My wife said I could sleep with someone else before our 10th anniversery.

If your spouse tells you that your 10 anniversary gift is his/her permission to sleep with someone else, what would you do?

Your spouse sort of makes it into a bet that you cannot hook up with someone else as they smile. The deal is you can only do it once and the deal is off when the anniversary day gets here, you have 1 week to find a partner. He or she tells you their will be no weird feelings or guilt and you seem to think that all they want is to make you happy, sexually. Not that your spouse does not make you happy but before you were married, wasn't strange nice and part of the fun of being young?

So if we look at it they way your spouse thinks of the whole idea, would you do it?

You have a 100% ok from your spouse; can you do it and not feel weird in some way?

Nope i would feel completely weird, and because of that fact i probably wouldnt do it.

me, i call it fucked up!

Well man, personally I wouldn't do it because I love my gf too much (I'm a pussy, I know). But if you both feel open to it, why not? Its your call man.

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Originally Posted by ProjectEight

If your spouse tells you that your 10 anniversary gift is his/her permission to sleep with someone else, what would you do?

Your spouse sort of makes it into a bet that you cannot hook up with someone else as they smile. The deal is you can only do it once and the deal is off when the anniversary day gets here, you have 1 week to find a partner. He or she tells you their will be no weird feelings or guilt and you seem to think that all they want is to make you happy, sexually. Not that your spouse does not make you happy but before you were married, wasn't strange nice and part of the fun of being young?

So if we look at it they way your spouse thinks of the whole idea, would you do it?

You have a 100% ok from your spouse; can you do it and not feel weird in some way?

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Ok, just a suggestion - instead of spending the week on a mission for 'strange'
put the energy into thinking up some wild and erotic way for the two of you
to celebrate your anniversary.

That whole going outside the relationship stuff is dodgey as hell, who knows
how either of you will feel afterwards :confused:
Why risk 10years for some random shag, it could be sooo not worth it. :(

I would make it a mission to hook up with her, buy her a wig, some fancy dress, pick her up at a bar and rent a hotel room. Hell you can even use fake names if you want too. The thought of you being with someone else might turn her on, but the reality of such is very different. There's std's to think of, you could get some chick pregnant, she could turn into a stalker, be crazy, steal your wallet, any number of things. Like lulu said, risking 10 years for a random shag is not even worth it.
You stand to lose so much more than you would gain.

wow that sounds exactly like a show of curb your enthusiasm. anybody ever seen this one cause the situation is exactly the same.

Dude, don't fall for it. If you do this, your marriage will never be the same. Seen it from too many friends over the years. If it sounds too good to be true.................

Just to put a little paranoid thought into your head.....wonder if SHE'S feeling guilty about something???? Ya never know.

Women....you can't live with 'em........pass the pipe. Just don't tell my wife I said that....lol

If it's what you want, I say go for it, then tell her that you didn't because "she is your soulmate and you could never want another". :D

Seriously, bottom line is that IN MOST CASES, extra marital sex doesn't make the marriage stronger. Maybe she wants the same deal in the future, or as previously mentioned, is feelin guilty for something that she's already done.

Remember what Chris Rock said, "When you cheat on your woman, you give her a 'get-dick-free' card and you never know when she's gonna cash it in. Before you do it, imagine someone pounding on your wife, which is what she probably feels entitled to do. Your choice man!

bad idea.

Sounds like the spouse just wants to fuck other people. Or already did :(

Or maybe its just a trick to see if you'd actually go for it.

she probably slept with someone else and wants to make it even... divorce time

This same thing happened to Larry David in a "Curb your Enthuasism" eposide. He had a chance to have sex with this actress, but while they were getting ready he found out she was a republican, so he turned her down .He eventually eneded up having sex with a female muslim fundamentalist.

this doesn't mean she is guilty of shit, do not listen to these immature wanker boys. Women can be open sexually, we can talk dirty and do all kinds of sexy and dangerous type shit. Doesn't mean we are whores or cheaters, so don't be painting her badly when she has done nothing to warrant it but be cool with you.

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Originally Posted by Edgar

Or maybe its just a trick to see if you'd actually go for it.

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I agree, I can't help but think you are being set up for something. If this proposition is out of character for her, chances are if you do do it you will never live it down and it will thrown back in your face at every given oppurtunity. I made a huge mistake once and I still hear about it at least weekly (fucking Nick). Believe me, like Lulu said, it was not worth all of the pain and hurt I caused, nor was it worth having to listen to the shit I still get from Mr. Mary about it 5 years later. :rolleyes:

I must be the only one who would do it :rolleyes:

No good reason to pre-judge her (per wanker boys), but if you do have any sense of fair play, you're going to have to accept the idea that she's entitled a similar anniversary present at some point. Are you OK with that?

Seriously, why do people bother getting married if they can't accept the responsibility?

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No, I think part of marriage is staying together. that can only lead to problems

I think Project is BSing..... This EXACT same scenario happened in an Eposide of, Curb Your Enthuasim. EXACTLY THE SAME scenario.

yes,

My wife would never do that.

If my spouse gave me permission to sleep with someone, I would honestly think less of him and question his feelings towards me, even if he thought he was being nice or cool or whatever.

Have you ever seen the movie Indecent Proposal? If you haven't watch it then make your decision.

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Originally Posted by onwardthroughthefog

Dude, don't fall for it. If you do this, your marriage will never be the same. Seen it from too many friends over the years. If it sounds too good to be true.................

Just to put a little paranoid thought into your head.....wonder if SHE'S feeling guilty about something???? Ya never know.

Women....you can't live with 'em........pass the pipe. Just don't tell my wife I said that....lol

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I was thinking the same thing

after 10 years fuckin the same vagina, maybe i would do it, but im not at your place. thats your choice, but yues thats fucked up!! maybe its a trap, and she wants to see if you really are attached to her. who knows..

do it man definatly

my question is this...

if you have been with her for 10 years, or more even, why would you even entertain being with someone else? how could that even seem an option, ok'd or not?

maybe i am a silly chick, but i dont get this at all..

ick...
:p

I vote no...for every reason.

Let me just say this. Right now as we speak. my wife and I are goign through some hard times becasue of this. she agreed to a 3some with me, her, and her friend. then the other day she told me she wasnt in the mood and that i could just go over to the friends house. I sat for 30 mins asking "are you sure?" and she kept saying. Yes baby. it's ok, I'm tired."

So I went. I get back and find she is gone out on her way to the friends house ( i must have passed her on the way), she bitches me out saying she didn' thtink I would really do it. SHe is not still pissed at me and we have been fighting all week.


My advice. Don't do it. Women don't know what they wany and when it comes to things liek this. they always say what they don't mean.

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Originally Posted by ProjectEight

yes,

My wife would never do that.

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I am not married or anything, but I have been in a relationship for almost 5 yrs, and in the beginning my girl told me I could sleep with other girls as long as I wore protection, so I did, and now we are having the HARDEST time in our relationship, cause after she asked me who I had had sex with I told her, and now she confessed to doing the same thing, all my friends told me she was doing it too cause I was, and u know what I said? My girl would never do that....

I agree, it aint worth the trouble in the long run for someone to do it.

Even if someone was ok with it, my paranoia that one day she would say, remember your 10th aniv. gift?

Or that tust or bond might crack and it would never be the same.

I would not do it.

It was a hypothetical question.

go out and bang a guy.

confuse the fuck outta her

honey you may want to go on www.swingersboard.com.

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Originally Posted by looseends

honey you may want to go on www.swingersboard.com.

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Hell no

I'm not sharing my wife :D

oh...and i didn't vote because it's not my view to tell you what to do with you and your wife's sex life. one more thing to ponder...my husband and i have been swinging for over 10 years and if your wife is putting stipulations on your "gift" then what kind of gift is that? you two better talk this out thouroughly before something she thought would be cool might turn out sour. you don't want to wreck a good marriage outta this if you don't do your research. good luck honey

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Originally Posted by ProjectEight

Hell no

I'm not sharing my wife :D

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who said that i'm the one he's sharing?

sometimes women set guys up for failure....kind of like "do I look fat" or "is she prettier than me?" Its taken 5 years for my hubby to realize when im trying to trap him into something. Just give her kiss and tell her that you would never want to be with anyone else, besides, isnt that why you married her?

dont do it man.....

I say you add someone in to your collective mix..try a threesome?? If it goes awry it's bonding..if not it's double the fun!

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If you end up doing it (which I wouldn't) make sure it's a really ugly chick so she won't be jealous and you won't be tempted.

Then again, I never was good at relationships.