Printable View
Everything that can go wrong is going wrong. The asshole that still has my heart is now dating the girl he almost cheated on me with, I lost two of my best friends cause of a misundertanding, and I still have no place to live. I smoked a bowl but it made it worse, I just got aggitated and full of anxiety. I wish I could just erase him completely from my mind, like the way they do in that movie Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind. FUCK. I want to hate him, I NEED to hate him.
awww :( I wish there was something I could do to help! Shit, if only I could explain how I did it. I have almost no memory of my ex-girlfriend that I dated for almost four years, and theyve all been erased or suppressed in the last 6 months.
Just do me a favor and pick a good guy next time, so I dont have to worry ;)
i would suggest having sex with someone else. i heard that helps getting over someone.
i've yet to do it cause i dunno if i should be getting over my ex yet.
or you should give yourself something to look forward too. start working and save up money to buy you something really fun or maybe ever a bus ticket to visit a friend somewhere. you just gatta keep your mind occupied.
No matter how much I occupy my mind he still manages to sink in.
ok well go hang out with another guy. i know hanging out with the opposite sex when you should be getting over someone is seemingly a good way to get over someone, cause your like sorta putting all your energy into a new person. but that doesn't mean you gatta be serious.
or go pick a longboard and bomb a hill. if oyu didn't die you should feel like a new person.
just give it time. eventually even the biggest hurt will fade away.
It isn't easy. Time is the only cure.
You have to keep telling yourself that you will not let Mr. Asshole fuck with your head. It's a testament of strength and character. Demons don't let memories go away, but it's up to you to find that inner strength, and persevere.
Focus on the now: Finding a place to live, and doing everything to get back on your feet. To start a new beginning to your life.
One step at a time. Don't let everything rush at you, and when you do, meditate. It'll bring you tranquility and peace. Takes some practice to get to a state where all is clear. Try it!
Like the last couple of posts, time is your answer. After a while you'll look back and have a good laugh at yourself. And we'll all be here laughing along side with ya!
Been there and I know what you mean. Just give it time.
I thought I could never get over my last bf, I got really attached to him, and I let him drive me nuts. But after only a month or so of dating other guys Im finally like 80% over him. It makes me upset wen i look at his facebook and see him with other girls and stuff, but hey ive got other guys too so it's all good. Just give it time and you will look back on it and wonder why you cared so much. I know how hard it is, but you just gotta move on.
Sorry to hear about your friends and not having anywhere to live. Im sleepin on a coach right now. I feel your pain. But things will get better. Just keep your head up. As hard as it can be.
Well breaking up is a bummer. But it has happened to everyone reading this post. The fact is as everyone has already pointed out- in time you will get over this.
Being without a place to stay sucks. Since you live in California I can't help you out. But I am sure you will find a place to stay for a while.
Remember the best revenge is doing well in your life despite the assholes.
It's a shame you two can't have an amicable, platonic relationship if nothing else. I admit, when my g/f of 6 months broke up with me, i couldn't stop thinking about her. I still do think about her because this happened nearly a week ago, but not as much and now after that time, i feel more rational and confident. I don't really feel like risking getting rejected, rite now but in a little bit more time i will be. What really helped me is talking with true friends, they really put my situation in to the life perspective, the big picture. Although this may hurt before heal, one must think of the violent oppresion which trumps our own sadness. We must look to the murders of the innocent and focus our energy and prayers, if be it to those that need help more then ourselves. Through this act, we shall heal, though at first like a bandade, the feelings shall rush forth, after time, the feelings are felt no more. I wish you luck and a swift journey on the persuit of happiness. It exists without the need for a man, focus on you rite now.
Just always remember....you were breathing before him and you'll keep breathing after him...just take it one breath at a time...I don't know the details of the breakup, but remember he's an ex for a reason. And if he's dating the chick that he "almost" cheated on you with, I'd bet it's probably a pretty good reason. Give yourself time, focus on the important things (finding a place to live) and try not to stress yourself..easier said than done, but smoke another bowl and anything is possible. :)
i think it has to be one of the worst idea's to try and occupy your mind with something else Like some one stated fuck another guy or go find someone else. Yeah i dont know in what world that works but it wont in this. The simplest thing to do is just try and continue to take care of yourself, Go about your day, if ur thinkin about him, dont push it away, the more u try and suppress it the more emotional u will probably be about it. Most people and by most i do not mean me, seem to get by better by just continuing life, not brusihing it off, but taking and understading what it was for. If its one thing i have never understood is why girls like dick heads of guys...
look at it this way if he almost or mabye did cheat on you he did you a big favor cause ud never wanna be with an asshole like that anyway. it sucks but it wasnt meant to be.
Always be confident, and true to yourself. No person is worth risking yourself for. Its good to try and keep yourself as busy and positive as possible, positive energy will get you anywhere you want to go!
I don't know the background but I'm willing to bet he still loves you, if he doesn't then he isn't worth worrying about, easier said than done I know. If your break up wasn't on bad terms or something unforgivable then give him a call. Have a good chat, this way you you can get some sort of closure and put your mind at ease. Good luck with your current situation, and I hope it turns out for the best.Quote:
Originally Posted by ScaryMissMary
Ugh...been there done that way too many times and the only way it ever gets better is when you figure out how to let go. Life's a journey and this is only a bump in the road, right?
Sounds like you need a distraction to help get ya by the pain... not necessarily a guy but something that keeps your mind fresh and busy. Keep your chin up and remember that HE is an asshole, and YOU are better without him. Really, you are...
What's your sign and what is his? Just a question.
I'd tell you to turn on your careless attitude and make him complain his way out of the relationship, or what's left of it.
Just every time you go to thinking about him just think of all the loser qualities in him and stay dedicated to that frame of mind. And in time you'll be over him and hopefully under Mr. Right. Stay strong.
Im a Aries, and hes a cancer.Quote:
Originally Posted by beachguy in thongs
I was pretty hurt when i broke up with my last girlfriend i knew if i didn't we would both go crazy shes not the type of person to do it which i dont understand if she stopped loving me why not just dump me.
Anyway i got really depressed and turned to the booze everyday. i really hope your strong enough to stay away from this route. Theres going to be pain but the best you can do is just stay busy stay and be with family and friends they will always be there for you when your down even if there not the type of friends who will listen to your bitchin you know it will just make you feel better to be around them doing what you normally do. its hard to keep them out of your mind believe me but it will get better with time. relationships will come and go you will realize one day why your better off without him it took me a while to get over her but i finally understand why i dont need her anymore. sorry about the shitty typing and grammer its 4am and im beat.
I'm an Aries, and, have found that Virgos are harder to live with than Geminis.Quote:
Originally Posted by ScaryMissMary
According to:
Love Compatibility: Aries and Cancer
Quote:
(Aries and Cancer) must take time to listen to their partner's needs and understand that they're coming from different directions to meet a common goal.
Look at the bright side... You didn't get MARRIED to him. Either way, its not gonna effect your base rate of pay.
Now... quit feeling sorry for yourself, get a job, get a place to live, and carry on with your life. There is always a hell of a lot better out there.
Yes I have been married TWICE, now I have a GF that is the best thing that has ever happened to me. We have been together for 8 years, and nobody could ask for a better support system, or a more loyal friend.
I just went through the samething not even 2 months ago. I heard her name & it still makes me think. It's hard at first, it took me about a month & a half to fully feel like i was over her. You'll always have thoughts but thats normal. The way i done it was, tried to get away from the crowd that she still knows & talks too, i ended up meeting new girls just to hang out with & found that i could have fun again. It's alot of steps, i could tell you but truthfully, there's nothing but yourself that can make you get over him in time. You can try what i did, but you'll have to force yourself to get over him. Just tell yourself you can do it & push yourself to it. I wish you the best of luck, if you need anyone to talk to i'm always here.Quote:
Originally Posted by ScaryMissMary
GurlllllQuote:
Originally Posted by ScaryMissMary
I just broke up with my boyfriend on sweetest day, and man that movie was the first thing that popped into my head
I feel you on this one