Help with parents

Lets see where do i start, ok here you go, a few years ago i started smoking weed, the first time i did it i got caught and my parents were really pissed and made me promise i would never do it again, i promised her but again i started smoke ing, after that time i got caught about seven more times the most recent being a day or so ago i smoked a bowl with my friend and about an hour or so later my parents came home i had to go to work right away so i got in the car and on the way their my mom turned around and looked me straight in the eyes and sayed that they looked "tired" ( well it was because i was stoned off my ass) and now today she is all on my case and shit i just dont know what to do should i give up smoking weed or what im just confused. help me :confused:

You should live your own life, but respect your parents. If your parents are worried that your smokin pot, show them that it doesnt affect you. If your still in school than just work hard at gettin good grades and shit. Let them know that your not gonna turn into some stoner burn out. Thats a parents worst fear and when they catch you smokin pot, thats what they think is gonna happen.

You might just wanna never be around your parents high. Only smoke when you know you wont have to speak to them. Like my mom doesnt really care if i smoke with my friends but if i come home stoned off my ass and talk to her, she gets all disapointed.

I'd suggest whenever you wanna get high do it outside, use cologne, and use eyedrops. When it's cold out i suggest going to a friends or somewhere you can do it indoors. Just try to get good grades and sh*t to show them that your fine.

if u feel u need to quit cause ur parents want u to than quit. jus remember that ur parents wont alwayse be around to tell u what to do. its ur life an ur decisions. but u do need to respect the fact that they care about u. a few people like me never had that.

Just sit down and talk with them. Be calm and act mature so they know that you can smoke responsibly. I did this before I ever got talk, it takes guts, but is worth it. And your parents aren't trying to take away weed so your miserable, they're doin it because they beleive that it will interfere with schooling and other important stuff and make u a stoner bum when you grow up. Get good grades, dont fuck up, and they shouldn't have a problem.

dunt make the mistake ov promisin u wont do er again if yer gunna do er again cuz it will fuck u in the ass. juss get the good gradez, dunt let yer parentz catch u doin it, n dunt fight wit them when yah do get caught. juss do that shit n give it sum time n yer parentz wont have such a big prb wit it.
PeAcE

yea man i get the belt to and it sucks, right now im fighting with myself trying to decide if i should tell them or not not shure yet :o

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Originally Posted by Reminissions

Lets see where do i start, ok here you go, a few years ago i started smoking weed, the first time i did it i got caught and my parents were really pissed and made me promise i would never do it again, i promised her but again i started smoke ing, after that time i got caught about seven more times the most recent being a day or so ago i smoked a bowl with my friend and about an hour or so later my parents came home i had to go to work right away so i got in the car and on the way their my mom turned around and looked me straight in the eyes and sayed that they looked "tired" ( well it was because i was stoned off my ass) and now today she is all on my case and shit i just dont know what to do should i give up smoking weed or what im just confused. help me :confused:

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Ok first of all has ur parents ever tried weed when they were younger? Is so they can't say shit. Secondly if u like smokin weed u should do it. Tell ur mom that u do it. But out of respect for her...u won't do it in the house or infront of her. That will break the ice. Then tell her that it doesn't make u a bad person if u do it. See weed has a bad rap. I think of weed like Alcohol. But when ur fucked on weed u can still function. Ur problem should cool down if u are open and honest with ur parents. If they don't then u should probably cut down or just quit weed. I'v always been open and honest with my parents. They know I smoke weed. aslong as it outside they don't care.


Cronton

If ya gotta smoke, then smoke somewhere where your in a relatively "Safe zone", away from the house and shit. Like smoke and stay over at a friends house till ya come down or go for a walk for a couple of hours. And do what all the other guys said, thats what I did and my folks allow me the privilage of smoking that sweet sweet Cannabis.....even in my own room :D

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Originally Posted by Corniculatus Melanus

dont tell them. itll only end badly. just keep it on the dl, only smoke with friends, never at you house (visine is your friend, it gets the red out;) ), then when you grow up and your out of the house, you can smoke all you want

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thatz gotta b the worst thing u can do. if u keep tryin ta hide it they will only keep cathcin u n it will piss u off more n more. juss tell them u still do it, but not around their house. dunt let them think yer stoned all the time or that all u wanna do is smoke. dunt spend their money on it unless u can get away wit it. the best thing to do iz have an open relationship wit yer parentz, tell them this "woodnt u rather kno bout my pot smokin n not punish me then have ta guess if im doin it er not and punish me on that guess?" got my parentz thinkin, now i juss tell em the odd time that i smoked at a friendz er wutever so they think im tellin em evrythin, n i cant get in shit fer it
PeAcE

well bud, if u listenin 2 wut i said at all, ud realize that i wuz talkin bout how i GOT my parentz ta become understandin. beleive me, i came along way thinkin theyd never b coo wit it, but now that ive manned up a lil, i can talk 2 em bout it. u obviously dunt kno wut yer talkin bout if yer tellin the kid 2 keep lyin. wut do u think iz gunna do the kid better, bein honest bout it er lyin bout it? i think his parentz wood beat his ass worse if they found out hez lyin 2 em all tha time.

lol howz he gunna keep a secret thatz already gotten out? anywayz i aint gunna sit here n fight wit yah bout wutz best fer him, i gotz my opinion u got yerz.
PeAcE

yea i do get my ass wooped so if i come out straight up they will just beat the shit outta me yea it sucks but o well i guess i will just have to hide it

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Originally Posted by Cronton83

Ok first of all has ur parents ever tried weed when they were younger? Is so they can't say shit. Secondly if u like smokin weed u should do it. Tell ur mom that u do it. But out of respect for her...u won't do it in the house or infront of her. That will break the ice. Then tell her that it doesn't make u a bad person if u do it. See weed has a bad rap. I think of weed like Alcohol. But when ur fucked on weed u can still function. Ur problem should cool down if u are open and honest with ur parents. If they don't then u should probably cut down or just quit weed. I'v always been open and honest with my parents. They know I smoke weed. aslong as it outside they don't care.


Cronton

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Can't say shit? Shit if I was your dad I would beat you upside the head. Their opinion should be more respected because of the fact they done it.

Hey, i got the same problem as buddy here, ive been caught once, my brother got wasted and told them and they asked me if i did and confessed about it, my dad was cool and talked to me about but my mom flipped and started crying that i was gonna be a fuck up like my brothers just cuz i smoke a bit of pot every once in a while, i sitll smoke and im debating with myself if i should come out and be liek listen, i smoke weed sometimes and its not fuckin me up and my grades are fine, i fucked up one term bad in math and got a 55 but since then my math grade has been increasing 5 eveery time and the rest of my grades are mostly 80's

ok guys, I'm glad you asked.... I've been going round and round with this in my head for a couple of weeks... I have a fifteen yr. old daughter and I've always encouraged her to just talk to me before she tries anything (smoking, drinking, sex) out of fear of her getting into something she can't handle. In fact, I'm the one who offered her a puff one night I sensed she was nervous about something major.. So she pretty much tells me all about her evenings with her friends, but I have told her if I feel her grades or ambitions are not up to par she will see the uncool side of me. Kids are gonna do what they gotta do.. on the other hand, if your parents cannot accept it you will not change their minds... some people truly believe pot will screw you up... who knows they my be right.... Some people tell me I am wrong and that I need to set boundries or limits, i do, but i have to be realistic, and it really eases my mind knowing where she is who she's with and what they're up to... they never hesitate to call me if they need a ride or just need me , My daughter knows the one thing that will get her grounded is if she gets in a car with someone that has been drinking or lacking good judgement.... Am I an enabler? some would say yes... Being a parent is a huge responsibility and there are no guaranties on the outcome, just remember most parents love their kids so much that it's a constant struggle hoping they're doing the right thing, but never knowing for sure.
peace,
onehitwonder

the question is, is it worth it?
everyone here has given you good advice, but what matters is what will work for you... just show them you can be a responsible person with your future...
http://boards.cannabis.com/newreply....ote=1&p=27865#
peace,
onehitwonder

lol we werent fightin man, arguein(sp?) but anywayz, eryonez got their oppinion on wut the best thing 2 do iz. i think that weed can fuck yer life up if u let it, juss like anythin else cood. if yer a mature enuff person ta smoke n maintain yer gradez n keep yer life together n wut not, then smokin aint gunna hurt yah. but on the other hand, u got ppl who juss have the mindset that weed cant possibly fuck their life up so they let the weed carry em thru life. i dunno if im makin sense cuz i juss woke up n had a nice wake n bake, but hopefully u get my point
PeAcE

i do understand what your saying but im still not shure what decision im gunna make i mean if i do come out and refer to it like its nothing than i dunno i will still probably get my ass wooped and if i keep it secret and get caught again im gunna get my ass wooped, so i have decided to keep it a secret and not get caught its really the only choice i have cuz i shure as hell dont wanna get my ass wooped and im making no sence sin ce i am so fucked on dxm lol

hahaha...be sure to ditch your dxm bottles/pill packages.

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Originally Posted by Reminissions

Lets see where do i start, ok here you go, a few years ago i started smoking weed, the first time i did it i got caught and my parents were really pissed and made me promise i would never do it again, i promised her but again i started smoke ing, after that time i got caught about seven more times the most recent being a day or so ago i smoked a bowl with my friend and about an hour or so later my parents came home i had to go to work right away so i got in the car and on the way their my mom turned around and looked me straight in the eyes and sayed that they looked "tired" ( well it was because i was stoned off my ass) and now today she is all on my case and shit i just dont know what to do should i give up smoking weed or what im just confused. help me :confused:

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You must ask yourself what kind of people are my parents? By that i mean open to opinions other than their own or narrow minded. If its the latter then just lie, lie, lie-ignorance deserves not to know the truth as by its very nature when it sees truth it sticks its fingers in its ears and goes la la la. But if only one parent (only one is necessary) is open minded and tolerant in personality to things it doesnt approve of (eg.faggots like moi) utilize this situation.

Things to say to an open minded parent: I told you the truth because i respect you and feel that lying demeans our relationship,
Explain the benefits of cannabis use and the drawbacks,
Explain why you use it,for what purpose,
Ask them their fears in relation to this substance and you( it helps to have reasearch and scientific literature to combat their arguements and support your point) lay those fears to rest,
If you dont drink alcohol use that as an explaination,
But most of all if they never listen to reason ie. religiously brainwashed or believe everything in the newspaper, why would they now?

My advice is dependent on the personalities of your parents-you know them better than anyone. just remember no course of action is effective in every situation so analyse your parents. i find tidying up shuts my mothers mouth when she moans about pot-if in doubt gett your tounge up both their bums

yah pofacedhoe iz rite actually, none ov us cood rlly say wutz best fer u we dunt kno yer parentz. i juss said itz best that u b open, maybe ud get yer ass beat a few timez but it'll make it easier fer yah. pofacedhoe has a few good pointz tho.

fuck ur parents i got caught four times in a week and still smoke two more times that week just be descreet

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Originally Posted by Corniculatus Melanus

i could never have say any of the things you guys are saying to my redneck parents without getting a pool que or beer bottle smashed across my head. fuckin weird.

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Man I totally understand, My dad would beat the shit out of me and kick me out of the house if he found out I smoke. Some parents aren't very understanding and you can't talk to them about stuff like that. The best Advice would be( depending on age):

A. Stay in school, Mantain good grades. Join a club or something so they see you aren't a burn out who cares about nothing else but getting stoned.
B. Get a job, a decent job, work as much as you can. Save money, and spend a little on weed. At least they'll see you're being responcible and this is a recreational thing, and you're not throwing your life away for it.

If you're parents aren't understanding, the best thing to do would be to say " yea, I've smoked, even after I told you I wasnt. I was wrong, I'm sorry and I can tell you I am going to try to keep my promise this time." Then do one of the above so they think you're making a change in your life. Then if you decide to keep smoking, keep it quiet, don't hang around your house stoned when you know your parents will be around. Don't make it blatantly obvious you've lied to them. Things should settle down and life should return to normal.

good luck ;)

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Originally Posted by onehitwonder

ok guys, I'm glad you asked.... I've been going round and round with this in my head for a couple of weeks... I have a fifteen yr. old daughter and I've always encouraged her to just talk to me before she tries anything (smoking, drinking, sex) out of fear of her getting into something she can't handle. In fact, I'm the one who offered her a puff one night I sensed she was nervous about something major.. So she pretty much tells me all about her evenings with her friends, but I have told her if I feel her grades or ambitions are not up to par she will see the uncool side of me. Kids are gonna do what they gotta do.. on the other hand, if your parents cannot accept it you will not change their minds... some people truly believe pot will screw you up... who knows they my be right.... Some people tell me I am wrong and that I need to set boundries or limits, i do, but i have to be realistic, and it really eases my mind knowing where she is who she's with and what they're up to... they never hesitate to call me if they need a ride or just need me , My daughter knows the one thing that will get her grounded is if she gets in a car with someone that has been drinking or lacking good judgement.... Am I an enabler? some would say yes... Being a parent is a huge responsibility and there are no guaranties on the outcome, just remember most parents love their kids so much that it's a constant struggle hoping they're doing the right thing, but never knowing for sure.
peace,
onehitwonder

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to me, that seems like a good way to go about it...it makes for more trust. I have a baby girl (7mos old right now) and I hope to raise her the same way...so she trusts me and my judgement, and actually values my opinions. I figure, if my child won't trust me to tell me she smokes pot, she won't trust me to tell me she's having unprotected sex, or is giving handjobs for crack in a truckstop bathroom, or is an underage pornographer (that may just be overprotective father instincts kicking in). I think that boundaries are good, but they gotta be realistic...
"never smoke, never drink, always be home by 9pm, all your homework must be done"...
to me that's bullshit. I wouldn't be able to keep up with all that, and I resented my parents for trying to pin that kinda thing on me. I'd much prefer a child who is honest and open, who doesn't feel the need to hide things from her parents...


as to the belt thing, that really sucks, man. my parents used a big wooden spoon to beat my ass...but only when I really deserved it. and in retrospect, it wasn't really that bad...my mother isn't exactly a baseball player, and it never even bruised. its more the shock that does the discipline, I think.

hey corniculatus.......is ur name by any chance corey fisher

Dude if you've been caught 9 times then no shit they know you smoke weed. If your parents punish you like mine punish and I got caught 9 times, me and them both would be in jail. Are your parents still hardcore like grounding you and shit or are they just like making a huge mental comotion about it? After you get caught enough times they will either except it or be completly lame and like send you to some retarded rehab programs like my friends brother had to. baked...

well actually yesterday i came home (before i came home i smoked 6 bowls of sum fine cannabis) and my eyes were so blood shot so red so glazed that if you looked into them it looked like you were looking into a tinted red mirror and my mom looked at me looked into my eyes didnt say a word but when she was going upstairs she said and i quote "you look hungry want me to go buy you some mcdonalds" and of course my reply was hell yea lol i think she knew i was stoned i just dont know if she cared. Yea my parents used to beat me with a belt and shit (they are from ukraine that how they were raised) i think they just gave up cuz thats all they ended up doing is beating my ass, they saw i was still doing the same shit and i guess they realized beating my ass isnt the answer so i hope they accepted it, thanks for hearing me out its a long post and im really stoned lol gimmie your thoughts on what i just said.

Thanks guys

most parentz will end up commin around sumwhat. thatz y i told yah u hsood juss b open, cuz like sedator said, they already kno that u toke up so wutz the point in pretendin that u dunt?
PeAcE