advice needed

heres my situation ive known this girl a long time, and she told me she has feelings for me like 2 months ago and i told her i had feelings for her too. were really close we tell eachother everything and know everything about eachother we can even tell what eachothers thinking we both like eachother alot but she has crushes on other guys and one of these guys i think may like her back should i grow some balls and ask her out before he does or should i sit back and let it all play out first?

ask her out. if she said she likes you then you should...

yea man like that say early bird gets the worm....or sumthing like that

thanks for the quick replys you can always trust a stoner for advice thats what ive always said

ask her out before someone else does.

ask her out. :stoned:

ask her out bitch

I wish my situation was as easy as yours. definatly ask her out!

jim morrison would never ask such a thing
you should be ashamed of yourself

see past thread. Asking a woman out the right way.

well i asked she said she dosent know cause shes in a situation where shes starting to like some one else and she loves me as a friend and i rock and im better then everyone else so oh well guess not

i told her to keep me in mind though

What did you ask her?

How old is she? Sounds like she just might not be into you that way.:(

i think i asked her if she would ever go out with me and for the other post i wont discuss age but i do know she did and still does like me shes just not sure who she likes more i should have asked her out earlier but i cant live in the past + theres some hope left and being a little bummed out is nothing some jack daniels or southern comfort cant fix

The ol' friend bit huh....start talkin' heavy about some other lady. Jealousy is a bitch...your a reliable back up right now that she probably doesn't want to loose. Reverse psychology, gotta love it!:thumbsup:

that wouldnt work in this situation she knows how anti social i am she worked really hard to get me to like her plus if she thinks i have someone else she wouldnt have second thoughts about the other guy

My first post here :)

Do not fall into the friend trap if you really like her-get seriously drunk together and see what happens:dance:

i wouldnt do something like that

I didn't mean get her drunk and take advantage of her-just get drunk together and you may find she just jumps on you, it's happened to me:) All your worries about what to do can get sorted real quick:D

Hmmm? Well i dont know usually when im drunk im not really in control of my body. i usually end up crawling on the ground pretending im in vietnam, eating cat food to gross people, out or going into the bathroom putting shaving creme on my entire face and walking out with my pants down and my cock in my hand but i do those things when im sober so its nothing new to anyone shes never seen me get that crazy though and i kinda dont want her too

and i dont know if shed drink with me, idk it might be weird to hang out with her now. i know she likes to drink but she dosent drink to get drunk she just gets a buzz then stops drinking.

The thing about this that bothers me the most is she used to hang out with me alot, and talk to me on the phone or aim for hours all the time. but now she barely says anything on aim and i know its because shes talking to other people like this other guy and is too caught up in those conversations to talk to me.

The story of it all goes like this she had a crush on me so she starts hanging out with me and chats on aim alittle bit. And she gets me to have a crush on her. Then we started talking alot more, hours on the telephone and aim having really meaningfull conversations. we got to really know eachother and started to like eachother a lot. Then she tells me she has feelings for me and i tell her i have feelings for her and we got even closer weve never kissed or done anything like that though just like spiritually closer i would say. But then a guy she used to like comes back from college and she hung out with him to see if she still had feelings for him and he touched her against her will and he forced her to touch him so she stopped talking to him and got depressed, and i was there for her i helped her get over it. Then she started to have crushes on other guys and id ignore it, shed tell me how im diffrent from them she loves me and only has crushes on them cause she thinks there cool (these guys shes has crushes on are big time nerds so i didnt worry to much its her opinion on who she thinks is cool). She told one of them she liked him but he told her he just likes her as a friend. But now this new guy comes along and hes actively looking for a girlfriend so hes trying all his female friends she said she still likes me alot but shes starting to like him now too and that shes confused. he even dared her to ask him out. she dosent ask guys out but all her friends are telling her too (im not sure but i know they talk to him so theyre probably telling him she likes him and hes too shy to ask her out so he dared her to and is telling them to make her ask him out) so now i dont know what to do.

shes confused, im confused

and her friends arent helping (most of them hate me because im so weird)

i hope she makes up her mind on who she likes more soon its driving me nuts

i ment to put this in there but forgot to

the reason i didnt ask her out before is because she has always been confused about her feelings shes had a bad child hood and a rough past and she seeks affection from people (not sex shes still a virgin and is saving it for the right guy) she just wants people to care about her. i asked her if i was like that she told me at first it started out like that but after she got to know me i became more than that to her and i know thats the truth

so i wore my heart on my sleeve and asked her out but shes still too confused

OK I am sorry if I seemed to belittle the whole thing before, but
'just like spiritually closer i would say. But then a guy she used to like comes back from college and she hung out with him to see if she still had feelings for him and he touched her against her will and he forced her to touch him so she stopped talking to him and got depressed'
I have heard this story before and know how it goes 'you help her through her hour of need-getting close to her and thinking she is close to you, she leads you to believe she cares for you-then she goes back to the abusing cunt'.
I do not know why but I guarantee you that is what will happen.

shes smarter than that

Take her on a drive down I-90 a ways and then turn off, park, talk to her, then start crying.

i wish it was that easy i cant drive im old enough to but like i suck at it so much that i feel that everyone would be safer with me not on the roads so i do everyone a favor and not drive

and i cant cry i dont know why i cant i just cant

dude your problem sounds very similar to the one I had in high school. It was actually almost the same situation really. We were good friends, nothing more, then she said there might be something more. Instead of making a move, I sat back. Now she's got someone else and we barely talk anymore. Dont miss out or you might spend the rest of your life wondering what if??

...we also got drunk together one night, then she jumped on me and we went at it, yet still nothing now...DO IT.

too late she goes out with him now and i think our friend ship is on the rocks

well shit son, let us roast a bowl then..

Lol, get her on the rebound!!!

You're next, right? Send her some dead flowers with a note attached saying that it came from her current boyfriend.

nah im just trying to get over her right now if she ever decides she likes me again then maybe, but i dont know she hurt me pretty bad

honestly if she didnt go after you right away, she was just playing games man. That's what I had to go through, just a bunch of games. Move onto someone who knows what she wants.

Dude!!! she's fuchin with your mind!!! Forget about it, she will never find what she wants and will take down everything in here path...

Skink

im trying to forget about it im doing pretty good at doing it

i told her online about 3 days ago how pissed i was at her she apologized for hurting me and said she did really really really like me alot but her feelings just changed for no reason and her telling me that pissed me off more because if your gonna change your feelings about someone you should atleast tell them before you go out with someone else and not lead them on

she messaged me on myspace and tells me something like if this is it between us i swear to god ill kill you were like best friends who else will read my mind? or something like that

so i decided to put her threw a little test to see if she even cares if we stay friends or not and, also so she can see what it feels like to lose someone she feels so close to

so i didnt respond to it and havent been on aim for 3 nights now and shes demoted me on myspace to number 8 on her top 8 and hasnt tried to get in touch with me so it just goes to show how much she really cares about our "friendship"

im starting to think we werent really friends she only talked to me cause she liked me and when i liked her back she was happy and we would have long conversations but once she started liking someone else she barely talked to me she would only say lol or say one word she dosent need me anymore and i dont need her, and i know theres a reason her feelings changed for me even though she said there isnt, its probably something like she found someone else who likes her thats better looking then i am, im chubby this guy is thin.

but what she dosent know and what brings me satisfaction on knowing is this guy dosent really like her. he just wants a girlfriend to have one. even in one of his blogs on myspace he says how hes looking for any girl to go out with but in particular one girl and he put her name in binary code and in a c++ code so only his nerd friends will know who she is. but i can read the c++ code as if it wasnt in code because i used to take c++ in high school and its like a second language to me (no im not a nerd i just needed the credits) so i know the girl that he really wants to go out withs name and let me tell you its not my "friend" and once the girl he likes breaks up with her boyfriend i know he will dump my "friend" to try his luck with her and my "friend" will have no one.

oh and today im going to go online and talk to her
im going to confront her about wanting to stay friends or not to see where she stands on that

i still dont know if i can just be her friend
i mean like i will be her friend if she wants but i will always have it in my mind that she hurt me, that we used to be more than just plain old friends and that i still have feelings for her im trying hard to lose them but it just isnt working. it really seemed to us that we could be soulmates, we have this bond where its like were the same person just in diffrent bodies (shes the female version of me) sharing one brain and we can tell what the others thinking or going to say and it seems like she still believes in this.

i know youd rather stiff her than that other dude

yeah man i was in love once(hottest girl that i would never ever think twice about fucking(or what could have been"making love")). although i had good oppurtunities to score with her and shit(especially this party that got busted cuz it was soo big) but waht didnt help was that i was grounded for the whole fucking time she liked me. by the time i was off it was too late. if you have a curfue, take my advice and dont get caught out after it, or it could really come back and bite you in the ass. after i realized that it wasnt possible for us to be together i went through the first broken heart i ever had. painful. very very painful

your boy morrison would never have even given that thought a seconds worth of trouble

ask her out you dopey fuck!

if you read the whole post youll see that its too late for that im barely friends with her anymore shes changed totally diffrent personality from when i first met her