Bum Friend

hey everyone I have this friend who, in simple words, is a bum... everything he does annoys the shit out of me. I'm 19 and so is he, I've held jobs before and I've had my driver's license since I was 16, he's never held a job for a month and still has no license... He lives about 20 min away from me and never offers to throw in on gas when i go pick his ass up, he doesn't have a weed connect (so I get it for him and he never offers me something for the trouble). When I do ask for reimbursement he makes a huge deal out of it and usually conveniently has no extra money or anything... and he also conveniently forgets things at my place and leaves shit in my car so that I have to drive and give back to him...

This time he's really done it. I took him to the dmv for his 2nd driving test the other day (which he failed), and I dropped him off at his house afterwards and went home... later he calls me and tells me that he accidentally took my registration and insurance papers along with the dmv forms and says i should come pick them up. I told him he should get a ride to my place and drop them off because he's the one who took them and I don't wanna risk getting fined if i get pulled over... he says "they're your papers you come get them," i respond, "Why should I waste my time, money, and gas to get something u took after i did you a favor?" his response: "if you're gonna be irrational I'm gonna hang up," all i get out it "ohhhhh I'm fucking irrational...." before he hangs up.


What do I do about this kid? I'm a nice dude and I really don't like to be a jerk but I can't stand this guy... I've known him for years but I have really grown sick of him... I've saved his ass in so many situations and stuck up for him when people talk shit about him... But i'm done being a good friend to someone like this. He has one of those personalities that is really outgoing and nice at first, but turns into a selfish prick when u get to know him really well... and the worst part is that in his head he thinks everything he does is justified

What the fuck should I do?

Get all your shit back and never answer a call from him again

Go get your papers from him.......I wouldnt want some dead beat holding onto valuable stuff like that.
Get your papers and just leave....No Drama or argueing.....next time he calls,and asks for a favor,just tell um your busy and you gotta go(hang up the phone)Im sure after awhile he will either find someone else to carry his ass....or he will wise up and be a man.

The kid seems like an asshole, I say you stop doing shit with him.

Drop him like it's hot. But he's not. So just drop him, anyway.

It's give and take. Not take and take some more.
Sounds like a right dicknose. Remember, YOU chose YOUR OWN company. Makes sense to say if you don't like him... just don't hang out with him... shocking ey.

yeah I wouldnt talk to him anymore either, you should probly forget about him and move on. Why get used for rides all the time if someones broke ass dosnt pitch in just so you can hang with them. What makes them so great? I used to hang with a lot of stoners that did the same shit, Id waste mad gas and theyd smoke like a couple bowls of swag. Cheap asses.

He sounds like he needs to grow up, pull his finger out of his arse hole and realise he has to sort his life out. What he NEEDS is a slap.

Get your papers - thats the important part - and then just ignore the tit.

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Originally Posted by LIP

He sounds like he needs to grow up, pull his finger out of his arse hole and realise he has to sort his life out. What he NEEDS is a slap.

Get your papers - thats the important part - and then just ignore the tit.

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Yeah i agree.

I'm having an similar problem with a friend he is all over you like a bad rash when the booze and mull is flowing and your shouting but when its not you will not see him.The thing is he is a nice guy and i consider him a friend from when we where at school.

I think he is user but this thing is he wasnt always like that we used to hang out and be good friends.

I'm rather confused maybe i havent made the effort to hang out with him or something.

I'm not sure.

not to sound like an ass face or anything, (it's not intended to be) but if you can't figure out what you should do, perhaps you deserve his company?

i hate being an ass and i really hate telling people to fuck off (infact idon't really do it... i just stop talking to them all together, no explination) but when i'm being used, and i finally realize it/get fed up with it, that's it... change or we're not hanging out no more... (if i even offer the chance for them to change, usually i just say fuck it all together)

what you do is up to you, there is no right or wrong answer.. but there is a smart and stupid decision... the smart one is to get your shit and sever the ties... i'm sure you can figure out what the stupid one is...

See, I had a friend similar to that a couple months ago. He and I were best friends since 7th grade, but the summer break after our senior year in high school, he just absolutely went to shit.

Now, I don't ever talk to him or see him any more (partly because he goes to college so far away, and partly because I can't stand the fucker).

My advice would be, if you can bear it, to just drop his ass. I admit, it was hard for me at first because we had been such good friends for so long and I didn't want to throw it all away but after sitting on it for a while and coming to terms with it, I'm glad I did. Because now I don't have to put up with his superioristic, know-it-all attitude.

^good one

Child, drop him. The relationship isn't good for either of you. You are enabling him to continue in his "bummish" ways. He is basically a "vampire", or if you want to be kind, a greedy child, always taking without giving. You're being taken advantage of and he isn't growing. Get your papers and end it!-Granny:hippy:

drop that fucker, straight up.
I had a friend who did the exact same thing. When you're in the situation you don't realize what a HORRIBLE Friend that person is being. Then after you drop his ass, give it a little bit when you distance yourself form him, you'll realize you can find better and more responsible mature friends than that stupid friend-using butt face.

Get rid of him. You will not only be doing what is right for you, it will teach him a lesson.

all of this seems so simple but it's not. I cant just ignore the fucker... I moved out of my parents place to a city a few hours away about a month ago... what do u know he moves into his grandma's house in the same city... so now neither of us really know anybody around besides each other... and how do I "break up" with a friend?

ya man, know what u mean.. i had a friend who used to live with our family who kind of fits that description, it seemed like me and my bro were always smoking him up and buying him timms and evrything elce.. he just seemed lazy and wouldnt work or even try to get a job, he just seemed like a bum. i was GOOD friends with him for years but that shit he pulled and all the lazy days where he would just sleap and not have any respect for much anything but himself. seemed like a hustler if u ask me.:jointsmile:

Simple answer is to socialise with people who don't fuck you around and leach off you all the time.
Just keep telling him you are too busy with your new mates who aren't lazy fucks and numbnuts. He'll get the message sooner or later.

it sounds like you are being a good fren to him and his starting to take the piss out of you... his used to you doing things for him... so thats why his expecting you to come and pick up your papers, as you normally the one that does everything///

to me it sounds like this so called fren is really taking the piss out of you...

if i was you i would ignor him for a while... then he gonna know what type of a fren you was to him..... you dont know what you got till its gone... heard that b4... thats what he gonna be thinking

He's only taking advantage of you because you let him.

I don't see any reason to stop being friends with him, just stop giving him free lunches. You'll see what kind of person he really is, if he wants to hang out with you or for your possessions. You'll see him fade away if it's for the latter.

Doesn't require any drama whatsoever.

Yeah I agree with THCbongman - stop giving him free shit and rides AT ALL, and then let HIM end the friendship if he can't handle. Coz he wont.

The guy pisses you off and sounds like a mooch, so stop hanging out with him. Simple as that, or tell him to pitch in for gas or weed sometimes.

I have a friend who is a bloody mooch as well. He never has money for anything and always mooches weed off of me. Me and my friend, who happens to be my connect, always get called up every week to hang out. He never has weed, and when we leave, he always asks for a small bud for later. :rolleyes: I mean, from both of us!

He doesn't really ask that nice either, just kind of, "can I get a small bud for later?", just like that. I know the guy makes shit money being a dishwasher and has to be make ends means, but he has done this the last 3 times. It is annoying really.

one key issue is the fact that your his only connection, in other words he definatly need you more then you need him,,, get your shit back and kick his ass to the curb.

i have been in that situation, eventually i told him to fuck off and never talked to him again.

Come to think of it Ive had to come too and get rid of a lot of people in my life. Some times it was my fault, Sometimes it was theres. You need to ask yourself honestly If you really wanna be around them anymore no matter how much you might be lonley or miss them like what you are saying. When You can come to that realizeation with yourself you can move on.

I used to have a bad rep for being a nasty person to be in debt to and this helped keep away the freeloaders. The only way anyone gets my respect is to earn it.

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Originally Posted by geonagual

Get all your shit back and never answer a call from him again

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And it is just as simple as that.

Best to cut the ties right away. You've invested a lot and he's invested nothing.
Dud, creep, bad news,,,,stay away.:wtf:

A douchebag, by any other name, is still a douchebag. My friend.

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Originally Posted by tootsie roll

And it is just as simple as that.

Best to cut the ties right away. You've invested a lot and he's invested nothing.
Dud, creep, bad news,,,,stay away.:wtf:

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Hey, thanks for quoting me..