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everytime i find a guy that seems right for me, he turns out being a dick. i've been single for 2 and a half years now. i've definitly dated my share of guys, but can't find one to get into a relationship with. is it really that hard for guys to be considerate, not get afraid of commitment, smoke pot, party, listen to good music, and chill with me?
and i'm not ugly either, and i give good head, so i don't know what the fuck my problem is. are they intimidated? or could i just be insane?
your post and screen name confuse me, are you a guy or a girl?
i'm a girl. the joke is that i'm my own anti drug.
My fiance describes the same thing for the vast majority (in fact all) of her past relationships. If there being a dick drop em like you would roadkill. There are plenty of guys who love the things you do are attractive and not a dick ;). Problem is finding em :).
If your aggressive they're probably intimidated you just gotta find a guy like myself who likes an aggressive lady. :). The most popular fantasy is still domination for males so id say your pretty well off you just gotta communicate and make them feel safe (us guys are notoriously close minded sexually and for lack of a better term "anal" when its not just us alone with our fantasies, fear of being laughed at etc etc...that can really hurt a guy who by societies rules are told were really only extensions of our ego's).
Hope you find someone nice soon but never give up probability is on your side :).
I've lived a long time trying to find that one, finally snagged him. My best advice is just like wierd said, if they act like a dick, drop em quick. Nothing teaches them a lesson like lonliness. Also work on your communication skills, if you can talk effectively to one another that is half the battle.
Where you looking?
all guys suck...when u find the right one u know so dont waste your time on the others...itll end up hurting you in the end
loneliness is normal here, it's not a problem for me tho. i'm perfectly content to sit in my garage drink a beer and smoke a blunt by myself, rather than spend lots of money at a bar just to be around people.. i don't know if that has any relevance to the topic or not tho.
Hah, before I read the other posts, I am saying that, well, I seem to have a chicken in my throat.Quote:
Originally Posted by MyAntiDrugIsAmy
Thanks, Lizka. I've heard all girls don't suck, though.Quote:
Originally Posted by lizka4200
Girl, I feel the same way you do, and I've been asking those questions a lot lately too. Guys suck basically. What I have learned though is that I had been overlooking some awesome guys without realizing it simply because I liked to date the assholes. Maybe you've been doing the same thing?
Ok, at least you added basically, but thanks, anyways.Quote:
Originally Posted by BlazinHaze
Girls...suck better than guys.
Sometimes.
The few nice guys I know get turned down. Try looking at the kind of quiet guys that smile when you look at them. If you are aggressive, then you are just their type!
(you don't have to ask them out, you can tell them to pick you up at 8 and they will) :p
Your problem is that you're looking at guys... go look for a man.
I'm not trying to put you down or anything, just my thoughts. I'm a man, with a girlfriend... I'm really happy... couldn't be happier (well, ok, when my plants flower). I keep my woman happy. Communication is key.
You know, you're saying that all guys are dicks: Question::: What guys are you giving a chance to? If you're giving a chance to the popular, good dressed, perfumed, buttwipe, well, that's your problem. Look for the guy that isn't the center of attention. He'll be more interesting... I bet you 5 bucks.
As to your giving 'good head': GREAT! The more, the merrier. But that's another thing I'm thinking::: How early in the relationship do you blow him? Same night? Problem.
Not that there's anything wrong with fucking the first night... but it's pretty hard to go from "first time fuck" to "making love". If a relationship will work out, it's probably "making love" first, then "fucking".
At any event, I wish you the best of luck :)
-turtle420 :cool:
PS: Try eHarmony.com I haven't tried them, but they sure have a lot of commercials flying on TV. ;)
oh no, never in the same night, i date them for awhile, i don't always do that, i'm just talking about my last failed attempt at a relationship. also, i'm still a virgin, i know it's weird.
but i'm not all depressed about it now or anything, i was just lonely at work. but i have my friends that keep me happy.
i don't usually go for mr. popular either, i go for a completly different out there weird artistic type to some degree, basically someone interesting. i'm content with the fact that i'll find him soon enough, thanks for the support for the most part.
I don't think I'll try internet dating sites, I did register at one-local (free) one, but I'm not active at all, just threw up a picture and a crazy story.
Good luck with your search , Amy ;)
it's not your problem, its them. they all suck.Quote:
Originally Posted by MyAntiDrugIsAmy
You're probably just insane. ;) Haha, naw, you just keep meeting all the dicks.
Come hang out with me, amy, I want someone to smoke pot with. And smoking with girls is more fun than with guys.
Most people suck in general, male and female. I think the key is to finding a good relationship is finding someone whose foibles you can tolerate and and who can tolerate yours.
Women say all the time that guys are dicks, but that's just because the majority of girls are attracted to assholes. I have found that if you want a girl to like you, you have to act like a pomous asshole at first. You have to have a lot of confidence and carry yourself like you're the hottest shit in the septic tank, or else you get ignored.
I think a major problem is that girls will not accept you as you are, at least not at first. You have to go through a big charade of saying things that she wants to hear and doing things you wouldn't normally do to please her, just so that the girl will give you a chance to get to know her. Then she's suprised that you are a different person a month later and she wants you to change a bunch of stuff.
So, i've given up trying. I am a totally complete person without another half. I don't need someone to complete me. I stopped trying to be in a relationship with anyone and just started living according to my own plan. If someone comes along, that's fine. If not, that's fine too.
I found that most of the good relationships come when you aren't looking. Because that way you don't allow the things that normally cloud your judgement about a person aren't there. Because you aren't actually considering anyone, you don't have that "she has a nice ass" or "he has a lot of money" crap getting in the way of getting to know people. Then good relationships can grow out of sincere friendships. anyway, that's more than my two cents.
im a nice stoner. im nice to everybody i swear i get along with like everybody. everybody loves nightprowler.music makes me feel like im eating lemon cheese.
You need to find yourself a stoner guy. Dunno if someone's said that already.
they have, and i do. just a nice stoner guy who i can chill with.Quote:
Originally Posted by GHoSToKeR
but since last week the search has changed a little, i'm not really looking but just chillin with everyone. all the guys i hang out with hit on me anyway, so at least i know i'm not at a point of desperation. i'm just gonna wait it out until the right one comes along.