returning the favor?

well heres my story, ive been dating this girl for about a month know and i absolutely adore her especially more than just sexual reasons! but heres the problem
i have gone down on her multiple times and its been great for her
the thing is she doesnt return the favor! not once in the entire time of dating has she..
im not trying to be an asshole but damn i dont wanna spend my entire relationship with her between her legs and not see a single bj!
how the hell can i tell her that shes giving me the blue balls and not be a complete asshole about it?!?!

Just ask her, kindly, when you guys are playing around, just wink and ask.

That or, she's had a horrible experience with BJ's, which I doubt.

You got to learn to talk about every facet of BOTH of yours desires, needs, wants. Many times if the talking doesnt begin, it wont last long. Same as when you and her have some time together, when the talking stops, usually something is wrong.

joke around about it, say.. oh now its your turn! ;). see her reaction thats all there is to it :)

"Do on to others as you would wish done on to you"

Id just stop. It is possible she just doesnt like the male member in her mouth, or she is just selfish and doesnt think about what you want.

jsut ask. ive learned that the more open about what you want about sex and things having to do with sex the better its goign to be. dont feel like its wrong for you to ask i mean its only fair

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Hell yeah, be a man and stand up for yourself and ask for one. Who cares? If shes doesn't want to..dump her.

well--just cuz shes holdin out on a bj doesnt mean you gotta dump her [if you truly care for the chick]


i mean you say you adore her for reasons beyond that of sexual attraction..so is it really that important that you getta bj from her, i mean hey at least your hittin it

I would its fucked up he went down on her so many times and she didn't return the favor.

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Originally Posted by ScaryMissMary

Talk to her about it, tell her how good her mouth would feel on you. How hot it would be to see her doing that and looking you in the eyes.

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I dont like when girls look up at me while preforming the deed, it makes me feel akward.

But seriously, its only been a month if you really like her stick with it, its just a blow job. Im sure the time will come and just think how great that time will be. Patience is a virtue.

Have you ever tried gently pressing on the back of her head to slowly force her face down toward your crotch?

Yeah ... that doesn't work.

It seem like a subtle form of communication, but somehow it's always taken the wrong way.

It might be that she's not really sure what to do, or is just uncomfortable with it. Or it could be something totally different. My wife has TMJ, so she can't take my huge bulging man meat into her mouth woithout having her jaw lock up for a week.

Dude, water will seek itâ??s own level. Meaning you have to be on the same page as the your with person to make thing work. If that is something that is truly important to you than tell her. If she cares about you than se will come up with some thing even if she hats doing it (I havenâ??t met a girl who didnâ??t). Now, if she just wount do any thing and she makes a big deal over it then you stop. And if she complains about you stopping then tell her why. It the problem continues then lever ass. There are millions of singles girls who are just as nasty and/or open as are so donâ??t ever settle for something you donâ??t like :thumbsup:

Tell here â??let me up grade youâ?� :thumbsup: then if she says no then tell her â??to the left, to the left if no BJ than move to the leftâ?� :jointsmile:

Can i have a blow job?

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Originally Posted by dragonrider

Have you ever tried gently pressing on the back of her head to slowly force her face down toward your crotch?

Yeah ... that doesn't work.

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LOL when I first read that I was like wtf lol anyway I wonder how many people read that and went on their merry way?

Try to have sex with her.

^^ yeah or 69!

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Originally Posted by beachguy in thongs

Try to have sex with her.

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I sure in the hell hoped you tride or did all ready.

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Originally Posted by igot4cheep

I sure in the hell hoped you tride or did all ready.

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I haven't, yet. Why?

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Originally Posted by ScaryMissMary

Yeah thats the way to do it. :wtf:


Thats a sure fire way to get it bitten off.

Talk to her about it, tell her how good her mouth would feel on you. How hot it would be to see her doing that and looking you in the eyes.

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Yeah the bitting thing is a killer, but I think actoins are better than word, coars you still have to have words and the bitting will make just about anyone stop. But then Im not just anyone ..............haha just givin you some shit girl I too like the eye contact during oral pleasurs, specialy when its my turn to go down.

Its funny reading half the responses to this. Truthfully maybe she doesn't want a dick in her mouth, if u asked her she might just tell you. Maybe she see's the selfishness in your desire to only give her face so u can get head. So in that case it might be a bad bet to even ask her. I mean don't get me wrong head is good :thumbsup: but it shouldn't be an issue if she just doesnt want to. You shouldnt give it, to receive it. Its like people who only give to get. and not give to give.

from what i read.....these two have not had actual intercourse yet, so if i have this right, he is going down on her and she does not go down on him. Are we saving the actual intercourse for marraige? If you are, get on the same page on the oral sex, like weather that is going to be a part of your sex life. take it from someone who has not been gone down on in 14 year and gives head all the time. GET ON THE SAME PAGE! if she does not like it now, chances are that she will not learn to like it. My husband never did, and i even gave up giving him head for a year to make my point, and it was me that missed out on giving all that head. Oh well...like i said, get on the same page, like understand what she will and will not do. if head is so important to you that you will not marry someone who wont give head, then maybe this girl is not for you.

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ask her if she wants to 69

I'm definitely up for giving. I hope I find a woman who is willing to return the favor. ;-)

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well--just cuz shes holdin out on a bj doesnt mean you gotta dump her [if you truly care for the chick]


i mean you say you adore her for reasons beyond that of sexual attraction..so is it really that important that you getta bj from her, i mean hey at least your hittin it

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Sorry, but unreciprocated oral sex DOES mean you dump her ass, especially after a month of it. Unless she has a damn good reason, such as she's been orally raped, it's a huge indicator of worse things to come, outside of sex, if she doesn't return the favor after so long.

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Originally Posted by Aristotle

Sorry, but unreciprocated oral sex DOES mean you dump her ass, especially after a month of it. Unless she has a damn good reason, such as she's been orally raped, it's a huge indicator of worse things to come, outside of sex, if she doesn't return the favor after so long.

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So, she's suggesting, you take her to a psychiatrist, and, see if they can come to the root of the problem. I think.

edit: How about, you two, seeing a marriage counselor?

*BUZZER* EEEEGGGHHH!!! hell nooo i don think so man bullshit. i think that is fucked.

ok listen up homeboy you are getting played. seriously. its even more than just the evil, sperm building anti-bj she has. it is to the fact that SHE is the one gettin off SHE is the one hit a switch pull a lever find a mf button.

plus it sounds like she could be anti-dick (lesbian @ heart)
in either case if she ever does she sounds like she would spit. irregardless the best way to win her over and the first time you guys have sex make love to her. make her scream, put in some serious work. give it all u got. and then after your incredible performance the ball is %100 in YOUR court. from there you can slow things down and call the shots. be sure your pace is smooth timing is everything.

best of luck bro spread the seed:thumbsup:




DONNY:stoned:

Simple! You point at your crotch and say: "That thing isn't gonna suck itself!" All kidding aside, just talk with her.

3 words for you my man, always works its really simple.

"Suck My Dick"

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Originally Posted by trainwreck530

*BUZZER* EEEEGGGHHH!!! hell nooo i don think so man bullshit. i think that is fucked.

ok listen up homeboy you are getting played. seriously. its even more than just the evil, sperm building anti-bj she has. it is to the fact that SHE is the one gettin off SHE is the one hit a switch pull a lever find a mf button.

plus it sounds like she could be anti-dick (lesbian @ heart)
in either case if she ever does she sounds like she would spit. irregardless the best way to win her over and the first time you guys have sex make love to her. make her scream, put in some serious work. give it all u got. and then after your incredible performance the ball is %100 in YOUR court. from there you can slow things down and call the shots. be sure your pace is smooth timing is everything.

best of luck bro spread the seed:thumbsup:




DONNY:stoned:

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Sounds like a trainwreck to me!

ok so i asked her to return the favor... that went so bad hahaha she bitched me out than like two hours later she called me saying how she felt bad and made so a big deal out of it... than i was like well i shouldnt have asked like that (there was a good reason why she hadnt)
so the next day i waited by her car before she got off school with a rose and said i was sorry for asking like that (even though i really wasnt, but wanted to seem really really romantic.)
and than i got my dick sucked and it was amazing not a single tooth hit! im drunk and happy to get that shit out of the way WGOASJSwhoa

woooo!

congrats on that

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good job :thumbsup:

i love a happy ending!:D right on