fun sex eh? bring in toys? well we have loads of thos as she hold ann summer parties quite abit. I think i take sex to seriusly?? Not sure what she wants? ive asked her.....didnt get much out of her!

So any suggestions would be cool! I try and get her to do diff posisions and stuff, but she says im no porn star. im confused!

Help! lol

Peace

damn man sounds rough
i think the main thing is to make it last as long as possible
take your time and just enjoy the moment
if worse comes to worse and your dick dont co-operate
then go to the doctor and get 50 mg of viagra.
that shit will make your dick as solid as a rock

wow hey dog u aint been on here in ages man - welcum back

hehe thx rob, yeah its been a while dude! Hope all is well!

yea m8 things are good hope is all gd 4 u bruvs ;)

I think she is being a bit harsh on you and why can't she suggest a few ideas instead of letting you do all the work.Sorry if I seem a bit harsh but that is how it comes across.

The summer is coming so the weather should be nice for outdoor adventures that can be fun if you are careful.

LoL, bondage. No Im jp, but hey maybe she wants to have a three some, lucky you, as long as he third is a chick.

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Originally Posted by dog420

Ok heres how it goes.....

I been in a long relasionship with my gf 8 yrs to date.

Our sex is still very active, but she said to me the other day, we need to have FUN sex! She thinks im too serious?? :confused: ( How about a red nose and spinning bowtie ???)
So fun sex eh? bring in toys? well we have loads of thos as she hold ann summer parties quite abit. I think i take sex to seriusly?? Not sure what she wants? ive asked her.....didnt get much out of her! :o Shouldn't you be putting stuff in not taking it out or maybe a bit of in and out combined ????

So any suggestions would be cool! I try and get her to do diff posisions and stuff, but she says im no porn star. im confused! :stoned: And then she suggests getting adventurous?? And she finds different positions make her feel like a porn star ?? God help her if you were in possesion of my imagination. :o

Help! lol

Peace

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Good luck sounds like you may need it.
In the meantime may I suggest two books :

The Joy of Sex
The Encyclopedia of Unusual Sexual Practices

owned.

But seriously, after that long of a time you gotta mix things up. Try new positions that you KNOW you can probably do well in. Pop in a porno tape watch it while your having sex with her, act out whats on the tv? Role play!
Let her do whatever she wants to do to you (within reason) one night. switch it another night.

give and take my friend its all about it.

~ Watch porn together.
~ Mutual masturbation. Watch each other.
~ Bring in toys. And use them on her.
~ New positions... just ask her if she would like to try 'this' or 'that'. You've been with her for 8 years, you all should be able to communicate perfectly.
~ Maybe anal?
~ Try some light bondage. Handcuffs and blindfolds are a good start. My ex bought these strap/rope things that ties to the bed frame.. it's really fun because she's in a compromising position so you can tease her or do what you want (of course, with her allowing). I've tied my ex to it and I had a lot of fun teasing him and doing all sorts of stuff.
~ Look into Kama Sutra.. I don't know much about it, but there are lots of books that explain what it is and how to do it.
~ Try having sex in public... that can be VERY exhilarating.

Sex is fun... don't be embarassed if you can't keep it up sometimes. It happens to everyone, especially while using condoms. Laugh it off and try again later. I mean, sometimes while I'm having sex there will be an awkward moment, or something funny happens (queefing, problems unhooking the bra, i can't get his belt undone, and I've even had guys fart while doing me).. and all this time we're both laughing. Shit like that happens and it just makes it more entertaining.

Good luck! :)

You would be suprised how much pain you can inflict on a woman during sex and get away with it.

(reading my post i realise it makes me sound like some wife-beating machoist, i assure you im not like that, inflicting pain purely in the interest of sexual pleasure is what i meant, scratches, biting etc.....)

Thanks guys and WOW!

Ermm yea it does sound like i do most of the work, most times i do..... but we have talked about that!....much has changed :D

We have done a home movie hehe, but she wont watch it! haha

Well it cant be all that bad we still have sex reg. and i cant moan about that!!

Peace!

um u could get a cock ring to keep it stiff if u don wanna get pills

I think she just wants sex to be fun again. Women get tired of the lets go into the bedroom and fuck routine. If she has self esteem issues (not saying she does) movies arenâ??t going to help because people always look worse on video. Think about how you had sex when it was at itâ??s best and think about the reasons why it was that way (for both of you) were you sneaking around, what we the circumstances of your relationship. It also helps if you make her feel wanted in non-sexual ways. Believe me if a woman feels wanted and sexy than she will go to great lengths to please her man.

Whatever the case she doesnâ??t seem to be communicating to you what she needs. She thinks you should just know her well enough to know what she wants (bad move on her part.) Have her give you examples what she means when she wants sex to be fun. And when she tells you find out what aspect of that activity makes it fun. Does she think itâ??s fun because itâ??s dangerous, impulsive, rough, romantic, vocalâ?¦..what? Once you figure out what she needs than you should be able to find different ways to help meet that need.

Good luck

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Originally Posted by likemclever

I think she just wants sex to be fun again. Women get tired of the lets go into the bedroom and fuck routine.

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After 8 years ... I think that likem's got it right.

I think that your gf's issues go deeper than sex ... I'd guess that she wants more intimacy in the relationship .. more conversation, more trust, more compliments, more being best friends. This may be an indication that she wants more out of the relationship ...

Please note that I am not a counsellor and I may be all wet in my analysis. I'm just writing from experience.

im sure after 8 years you have tried all different kinds of sex and of course after that long its goin to seem like its just a "routine". every time you do it it seems the same and its not fresh and exciting anymore

drive her somewhere one evening just as its gettin dark and do it parked up in the car somewhere,maybe do it once every week or two and drive to a different location each time.that might spice things up if you havent tried it already

id also agree you should use a wide assortment of toys and costumes and roleplay,get drunk or blunted and try all different positions everytime,dont just stick to one position.

have you tried massaging each other with scented oils and taking long candle light baths together???put the show head on full and stick it right against her coochie!!!!!! they love that

theres loads of different ways to make it fun man,it sounds to me like maybe she has a wild dirty side to her and she just wants you to take control and give her wat she needs,try a bit of rough,pull the hair and bite the neck and nippels and squeeze her all over.ride her like a wild animal

role playing, or let her buy a strap on and show you what she wants...role reversal...and make sure you tape that and post some stills when youre done...thats awesome

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Originally Posted by zephyrinne

~ Watch porn together.
~ Mutual masturbation. Watch each other.
~ Bring in toys. And use them on her.
~ New positions... just ask her if she would like to try 'this' or 'that'. You've been with her for 8 years, you all should be able to communicate perfectly.
~ Maybe anal?
~ Try some light bondage. Handcuffs and blindfolds are a good start. My ex bought these strap/rope things that ties to the bed frame.. it's really fun because she's in a compromising position so you can tease her or do what you want (of course, with her allowing). I've tied my ex to it and I had a lot of fun teasing him and doing all sorts of stuff.
~ Look into Kama Sutra.. I don't know much about it, but there are lots of books that explain what it is and how to do it.
~ Try having sex in public... that can be VERY exhilarating.

Sex is fun... don't be embarassed if you can't keep it up sometimes. It happens to everyone, especially while using condoms. Laugh it off and try again later. I mean, sometimes while I'm having sex there will be an awkward moment, or something funny happens (queefing, problems unhooking the bra, i can't get his belt undone, and I've even had guys fart while doing me).. and all this time we're both laughing. Shit like that happens and it just makes it more entertaining.

Good luck! :)

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I agree with what Zeph said. However, that bit on the Sutra can be weird and most things in their are uncomfortable. My ex wanted me to try a few positions in that book, it felt more like the actual work out that doctors say sex is instead of a joyful experience.

Get "The art of the female orgasm". That should help liven things up.

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Originally Posted by DonnieDarko

After 8 years ... I think that likem's got it right.

I think that your gf's issues go deeper than sex ... I'd guess that she wants more intimacy in the relationship .. more conversation, more trust, more compliments, more being best friends. This may be an indication that she wants more out of the relationship ...

Please note that I am not a counsellor and I may be all wet in my analysis. I'm just writing from experience.

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Hey listen to this DonnieDarko guy.

He has been married for a million years and raised a whole house full of beautiful women. He is a literal untapped gold mine on advice about women.

Your right Donnie itâ??s not really about the sex is it. I was married for two years my longest relationship ever. I can only imagine what an eight year relationship must be likeâ?¦mostly bad thoughts are coming to mindâ?¦some goodâ?¦mostly bad.

How have you done it all these years Donnieâ?¦come on no man is that good in bed. Not even with your mining helmet are you that good.

Is the dream really that good or is it all just stories mothers tell their little girls?

Tell likem :stoned:

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Originally Posted by likemclever

How have you done it all these years Donnieâ?¦come on no man is that good in bed. Not even with your mining helmet are you that good.

Is the dream really that good or is it all just stories mothers tell their little girls?

Tell likem :stoned:

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likem, thanks for the compliments ... you're my biggest fan in Oklahoma ... so I'll tell .......

The reason that I know as much as I do is that I've made lots of the typical man mistakes ... all well intended at the time:

1) Putting my job over the family relationship
2) Using sex as an intimacy replacement
3) Controlling .... solved all family problems by myself

The root of these types of problems are typically lack of communication, They can be worked through in lots of cases ... (Some problems like cheating or physical abuse are deal-breakers).

There was a point when my wife said that sex was boring for her .... but what she meant that the relationship was boring her. I had 10 years invested in the marriage and 2 small daughters ... and OUCH ! I thought that I was doing things right ... luckily, we used the opportunity to work things out.

So the answer is ... no, I'm not THAT good in bed LOL, .... We have learned to communicate and solve problems together, 27 years married, although years 7-10 were especially difficult, and seemed like a million years.


That's my story ...

DonnieD

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Originally Posted by DonnieDarko

After 8 years ... I think that likem's got it right.

I think that your gf's issues go deeper than sex ... I'd guess that she wants more intimacy in the relationship .. more conversation, more trust, more compliments, more being best friends. This may be an indication that she wants more out of the relationship ...

Please note that I am not a counsellor and I may be all wet in my analysis. I'm just writing from experience.

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Hit the nail right on the head mate.... ty

Peace

She's obviously bored with your dick and wants a 3-way. J/k.

No dude just buy a few DVD's maybe a pair of handcuffs and take it from there.

I personally NEVER have this problem - I still say that I could make a nympho tired of sex....