How do you not let things bother you?

Okay well look heres my situation.
Okay well i recently got back with sasha. She use to talk to this guy named josh(she calls him joshy-poo, i really dont like that) and she hadnt talked to him in forever(or so she says)and now today like hes been calling a bunch and txting her, cuz he wants to talk. Its driving me nuts i just want to tell her to not ever talk to him, but its her friend i cant do that. I mean i dont really gotta worry cuz he lives way far away. But ugh it just bothers the hell out of me. So what do i do? I dont want to just shove it down and ignore it. And see she wont talk to him now cuz shes with me. but i know as soon as she goes home shes gonna talk to him. And she like use to love him, or w/e. And just ugh, she said they use to talk for hours at night on the phone, like everynight. Just ugh.......... See and then now i get depressed, but i try and turn into anger but that just makes me want to punch stuff..... grrr and dont just say go smoke one, because thats only a tempoary fix. UGH.

I have learned that long term relationships are more aggrivation and heartbreak than they're worth..... Just drop it and get some local girl.

lol u guys r fucking morons i cant believe u actually got back together wow. haha

The Best Aproach Is Honesty mate.
Tell Her how you feel about him texting her and that you dont like it.(thats probably all she wants to hear)..
reverse the situation and ask Her how she'd feel if you done the same with a Female freind.?.

Get joshy-poo out of the picture...

tie him up, throw him into the pig-pen, let them eat him and make him into joshie-poo.

... tell her how you feel, and not to be texting or on the phone while your around. I hate that shit anyways... not even like being a jealous b/f just when people are chillin with you, then all of a sudden texting/celling with other people.


... anyways back on topic, when you're not around though... you have to let her do what she wants.

Beat his ass. with a bat. a metal one.

i suggest a voodoo doll of some sort

Its okay to be jelous of your gf's guy friends. They can totally screw up a couples relationship. I think Sashas a smart girl and if she loves you she wouldent leave you for another person. That is not love. Let her kno you dont like this guy and your a bit jelous but you wont stop her from being his friend, just to let her kno how you feel and not as an order. If she loves you she will understand ur feelings and if the guy puts a move on her she'll remember exactly how you feel and hopefully say No.

She may find it sexy lol :) Have a good one penguin!

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Originally Posted by BalliN

i suggest a voodoo doll of some sort

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good idea :cool:

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Originally Posted by XxTornXimagexX

lol u guys r fucking morons i cant believe u actually got back together wow. haha

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Do I sense some bitterness? lol I don't remember your name - no offence - but your one of Penguin's friends, right? I haven't seen you here in ages.. ?

I vote with the majority, just talk to her. Be calm and don't lay your trip on her, but do let her know how this makes you feel. If she cares for you she will chill out. (that's what you do when you like someone) If she doesn't then she is just running a game on you...either way you will know where you stand.

Also if you do talk to her about how you feel make sure you tell her that you trust her but its him that you dont know and dont trust. :) good luck penguin!

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Originally Posted by BalliN

i suggest a voodoo doll of some sort

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You have to get a lock of his hair, nail clippings, or a photo of him, then you can curse and hex him. Making a voodoo doll takes some work, besides the preparations you have to make for your workings. Just talk to your female friend and let her know how you feel about her talking to this Josh person. You don't need to use a voodoo doll for this, it would be a waist of time and energy.

yeah, you could try all that voodoo stuff or other ways to hurt the guy but it might be best if you just try to be faithful to her...seems to me you have no right to say shit about her b'friends after the way you treated her...eh? you should consider yourself lucky she even talks to you!

hey, you asked...

be a bigger man & let her talk to the dude if hes far away.

just remember u can talk to YOUR female friends....

man that sucks...dont let your girl end up with some guy known as joshy-poo....please dont....KICK HIS FUCKING ASS MAN!!!!! he cant be that tough. or you can take the civilized, less fun approach and talk to her about it.

imma tell ya'll something. for those of you talkin' that voodoo you'd better NOT be playing with that. voodoo is something you DO NOT speak in jest or it'll come back atchyou 3 fold. i have a girlfriend who studies wicca, (witchcraft). if you do things in spite-trust me they come back and bite you in your ass.

penguin-be honest with her. don't be an ass. there's too much work in this to just give up yet.

Could I add my honest thoughts?, Honesty is always the best policy, BUT some people struggle to be true to themselves therefore cannot handle the "everyday problems" within a relationship.

I was previously in a 9 year relationship...DONT LAUGH :o , but I was with a girl from the age of 12 until 21. Obviously we grew up and changed as people and were basically "stuck in a rut". I finished the relationship, not just for my personal well-being but for her also.

I was, and still am, an extremely possesive person and found myself incapable of controlling my anger when out on the drink. Even if another geezer looked at her, I was straight on the scene to check out his motives!

Fortunately, I am now starting (3 months) going out with a Richard :confused: who is really cool and seems to be enjoying our dates and nights in!.....

....only problem is.....I CAN ALREADY FEEL MYSELF WANTING TO PROTECT HER :mad: !!!

Cheers if you read any of this post...

Layton ;)

dude just dont let ur emotions hit you, theres nothing more helpless and narcoticly stupifying than letting ur emotions overcome your thoughts. relax man either its nothing to worry about or u just dont need that kind of suppressive situations and let it drift away..

Don't be too much of an asshole about it. Let her have her space. Just make sure she knows how you feel about it.

But best thing to do is accept everyone dies. And they die alone.

once you're cool with that, petty shit like this wont phase you.

just dont let it bother you

[QUOTE=sToNeDpEnGuIn420] dont just say go smoke one[QUOTE]

Smoke 3 :D

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Originally Posted by del...

yeah, you could try all that voodoo stuff or other ways to hurt the guy but it might be best if you just try to be faithful to her...seems to me you have no right to say shit about her b'friends after the way you treated her...eh? you should consider yourself lucky she even talks to you!

hey, you asked...

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Hey look we've got simon cowell in the house :D

Del > penguin in this round.

I think you should just let her talk to her friend. Ok, i know it bothers you... Well i think you should get over it, so she used to like him, their only friends now. Do you really think Sasha would cheat on you? Why don't you try to make friends with Josh instead, keep your friends close but your enemies even closer ;)

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Originally Posted by sToNeDpEnGuIn420

Okay well look heres my situation.
Okay well i recently got back with sasha. She use to talk to this guy named josh(she calls him joshy-poo, i really dont like that) and she hadnt talked to him in forever(or so she says)and now today like hes been calling a bunch and txting her, cuz he wants to talk. Its driving me nuts i just want to tell her to not ever talk to him, but its her friend i cant do that. I mean i dont really gotta worry cuz he lives way far away. But ugh it just bothers the hell out of me. So what do i do? I dont want to just shove it down and ignore it. And see she wont talk to him now cuz shes with me. but i know as soon as she goes home shes gonna talk to him. And she like use to love him, or w/e. And just ugh, she said they use to talk for hours at night on the phone, like everynight. Just ugh.......... See and then now i get depressed, but i try and turn into anger but that just makes me want to punch stuff..... grrr and dont just say go smoke one, because thats only a tempoary fix. UGH.

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arghhh here we go another 'relationship' problem, if ur gunna let it bother u, get over it, simple, if u cant get over it, then either dont c sasha anymore (ull prob think ''wtf nigga, iz ent splittin up wiv sasha 4 anything, i love her 2 pieces, she is my big bouncy world...blah blah blah''..) well i cudnt care less im jus tell u the facts of life cuz i went out wiv a girl called Jo for 2 years, we split up and i was in the same situation........but i got over it cuz i though ''this time next year, am i still gunna b in this state?''........the answer was no cuz i wuda 4got bout her and was glad 2 split up wiv her

peace and chicken grease.

Yea man, like someone said just don't hold back. Let her know it you don't like that fact. That doesn't mean to be possessive about it, but as long as she knows you don't like it, and she's STILL doing it, it's time to kick her to the curb because it simply means she doesn't respect ya enough........

Don't ever hold back your emotions and let girl trouble constantly creep under your skin. If you have an issue, talk to her about it right then. Don't let it bother you, it's a waste of time. I use to do it all the time, and it just made things worse because you let it build up.