love crisis!

so, this might be more of a question for the girls, but i'm interested to see what the guys have to say about it too. this is my situation: i complain a lot of the time that i want to have some guy that i can hook up with, hang out with, etc (but i don't want the label of bf/gf). yet every time a guy shows interest in me, i find some reason to reject him... and i don't even think i'm that picky! i think in general i don't let people get close to me and i push them away. i don't know why i'm doing this, and i've been trying to figure it out. i guess part of me thinks it's "easier" not to have to deal with the drama. has anyone else been stuck in a rut like this before? i wasn't sure where to post this, and i understand if it gets moved to the sexuality forum.

Sounds like you haven't found that guy you clicked with.

I wouldn't worry about it, I'm the same way as you. I don't let others get close to me unless they have a certain element about them. The guys you been meeting simply don't have it!

maybe you have a secret fear that you may want to commit to the relationship eventually which is holding you back from even starting something with a guy

maybe your just a tease and dont realize it ..im not trying to badmouth you at all sorry if that pissed you off but i know people like that and yeah you know...just make sure your not teasing and well just wait..youll click with someone...eventually

hmmm interesting theories. this makes a lot less sense afer i just smoked that bowl :stoned:

i just went through that with the guy i was with before my current boyfriend. at the time i just got out of a 10 month relationship and wasn't really looking to be with anyone (going through the slut/player phase, as my cousin and her friend put it). i dunno, he got mad when i hooked up with another guy, long story short, i wanted benefits without the title. just couldn't find anyone i wanted to be with...until i found my boyfriend. don't worry, that guy (or guys) you'll click with will come rollin in.

you cant get hurt if you dont let ppl get close to you...

wow...lol it deffinitly is spring time

LOVE IS IN THE AIR! :D

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you cant get hurt if you dont let ppl get close to you...

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not entirely true.... u can be hurt from feeling alone all the time too.
maybe ur unconsously (spelling?) afraid of being burned again, this might explain why u don't know why u dont get serious with a guy, but don't take my word for it.... i am by no means an expert on the subject :D

Nothing is more humane than to have yourself reject people even if you don't have a clear reason.

Midnight Baker has a point. Either he has realized that on his own or just played too much FF VIII :stoned:

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maybe your just a tease and dont realize it ..im not trying to badmouth you at all sorry if that pissed you off but i know people like that and yeah you know...just make sure your not teasing and well just wait..youll click with someone...eventually

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yeah some girls are a tease because it make syou feel like your in control, like "he wants me, and i know it so im going to make myself feel good by pushing him away"

It seems like you do like him and its seems to me he likes you
I just think maybe you are not ready to commit into relationship status just yet with
him or any other guy .Do it when it feels right for you and if this guy really likes you he will wait till ur ready xxxx

Seeya

MissBlinky :thumbsup:

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so, this might be more of a question for the girls, but i'm interested to see what the guys have to say about it too. this is my situation: i complain a lot of the time that i want to have some guy that i can hook up with, hang out with, etc (but i don't want the label of bf/gf). yet every time a guy shows interest in me, i find some reason to reject him... and i don't even think i'm that picky! i think in general i don't let people get close to me and i push them away. i don't know why i'm doing this, and i've been trying to figure it out. i guess part of me thinks it's "easier" not to have to deal with the drama. has anyone else been stuck in a rut like this before? i wasn't sure where to post this, and i understand if it gets moved to the sexuality forum.

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You b*tches are stupid. What the fuck are yhou saying that you aren't picky. All girls are fucking picky. Your guys just have to be fucking perfect. Not to mention you like teh dumbest of dumb fucks. All girls do is go around pointing out faults in guys. YOU SUCK.

*no offense inteded just my two cents

Infact Dopa, you are quite the wanker, ain't ya?


(That was a HYPOTHETICAL question, meaning you don't need to answer.)

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hmmm interesting theories. this makes a lot less sense afer i just smoked that bowl :stoned:

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Hmmm, kinki, I mean, kiki. Why don't you be my roommate and I'll label you as "roommate"?

I'll need one, soon. Maybe around tournament time. :smokin:

heh, unfortunately tournament time is also exam time... actually all the time is exam time, i don't think i go more than 2 weeks without an exam for the whole year! next year i'm gonna have 70 or so roommates...

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so, this might be more of a question for the girls, but i'm interested to see what the guys have to say about it too. this is my situation: i complain a lot of the time that i want to have some guy that i can hook up with, hang out with, etc (but i don't want the label of bf/gf). yet every time a guy shows interest in me, i find some reason to reject him... and i don't even think i'm that picky! i think in general i don't let people get close to me and i push them away. i don't know why i'm doing this, and i've been trying to figure it out. i guess part of me thinks it's "easier" not to have to deal with the drama. has anyone else been stuck in a rut like this before? i wasn't sure where to post this, and i understand if it gets moved to the sexuality forum.

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Sounds like you're me. You wanna get together?

haha but wouldn't we just simulatneously push each other away? i wonder what would happen...

When you are ready it will happen and no force on the planet will stop it. Have learned one thing though if you look for negative you will find negative. Have to be happy and full inside or else we seem to focus on the negative. We Have chated on the board a few times and find you to be a sweet heart so do not worry about it. When the time is right it is right.

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so, this might be more of a question for the girls, but i'm interested to see what the guys have to say about it too. this is my situation: i complain a lot of the time that i want to have some guy that i can hook up with, hang out with, etc (but i don't want the label of bf/gf). yet every time a guy shows interest in me, i find some reason to reject him... and i don't even think i'm that picky! i think in general i don't let people get close to me and i push them away. i don't know why i'm doing this, and i've been trying to figure it out. i guess part of me thinks it's "easier" not to have to deal with the drama. has anyone else been stuck in a rut like this before? i wasn't sure where to post this, and i understand if it gets moved to the sexuality forum.

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Bah..screw the bitter guy..
Yeah..when you are ready to allow a relationship to be what you say you want it to be..then you will have what you say you want...
I dunno why you push people away..you are the only person that knows that...
It may be your age (I am guessing you are under 30) or past experiences..but I can tell you that it'll all be "ok" once you answer your own questions...
Be happy, Sunshine..it'll all be ok in the end..
Johnny
:)

Sorry to hear about your addiction to exams, it sounds like you might have a problem. Better get that checked out.

What's your major? You know sometimes people are bored here and can help you with a lot of your schoolwork, even if it just gives you some ideas. Just pretend that we're your advanced imagination.

thanks for all the replies!! stoners are my favorite people :)

beachguy- i am pre-med with a major in either chemistry or biochemistry (haven't decided yet)

When younger I would always dig (What I called) "ego trips", which means I'd hook up, and then let go. Guys do this sh!t all the time! Unless you 'want' to get close to someone, chances are that you'll ditch them eventually. It's just human nature, man!

When you connect, you connect! It's that simple!

Until then, "enjoy" yourself, and don't worry about it!

Just my two cents,

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thanks for all the replies!! stoners are my favorite people :)

beachguy- i am pre-med with a major in either chemistry or biochemistry (haven't decided yet)

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Wow, that sounds serious.

My signature used to read, "Forget the stereotypes about dopey potheads. It seems Marijuana could be good for the brain." And then underneath it I had the name of the Toronto-based newspaper that ran the story, with the date.

that would definitely be nice!! i just hate the stigma that comes with it... like "oh she smokes so she's never gonna be successful in school!" i just have learned to keep my mouth shut about it and secretly get A's in everything :)

Nothing to be ashamed of. It's just society's hypocrisy and stupid laws that create the "stigma." But the truth is, a lot of highly intelligent, well educated professionals like the holy weed (if I do say so myself :pimp: Even the late Carl Sagan, the world famous astrophysicist (also an egotist) was a seasoned stoner; he said he always got his best ideas when taking a long shower after smoking a joint. I like the idea, though I recommend bubble baths myself.

"Yet every time a guy shows an interest in me, I find some reason to reject him.....and I dont even think Im that picky"


^womanese. lol, Im just messin ya.


Guys arent approaching you right.

I'm just wondering. Are you a med student that smokes Herb? Gotta love those Spartans, I mean... Wolverinas.

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I'm just wondering. Are you a med student that smokes Herb? Gotta love those Spartans, I mean... Wolverinas.

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not med, pre-med. still an undergrad! i am curious to know how many med students smoke though... i doubt i'll be able to as much

Yes, I doubt you'll find the time to actually obtain it, prepare it and smoke it. I used to help a girl study in nursing school. Actually, still live with her. :error:... .................................................. ......................................... :glugglug: