Slow To Cum. Help from anyone knowledgable?

I'm not much for posting my personal problems on a cannabis forum, especially my sexual ones, but I couldn't find much on google about it so here I am. If you're easily grossed out or don't want to know about my sexual problems, go ahead and leave now.

I used to cum pretty quickly, but these days it takes ALOT of effort to finish the job. I was girlfriendless for a while, so I didn't take notice. But, now I've got people trying to make my penis cum again, and I feel quite guilt-ridden when it takes sooooo long.

Also, the movement has to be pretty quick. I've never been capable of finishing from oral sex alone ((except once, with one chick who hasn't been able to do it again)) but now I definately can't. I don't even feel like I'm coming close to finishing now unless it's from a hand or a vagina.

I'm currently on Depakote for Bi-polar. I've used a variety of drugs, including disassociatives which I've heard can mess up proper penis functioning but currently I haven't used any in 2 weeks. I masturbate once or twice a day, but on days where I'm going to be possibly ejaculating with the help of others I don't at all.

So, is there anything I can do that'll make me finish faster and/or with less effort? Any advice is appreciated.

why would u want to...?

Be grateful. Some guys can't even stay hard for 2 minutes....

yeah, how long are we talking here? an hour or 5 ? you shouldnt feel guilty that it takes too long, as that probably adds to the anxiety, thus not allowing you to perform in the way you would like to. chill out and get into it.. most guys have to distract themselves with baseball, this way you can enjoy yourself.

Do heroin a couple days in a row, the day after you should be much more sensitive.

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Do heroin a couple days in a row, the day after you should be much more sensitive.

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I tried this and I just ended up getting addicted to heroin. V.V Thanks for nothing Null. Now I'm a slow cummer and a junkie. :(

But honestly, why would I want to cum faster? Because in the old days I could knock out 3 loads in a long session with my lady. Now I can barely get one off, especially since we aren't yet having sex. She has to put alot of effort into making me cum. ((I really hate going into detail about this stuff with random people, but I'm going to anyway))

It takes alot of pressure... like really jerkin on it hard and fast. So most of the time I end up having to do it myself until the very end when she takes over, because she's incapable of doing it that hard/fast unless I grip over her hand.

Time wise, if there's been a good amount of foreplay and stuff ((good amount = one-two hours)) it'll take me about 20-30 minutes of rhythmic, tight gripped, fast movement to cum.

Any solutions not involving heroin? I'm running out of money for it and I've already started pawning my belongings for more.

One of the physical effects of heroin is difficulty ejaculating, so following a couple days of use though not nearly enough for physical withdrawals to develop will likely lead to a more premature ejaculation.

If you don't love your girl enough to do heroin and help you cum faster then you know what thats your problem.

As an alternative you could discuss with your doctor the problems you are having with your wang and perhaps switch to a medication with less incidence of side effects such as Trileptal.

i thought i had that problem once, found out that i must not have been sexualy attracted to her. because my current lady is fucking hot, loves talkin dirty, dresses in thoughs shorts that make you go :eek: . DAMN i love her. NO PROBLEM climaxin here on both fronts. she even tells her freinds, they look at me funny. i'm a kind shy dude, so i got RED when her best freind asked me what i was doing to her, and could i teach it to her boyfreind. try drinking some ginko tea, or thoughs snapple elementals. oh yah, stop thinking about not finishing, just go with the flow. O o

thats fucking silly

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Do heroin a couple days in a row, the day after you should be much more sensitive.

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Now im all sidetracked but screw the heroin im sure your not that stupid anyways u cleverer than that for sure.What about watching porn while having sex ? maybe would help.UMMM is it her at all something maybe you dont find attractive i dont know or maybe she dosent excite u enough like what if you got her talikng dirty ??? Im thinking hard here lol.What about umm if she masturbated for you or something to get u all hot before u even start or what if u dressed like a woman and imagined u were having lesbo sex ?? Sorry i probably havent helped much because i dont know what u like but if u have any fetishes or whatever just work on those and try get her to play along and just do whatever makes you squirt quickest lol

hey dude,

GET THE FUCK OFf THE DEPAKOTE NOW! it WILL fuck up your sex life and it can cause long term liver disfunctions. i threw the bottle in my phsics face and said i am never going to take a nother medicene from you BS people agian!. and im only 15! so fuck the depakote. stay away from it. that is some fucked up shit that they even distribute that shit to patients.

gettin proper treatment for bi polar disorder is #1 priority for you. At least it should be.

smoke weed ONLY just before sex. could well work.

lol dont do any opiates or u wont be able to cum at all man :eep:

get off all that doctor medication crap and ull be busting loads like no tomorrow

later

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Now im all sidetracked but screw the heroin im sure your not that stupid anyways u cleverer than that for sure.What about watching porn while having sex ? maybe would help.UMMM is it her at all something maybe you dont find attractive i dont know or maybe she dosent excite u enough like what if you got her talikng dirty ??? Im thinking hard here lol.What about umm if she masturbated for you or something to get u all hot before u even start or what if u dressed like a woman and imagined u were having lesbo sex ?? Sorry i probably havent helped much because i dont know what u like but if u have any fetishes or whatever just work on those and try get her to play along and just do whatever makes you squirt quickest lol

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im with this idea....dress up like the butch one, itll work

Personally i wouldnt recommend smoking a J if youre point is to cum faster. that just makes the nut busting take more time. if you really want to get off "quickly" just jerk around yourself for a bit and cover it up as foreplay. odds are she'll get hot watching you fuck with yourself and you'll get hot watching her get hot.

I know alot of people feel strongly about anti-depressants and whatnaught, but I do as well. I feel strongly that Depakote has helped improve the quality of my life dramatically. I didn't initially think it would, but I'm alot more in control then I used to be. It might just have been me maturing or something, but it coincidentally went right along side me starting up and regularly taking depakote, which makes me not exactly want to get off of it anytime soon.

I'll talk to my shrink about getting a drug that involves less tendency for sexual side effects or something just to see what he says. I'm definately sexually attracted to my girl, though. ((Go for a year with no one to be sexual with, and your sexual wants lessen by alot. -laughs- My current girl is an 8 -outta 10- but she's a goddess, and my lack of a girl for a year before her makes her seem like a 23 -again, out of 10-.))

I'll be trying some fun stuff to help me get into it more, but prolly not til I've got her liking me enough that it won't scare her away when I tell her to make her thighs like butter and easy to spread, because I want to make sandwiches. She can be the bun, oh I can be the burger, girl.

Don't worry jacque, I've no intentions of doing heroin so I can cum faster. -laughs- If I thought I could enjoy heroin without the addictive mental side effects, I probably would. But, I doubt I could pull that off. I was thinking about me dressing like a woman and it made me laugh. But I get the jist of what you're saying and that's probably what it'll come down to me doing. ((not dressing like a woman, but incorporating my weird little turn-ons/fetishes))

I already jerk myself a bit and cover it up as foreplay, and it definately helps. I get kind of embarassed doing it though, but I thought about it and there's really no reason I should. Especially if it just looks like foreplay, rather then us foreplaying and me beating off in the background as I originally feared. I'll be doing it more now since it is a pretty good solution and my embarassment is unjustified, I think. She can tell me if she doesn't like it, but there isn't really a reason why she'd mind.

Thanks cannabis message board. You've been a help indeed.

I dont know much about the medication your on i would like to im gonna check it out.Its weird that people with bipolar take different kinds of drugs to help them personally.When i was on medication my sex drive was pretty bad.WOW i just felt my baby kick for thr first time i had to add that how exciting lol

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I know alot of people feel strongly about anti-depressants and whatnaught, but I do as well. I feel strongly that Depakote has helped improve the quality of my life dramatically. I didn't initially think it would, but I'm alot more in control then I used to be. It might just have been me maturing or something, but it coincidentally went right along side me starting up and regularly taking depakote, which makes me not exactly want to get off of it anytime soon.

I'll talk to my shrink about getting a drug that involves less tendency for sexual side effects or something just to see what he says. I'm definately sexually attracted to my girl, though. ((Go for a year with no one to be sexual with, and your sexual wants lessen by alot. -laughs- My current girl is an 8 -outta 10- but she's a goddess, and my lack of a girl for a year before her makes her seem like a 23 -again, out of 10-.))

I'll be trying some fun stuff to help me get into it more, but prolly not til I've got her liking me enough that it won't scare her away when I tell her to make her thighs like butter and easy to spread, because I want to make sandwiches. She can be the bun, oh I can be the burger, girl.

Don't worry jacque, I've no intentions of doing heroin so I can cum faster. -laughs- If I thought I could enjoy heroin without the addictive mental side effects, I probably would. But, I doubt I could pull that off. I was thinking about me dressing like a woman and it made me laugh. But I get the jist of what you're saying and that's probably what it'll come down to me doing. ((not dressing like a woman, but incorporating my weird little turn-ons/fetishes))

I already jerk myself a bit and cover it up as foreplay, and it definately helps. I get kind of embarassed doing it though, but I thought about it and there's really no reason I should. Especially if it just looks like foreplay, rather then us foreplaying and me beating off in the background as I originally feared. I'll be doing it more now since it is a pretty good solution and my embarassment is unjustified, I think. She can tell me if she doesn't like it, but there isn't really a reason why she'd mind.

Thanks cannabis message board. You've been a help indeed.

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Hey, I also feel strongly about medication. I believe it is prescribed too often but that doesnt mean that some ppl dont really need it. I have been on and off of antidepressants since I was 16 (im 23 now). The quality of my life on them far exceeds the quality of life off them. Someone said on another thread that antidepressants were the "pussyfication" of america. I dont know about that, but I do know that if I am going to be a good mother and wife, I need to be happy and not dread waking up every morning. I just started Wellbutrin and It is supposed to have the lowest amount of sexual side effects out there. Ive heard ppl say it actually causes a little hypersexuality. I havent experienced that, but It has helped just in the few weeks ive taken it.

Wellbutrin also makes cigarettes taste like shit.

yes, i gag when i smoke them now, weird

It is actually perscribed for that precise reason under the trade name Zyban.

Heroin is the answer here kids. :)

I HAve the same problem here my tips.
a nutt is alll mental and i use to beat my meat in front of a girl(trying to get a nutt) for like 10 minutes but irealized its all in your head so relax your mind lol free it. put her mouth your dick head and beat it let her suck just the top while you beat.
2nd let her ride you but you do work so let her go on top and put her chest on yours and you move at your speed and find the spot that gets u and ull get it

Same thing with me man.. I thought it was something wrong wit me.. Like when i jerk off im wicked quick.. But no girl can make me cum by givin me head.. Even if the girl is a professional at it.. Deep throatin and all... Wen i have sex i cant come either no matter wut.. I am not lien... One day me and my grl bunked school and had sex all day and i didnt come once until i took it out and jerked off... I dont know... My girl was a virgin so shes tight its not like throwin a hot dog down a hall way but i just dont kno.. One time i had anal sex wit sum asian chick and i busted... Idk but i feel your pain lol... And im not old at all im 16 so its not an age thing....

Scripts are just placebos...unless taken how they weren't intended lol...then they're more fun

Hey man,

I have the same problem as well and I don't take anything that shoulod cause it. I am like almost 30 and have the same problem, I have alwasy had it every since I was young and stated having sex. There has been many different girlfriends over the years and I have only gotten off Like 3 or 4 times from a blowjob. The girsl alwasy feel like it is them, but it is me. I think it is in my head and I worry about it so much that It makes it hard to get there. My wife tries often and we have tried many different methods and it is getting better and closer all the time. I have found myself that it takes a specific rythm and amount of pressure.

I have no problem with myself or with any other method, just blow jobs.

Go figure,

Later JRF

try what i told you jerk and let her suck the top of your dick the head just the head and ull get


its mental your nutt is mental

relax which is hard to do sometimes

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Originally Posted by Nullific

Wellbutrin also makes cigarettes taste like shit.

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so thats why i quit smoking..... its because of the wellbutrin? now that i think of it i quit about the same time i went on the wellbutrin.