Help me quit - im screwin up bad

PLEASE HELP ME BREAK MY MENTAL ADDICTION TO WEED. how can I do this? It's tearing me apart.

Im really interested in this girl but whenever I hang around her I go and get high with my friends and then she leaves to go with some other friends or guys to hang out.

I am always promising me that I wont do it and I will hang out with her the night, but I ALWAYS give in to myself and I get high. No one likes me when Im high ( i am high right now ) so my friends took me home.

I feel like the biggest sucker in the world. I want to hang around this girl and get to know her and eventually see if she will want to start a relationship, but I always get high.

Help me stop this, it's fucking things up. I just want to have fun with friends, but I always fuck up and get high.


EDIT: I almost got caught by the cops. We were rolling a fatty when they rolled up and asked what we were doing. We barely got away. Its not even worth it.

wow that sux, its like tottal oppisite with me and chicks and getting high, none of my frreinds have aproblem with it. if you really think you have a problem then go seek profesional help....
- and ya it really is all mental, so try and avoid triggers that make you wanna smoke, and try taking up something else instead of smoking, i do hookah when i'm out of weed

find a girl that likes to smoke with you thats what i did:jointsmile:

if people don't like you when you're high, that's a bad sign that there's something deep within your character that comes out when you puff. With virtually no variation, weed brings out the true inner self. No offense intended, but even if you quit the herb that chick would probably find that you're ultimately incompatible.

You could try to quit, and maybe quitting will make you a better person, but it comes down to self-discipline. There aren't really many easy tricks to quitting a mental/physical addiction, and a lot lead to a situation where you're trying to fill the void left by no herb with something else. No matter what the substance is, you need to be content with your true self, and you'll see yourself the way others see you, and you'll be able to see and rectify the inner problems you have. This is also difficult, but keeping a journal and paying more attention to the world's problems than to your own will help.

All i can say is, always be thinkin if your feindin, i will not let a fucking plant conquer me, its all in my head, i can fucking do this. also keep youself busy so you dont get bored and have a relapse, its all in your head, i quit cigarettes after a year of smoking saying that very thing with no patches or bullshit. if you think you can do it, you can fucking do it.

Buy your own bud, so you don't have to leave
smoke less at a sitting
Try different strain

If all else fails, you may need to quit for a while all together, not just when you want to hang with this girl

If you honestly think you have an addiction, as far as I know, there's no recovery program for MJ. I guess maybe AA? Same principle, from what I've been told. My best friend is actually in recovery for MJ, too; she was smoking ALL DAY EVERY DAY. But she's in AA here; we have NA, too, but she said that's for the really hard-core people.

Other than that, like has been mentioned, keep yourself busy and remember the first couple of days are the hardest. The self-talk that was suggested was excellent advice, just keep telling yourself that you can do this, you're stronger than this, etc.

How bout this? Keep on tokin and fuck that girl anyway, be like: chill with your government bullshit, i like you and wanna be with you, my choice is what i choose to do and if i'm causing no harm why should it bother you?

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Originally Posted by Reefer Rogue

How bout this? Keep on tokin and fuck that girl anyway, be like: chill with your government bullshit, i like you and wanna be with you, my choice is what i choose to do and if i'm causing no harm why should it bother you?

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haha:thumbsup:

Cold turkeys the best method although can be very difficult...like said previously keep your mind busy....
...but wait..
Sounds more like you need to chill and think, get your mind at ease and understand your thoughts.

Personally when stuffs getting me down I like to smoke a bong and just close my eyes and dive into my mind..

Here's some good advice I once got if you're trying to give up anything..
Instead of saying something like '"I'm not gonna smoke for a week", try just saying to your self "just one day" or "Just one hour" or "Just one" anything, you know? It helps to break it down aye, if you just keep telling yourself just one more hour with no weed, then when the hours gone say it again.. Its a lot easier then saying your gonna go the whole day without bud.

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Originally Posted by cm8883

If you honestly think you have an addiction, as far as I know, there's no recovery program for MJ. I guess maybe AA? Same principle, from what I've been told. My best friend is actually in recovery for MJ, too; she was smoking ALL DAY EVERY DAY. But she's in AA here; we have NA, too, but she said that's for the really hard-core people.

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There is a Marijuana Anonymous but it's totally ridiculous in my opinion. Here are the 12 steps:

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The practice of rigorous honesty, of opening our hearts and minds, and the willingness to go to any lengths to have a spiritual awakening are essential to our recovery.

Our old ideas and ways of life no longer work for us. Our suffering shows us that we need to let go absolutely. We surrender ourselves to a Power greater than ourselves.

Here are the steps we take which are suggested for recovery:

1. We admitted we were powerless over marijuana, that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood God.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to marijuana addicts and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

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how about you just stop, its really not that hard, just dont do it, the only way to overcome any addiction is to convince yourself that you dont want/need it

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There is a Marijuana Anonymous but it's totally ridiculous in my opinion. Here are the 12 steps:

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haha, that really is some ironic steps to "trick" someone into believing in god. Basically they are saying that you're controlled by a higher power (weed) and you need to quit it to be controlled by another higher power (God). Doesn't sound very logical. I know people that have God addictions, which really hurts them socially b/c very few people can tolerate someone who constantly judges others based on their inner beliefs about religion.

Bro, you obviously have to believe in god and everything will be ok

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Originally Posted by coledog855

haha, that really is some ironic steps to "trick" someone into believing in god. Basically they are saying that you're controlled by a higher power (weed) and you need to quit it to be controlled by another higher power (God). Doesn't sound very logical. I know people that have God addictions, which really hurts them socially b/c very few people can tolerate someone who constantly judges others based on their inner beliefs about religion.

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AA, and its variants, are a freakin cult I tell ya.

My best friends mother has been a part of AA for about 10 years now, and you can just see the signs of a cult there. Such as AA members are only really supposed to date other AA members, and many other ass backwards rules...

Meh I say...

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I just want to have fun with friends, but I always fuck up and get high.

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I think you may be hanging out with the wrong crowd.

exactly what TCH420man said ^^^^^^

get high before you go out...and just chill. If they TAKE you home when your high.. You must act pretty immature or annoying.. lol. I say do what makes YOU happy, and try to make friends that get happy over the same things you do..lol :rasta:

yeh, find a chick you can chill with. If some chick is all irate with you tokin, shes probably gonna get all shitty with ya when you do other stuff (drink, sniff, trip...whatever).
dont change yourself for someone unwilling to change!

unless YOU feel the greens fucking you up! in which case change for yourself.

dude, if you wanna quit smoking weed the first thing i would do is stop coming to this forum. lol.
when i casually go to this site i always end up smoking shortly after. it just gets me in the mood when i talk about it.

One word: Alcohol, for a variety of reasons:

1) Chicks your age dig guys who can get alcohol
2) It'll loosen things up among your seemingly uptight friends
3) Youll like the feeling that drunkenness gives you, making you much funnier and smooth around the girl
4) You may realize that you like being drunk over high anyways, smoking truthfully isn't for everyone
5) Easy vagina; You'll forget about the mj-hating bitch within weeks, you'll meet a nice chick who likes to toke, and you'll fall in love

I take no responsibility if you turn up on alcohol.com's forums in a few years with a similar thread.

If you are getting a mental adiction then your mind is week. If you cant say oh I shouldnt have that 5th peice of cake you mind is week. I think no one likes you when your baked cause you bring them down. Their is no such thing as Marijuana addiction. If you think their is then you dont know what addiction is. Your problem is your a creature of habit and you cant break your habbits. Its not that you go off and smoke with your friend its you chose to go off with your friends and smoke. Im willing to bet money nothing is ever your fault, its always a situation or cercumstances, or bad luck. In life timing is everything, if you cant even get down your own timing you are not gonna get down anyone elses timing. YOu need to focus on somthing eles , like the girl why dont you have threads about her, why or what can I do to woo or get this girl. WEED IS NOT THE PROBLEM YOU ARE. Look at your name bra. why would you ever choose to go home and get stoned, I think you need to quite smokeing herb but that is the least of the problem. But admitting to it is the biggest step now you have to make an effort to change.

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Originally Posted by gohomegetstoned

PLEASE HELP ME BREAK MY MENTAL ADDICTION TO WEED. how can I do this? It's tearing me apart.

Im really interested in this girl but whenever I hang around her I go and get high with my friends and then she leaves to go with some other friends or guys to hang out.

I am always promising me that I wont do it and I will hang out with her the night, but I ALWAYS give in to myself and I get high. No one likes me when Im high ( i am high right now ) so my friends took me home.

I feel like the biggest sucker in the world. I want to hang around this girl and get to know her and eventually see if she will want to start a relationship, but I always get high.

Help me stop this, it's fucking things up. I just want to have fun with friends, but I always fuck up and get high.


EDIT: I almost got caught by the cops. We were rolling a fatty when they rolled up and asked what we were doing. We barely got away. Its not even worth it.

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You REALLY need to grow up.
Folks like you who claim their lives are falling apart because of a weed, need to own up to their responsibilities. If your smoking is CAUSING stress in your life...WTF? QUIT.
I'm sorry, I dont mean to sound like a dick, but this type of shit, makes me 'hard' so to say!

what do u do that makes people don't like you when you're high?

You can die from quitting heroin. Before you say you're "addicted" think twice. How about you look at yourself as a person instead of blaming cannabis. If you stop you won't die, hell... you will probally feel really good and sober. I smoke every day and take breaks now and then but I would stop immediately if my life seemed to be wrecked. You need to fix shit up before you start blazing hardcore again.

If you're trying to get with a girl who doesn't like getting stoned or isn't even pot friendly then you shouldn't smoke around her. Do you expect her to come crawling to you if you go smoke pot with your friends and ditch her? Damn. As for your friends, if you're a stoner you should have a good group of stoner friends you can smoke with and always rely on. My best friends are stoners and we all started smoking together before smoking pot was the norm in our age group. I've done tons of embarassing/weird stuff while high but my friends and I always laugh it off.

my :twocents:

this post sounds like the script of a DEA anti-pot commercial

I'm sorry, but this was the most unintentionally funny posts I've ever read in these forums.

But good luck to you, and I would agree that you're probably hanging with the wrong crowd. I used to do it myself, but now I usually only smoke by myself or with good friends that I trust.

I also feel that you're getting high all the time as an excuse to avoid contact with her because you're afraid of what might happen (ie rejection). You could even keep on toking, because I think the problem here is the underlying fear, the reason why he's getting high instead of getting laid is because he's hesitant about what's gonna happen.

This is probably a bad suggestion, but maybe a *little* bit of alcohol, just to loosen up, would be more helpful to you in this particular case. Well, it worked for me.

Good luck:thumbsup:

I know a guy that is a real dick when hes high... I think its true that the Inner person in you comes out when your high. Ive noticed that in myself specifically and I mature because of it.