Situation I cant get by ...

hey guys, you seem to always throw in a good opinion. well any way here is my situation
so i like this girl and she likes me, we've known eachother for like 3 years now. the thing is im a virgin and she isnt and i really really like this girl,and on friday we spent the night together just fucking around she told me something that i didnt really like. she told me about how she fucked one of her girlfriends, friend. and told me he didnt use a condom and shit so she went and got test, but the thing is im just jealous and shit. like she can say she likes me alot and she has even told me she's loved me, but why would she go and do shit like this? i donno if im just being dumb and shouldnt be jealous but it hurts because i love her back, and i know most of you are going to say thats rediculous and that she's dumb. i like her alot for her mind and talking but it really really hurts when she does this :(. i just dont know what to do, i dont wanna ask if her she wants to start dating because i dont wanna take rejection. i asked her one night we were kind of drunk and she said yes but we all know how that goes. sorry for making this so long, ive been right confused and feeling depressed and would much much love a good suggestion/opinion, thank you.

actions speak louder than words.
sure she says i love you but then she goes and fucks around.

dont give into lust!

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Originally Posted by crudemood

actions speak louder than words.
sure she says i love you but then she goes and fucks around.

dont give into lust!

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Errrrm I know I know, but its so hard to let her go, shes a big part of my life.

You need to be sure that she's changed her ways before you get with her bro. Trust me too many guys are willing to bang someone elses girl if the girl is up for it...... you need to make sure that wont happen. Thats all you need to worry about. You seem quite young so I take it she is too? The thing with young girls is that they will do anything to get "the catch". She may have just been saying that she fucked this kid so you think she isnt a virgin therefore you could do the business with her if you wanted. Trust me i'm 18 ive been through all that.... if she's spending the night with you fooling around she must like you but does she like you enough to be faithful? I'm rambling and a bit drunk but I hope this makes a bit of sense.............good luck mate :thumbsup:

Damn dude i know exactly how you feel. I was in a pretty similar situation in my senior year of highschool... I gotta ask though, how long ago did she get freaky with the one dude?

I think it was like 3 weeks ago, but I know she isnt a virgin. And its not like we're so young we're stupid, im 18 in february and she is 17. Infamous, that does make a bit of sense thank you alot. It also seems, since friday night she doesnt text me like she usually does, i dont know if something is up but I am worried. Im pretty depressed here, trying to stop smoking weed, just lost my job, and it really fucking sucks. I know I love her because we havent even had sex, we just fool around and talk alot, but it really hurts when shes the first girl youve really really liked this way and youre not 100% if she does back.

Well dude, you're young and I'll say never get depressed over a girl, NEVER. There are exceptions ya know like dating for yrs and something tragic happens, ok fine. But when you are 18 and getting down over a girl who most likely knows you like her, and still goes and screws some dude and then tells you about it? even if she didn't do something, why would she do that, or make it up?

And if you are depressed, by all means dont stop smoking, light one up! But that does suck about the job...to ease that pain just think about how bad you hated it etc... that helps for me until I get a diff job.

But dude, i'm about 8 yrs older then you and I wished I hadn't spent soo much time dealing with girls like that. I'm not dissing her, but I wouldn't look at her like shes the last girl on earth like i did once. It wasted most of my highschool years. Enjoy not being tied down, do what she does....?

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Originally Posted by Twentyinches

Well dude, you're young and I'll say never get depressed over a girl, NEVER. There are exceptions ya know like dating for yrs and something tragic happens, ok fine. But when you are 18 and getting down over a girl who most likely knows you like her, and still goes and screws some dude and then tells you about it? even if she didn't do something, why would she do that, or make it up?

And if you are depressed, by all means dont stop smoking, light one up! But that does suck about the job...to ease that pain just think about how bad you hated it etc... that helps for me until I get a diff job.

But dude, i'm about 8 yrs older then you and I wished I hadn't spent soo much time dealing with girls like that. I'm not dissing her, but I wouldn't look at her like shes the last girl on earth like i did once. It wasted most of my highschool years. Enjoy not being tied down, do what she does....?

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Thanks for spreading some wisdom my way man. I went out with a few friends after I put out the last post and smoked up one of some nice juicy fruit and had a 6pack of MGD. But I realize these symptoms of depression are coming from me not smoking weed, Ive been smoking for 3 years now, steady morning after noon night, probably 1/4 a day. It sure is catching up with me. But when Im baked I think Im making a big deal out of nothing, Im going to talk to her next weekend. The thing is, is that I feel like theres going to be no other girl that will like me like her, it seems like times she really happy to see me and text me and others shes not. I donno I just have a really strong bond with her since Ive been talking to her / drinking / hanging out, and fuck this whole thing just sucks.

K Ive mellowed out, and have decided if she wants to see me or talk to me that bad that she can get ahold of me. Im done waiting on her, but am also not removing her from my life. Thank you guys.

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Originally Posted by Trivium

Errrrm I know I know, but its so hard to let her go, shes a big part of my life.

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Maybe one day she'lll change.. stick around and find out or..
if she continues.. you guys can stay friends. just casual. platonic friends.

its time likes these you gotta put aside your feelings to do whats right.

and yay you did it! :D

Theres plenty of fish in the sea man,unfortunately 90% of them are complete psychos nowadays,just stay positive.

I swear on my childrens lives, when your my age (30), you will look back on this and laugh at yourself. Life's a trip, pain makes you grow-wether you want to or not, thats why it hurts. Pick up your heart, take this for what it is, and continue to move forward. Never stop, never slow. If you let something small set your life back, you will regret it when you get older. Let's roll.

You can check out Modern Man Itâ??s a great site and counsels you on every aspect of dating, including how to develop your personality. A friend recommended the site to me, and I must say I have had a great time dating, ever since!

Just offering my two cents.....you should have given her the beef for the taco that Friday night. If you don't go for the end zone from the red zone you will never get laid!! Next time you are with her, just go for it and then you will know what is what. Be smart have a raincoat for the little one!!!!! :jointsmile:

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Originally Posted by Trivium

I think it was like 3 weeks ago, but I know she isnt a virgin. And its not like we're so young we're stupid, im 18 in february and she is 17. Infamous, that does make a bit of sense thank you alot. It also seems, since friday night she doesnt text me like she usually does, i dont know if something is up but I am worried. Im pretty depressed here, trying to stop smoking weed, just lost my job, and it really fucking sucks. I know I love her because we havent even had sex, we just fool around and talk alot, but it really hurts when shes the first girl youve really really liked this way and youre not 100% if she does back.

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Giving my two cents.

For starters, if you're not 100% sure she loves you the same way you do, then it probably won't happen.
She fucked around with a dude 3 weeks ago UNPROTECTED and you wanna still linger around that? Idk, call me vain but i think you deserve better. I hope all works out for you :)