sex in the cards?

yesterday, my gf of almost 6 months got birth control from her doctor. that basically means we can have sex in the next 1-2 months. were both 15, btw. now, dont flame me for askin this kinda stuff cuz its been asked before. but shes given me head a few times, and ive offered to return the favour, and shes said no. anyone got any ideas as to how to make sure she enjoys it, probably without actually eating her out? and shes worried about the pain, because were both virgins, and a friend of ours tried to have sex with her bf, and stopped because she said it hurt too much. does this happen to lots of people?

sorry for the longishness of this, but im curious.

go SLOW! slooooooow, she'll appreciate it so much more, and make out for a little bit, then go down, and do your work, she'll like it after then.

if she's a virgin you need to start working on her now if you're ever to have sex...if she's never had anything in her it's going to hurt her more than likely, and also before you go to do it you need to get her really wet and horny and finger her for awhile first to loosen up the muscles some...take it slow, and remember it's her decision, if you go to have sex and it hurts her, make sure to hold her lots and shit because most girls feel like failures after they have to tell the guy to stop. make sure you tell her before anything happens that if it does hurt, that you will stop when she says to and you won't be upset or angry and you understand her position. 15-18 year old girls are some of the most emotional people i've ever met >.<

yes, it always hurts the first time. and its not like hollywood. its awkward and strange-but dont think im trying to say it sucks. your first time isnt rose petals and candlelight. my first time was awkward-but i was absolutely 100% sure of it and so was he. it was more of a bonding experience that we both appreciated.
just remember to stop when she says stop and if either of you are uncomfortable, stop. i dont think there could be anything worse than a bad first time. keep your mind on foreplay

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Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho

if she's a virgin you need to start working on her now if you're ever to have sex...if she's never had anything in her it's going to hurt her more than likely, and also before you go to do it you need to get her really wet and horny and finger her for awhile first to loosen up the muscles some...take it slow, and remember it's her decision, if you go to have sex and it hurts her, make sure to hold her lots and shit because most girls feel like failures after they have to tell the guy to stop. make sure you tell her before anything happens that if it does hurt, that you will stop when she says to and you won't be upset or angry and you understand her position. 15-18 year old girls are some of the most emotional people i've ever met >.<

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i couldn't have said it any better. i don't think guys understand how important virginity is to girls and how emotional and earthshaking the first time is. if she is horny and is sure she wants to lose it to you, i think she will let you know. its an emotional moment. let her know you really love her and don't just want to sleep with her. and if that isn't the truth, you don't deserve to have sex with her. virginity is a strange thing with women. half the time you are expected to have it, half the time you are not.

Hi Pichacho

just go with the flow... don't put pressure on her or yourself.. lots of chillin.. hanging out in bed..

ya know, a lot of girls are real apprehensive about guys going down on them.. it takes them some time... she sounds very normal..

my girlfriend in highschool (16 years old) and I were both virgins , we had been dating for 10 months and she decided she wanted the KACK.... she would spend the night at least once a week.. and we had the condoms... but we still didn't have sex for another 6 months.. and when it happened, it just happened. We went out for another 2 years... I don't think she ever enjoyed the sex as much as I did...

always wear a jimmy.. don't be a fucking idiot!! ever circle of friends has a handful of people who get pregnant and std's.. don't be "that GUY"

I love POON

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Originally Posted by BizzleLuvin

yes, it always hurts the first time.

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not really. my first time was kinda uncomfortable, but it didn't really hurt. (didn't bleed either, so that's kind of a myth, too). but yeah, go slow, and if she says to stop, then stop, don't be dissapointed if things don't work out the first (few) time(s) you try (homie tried a few times before making it all the way...everyone's different)
and yeah, it can be really awkward (i was laying there thinkin "oh shit, i'm wearing socks..." they were black, btw lol) and it wasn't really earth shattering. i was mostly amused by the mechanics of it all, but then again i'm a strange one and i'm still amused at how primal and mechanical it all is. but yeah, just enjoy yourself, listen to her, have a good time.
(and i can't stress enough...use a condom)

http://www.stacken.kth.se/~virgin/se...nnilingus.html

it's an art. you cant expect to paint a masterpeice the first time.
http://www.stacken.kth.se/~virgin/se.../eatpussy.html

yeah, to all those saying to use condoms, shes going on the pill after this period, and im also gonna wear a condom. thanks for the help tho!

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Originally Posted by Pichacho

yeah, to all those saying to use condoms, shes going on the pill after this period, and im also gonna wear a condom. thanks for the help tho!

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I don't use condoms, condoms aren't any fun.

I hate condoms, they're yucky! I'd only use them if I was having a one-night stand. Otherwise I'd get myself and my partner checked for STDs, then proceed without condoms.

But I don't have that problem anyway because I'm never going to fuck anyone but my beautiful boyfriend ever again. Yay! I'm so happy! :D :D :D

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Originally Posted by Garden Knowm

Hi Pichacho

just go with the flow... don't put pressure on her or yourself.. lots of chillin.. hanging out in bed..

ya know, a lot of girls are real apprehensive about guys going down on them.. it takes them some time... she sounds very normal..

my girlfriend in highschool (16 years old) and I were both virgins , we had been dating for 10 months and she decided she wanted the KACK.... she would spend the night at least once a week.. and we had the condoms... but we still didn't have sex for another 6 months.. and when it happened, it just happened. We went out for another 2 years... I don't think she ever enjoyed the sex as much as I did...

always wear a jimmy.. don't be a fucking idiot!! ever circle of friends has a handful of people who get pregnant and std's.. don't be "that GUY"

I love POON

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I've just got one thing to say:

A condom is way cheaper than a child.

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Originally Posted by Monkey4Sale

I don't use condoms, condoms aren't any fun.

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rofl, that's exactly what i said....and look where i ended up...20 years old with nearly a 1 year old child, and poor and broke off my ass....condoms may not be fun, but i can garuntee this, having a kid before you're ready (mentally, physically and money-wise) is way less fun.....

wearing a condom while having sex
is like covering up your tounge when youre eating

alright man, whatever works for you. if we were older and married, fuck condoms;) but were 15, in grade 10. rather be safe then sorry... also her dad would KILL ME and eat my face, and hers too if he knew id gotten her pregnant, let alone... taken her clothes off. hes totally... protective? guess so. even her mom, whos totally cool, doesnt want us to have sex till were 17-18. i dont even wanna know what my parents think.