I Just Found Out

I just found out that my gf cheated on me :( not recently but we have been going out for a year and 2 months and she calls me 2day and tells me she cheated on me a year ago, and i said why because i would never cheat on nobody honestly, and she said because at the time she didnt trust me :( i dont see how i did everything and anything for her, then she said she didnt know we were to get serious, and i love her soooooo much and i'm just real hurt, i could never see her doing that to me!! and now shes cryin and i dont feel bad for her anymore because i am hurt beyond reason :(

If i was you i'd say fuck that bitch. Or cheat on her, that's fair.

dude id forgive her, and at the same time keep an close eye on her.
She at least told u about that witch means she feels somting for u, so dont dred on somthin that happend a year ago, work on what u have now, but lett her know that ur serious about her.
Comunication in a relationship is one of the keys to happyness

Peace bro and hope itall works out for the two of ya

Yeah, forgive her, take her back. Then she'll know that in the future if she does it again, you can both just have a good cry about it, then move on with your (exclusive?) relationship. No harm, no foul.

Open your eyes man, she was shopping around for something better at the beginning stages of the relationship- that in and of itself is not a huge deal if you guys weren't so serious then (women shop), but think about it. For the duration of your relationship, while you were supposedly building TRUST, she kept this from you the entire year.

Hey homie,

Ya know...if i put myself in your place and I was cheated on but I love the girl i'de make it very clear that I would never ever cheat on her. Theres no point in trying to make the girl feel guilty (It was a long time ago that she has done this) besides you wouldent be any better if you made her feel like shit about it. You love her so just tell her you forgive her because your guys love is a lot more important than her sleeping with someone else a year ago. Everything will pass over our own heads at some point and this will too pass over. Peace!

To be honest, I think the fact of her cheating on you so long ago wouldve been eating at her for ages (hence why she told you now). Although I dont condone this sort of behaviour at all, I believe that she must have feelings for you if she was to tell you that she cheated, and so long ago. I still wouldnt take it lightly, give her some time to think about what she has done. If you feel the relationship has nothing left then leave her but if you still love her then you should consider staying with her. Good luck.

forgive her, but don't take her back. her blaming her infidelity on her not trusting you is a bogus argument--i've made it before. bottomline-if she really cared for you (trusting or not) she wouldn't have done that to you and she definately wouldn't have waited a whole year before saying something. Don't forget that you are in control of the situation; she fucked up, you didn't.

Cheat on her.

I'm sorry, but dump her ass. Personally, I've never been in that situation (thankfully) so I don't know how I'd really react, but just hearing about it makes my blood boil.

Even if she did it when you were starting to go out, that's no excuse. You wanna fuck someone else, at least have the decency to tell the peson you're with that you're interested in someone else. That's the way I seee it.

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Originally Posted by Rarrr

To be honest, I think the fact of her cheating on you so long ago wouldve been eating at her for ages (hence why she told you now). Although I dont condone this sort of behaviour at all, I believe that she must have feelings for you if she was to tell you that she cheated, and so long ago. I still wouldnt take it lightly, give her some time to think about what she has done. If you feel the relationship has nothing left then leave her but if you still love her then you should consider staying with her. Good luck.

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Yeah yeah! Rawrs right. Altho even if i had cheated on my bf and it was eating me up inside I wouldent even tell him cuz oviuosly it would hurt him, and perhaps us both. Yeah know? but yeah it probibly was really making her feel bad so be easy on her.

i would cheat on her to make it fair

don't use this as an excuse to cheat on her, ignore every jerk on here telling you it's ok. That doesn't make it even, two hurts don't fix a relationship...they ruin it.

She messed around two months into the relationship. Sounds like you got serious too quickly, she committed to you before she knew you could be trusted. Seems like you all just moved too fast and she wasn't ready to settle down then. She should have told you she wasn't ready, but hey your both just kids...it's totally forgivable. It was a year ago, you barely knew each other then...let it go.
Don't feel hurt, be glad she trusts you enough to tell you, and loves you enough now to start with a clean slate. Don't hold it against her, don't bring it up in fights, just let her know you want monogamy from now on; that you loved her then and you love her now. Be a man about it.

thanks people for all the replies i really appreciate it alot...

u gotta forgive her. at least she told u about it right so apparently she does feel sorry about it. if she does it again though u gotta dump that bitch! dont become the pathetic boyfriend who wont stand up fopr himself but forgive her at least once.

Personally, I'd kick the worthless cheatin bitch to the fuckin curb... but of course that's me.

If you can forgive her for it, you're a good man... or a foolish one. Time will tell. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

one strike, then she's outtie

a year ago? thats not bad. assuming that you can still trust her and that was the only time it happened. :)

Just imagine if the situation was reversed, would she forgive u?

Once a cheat......always a cheat.

Give your head a shove, and fuck that subject love.......you'll get another chance someday.

ouch bro

well its really up to you on how you can handle knowing it in the first place. Sounds like she loves you now enough to risk loseing you to tell you in the first place. She could want a clean start and to be honest and up front about everything thats why she told you now in the hopes you will forgive her and know she does love you very much and thats she is very sorry for doing what she did when she was not sure you both where right for each other to start with. Good luck with this i hope you can work it out true love does not come by all the time so be sure you know what you want and have before you do anything.

Lesson i learned in love if she can do it she can do it again just like that so just be careful.. if ever you can let her go just let her go..

A year ago? Hhhhmmm, that's not really that bad, is it? I wouldn't get too worked up over it. Then, again, I'm one of those once a cheater always a cheater chicks that your mom warned you about, so don't listen to me.

Clevemire, where've you been?!! I miss LC!!!

Don't cheat on her, stay true to yourself. I think a cheater will cheat again, so beware, she will cheat aagin

SmokinThaHaze stop being such a bitch tell her that she fucked up then smack her in the face then walk away

Ahh you'll probably be dickin somone else next month anyway so,

FEEL EM FUCKEM FORGET EM