Biggest Relationship Pitfalls

What do you think are the biggest relationship pitfalls?

I was in a relationship with a girl that didn't want me to smoke weed. All my friends were like "fuck her, I wouldn't let a girl tell me I can't smoke", but since I didn't smoke bud when I first got with her, I thought it would be unfair to have that attitude. Instead I just smoked behind her back..and that can be impossible with a girl that constantly wants to spend time with you. I still remember waking up at like 4 am and going into the living room so I could smoke a fat one, before laying back down in my room next to her, paranoid that she'd smell the weed on me.

I guess what I'm saying is...unless you can 100% be yourself around your girl, the clinginess can be excruciating.

COMMUNICATE!
TRUST!
and as Rapid Fire stated, be yourself.

lets see the last 3 serious relationships i have had ..... the most recent i got cheated on ASSHOLE the one b4 he went to college but he used the shit out of me. the one b4 that my parents got a restraining order on him ............................ lol and he got exspelled from school for making a underage kiddy porn movie i didnt no about ASSHOLE.
its never my fault lol


the biggest problem in relationships of mine is i cant pick them number 1. number 2. i dont communicate. like u said durbanstoner commincation is so important. i do this stupdi thing where i try and be the perfect gf, never bitching about anything. ill put up with a lot for awhile, then one day BAM i snap. they see the insane emotional side of me. and they likeme a lot less lol. you gotta get things out people, other wise the other persons gonna keep doing what upsets you. people can't know something bothers you unless you tell them. dont learn this the hard way .

Lack of communication... You have to be open with each other.

Dishonesty... Lies have a habit of coming back and biting you in the arse.

Family interference... Family is important but they shouldn't make your choices for you.

Friends... I was the mate no woman wanted thier friends to hang with , they all thought I would lead thier men astray with my wild bachelor lifestyle.Boyfriends and girlfriends that won't accept your friends,, or thier friends won't accept you ,, that can be a bit problematic and sometimes require a little bit of diplomacy.

And of course there's libido... A big difference in sexual appetites can be a disaster for relationships.

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I dont have an answer at this time

- the boy used to say fuck alot but i told him it offended me and he stopped

- jerking off behind my back i dont like. jerking off together is fine. he'll watch porn and i'll jerk off to him jerking off to porn. sometimes i get to pick what we watch when we are jerking and i can subtley get him to jerk off to guys getting blow jobs, its really hot for me because him jerking off to that is kinda homosexual lol.

- ill probably end up making more money than him. not sure how i feel about that one yet.

- he'll buy weed sometimes instead of taking me out to dinner

- i moved 2000 miles away from my family to be with him and i really miss my mom

- hes always hanging out with his friend since they are in business together and his friend says fuck in every other sentence. that is annoying. plus i want more one on one time alone with my bf. sometimes he'll ignore me and only talk to his friend.

- i have to clean up after him since i dont work atm but he says that he would if we had our own place so we'll see. (we live with his mom)

- his sister dumps her kids off at his moms house all the time (where we live) and they bug me sometimes. they always want on the computer which is in my room so i have to hurry up and get out of there so they wont whine

In marriage, I think a big pitfall is not working on it. That is, not working at making time to be together and bond as a couple.

Also, attempting to mind-read instead of just waiting to hear or asking and seeing what he/she says is up.

Nagging is not a successful tactic. Nor is anger. Nor is constant criticism.

Dishonesty

Completely ignoring a partner's likes/dislikes and/or strong feelings about something and doing it anyway is never a good thing.

definately communication. simple concept really but really hard to get into.
some things are easier said than done.

Getting too serious too fast. Don't rush into any relationship if you can help it. Take the time to get to know one another first. I've noticed that saying "I love you." to a guy too soon has the potential to freak a guy out.

Drugs

everyone is different, your gonna get different answers all the time, but in general the inderlying meaning is that there wasnt a 'match'. You have to know yourself before you can know someone else. Knowing what your downfalls are ahead of time, makes things a heck of alot easier in the long run. Just my opinion tho.

Most of all Comunication, if you can talk out your probems you are way ahead.
i would have to agree with libido also, likes and dislikes for food is way easier to live with then not agreeing on how much sex is enough sex. Tho people do change as the years pass in that reguard. Also, guys if the laundry has a basket..just pic up the laundry and put it there, or some day she will blow if she has to pick it up everyday for you for twenty years! Just cause she is a she does not make her a maid, and on the flip side, just cause he is a he does not make him a mechanic.

Poor communication
Incompatible life goals
Incompatible values
Meddling in-laws, ESPECIALLY those with incompatible values
Financial irresponsibility
Substance abuse
Unresolved issues with previous partners, including issues surrounding child-rearing after a divorce
Unresolved emotional problems from childhood abuse or a terrible family life growing up

These are just the ones I've personally had to deal with... and EACH ISSUE I listed has been the primary cause of at least one breakup.

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If your not both working to get ahead then you will endure many fights.