Ahhhhhh I have a date tonight with a Military Police Officer!

So I broke up with my fiance John a while ago and after that I lived with my boyfriend Rob and then 6 months after that we broke up (he cheated on me with a goth chick) I met Ed. That all didn't go so well. For the last year I have felt like absolute crap emotionally. I've just been focusing on getting in shape for the Army and having some good laughs with friends.

So I've been single for about a month and decided I wanted to try to find someone who could be a friend and then possibly more. I didn't want to rush into things. However I am the type of person who does like the comfortability of a relationship. It's nice to have someone to come home to every night.

So I finally got asked out!

By a freaking Marine Corp Military Police Officer! We talked about me going to the Army to become a MP too and then we realized we have a ton in common.

Guys and gals, I am absolutely pumped! I'm just smoking, giggling and my face hurts for smiling so much.

I just had to say something. I'm really happy.

Sounds like you need to chill with the men (thats a lot of relationship in a small time). I have many friends that jump from one relationship to another all the time. Some people get caught up and feel they need to have a relationship all the time. I think you should go out on the date of course, you never know... but I hope that you make time for yourself as well. Being single after a wave of people is nice and refreshing but I also know that finding someone to spend your time with is awesome.

I agree.

I think for once I am going to try to take things slow and actually try to fall into the romantic aspects(not me at all but hey, it couldn't hurt) and just really try to make a friendship first.

What are you going to do if you end up REALLY liking this guy, but you find out he's very against the use of cannabis?

I guess I'm kind of thread-jacking here a tid bit, call me on it if you think this is inappropriate, but I've been in a heavy relationship for nearly a year and a half now with this amazing person whom I love dearly. I am still "in love" with this person and keep finding new ways to express it and enjoy it.

The one problem between us is that we grew up in two VERY different lifestyles. Her parents are loaded, they have raised her to fill every waking moment of her life with something productive (sports, music, academics, dance) and I have grown up in a family with a tight budget and a family who guides me to doors, but lets me decide if I want to go through them.

That being said, she has never had time to experience or educate herself about cannabis. She despises that I plan to keep using it in the future and she hates that I want it to be a part of my life for a LONG time. I've been trying to show her all of the wondrous things about cannabis but she's been brainwashed. Note, I am NOT trying to make her become a user in the least bit, but I want her to accept my use and my advocating its use...

So I ask you, rebgirl, if you discover that this guy is "the one" for you (not saying he is, just speaking hypothetically here) and you find out he is very anti-cannabis, what would your course of action be?

I don't want to have it come down to cannabis or her you know? I love her and I love literally everything that has to do with cannabis. I'm at a loss and was hoping an intelligent woman who is an avid consumer like yourself could shed some light as to how I should approach this issue...

Thank you and sorry for the thread jack...

SMG

You don't have to change yourself to find a slow and meaningful relationship. I think going with the flow and keeping a good head will be just what you need. If a relationship follows then thats awesome...if not, then you can always enjoy your single life a little while longer. Getting out there and dating is always a great idea, just make sure you have time for yourself and KNOW what you really want before you go for it. I hope your just not pressed for finding love or being in a relationship. That will come naturally and at most times, when you least suspect it!

I would want the guy to accept me for me, regardless. As long as my bills were still being paid, I'm not getting arrested, being irresponsible or neglecting the relationship of course.

I told him I smoked, I assume he doesn't becuase he's in the military but you never know. I have to quit soon before basic training anyway but let's say that I didn't and someone layed that shit on me I would be hurt. Considering if we were dating they obviously liked me when I used pot.

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Originally Posted by rebgirl420

I told him I smoked, I assume he doesn't becuase he's in the military but you never know. I have to quit soon before basic training anyway but let's say that I didn't and someone layed that shit on me I would be hurt. Considering if we were dating they obviously liked me when I used pot.

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My point exactly, she has gotten to the point now where she respects my decisions, but won't support my use. Any advice on how to overcome this? Or should I leave it alone for a while? I just wish she had the time to get educated...

She just needs to be educated about cannabis. She also needs to know why it helps you (besides the medical use, i.e. calms you down, makes you sleep better at night, social relaxation, focus...). If she is worried about the smoking part, get a vaporizer or ingest it. Make sure cannabis is not effecting your life negatively as well. If it is, then she is just worried about you. If she still cant look at it like a rational person, then I think its time for a change, if the drug means that much to you...

Talk about it.
Talk.
Talk.
Talk.
Talk.
Talk!

Leaving it alone and ignoring it for a while isn't going to fix it. You need to have some serious sit downs with her and try to show that the man she fell for and loves uses marijuana.

Ahhhh he comes over to get me at 10 and I'm pumped. Why can't time go faster damnit!?

If he's a cop he should already know you toke.

I remember you from when I just signed up here, glad to see you happy.

Yeah well I figure that hey, if he does arrest me one day i hope he at least frisks me real well beforehand.

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Fair play to you just enjoy the experiance and let happen what will happen
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its an elaborate set-up run!

Careful of the Marine boys.... I was one for 4 years myself, and I can promise if he isn't in his home town..... Oh man, just be careful and keep your eyes wide open. I'm not trying to imply that you are naive, It's just that I hate to see anyone in this community get burnt. Just make sure that you two are on the same page, and make sure he means what he says.

Marines away from home will tell you anything you want to hear, beware of being lulled into a false vision.:rastasmoke:

Regarding how to educate a SO on the benefits of cannabis...

How about watching some documentaries together? If you have time to go to movies or out to dinner you could do that instead. Edutainment, I think it's called....

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Originally Posted by NextLineIsMine

its an elaborate set-up run!

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Always have to be Debbie Downer eh NextLine.. :jointsmile:

once youre in you wont be coming home to anyone. its lonely at first but once your in the military and meet some girls and get leave itll bee too much fun being single. be careful and just enjoy the present to fullest, you know its a gift. good vibes



oh and dude shes gonna hate u ne way. after a couple long terms and me changing she just find something else wrong. besides your girl sounds closed minded about it, not to mention she probly thinks shes better then you cause of her being loaded, so you must be wrong.

I realized a few years back that the things i do define me and the essence of my being. The more she wants me to change, the more wrong we are for each other. Its not me you love its who you think you can make me, and im not a bitch made man.

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Always have to be Debbie Downer eh NextLine.. :jointsmile:

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Hah you caught me thats two in a row, im shooting for a hat trick of three depressing one liners

what happend, how was the date?

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Originally Posted by phatsesh101

once youre in you wont be coming home to anyone. its lonely at first but once your in the military and meet some girls and get leave itll bee too much fun being single. be careful and just enjoy the present to fullest, you know its a gift. good vibes



oh and dude shes gonna hate u ne way. after a couple long terms and me changing she just find something else wrong. besides your girl sounds closed minded about it, not to mention she probly thinks shes better then you cause of her being loaded, so you must be wrong.

I realized a few years back that the things i do define me and the essence of my being. The more she wants me to change, the more wrong we are for each other. Its not me you love its who you think you can make me, and im not a bitch made man.

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You mean guys, I'm a girl haha.

Anywho, the date went well :dance:

He took me out for Indian food, it was my first experience with that and it was pretty good.

Then we got some 6-packs and went back to his place. We talked, and talked and talked. I spent the night and had a lot of fun.

He drove me home at 3pm-ish the next day and we hugged and we both said we had a lot of fun and would like to do it again. Then he told me to get a hold of him to tell him when I wanted to hang out again.

I like him. A lot haha.

I sent him an email today thanking him for taking me out and told him to call me. Hopefully he does :)

I have another date on Sunday and on Monday I'm going to the Modest Mouse Concert with the guy I'm seeing Sunday. Yay!

I'm glad the date went well and I'm glad to see another fan of Modest Mouse, they rock

SMG

Thanks hun!

Yeah I'm not a HUGE fan but I do enjoy their music. Actually currently I'm trying to get more acquainted with some of their older stuff.

i meant girlsfriends to party with and take advatage of men LOL

glad it went well

The only part I regret is the fact that I didn't plan to spend the night but I had drank 3 mikes hard lemonaid things and was feeling buzzed.

Oh and he DOES smoke too, he has some sweet pieces.

hey reb, nice to see you around, good to hear your have in a good time, too.

Please remind him of his oath to the Constitution and not a leader too never disarm, arrest or shoot an American citizen. Thanks.

We know.. since hes a MP.... you really just want to handle his night stick:D

How fabulous you had a great time, but I'm sad you've been cheating on me this whole time, you couldn't wait for me? Haha.

Anyways, I'm sorry about John, but this new guy, sounds alright. As long as you had a good time.

Plus, with you going into the Army, are you sure your boobs are going to fit into your uniform? You might have the WMDs on your chest.

Love ya, Reb.

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How fabulous you had a great time, but I'm sad you've been cheating on me this whole time, you couldn't wait for me? Haha.

Anyways, I'm sorry about John, but this new guy, sounds alright. As long as you had a good time.

Plus, with you going into the Army, are you sure your boobs are going to fit into your uniform? You might have the WMDs on your chest.

Love ya, Reb.

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Sorry I refuse to believe this is actually you after three years, wheres cheese burger cat impostor!?

Im done with mr.MP haha. Turned out to be a douche.

Now I have a new serious guy, the guy I went to the concert with. This guy is absolutely fantastic.

You guys and gals crack me up. Samwhore is that you!?

Good luck with this new guy.

Of course it's me, who else would it be?
I just popped in to say hi, that's pretty much it.

At least that's what we used to say about MPs.... The problem with officers is that most of us are/were big-time Kool-Aid drinkers. It's funny that he toked, because if you piss hot as an officer it's an automatic court martial. Fun fun fun.

By the way, for everyone's education on MPs, they're not really cops. They're Military Police, which means they do battlefield escort and guard the logistic trains. They might man the gates at military installations and drive patrol cars, but that's somewhat sidebar to what their primary mission is. In fact, a lot of MPs can't get jobs as cops outside.

Marines are pretty high-strung anyway. Even Army soldiers think they're too tightly wired. It's just KILL, KILL, KILL, Hoorah!

Rebgirl, you're better off without him anyhow. Most of the officers I knew were either cool or total douches. Not a lot of in-between.

Yeah, luckily for me he hasn't ruined my will to become a MP haha.

This new guy is fantastic haha. He makes me happy. It's nice to say that now when people ask me how I am and I say "happy" I'm not lying.

*Sigh*

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Originally Posted by Samwhore

How fabulous you had a great time, but I'm sad you've been cheating on me this whole time, you couldn't wait for me? Haha.

Anyways, I'm sorry about John, but this new guy, sounds alright. As long as you had a good time.

Plus, with you going into the Army, are you sure your boobs are going to fit into your uniform? You might have the WMDs on your chest.

Love ya, Reb.

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cheese burger girl WTF, good to see you too, that was a odd name to see, glad your back

Ahhhh Mad!!!!!

I missed you!!!

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since youre dating if youre ever in LA or the Bay, get at me well have some fun or atleast get budded;)

I would love to date someone from the site.

What a great thing to have in common, and hey, at least you would have SOMETHING in common to talk about when shit gets quiet haha.

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Originally Posted by rebgirl420

Ahhhh Mad!!!!!

I missed you!!!

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Ahh chica .......not as much as I missed you. I tried to check in on yah from time to time, and of coars sent the good vibes your way. realy glad your back.