the nod'

the question of the Nod

here is the scenerio,you are walking along and are passing people on the street.
total stangers every one,
some people you meet eyes with and nod too,
some your speak too,
some you ignore.
is this not some form of basic judgement upon looks?
i've thought alot about this and it seems to me in most cases one person decides to nod and the other one agree's this person is worth a nod.
so they pass aknowledge eachs existance and go on.
some speak and you reply (or you speak and they do)and forget them soon after.untill/unless you see them agian.
some you see, but dont see, becuase one glimpse tells your eyes to look away,
you walk on totally igorning that a person is there.usually they know your doing this and do the same,How?

i want ya think about those you nod to.why them?
what type do you totally ignore, why them?
and those you actually speak too.
and especialy those you speak first too.
notice them and you will learn alot about yourself that you dont know right now,we all chose who we nod to for a reason.

I'm a chain smoker, so I'm always out and about, so people aknowledge me because they see me around. I've met some of my best friends this way, and it's fun to watch the evolution of this kind of relationship.

I don't judge on looks, per se, but their degree of how pissed off they look. Some people just don't look friendly, so they can fell the burn of my non-aknowledgement.

that is a very good point....id never really thought about people i nod to...normally they nod to me first, and if they do i will nearly always give a nod back. Unless i want them to know i am not going to acknowledge them.
It happens with people i have only met once before and people i know but havent seen in years.
Its strange though because thinking about it now....i never nod to someone first i suppose its through fear of not getting a nod back...but i will actually try and do the "nod" first from now on.

I also think that i judge people alot on looks...which is a bit hypocritical of me seeing as i hate people who do that...but i suppose its because people have done it to me in the past and now i am wary of people who dont show some sort of diversity...for example chavs...even though i know some chavs and they are sound alone but its when they are in groups that i will get ignored...which i dont care about really...well maybe a little but i would prefere not to associate myself with those types of people.

My Nod ?
Do you nod up or down?
In California most everyone does the whats up head nod.
I use to do the down head nod to older folks & up nod to everyone else,now i just say Hi! lol

i always try and nod or smile at people, because if they nod or smile back, then you know youve made a connection to them. And making connections with people is important, especially these days when theres so much anger and hatred everywhere.

it always feels good if youve made one person smile in a day, as corny as that sounds.

The bell is the nod of the bycicle. I just realized that eight minutes ago.

Z dude only u can thing of something this random.....reading it...u have a point. Why do we nod to some ppl and not to others.....and im thinking of those i do nod to and those u dont.

You no wen u no someone by face but not by name...u never talk to them but u see them in the store every week, or on the bus same time everyday....i guess those r who i nod to...coz i acknowledge them.

But sayin that if i go for a smoke...i usually go for a long walk as well....if i pass ppl i usually smile at them or nod, so im guessing its just a natural reaction you have someone u pass on the same side of the pavement.

Ummm imi tlkin bollx now..im just gonna go smoke and off to bed

Awesome post, Z!

I used to try and nod, smile or say hello to everyone... but alas, not many people return the gesture. I've never been able to understand this, but alot of people are actually scared of somebody who greets strangers, even with just a nod.

When i'm out and about (and usually stoned) I like to just watch people and draw my own conclusions about them based on what you see.

Alot of people are stressed out, they hurry around with a frown on their face, and pay no attention to their surroundings - if you nod to these people they usually won't notice you.

Some people are just mean or unfriendly, and if you nod to them they just give you a wierd look or frown at you.

Some people are nervous or anxious and will often nod back at you but in a uncomfortable, self-conscious kind of way.

And of course, some people are just nice, friendly people who will always nod back, or even say hi.

Me and a friend, when walking around stoned, used to say hi to literally everyone we walked passed, just to see how they would react. It still fascinates me that society has dictated that it's slightly odd to smile, nod or say hello to another person walking down the street, just because you don't know them. So I think for those of us who do nod to people, that there are some people who we will ignore because we know that to them, nodding at a stranger is weird, or that they won't like it.

I smile at everyone, and ocasionally say hello, it doesent matter who you are unless you were wearing an orange jump suit i'de be like "what up mang?" lol sorry lol

i usually nod back if someones nods first. Most the people that nod to me are rocker/punk type people. So i nod back to them. I guess in a way its more of their whole appearance, then just their looks(when i think of looks i just think of faces)

oh and i nod whatever way the other ppl nod. I usually dont nod to people...because wth?why would i want to? lol i dont know why anyone deciedes to nod to me?

i dont nod, if someone looks at me and nods, i will thow something at them

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Originally Posted by sToNeDpEnGuIn420

i usually nod back if someones nods first. Most the people that nod to me are rocker/punk type people. So i nod back to them. I guess in a way its more of their whole appearance, then just their looks(when i think of looks i just think of faces)

oh and i nod whatever way the other ppl nod. I usually dont nod to people...because wth?why would i want to? lol i dont know why anyone deciedes to nod to me?

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i wonder too why those who chose to nod at me do so
and me them,its a chioce based on circumstance and pure judgement by looks

first impressions are the most lasting ones

peace

I think you're right Z.. You only nod to people based on what they look like, be it what they're wearing, how friendly they look, etc.... Awesome stuff to think about, huh?

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Originally Posted by GHoSToKeR

Awesome post, Z!

I used to try and nod, smile or say hello to everyone... but alas, not many people return the gesture. I've never been able to understand this, but alot of people are actually scared of somebody who greets strangers, even with just a nod.

When i'm out and about (and usually stoned) I like to just watch people and draw my own conclusions about them based on what you see.

Alot of people are stressed out, they hurry around with a frown on their face, and pay no attention to their surroundings - if you nod to these people they usually won't notice you.

Some people are just mean or unfriendly, and if you nod to them they just give you a wierd look or frown at you.

Some people are nervous or anxious and will often nod back at you but in a uncomfortable, self-conscious kind of way.

And of course, some people are just nice, friendly people who will always nod back, or even say hi.

Me and a friend, when walking around stoned, used to say hi to literally everyone we walked passed, just to see how they would react. It still fascinates me that society has dictated that it's slightly odd to smile, nod or say hello to another person walking down the street, just because you don't know them. So I think for those of us who do nod to people, that there are some people who we will ignore because we know that to them, nodding at a stranger is weird, or that they won't like it.

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Some people are just mean or unfriendly, and if you nod to them they just give you a wierd look or frown at you.
when that happens you have been judged for judging sometimes,


glad u liked the post,im interested in others thoughts on why ,and the who,
i will blame the pian killers for the wicked thought process that created the lil question in my head,"why do people choose to put me
>in the class of 'Nodders'
and who do i nod at first,and last,and not at all.
ive started paying attention somewhat anyway,
i wont say what ive learned about me,but i will say i plan to try and change some of it a lil,i feel i could improve my personality :eek:

Hey, well that can only be a good thing, Z.. we could all do with improving different aspects of our personality.. the difference is some people realise and try to make a difference, where as others won't admit they need to change anything. :)

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Originally Posted by zarathustra

I don't judge on looks, per se, but their degree of how pissed off they look. Some people just don't look friendly,

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I agree.

I try to make a habit of acknowledging people that I make eye contact with. If someone's all pissed off, or is an unfriendly person, you can usually tell before the eye contact *quick glance* is long enough for both to notice it, so before a friendly acknowledgement of the other is made.
Alot of times the "unfriendlies" presents more of a challenge for me, however, which I cannot pass up. Its such a rush making grumps crack. Cuz most people want to be liked, even the biggest grump, some people just require a little more finesse than others, lol.
So, its not often I show friendliness and smile that the gesture is not returned. Who wouldn't want someone to smile at them or make a friendly comment? Even if you're a complete social retard, wouldn't you rather be acknowledged than ignored?


Great thread, btw.

i nod at many people and many people nod at me,

i was walking thestreets wearign a weed top and this rasta came up to me nodded said respect and looked down at my top

WE BONDED!

I wouldnt just do it to some random stranger =\ but i live in a small town and most of the people know me for one reason or another lol I usually only pull the nod out when im tryin to say whatsup to someone without alerting others, like if i was with my parents and saw one of my stoner buddies or something.

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Originally Posted by Ousted

I agree.

I try to make a habit of acknowledging people that I make eye contact with. If someone's all pissed off, or is an unfriendly person, you can usually tell before the eye contact *quick glance* is long enough for both to notice it, so before a friendly acknowledgement of the other is made.
Alot of times the "unfriendlies" presents more of a challenge for me, however, which I cannot pass up. Its such a rush making grumps crack. Cuz most people want to be liked, even the biggest grump, some people just require a little more finesse than others, lol.
So, its not often I show friendliness and smile that the gesture is not returned. Who wouldn't want someone to smile at them or make a friendly comment? Even if you're a complete social retard, wouldn't you rather be acknowledged than ignored?


Great thread, btw.

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kinda like the 'i dare ya to smile at me look'
i know that look well,i smile everytime and usaully say "hi" just to see if they will,but never thought of it as a true challenge, yet it is,your quiet right about it would be "game" to see what stone cold face your smile can make crack open .smile grin or curse ya.
and would acomplish something(not sure what)
peace

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Originally Posted by Lily420

I smile at everyone, and ocasionally say hello, it doesent matter who you are unless you were wearing an orange jump suit i'de be like "what up mang?" lol sorry lol

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word. i nod to everyone, some don't nod back. perhaps it's because they didn't see me or they just can't fathom the kindheartedness...or they simply don't give a damn.
all in all, i think everyone is worthy of a nod, unless your a fair girl who has paralyzed me.

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Originally Posted by robert42

i nod at many people and many people nod at me,

i was walking thestreets wearign a weed top and this rasta came up to me nodded said respect and looked down at my top

WE BONDED!

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LOL

it is actually really interesting to think about....im going to nod at people when i go to town later to see their responce...
I dont think they will take me seriously though...they'll probly just give me a weird look like "who are you?" "do i know you?"
it is quite a strange thing to do though....lol or thats what i think...wernt you taught as a kid not to talk to strangers?...LOL i guess thats where people get the feeling its a strange thing to do....?

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Originally Posted by Az.

LOL

it is actually really interesting to think about....im going to nod at people when i go to town later to see their responce...
I dont think they will take me seriously though...they'll probly just give me a weird look like "who are you?" "do i know you?"
it is quite a strange thing to do though....lol or thats what i think...wernt you taught as a kid not to talk to strangers?...LOL i guess thats where people get the feeling its a strange thing to do....?

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nodding is not speakin to strangers to me,it just a way to say i see you

but i guess it could be sort of speaking to them,most people nod if you do and speak if you do,what amazes me is why they pick me,or me them to do it first,one of ya decides to do it.

it does take some thinking about to figure out who u nod at first,
peace

i hate my life. when i nod at people from my old school etc. the fucking ignore me, well no some jerks in particular the other day, but it makes me feel like i shud fucking die. like im insignificant

*nods at everyone in the thread*

i usually don't nod to anyone who doesn't do it first, except if i'm in an unfamiliar place or a bad neighborhood or at work. It's not out of acknowledgement of the other person it's more letting them know that i noticed them. I see it kinda like walking through grizzly bear country: you clap your hands and make noise so the bears know your coming and and don't get suprised, and it lets them know you're not scared and aren't good prey. At work it makes you seem more agressive and like a "team player." sp people notice you more.

I've been saluting people lately. Surprisingly, a lot of them salute back.

NWMâ?¦this is an awesome threadâ?¦.

You should be a communication majorâ?¦.

My professors would trip on thisâ?¦.



Anyway Iâ??ve found that if I know the person â?¦..I give the up nod (like hey whatâ??s up)â?¦.and if I donâ??t know the person I give them the down head nod (like an acknowledgement or gesture of respect)â?¦.



This is something I will definitely put more thought intoâ?¦..

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Originally Posted by likemclever

NWMâ?¦this is an awesome threadâ?¦.

You should be a communication majorâ?¦.

My professors would trip on thisâ?¦.



Anyway Iâ??ve found that if I know the person â?¦..I give the up nod (like hey whatâ??s up)â?¦.and if I donâ??t know the person I give them the down head nod (like an acknowledgement or gesture of respect)â?¦.



This is something I will definitely put more thought intoâ?¦..

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well thank you dear.
can u imagine my class1 st peroid wake and bake,
2nd period rolling jionts 101
heheh
peace

lol......I would go to class with you any day.

I have never nodded to a person in my life.If someone nods at me i just usually give them a smile unless the nod is accompanied by a comment.It annoys me if someone nods and says something like hey good lookin or nice tits i usually am quite rude i dont think people should say anything to a person they dont know weather it be a nice thing or rude thing they say especially if i have my son with me.If it is a woman or an elderley person that talks to me i usually am very friendly especially to the seniors i respect them and would never be rude.What about a wink ? Whats that mean ? I think it means if i was any closer i would kiss you lol.

If talking to stranger makes you uncomfortableâ?¦..you would last about two seconds hereâ?¦.lol.

Thatâ??s one thing about living here that I actually likeâ?¦..itâ??s not uncommon for me to have short conversations with people I donâ??t know. I probably do it at least five times a day.

Usually while waiting in line somewhereâ?¦.

There is a certain creep factor sometimesâ?¦..thatâ??s when you flash them the stink eyeâ?¦then they just move on.

Me rikey teh stink eye.
I give it to people all the time. In a new construction house I dont have to say anything to the customer, my customer is the contractor for the site, so I dont even flap my gums if they say hello, how ya doing, your doign a great job. :D creep them right out just looing at htem and not talking. Sometimes I say no english. At my discretion, I geuss I say no english when I feel bad because theyre nice, but I still sure as fuck dont want to waste a second of my not-by-the-hour time on them.

Forgot to mention that this amounts up to nothing more then masturbatory self absorbtion, but hey who couldnt go for some of that now and then. ugly people should smile more, then they could compete.

" i dont think people should say anything to a person they dont know.2

..and that's the problem isn't it? I think it would be awesome if nobody had any reservations about talking to complete strangers, and everyone was just... friendly.

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Originally Posted by GHoSToKeR

" i dont think people should say anything to a person they dont know.2

..and that's the problem isn't it? I think it would be awesome if nobody had any reservations about talking to complete strangers, and everyone was just... friendly.

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Hear, hear!

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Originally Posted by likemclever

lol......I would go to class with you any day.

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and we could just Nod at folks passing our stoned lil asses up as they go by

smoke be rolling out our ears
:)


some people are just born friendly ya know
others are not

im midway between friendly and un civilized to strangers

i nod at people who are cool.

I got a nod today. I nodded back (downward) but I beleive I did it too slow and the guy did not see it before we passed one another. I thought about this thread and felt kind of guilty about it for awhile. Heh. I will try and pay him one tomorrow...