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HI ALL..
I,m a dad of 3boys,and i make it my business to tell my boys i love them every day,,just grab a few moments and stop the clock,and sit with them,each,mostly at bed time,but it means a lot to me to do this..
AS a child born in the 60s,and from ireland,our parents never told us,Now i dont think that had a bad effect on me,but i think its just a positive thing to be open and honnest with your kids..
Sometimes you may not feel like you love them,or even like them,but i just think its important..what do you think??????
:) :hippy:
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i tell my girl every time i communicate with her i love her and how proud i am of her. my mother died unexpectedly and because of that i try to let my daughter know how much i love her every minute of the day. She has grown into a loving responsible adult and i am so very proud of her. treat your kids with kindness and support them in what they do and you will always have thier love in return.
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It is highly important to tell your children you love them. Its all about making them feel confident and gives them a positive outlook about themselves. Praising them as often as possible is also a good booster for them. Whenever they do something cool, give it credence so they want to do more coolness.
Even when they do something not so cool, rather than call them a bad person, just point out that you didn't like that particular action, so they continue to know you love them, but not necessarily that behaviour they may have displayed.
I too have three boys...I love them and do they know it!
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I have told my daughters I love them almost every single day of their lives..also tell them how pretty they are and how proud I am of them for the accomplishments that they achieve.
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I think it's very important, too. I told our son nearly every day of his life, too, and I still do every time I talk to him, which is a couple of times a week. We showed him we loved him, too, in every way possible. Some of those he didnt like, like being told no or having limits set for him. But I think in time he'll understand that those actions were about love, too.
I'm lucky. I grew up with demonstrative, verbally and physicaly affectionate parents. So I'd had that modeled for me. When his time comes, I think our son will be a loving parent, too. I already intend on being an absolutely sickeningly loving, over-indulgent grandparent.
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Absolutely!! When my daughter was in the house I told her every single day, multiple times a day. She was an only child. I adored her! I also hugged her every day. Now that she has moved out I still tell her every time I see her. And we also still hug every time.
There is something I have said to my daughter for many, many years every time she leaves. I'll say " I love you. Be careful." And she will always say " I will, I promise. I love you too, mom!"
I love hearing it. Its kind of our "ritual"
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idk. i don't think it really matter. my mom is always telling me she hates me and to go live with my dad and i still think i'm a decent person.
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when i let my son out of the dog cage for his daily ten minutes
i slap him around and then before i put him back i tell him i love him
i dont think he believes me
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i tell em everyday all day, especially my daughter :D
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im a single dad of 4 and i always tell my kids i love them it is a positive thing to do :thumbsup:
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this thread makes me sad.... my mother has never told me that she loves me, she sure has taken time to tell me that she hates me and wishes i were never born because of who my father is.. i havent seen my dad since i was 5, and the only father figure i had, who i thought cared about me was, no, is a pedophile. i used to let it get to me, but i am not gonna let her coldness affect me... the way i see it, shes missing out, because when it comes to my family, friends and pets i am a very warm loving generous person.. she will never get to experience my affection. I do think that kids need to hear and learn how to be affectionate towards other people, but the fact that they grew up without, hopefully, will not have too bad of a negative effect.
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Originally Posted by Hilder420
this thread makes me sad.... my mother has never told me that she loves me, she sure has taken time to tell me that she hates me and wishes i were never born because of who my father is.. i havent seen my dad since i was 5, and the only father figure i had, who i thought cared about me was, no, is a pedophile. i used to let it get to me, but i am not gonna let her coldness affect me... the way i see it, shes missing out, because when it comes to my family, friends and pets i am a very warm loving generous person.. she will never get to experience my affection. I do think that kids need to hear and learn how to be affectionate towards other people, but the fact that they grew up without, hopefully, will not have too bad of a negative effect.
ditto..my mother was a nightmare to me growing up,she is still alive at 79,,and we tolerate one another just about..its an ongoing problem trying to get over her treatment of me growing up,,but i,m dealing with it,and most importantly i treat my kids with the utmost respect,and enjoy grabbing that bit of time every day to tell them just how important they are to me,and how much i love them..:) :hippy:
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Originally Posted by da dubs
ditto..my mother was a nightmare to me growing up,she is still alive at 79,,and we tolerate one another just about..its an ongoing problem trying to get over her treatment of me growing up,,but i,m dealing with it,and most importantly i treat my kids with the utmost respect,and enjoy grabbing that bit of time every day to tell them just how important they are to me,and how much i love them..:) :hippy:
thats great to read, you managed to break the horrible cycle that your mother inflicted on you. One of the reasons I dont want kids is because I'm afraid I will turn into my mother. All the shit she's done, or failed to do, the shit shes said or the same, failed to say. I don't want to feel responsibe for fucking up anyone elses life, or make anyone feel uneccesary hate. I can honestly say that I don't hate my mother anymore. I have a severe dislike for her and if all goes as planned with my sis and I movin out, I hope to not have to speak to her for a long long time and I would be perfectly happy not talking to her ever again. I've thought about changin my cell number so she won't be able to contact me, but decided agains it because I know one day, hopefully in the distant future she will need us and I will talk to her and depending on what she needs I will still be there for her, because above all she is the person who gave me life, but she should not expect affection from me. Shes an extreme megalomaniac, money grabbing, evil, compulsive liar and a thief who will say and do damn near anything to get what she wants and get money in her hands, and I've told her, when you get older, and can't work, your feet get amputated, and you can no longer take care of yourself, I will find someone to do it for you, donot expect me or my sister to hang around because you are a very destructive person with bad juju hanging all over you and the people around you. I will probably go broke trying to get her as far away from me as possibe, and she will never SEE a dime from me. I know these are horrible things to say especially about ones own mother, but its all true. She fucked us both over royally and she can't expect more than what shes given us. As the saying goes: you reap what you sow. I decided not to hate her, or anybody for that matter, not even my former step father who raped me for 7 years because it takes alot of energy and time to hate someone and honestly, thats more than they deserve from me. I'm trying to be a normal healthy happy person, and I succeed most of the time, and all I can do is keep trying. As long as I've got my sister, my best friend, my babies and my weed I will be allright.:smokin: Goddess willing of course.
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Hilder, I want to give you a big fat hug...just remember if you do ever have kids by chance someday to break that cycle...thankfully, we have MJ and it helps us do that...Love, D
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thank you darlin.. youre gonna make me cry...damn too late lol. the thing is that i see so much of my mother in me that it makes me panic sometimes. not the greediness or the evilness, the megalomania or the lying- ness(?) lol, but just that im ony 23, just staring my adult life and im already so jaded and cynical about everything including love and honesty. i just cant help but belive that she wasnt always the way she is now and that she was made to be that way because of the shitty life shes had as well.. then on the other hand she didnt have it as bad as i have, which makes me think that she likes being the way she is or doesnt realize she is the way she is. I laready know that i will never let myself fall in love again, and i feel bad because i know that i have alot of love to give but i cant get over the walls ive built around my heart to let some one love me, or let myself love someone else. i need a big fat hug too.. ever since i stopped seeing the dick to try a relationship with some one else,which failed miserably, and went somewhere it had no reason to go, i havent had a hug for about 2 months, and theres three things that make my days better, is a big bear hug from a man, a big fatty, and lovin from my dogs. well geo, i can at least imagine you givin me a big hug, and hurry up and get ur ass back here so we can keep havin fun conversations..- love hilder
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Damn i can type when im stoned! not bad for a mexican stoner if i say so myself... Anyway one thing i forgot to say.. please dont feel sorry for me Geo, if anything feel happy for me because considering, im actually doing ok.. and working towards better hopefully. I will not let the past bullshit get me down too often, and dammit, i will make it and above what anyone who did me wrong ever expected! - Kisses- Hilder
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I dont feel sorry...I just wanted to give you a hug cause your cool...I had a pretty fucked upbringing to and I always like people who strive to beat that cycle and become better and you are obviously doing it...Peace girl
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all you can do is try right? thanks Geo, youre pretty cool yourself.. and hot and nice and a stoner to boot...late- hilder
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Hilder, the fact that you don't want to treat your own kids the way your mom treated you proves in itself that you won't. When I was growing up, I don't recall my dad ever hugging me or telling me that he loved me. When I had my son, I swore that I would make sure he knew how much I loved him. I hug him every day, and tell him I love him -- every day.
It is possible for people to change. My dad was diagnosed with leukemia about 5 years ago, and since then he is a completely different person. He now makes it a point to tell me that he loves me, every time we talk, and he hugs me now. Of course, it'd odd for him to hug me now, I mean it just feels weird because he never did when I was a kid. And, it may be me, but it just seems a little forced, like he's doing it because he thinks he needs to, not because he wants to. And part of me wants to say "where was this man when I was growing up and *needed* it??" But... I'm thankful for the time we have now, because I don't know how much longer that will be, and I know he's making an effort to correct the mistakes he made in the past.
Anyway, don't be afraid to have kids just because of the way your mom treated you. I'm proof that you can change that cycle!
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I got two boys and they know I love um,I feel I got a strong family....We wrestle and play xbox and wii and stuff like that.
I grew up in a Great home,with good brothers and sister,I guess I carry on what my parents gave me,...I caught my fair share of beatings,but I always knew I was loved.I guess thats why I love Christmas so much,my kids are happy,everyone is happy,you gotta do what you can for your kids....So when they get older and have a family of their own,they'll know just how much you loved them.They'll remember the good times.
BTW,Good to see we got some Awesome Parents up in here.
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Sorry I don't really belong here because I'm just 17 and have no children of my own (thankfully haha), but I make sure to tell my parents that I love them too, I make sure every night before bed and when i leave for school in mornings. I think it's important to let them know that even though they ground me or whatever I still love them.
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I tell my kids every time I hear from them. they are both in college and living in the dorms. Both have pretty busy lives and just don't seem to have time for Dad much anymore.
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my kid was yelling at me that i dont love here because i make her do her chores and home work and yell at her occasionally, to do her stuff.
my reply was i love her very much just dont always like her attitude.
my son comes in before bed for his hug and i love ya .
dont always like they way they act but i will always love them no matter what and i tell them so, my dad to this day still doesnt say it unless i say it first, but he grew up when it wasnt manly to say that i guess.
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In the time that i lived with ym other she really never told me she loved me nor did she show much affection. My moms just a naturally cold person that has no need or desire for affection so she figgures nobody else needs some that special warmth that only comes from a mother. But now that I've been living on my owne for almost 4yrs our relationship has gotten a lot beeter. She actually shows me a lot more affection now, then she ever did when I grew up.
My father.. well he's is the prime example of what a father should be. Maybe it's becasue he hates my mother and sees it fit to take it out on me since he knows that's the only way to get to my mother. He's never realll been the one to care about anything but himself. He expects me to call him and check on him but everytime I do call he says he's busy and he will call me back.. Surprise surprise, he never calls back. So I stoped calling.
Luckily now that my partner and I have the most amazing Little girl. We never let a day go by without us telling her we love her at least 30 times. lol. I will always try to show and tell her how much I love her everyday of her life..