Ironic Predicament

So my friend of 6 years told me today that for the past year and a half my smoking has really annoyed him. Lately he has stopped talking to me as much, and when we do hang out I have to be sober or else he gets all pissed. I respect his beliefs towards it, however, not smoking weed is just something I don't plan on doing. Even now as I sent him a message asking him why he gets so mad about it I smoke a bowl and everything becomes clear. I haven't smoked all day and when I went to write to him I didn't know what to say exactly. I felt "funny" because I hadn't hit a bowl that day (usually a heavy smoker) and once I hit the bong everything became clear, focused, I became "Me." Being high has pretty much become a huge part of my life. I'm high all day, every day, and I love it that way. I see the world in completely different way. When i'm not high I hate the world, life is boring and uneventful. When im high though the world fascinates me...I study things in every day life almost. I look up things about life in general, study politics, and learn about the culture of many different countries all because of smoking. I can do it all from THIS WEBSITE...smoking is such a universal, multicultural thing and it unites people no matter where you are.

So...I kind of went off track a little bit but hey...i'm high haha:rastasmoke:. I just don't see how such a good thing, something that has made me change my life from sitting around to trying to do something and become a happier person in general could make him so mad at me and put me in this stupid situation.

Thoughts PLEASE?

If this is your lifestyle then a friend would respect it. Afterall he has been your friend for 6 years and has never had a problem with it until now...

Ask him what it is about your smoking that bothers him specifically all of a sudden.

That's just my advice anyway, take it or leave it :jointsmile:

Do what makes you happy. Remember that. You can't let anything but you dictate your life.

Has he ever smoked? Maybe he had a bad experience with it or something, and maybe as a true friend you need to show him how great it really is. If he's a true friend he won't cut all ties to your friendship.

Get drunk, punch him in the mouth, and ask him if he wouldn't rather have you stoned on pot. :thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by Breukelen advocaat

Get drunk, punch him in the mouth, and ask him if he wouldn't rather have you stoned on pot. :thumbsup:

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LOL, funny but bad advice!

I didnt see an age on your profile so I may be way off base but Ill tell you my observations about life. Im 30 for reference! When I was in HS I had hundreds of friends... a bit of a social butterfly. In college, the first time, lol, I had less but more than I could count. As I aged my friends changed and became less in quantity. And now have maybe 4 I talk to on a regular basis and 5 or so I keep in contact with. My myspace friends list is littered with people that I used to see/hang with everyday. Now we hardly talk, if at all. I think its just part of life. Sounds like your friend and you are growing apart. It sucks but is just a part of life. When I was a child I could never understand how my mother called a lady she saw once a year her best friend. I saw mine everyday at school. Today it makes more sense.

My advice would be treat him how you would want to be treated. Take what he gives you. If he pushes you away, let him. But be there if he come around. Friends come and go, be true to yourself! :stoned:

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Originally Posted by theforthdrive

LOL, funny but bad advice!

I didnt see an age on your profile so I may be way off base but Ill tell you my observations about life. Im 30 for reference! When I was in HS I had hundreds of friends... a bit of a social butterfly. In college, the first time, lol, I had less but more than I could count. As I aged my friends changed and became less in quantity. And now have maybe 4 I talk to on a regular basis and 5 or so I keep in contact with. My myspace friends list is littered with people that I used to see/hang with everyday. Now we hardly talk, if at all. I think its just part of life. Sounds like your friend and you are growing apart. It sucks but is just a part of life. When I was a child I could never understand how my mother called a lady she saw once a year her best friend. I saw mine everyday at school. Today it makes more sense.

My advice would be treat him how you would want to be treated. Take what he gives you. If he pushes you away, let him. But be there if he come around. Friends come and go, be true to yourself! :stoned:

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that's good advice, in my opinion. i'm 29, just for reference as well. i've always heard the friends you make during college will be your life long friends. i look at it more as a metaphor as opposed to literally. i myself never went to college (as of yet) but did join the marines immediately after graduating high school. i did know a lot of people in high school. then in the marines i had a core group of 4 other guys that are like my brothers. they don't all live near me but i stay in touch. that's my family. i still know a guy that i went to elementary school with. we live 20 mins apart and i don't see him often but when i do it's like nothing has changed. sorry i'm rambling, i'm blazed.

basically it boils down to this, you have to know and love yourself before you can know and love someone else. yes i love my male friends, in a purely hetro way! if weed makes you happy and you don't want to stop and your friend really doesn't want to be around you and what not, then so be it! if he's gonna flake on you for something like that think about if some real sh*t went down?! would he flake on you then? it's not like your are mainlining heroin!!! just my two cents.

-shake

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Originally Posted by linearvermin

So my friend of 6 years told me today that for the past year and a half my smoking has really annoyed him. Lately he has stopped talking to me as much, and when we do hang out I have to be sober or else he gets all pissed. I respect his beliefs towards it, however, not smoking weed is just something I don't plan on doing. Even now as I sent him a message asking him why he gets so mad about it I smoke a bowl and everything becomes clear. I haven't smoked all day and when I went to write to him I didn't know what to say exactly. I felt "funny" because I hadn't hit a bowl that day (usually a heavy smoker) and once I hit the bong everything became clear, focused, I became "Me." Being high has pretty much become a huge part of my life. I'm high all day, every day, and I love it that way. I see the world in completely different way. When i'm not high I hate the world, life is boring and uneventful. When im high though the world fascinates me...I study things in every day life almost. I look up things about life in general, study politics, and learn about the culture of many different countries all because of smoking. I can do it all from THIS WEBSITE...smoking is such a universal, multicultural thing and it unites people no matter where you are.

So...I kind of went off track a little bit but hey...i'm high haha:rastasmoke:. I just don't see how such a good thing, something that has made me change my life from sitting around to trying to do something and become a happier person in general could make him so mad at me and put me in this stupid situation.

Thoughts PLEASE?

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Perhaps this is what you see, but this isn't what he sees.

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Originally Posted by headshake

that's good advice, in my opinion. i'm 29, just for reference as well. i've always heard the friends you make during college will be your life long friends. i look at it more as a metaphor as opposed to literally. i myself never went to college (as of yet) but did join the marines immediately after graduating high school. i did know a lot of people in high school. then in the marines i had a core group of 4 other guys that are like my brothers. they don't all live near me but i stay in touch. that's my family. i still know a guy that i went to elementary school with. we live 20 mins apart and i don't see him often but when i do it's like nothing has changed. sorry i'm rambling, i'm blazed.

basically it boils down to this, you have to know and love yourself before you can know and love someone else. yes i love my male friends, in a purely hetro way! if weed makes you happy and you don't want to stop and your friend really doesn't want to be around you and what not, then so be it! if he's gonna flake on you for something like that think about if some real sh*t went down?! would he flake on you then? it's not like your are mainlining heroin!!! just my two cents.

-shake

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Thanks for the advice guys, it was good but let me explain myself a little more. I'm 19 years old, and my friend like like a brother to me. He is always there when i need him and thats mainly why I want to stay friend with him and am tripping about that. If he was some guy i know it wouldn't be a big deal but like i said...hes a brother to me and that makes it more complicated. The getting drunk and punching him in the face wouldn't work either haha because he always wants to fight drunk :wtf:. I swear i've talked to him about it so many times and shot off my views and points and he never has anything to say besides "i simply just don't like it." He said even if it cured cancer he wouldn't like it....like wtf is it really possible to hate a plant that does absolutely no harm that much?

I'm a very social person, and I have lots of friends who do not smoke.

My husband and I toke daily, so all of our friends and adult family members know that we do, but when it boils right down to it: it's nobody's business if we're baked or not.

We go to work.
We pay our taxes.
We pay our bills.
We recycle.
We pay attention to politics.
We love being parents.
We enjoy a vast array of music, art, and film.
(The list goes on and on) and with our true friends, those are the types of things that we discuss if they happen to NOT smoke also. Because they are genuine friends we have not been judged in the least.
Perhaps you should just focus on the parts of this friendship that have nothing to do with pot, as I'm sure there are many, since you've referred to this person as a brother to you. The bottom line is that if you're an adult and you lead a righteous lifestyle then getting high falls under the category of "personal routine".

kinda strange, that this is happening to you cause my friend, who used to be the same way actually just smoked for the first time last night, after hitting a blunt that i rolled us. It was bittersweet, because for the last year we havent really chilled, and we used to chill everyday for the past 14 years, so when that happened it was strange, but now he is a smoker, so what can i say, just to to convince them its not so bad. Hell, maybe you could sweet talk them into smoking a bowl with you. tell them its fun.

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Originally Posted by linearvermin

Thanks for the advice guys, it was good but let me explain myself a little more. I'm 19 years old, and my friend like like a brother to me. He is always there when i need him and thats mainly why I want to stay friend with him and am tripping about that. If he was some guy i know it wouldn't be a big deal but like i said...hes a brother to me and that makes it more complicated. The getting drunk and punching him in the face wouldn't work either haha because he always wants to fight drunk :wtf:. I swear i've talked to him about it so many times and shot off my views and points and he never has anything to say besides "i simply just don't like it." He said even if it cured cancer he wouldn't like it....like wtf is it really possible to hate a plant that does absolutely no harm that much?

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so he's okay with prescription pills that have known side effects? and why would he be against it if it cured cancer? i'm not bashing you're friend but it seems like his view may be skewed for some reason. what if it was legal?

you should talk to your friend. if he is like your brother then he should understand. he doesn't have to like it or support it, but its's YOUR decision. you are old enough to make your own decisions. just plan out your thoughts and try to explain yourself as well as possible. he should appreciate your opinion as much as you appreciate his. and if he is family then something like that would never get in the way.

i would try that and see what happens.

-shake