Go With it or Hold Back?

ok theres this girl i like, but my friend likes her too and has been trying to get with her, but shes liked me for a lot longer (recently broke up with her b/f) but shes been hanging out with my friend a lot lately, so its fucked. i actually like her for who she is and have genuinely been friends with her since i met her. i dont "love" her but i think shes a quality girl, actually i know she is.

i also know she is a virgin, shes never told me but i can tell. she only had 1 b/f and all i can say i he was a huge deuch, so definetly nothing serious happened and i know shed be hesitant about getting into a physical relationship right away, but thats prfectly ok with me.

Only thing is if my firend ever got with her it would kill me cause i know he'd only want to fuck her, but she deserves more than that, and i want to be the guy that she deserves. I dont want her to get hurt, but i cant betray my friendship or even ruin it over this. i just dont know. i think at the moment she likes us both and isnt sure of what she wants.

Like theres other girls that ive been "seeing" for a bit, but i really want her. Ive been with quite a few girls, but never had a serious relationship, but i know thats what i want and would be able to have with her cause she wants the same.

I just dont know, any thoughts?

Tell her that she has a choice between your buddy and you.

Tell her what you think, but one piece of advice. If you don't want to start any shit with other dude, don't talk shit about him. Might get to scrappin. LOL

In the long run it's best not to fuck over your friends. If you can tag this chick and not hurt your buddies feelings then go for it.

Have a threesome.






Joking!

Tell your boy and if hes your boy he would find some other girl to "boink".

two of my mates had the exact same thing, your like my mate T adn your mate is like my mate J. T got with the girl, then J got with her best mate, then T cheated on J and his gf with her. broke her in and treated her like shit. she went with T realising he was way better and a decent guy and J still trawls teh internet for emo girls.

so it might be better to play the longer game as youll look like the better guy

Yeah,You guys shouldnt be sharing feelings for the same girl.......I agree with Mayack419 though....dont talk shit about your buddy to this girl.

no i got nothing against my buddy, and i dont wanna fuck him over its just that i have been friends with this girl for longer than i have with him and i dont wanna see her get hurt. which i know hes going to do if they "get together," cause since ive know him he has done that to every girl that i know of.

also i didnt start showing interest in her after she broke up with her b/f. she started to show interest in me and i started to think that mabye it could end up being a good thing...

it just sucks cause it almost has to be one or the other...

One in the pink, one in the stink.

This is reminiscent of a girl I had once. It ended up that me and the other dude never really reconciled after it was all out in the open. Truthfully, I felt exactly how you feel right now; I thought I would be the better choice because I wasn't just "out for ass" as my friends say. Either way you're the one who sees the situation for what it really is because obviously neither of them do. So here's what you do: ask yourself whether or not this chick is worthy of fucking up your friendship with your boy. If the answer is "yes", or you really aren't good friends with this guy, then let the girl know how you feel about her, without mentioning your friend. Make it totally about you and her, nothing about anyone else. Bam, there's her ultimatum, either she's on the same page as you, or she's not. If she is, then you're set.