Your Children and Maryjuana.

Alright well..i was in one of my stoned phases and thought about when i have a kid, how would i raise it? I got into a deep thought about it and it brought me to ask you this question. Lets say my child is a teen and figures about smoking weed(discovers weed by itself), lets say she starts smoking, do you think that if i let her do it, and was ok with it she would take advantage of that freedom and get into other drugs? Do you think there is noway of me finding that out now and its just fate? Me myself, my parents did not want me smoking PERIOD. They dont like it whatsoever but that the only substance i touch(barely drink too) and im not into getting more fucked up.

Does that make sense? im high so if you need help with what im sayin elaborate

I dunno... I was exposed to it from a very young age and am totally ok with pot. I also have no urges to try stronger drugs.... I really think it's the type of person though and you should wait untill you know your children's personallities before you tell them yes or no (sorry if i rambled i'm high)

I think if you raise your kids right and dont annoying them too much they'll listen to you. If that does happen and your childrens tart smoking pot then smoke with them and tell them that you'll allow weed but not any other hard drugs. I mean...why would a kid do anything that could fuck that up if you found out? Course teens sometimes dont use their minds. And....well in my opinion you shouldent punish them for that either :D Come naturally. Just tell them wats wat and if they dont listen then talk to them about it....honestly, when i do something wrong (which is always by accident...well most of the time is an accident) i hate my mom blowing up in my face...wat kind of influence is that? Screaming and hitting...well that just means my moms gunna have to grow up a bit...im just saying dun yell at em.

i've noticed that most of the kids that drop out or go to public academys because of grades or behavior are alowed to smoke pot,cigs,and some huff you should make sure your kids are completly educated about drugs before they can ever be alowed to smoke.and if your kids are stupid(believe me you'll know wether you admit it or not)dont let them smoke it really is for the best they need to get things straight and get a good steady job before they worry about their next sack of weed.my dad doesnt let me openly smoke but he also doesnt go to any lenths to stop me or lecture me about it.he knows im responsable about it and i have no instest in other drugs(i'll try pretty much anything[no huffing or things of that nature]but weed is the only thing i really fully enjoy every time i do it)personaly i'd fuckin' freak if i caught my kid smokeing cigs or huffing,anything like that but if i caught him/her smokeing weed i'd make sure i educated them about it and i would guide them through their smokeing career and make sure they dont fuck up as much as i have as a kid :) but im only 15 so i have a while until i have to worry about that

Lol, my dads a drug dealer, living as a child with a drug dealer dad in a way is fun. I always got to ride to his costumers house and play Playstation with them, hang out there for hours. When he figured out I started smoking weed at 13 (started at 9), he started giving it to me on weekends. He talked to me about other drugs, he has givin' me acid on my 14th birthday, it was really good, cause I got to do it with my brother. He doesn't let me do bad drugs (heroin, speed, cocaine, meth, etc.), he might let me do ecstasy if he gets healthy ecstacy without any meth, but idunno when that will ever be. It hasn't screwed up my life, I have ok grades, lots of friends from lots of different areas, not in bad shape at all, not poor, and it's a good life, cause my mums the same way and she has a Ph D.. I like having a drug dealer I can fully trust.

I don't think there really is much of a link between the two. Lazy people are lazy without the help of marijuana, same with stupid people. I don't think it helps, but if I found out my kid did it I'd sit him down and talk to him. Tell him I didn't think it was a big deal but if I saw him getting into serious drugs (anything addictive; coke, meth, heroin) I'd intervene. I'd also intervene if I saw his marks dropping, because even though I said I don't think there is much of a link, it also wouldn't be helping.

My parents know I smoke pot but they are ok with it. They are ok with it because I have other hobbies (music, musical theater) and it doesn't seem to be affecting my grades. Right now I have the highest marks of the class in every class I take and I smoke pot every night (more than I ever have before).

If you want to show some parenting, treat your kid with respect when you talk to them and don't lie to them. I think that is the best way.

When I was younger I always said that I would be a totally cool dad and let my kids smoke pot. Now I'm 35 and have a 2 year old little girl and my thoughts have changed somewhat. I suspect a lot of you will also start to think differently the first time you hear "daddy" or "mommy" .

I started smoking pot when I was 12 or 13 and basically smoked my way through high school. I was the picture-perfect stereotypical stoner: long hair, tye-dye shirts, constantly red eyes,bad grades, busted for possession, etc. I barely graduated and for the first 4-5 years after high school I went from one crappy job to another. In my mid 20's I realized that something needed to change so I stated going to community college to try to make something of myself. Since then I've gotten degrees in psychology and international business, learned to speak a foriegn language, have a reasonabley good job, and recently bought my own house.

So, on the one hand I'm a living example of how even a hard core stoner can fuck up high school and still eventually graduate college and become fairly successful. On the other it was a long hard road to get where I am now and I'd prefer my daughter not have to travel the same road.

Of course I do realize that I'm assuming that everyone who smokes pot as a teen will be a total fuck up like I was. I know from this board that a lot of you younger kids have your heads pretty well put together. It's just hard not to want to protect my daughter from everything out there in the big bad world. I guess that's what daddys are for.

sounds like your a good dad fengzi,my dad is the same way,he was a stonner in highschool almost the same as i am(both have long hair,both smart but kinda lazy at same time :) ) he has had to work for 20 years to get were he is now,he completely owns his own house(its 100% his) owns ywo cars he paid cash upfront for(his and my brothers and soon to be mine aswell)so i can totaly understand why he's worryed about me smokeing but he also knows i'm pretty resposable with it and dont do any stupid shit that would get me in trouble/arested he knows im fairly sensable and wont get into anything i cant get out of(i'm also increadbly scared of that whole prison/jail thing and really dont want to visit under any circumstances)but my dads still tokeing strong after quiting for a while to get everything squared away before he took another hit.

i say keep going down the same road fengzi sounds like you have nothing but your daughters best intrest in mind.hopefully when im a dad i can be like you and my dad

here is something even better to think about.think of the new drugs that are gonna be around in 20 years?you think ice is bad?i bet there are drugs around in 20 years that make meth look like asprin.our kids in for some shit.

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Originally Posted by amsterdam

here is something even better to think about.think of the new drugs that are gonna be around in 20 years?you think ice is bad?i bet there are drugs around in 20 years that make meth look like asprin.our kids in for some shit.

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Holy crap Amsterdam, if your conservative Bush loving ways don't give me nightmares this sure as hell will. Thanks for adding a whole new dimension to my worries as a parent.

when you are older, your experiences will guide you

I think you just have to set THE EXAMPLE. If you smoke weed, pop pills and drink in excess you can in most cases expect your kids to do the same but not always.
I don't think you can hide it from them and this sets up a thread of dishonesty if you try hidding it. Comunication is your best friend here...
My kids have always known I smoke...I mean when they were old enough to know. I don't smoke in the room with them as this is just rude....it is the same as cigarettes if you don't smoke it you don't like the smell...and out of 4 kids only one smokes weed, he has done X once and nothing else and he does not drink at all.I am much happier that he does not drink as you can die from alcohol no one has died from weed. As with anything moderation is the key and I have always stressed that.
my 2 cents anyway :) good thread...thanks

Cat

Yea, it seems the dropouts and super trouble people all are, not just users, but allowed to. Maybe allow it but not on school days? Like tv? seems weird. confusing though

scarlett begonias! i figured out were your signature came from fengzi lol no wonder it looked familiar i've heard that song atleast 1000 times :) (the ungratefull dead and sublime versions)

this is a very interesting thread to read. all age groups talking honestly. pretty cool. i just want to add that i grew up with alot of self esteem... a result of my family, friends, and sports. i think that anybody who responsibly smokes a little weed and doesn't let it effect his life in a negative way and can function in life without anybody ever knowing, then that person will be fine. good grades, college, and a future. chillin with a little bud in between aint no bad thing. i wouldn't tell my parents or walk around proud of being a stoner or a fuck up. but chill and toke when the time is right. nobody will be the wiser. people who are showing off how fucked they are are the ones with low self esteem and will probably end up a fuck up stoner. plenty of people i know get good grades, are peer leaders, play sports, are active in church and the community and SPARK IT UP after their done.

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Originally Posted by Maui Wowie

Lol, my dads a drug dealer, living as a child with a drug dealer dad in a way is fun. I always got to ride to his costumers house and play Playstation with them, hang out there for hours. When he figured out I started smoking weed at 13 (started at 9), he started giving it to me on weekends. He talked to me about other drugs, he has givin' me acid on my 14th birthday, it was really good, cause I got to do it with my brother. He doesn't let me do bad drugs (heroin, speed, cocaine, meth, etc.), he might let me do ecstasy if he gets healthy ecstacy without any meth, but idunno when that will ever be. It hasn't screwed up my life, I have ok grades, lots of friends from lots of different areas, not in bad shape at all, not poor, and it's a good life, cause my mums the same way and she has a Ph D.. I like having a drug dealer I can fully trust.

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that's fucking awesome. I thought I had cool parents, but you definitely take that award. my parents smoke and they're cool with me smoking, but I doubt they'd ever give me anything. I asked for their bong once, no dice.

i think i would let my kid do weed if they could keep it on the weekends and not blowing a lot of money. no body talks about that but if i knew my 14 year old was working hard to buy an 1/8 every week i would be mad. i know i blow my money on weed but i can manage that as just part of my money and still have money for want i want/need.