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Not sure if this is the right place to post, but dating seems almost impossible if you're growing! Has anyone else felt like this? How do you deal with this issue? Trust is earned, so in the meantime what can I do? I've never been this lonely. Any feedback or advice is appreciated. Thanks!
Hang in there, and tend your garden, because as soon as you have them buds harvested and cured, I'm sure you'll not be lonely then!! :wave1:Quote:
Originally Posted by prettypisces
Yes, just be patient and wait it out....you'll have more friends than you know what to do with when it's finished and cured! Trust me...my bros always seem to know when it's getting close cuz the phone starts ringing off the wall, and I start getting invites to do all kinds of stuff after three months of hibernation.;) Hey, you got the girls and us until then...we all in the same boat, bro. I got a dog too and he helps...go get a dog or a pet of some kind (HINT: they make co2 also!:D)
I get the same feeling sometimes.
Dating and inviting someone to see my grow room are two completely different things! One simply would never be done... the other is a necessary part of life!Quote:
Originally Posted by prettypisces
Emmie
Thanks guys, I just might get an apartment and hide the fact that I have a house so I can have a normal social life. After a couple of weeks, the men I've dated start to wonder why they can't come over. The last guy said he felt like I was living with a boyfriend and didn't have time for games...my ideal situation would be to grow WITH my boyfriend! Frustrating...
I feel for you, pretty. But keeping your situation private is the key to a successful and undetected grow.Quote:
Originally Posted by prettypisces
Personally if someone can not understand that I want a private life outside of the dating realms and choose to not have them in my apt./home etc. if they can not understand this then they are not worth my time and trouble.
Best of luck to you and your dating life! My hopes for you is to find a grower whom is as "paranoid" as you and you fall in love and live a happy, healthy and high life together! I'll be watching ...
Best regards to you,
Lynhal
Yes, that would be awesome :) Ok, who knows the dating website where all the paranoid growers are?? lol
Well, I have a significant other, who knows all about my activities, but there are times I still feel "lonely", because I have this huge area of my life that is so out of the expected for my gender and age. There isn't anyone I feel I can be safely honest with, and that will probably stay the same.
My kids are in their 30's and they know, but they don't of course live with or near me, but other than that, absolutely no one knows. They tease me, but they understand that this is helping my MS immensely. When their significant others comment on how well I'm doing/moving, they can't tell them why, either. They just smile, agree and say it must be the yoga.
Even if it were a legal activity in my state, I still wouldn't flaunt it, just keep quiet. But, I do wish my state would make an honest woman of me.
These forums are the only place I can talk about any of this. It is lonely, but I guess that this is the choice I've made. I guess everything in life has some price.
Thanks Lynhal for bringing this up. It is a difficult thing to manage. Can't even imagine how I would deal with dating!
Hell, if I knew that information I'd have a love life!Quote:
Originally Posted by prettypisces
I hope you can figure out where that is because I would be a member in
2 seconds flat!
:thumbsup:
Hi prettypisces: I've been growing here in Canada and I'll agree with all replies u have been given at this point, it's been almost ten years since I had a close relationship as terrible as this sounds it is a part of what we are doing that creates this it's by choice but only because of growing not by wanting to live alone or being a hermit...
From experiance the renting of another place makes sense I had done that exact thing about 6 yrs ago but what happend to me may change your mind the place I rented I only spent wknds and the odd nite there b4 I new it a neigbor thought it was odd I was in and out and hardly there so they took it upon themselves to call the cops thinking I was up to something ?? Without going on for ever here as this story is long !! My grow house was never found but it did put me in the polices eyes something none of us want period...
So some food for thought ??
It's just as lonely growing here in Canada aswell !!!
Big smiles every fifty days thow...
Steve Ontario Canada
I'm sorry, I did not correctly credit prettypices for starting this post. Pardon.
This is a big issue, I would imagine, for many people who do this.
It isn't easy, but we need to stay below the radar, and to do that is to choose a lonely road. And, as you know, it isn't "paranoid" not to trust people with this info - it's a matter of survival. Some people are so petty and such busy-bodies.
For me, it's worth it only because of the incredible relief the products of my work give me. There is no other med out there that can help me like this one does, and it will be years before my state (or by then, my country) will allow me to have this medication for my MS. By then I will be either quite disabled or dead from this disease. I can't wait for them to get their collective heads out of their asses, or for them to die out. I don't have enough time for that. My life's a wasting!
I don't know if I could make this same sacrifice if I were using it recreationally, unless of course I was making a big profit!
But, whatever the reason for farming, it does create a lonely life. At least people here understand that.
Well, does anybody know how to start a paranoid growers dating site??? It kinda sounded silly when I first read it, but the more I thought about it, the more it might sound reasonable. Man, would it ever have to be secure tho.
I have an off/on significant other and have for about 8 years now, we don't live together, and she knows what I do and wants no part of it, so I always have to go to her house as she will not come here, period. I've often wondered how nice it would be to have a cool growing partner living with me, but I don't know how I would ever find one...If ya'll find a site that suits, or start one, lemme know!
Lol, don't think that would ever work, but lately, I've been on regular dating sites and checking out who is 420 friendly. That's definitely a start :)
Good day pretty Pisces: I think I've found a site that may b what you are looking for go to 420dating.com just found it so I can't say how good or how it works but it's for single marijuana people !!! Hope this helps ?? C ya there...
Steve /Canada
Hey I'm in! LOL! I shoulda known there was already a paranoid dating site for stoners on the internet somewhere....LMAO! Dunno why I'm surprised...Good job there Krinkle!
I go into hibernation every winter when I grow. I don't let anyone but my best friend over and yes, it gets lonely. The dog idea definitely is a winner, that's how I get by, just me and my puppy. I had a girlfriend once who was cool, or so I thought. She one day decided she wanted to screw me and said if I didn't give her all the weed I just harvested that she was gonna tell my employer that I smoke. I work for the government, so that would have gone horribly. I called her bluff and since then security is top priority. My biggest problem is that we all know there are a ton of female tokers. Stop hiding yourselves away in your apartment and let us guys get to know ya.
Hey isn't that awesome? I was going to do a search to see if I could find an appropriate site the other day but had forgotten to. Thanks for doing all the work, Krinkle. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Krinkle
Growers need stability in several areas, but if its a partner one is looking for, they should make it one they would spend the rest of their days with. :cool: Musical chairs gets old the older a person gets, and finding a good one takes time and patience. And yes, at times banging your head against the wall!! :D
Now, where are you?? :lol5: You know who you are!!!! :S2:
Ain't it nice when you live in a cannabis friendly state and you don't have to play these silly charades with your prospective lovers?
Best I can tell ya girl is move. You deserve some lovin hon.
Be strong hon. You are who you are and I'm sure if you keep your eyes and options open yer going to find what you seek.
I'm through with standing in line
to the clubs I'll never get in
It's like the bottom of the ninth
and I'm never gonna win
This life hasn't turned out
quite the way I want it to be
(tell me what you want)
I want a brand new house
on an episode of Cribs
And a bathroom I can play baseball in
And a king size tub big enough
for ten plus me
(yeah, so what you need)
I'll need a, a credit card that's got no limit
And a big black jet with a bedroom in it
Gonna join the mile high club
At thirty-seven thousand feet
(Been there done that)
I want a new tour bus full of old guitars
My own star on Hollywood Boulevard
Somewhere between Cher and
James Dean is fine for me
(So how you gonna do it?)
I'm gonna trade this life for fortune and fame
I'd even cut my hair and change my name
[CHORUS]
'Cause we all just wanna be big rockstars
Livin' in hilltop houses driving fifteen cars
The girls come easy and the drugs come cheap
We'll all stay skinny cause we just won't eat
And we'll hang out in the coolest bars
In the VIP with the movie stars
Every good gold digger's
Gonna wind up there
Every Playboy bunny
with her bleach blonde hair
and well..
Hey hey I wanna be a rockstar
Hey hey I wanna be a rockstar
I wanna be great like Elvis without the tassels
Hire eight body guards that love to beat up assholes
Sign a couple autographs
So I can eat my meals for free
(I'll have the quesadilla... ha ha)
I'm gonna dress my ass
with the latest fashion
Get a front door key to the Playboy mansion
Gonna date a centerfold that loves to
blow my money for me
(So how you gonna do it?)
I'm gonna trade this life
For fortune and fame
I'd even cut my hair
And change my name
'Cause we all just wanna be big rockstars
Livin' in hilltop houses driving fifteen cars
The girls come easy and the drugs come cheap
We'll all stay skinny cause we just won't eat
And we'll hang out in the coolest bars
In the VIP with the movie stars
Every good gold digger's
Gonna wind up there
Every Playboy bunny
with her bleach blonde hair
And we'll hide out in the private rooms
With the latest dictionary
in today's who's who
We'll get you anything
with that evil smile
Everybody's got a
drug dealer on speed dial
well..
Hey hey I wanna be a rockstar
I'm gonna sing those songs
that offend the censors
Gonna pop my pills
from a Pez dispenser
Get washed-up singers writing all my songs
Lip sync 'em every night so I don't get 'em wrong
Well we all just wanna be big rockstars
Livin' in hilltop houses driving fifteen cars
The girls come easy and the drugs come cheap
We'll all stay skinny cause we just won't eat
And we'll hang out in the coolest bars
In the VIP with the movie stars
Every good gold digger's
Gonna wind up there
Every Playboy bunny
with her bleach blonde hair
And we'll hide out in the private rooms
With the latest dictionary
in today's who's who
We'll get you anything
with that evil smile
Everybody's got a
drug dealer on speed dial well..
Hey hey I wanna be a rockstar
Hey hey I wanna be a rockstar
Gotta love Nickelback! :thumbsup:
Bonsoir Madames!
Please pm me with your zip code and I will make your every dream come true via 420dating.com... ;)
Ooooooh la la..... :D
That previous post was a dare...
I'm stoned, what can I say????? :rastasmoke:
funny shit microwave. lmao!! i never had this situation. I was in my relationship and discussed growing in our house with her and she was cool like the other side of the pillow, so the grow room got set up the next day and its been a SOG ever since. lmao!!
hey pretty. i know how u feel. due to my growing i dont even have many friends anymore as i had to slowly distance myself from them otherwise they would wise up to my lifestyle.
was it worth it? ehh...for the most part. some days are lonely though as i cant bring friends around too much.
no one knows except a few family members and my grow partner(s).
what state are you in? im in cali. nor cal.
dating just doesnt seem possible for me either...finding a female who grows would be ideal...and fun...id love that actually...but for now...its just me and my smoke.
haha i feel u. my plants above all. but having a person u can have close that understands what you do would be cool. just tring to find time for a woman is hard when u got 60 70 females that are thirsty