How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
Two years ago I was in my first "real" relationship, the kind where you move in together with the hope of living happily ever after, maybe adopt some pets and talk about marriage and all that wishful junk. I'd smoked a good bit in my day, was one of those stoner chicks in high school but made the mistake of moving on to harder things. By the time I fell in love and tried to build a life with this guy, I'd stopped traveling, kicked the drugs, and was sober on the whole (I don't think bud or drink count). I thought it was nice to meet someone that I could smoke out with, cook some dinner, cozy up in bed with, etc etc.
Man, was I wrong. This guy almost put me off of weed forever. At first it seemed pretty harmless...we'd go halves on whatever we bought, and his friends from work would come over and smoke with us, watch some telly, have fun. Pretty soon, though, I was the one buying all the time. I'm not stingy with my weed, but after a while it got annoying to see him blow all of his money going to bars and clubs, and then come back and take all of my stash to go smoke with some mysterious "friends." It got to the point where I stopped smoking entirely because I hated seeing what he was like when he smoked. Maybe it happens in all relationships, but eventually I got annoyed at hearing him tell the same Ali-G related jokes over and over, got tired of him being lazy and selfish in the sack, of him sneaking money out of my wallet in the mornings because he'd already spend his paycheck.
Not smoking weed had a bad effect on me, too--I became one of those crazy, hysterical girls, always calling to ask him where he was, demanding that he stop going out every night and spend time with me, telling him to stop getting high and get his life together. I hated being that girl. Weed always made me chill out and have perspective, but without it, I couldn't deal with him without getting pissed off and bitchy. After a year, he was getting pretty abusive and I caught him cheating a couple times and left him. I didn't think about him much after that, but one of the worst things I got out of that relationship was that I couldn't stand weed for the longest time. I just kept associating it with those bad times, and I assumed that all potheads were secretly cheating, wife-beating mofos who'd only date me to get smoked out all the time.
I got over it around a year ago (thank god), because of a friend of mine who insisted that it was all in my head. I've dated here and there, whenever I found a decent guy to smoke and chill out with, and it's been pretty good so far. I've pared it down to about an 8th a week now, just enough to be functional for work and school, but I definitely enjoy their company better when I'm high.
Yeah, anyway...hah, this was so pointless. sorry.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
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Originally Posted by lemonhead
Not smoking weed had a bad effect on me, too--I became one of those crazy, hysterical girls, always calling to ask him where he was, demanding that he stop going out every night and spend time with me, telling him to stop getting high and get his life together. I hated being that girl. Weed always made me chill out and have perspective, but without it, I couldn't deal with him without getting pissed off and bitchy.
Not smoking weed didnt' make you go hysterical and clingy, it was the way HE was treating you. Weed had nothing to do with it. He wasn't treating you right and the way you were use to being treated when things first started out with you two.
It's good you've moved on cause he doesn't sound like the dude for you.
But keep on toking and chillin with friends. The right toker will come along soon. :thumbsup:
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
fer sure. thanks.
weed does help me get through PMS without ripping somebody's balls off, though.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
your post was far from pointless... when someone takes the time to type all those letters it's everything but pointless..
this being your first post and all and having so much meaning.
i can't say much since you don't mention any questions.
keep up that attitude... it seems you have found positivity in cannabis and that's what we(on this here wonderful site)are all about........i think
welcome to the site.
even if you don't stay and reply to some of the random thoughts---like yours--- from all the smart people on this site, read and learn.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
Haha well thats good :)
Weed is wonderful. Welcome to the forums btw :jointsmile:
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
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Originally Posted by lemonhead
fer sure. thanks.
weed does help me get through PMS without ripping somebody's balls off, though.
We can only thank god for that then , :D
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
thanks dudes.
i never got into the whole internet forums thing, but i stumbled into this last night and thought it was pretty cool. nothing like knowing that other people are doing the same thing you are at 1 in the morn.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
guess what.. it's 4 in the morning where i am.
and if you saw me in "real life", I don't think you would ever believe I'd be on a "internet forum thing" at 4 in the morning. lol
once you get past the whole "internet" part you realize all you are doing is "interacting" with other people.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
I'm on here till around 6 a.m. usually just cause I have a hard time sleeping if I'm not high and my town is DDDDRRRRYYYYYYY :(
It's a fun site to chill on even if you don't post. Just lurk around and read.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
sheesh. that blows. i'd probably be madly scraping at my pipe.
i thought about lurking, but people seem less scary-angry here than usual (...i wonder why) so it wasn't too traumatizing to post
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
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Originally Posted by Veratyr Star
It's a fun site to chill on even if you don't post. Just lurk around and read.
exactly....someone once told me;
to learn about yourself, it helps to know how other people reason and react.
in this case, you read other peoples thoughts.
that's all this internet forum thing is to me.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
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Originally Posted by lemonhead
sheesh. that blows. i'd probably be madly scraping at my pipe.
i thought about lurking, but people seem less scary-angry here than usual (...i wonder why) so it wasn't too traumatizing to post
read around and you'll be disappointed. it's sad to even give such opinion but people are the same all over the world, wether they are "peaceful" cannabis smokers or not.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
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Originally Posted by Spoken Word
read around and you'll be disappointed. it's sad to even give such opinion but people are the same all over the world, wether they are "peaceful" cannabis smokers or not.
first off, i'm kind of excited to be doing my first boxy quote thing.
but why the quotes around "peaceful"?
i tend to think that since cannabis tends to promote a deeper understanding of things, and it is difficult to remain angry at the things you come to understand, then cannabis would make people inclined to be more in harmony with each other.
man i sound like a hippie.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
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Originally Posted by lemonhead
first off, i'm kind of excited to be doing my first boxy quote thing.
but why the quotes around "peaceful"?
i tend to think that since cannabis tends to promote a deeper understanding of things, and it is difficult to remain angry at the things you come to understand, then cannabis would make people inclined to be more in harmony with each other.
man i sound like a hippie.
And what's a hippy? Someone that thinks of peace first?
After seeing the worst of what a human is capable of......I prefer being "peaceful".
Don't get me wrong, cannabis helps but if you can't find harmony without any influences, you need help.
Maybe it's because I've never had any mental illness but I don't see the need in drugs.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
Cannabis makes you feel relaxed. There is no need for most, it's definitely a want.
It's just something to do with friends. Passing a bowl/blunt/joint around and chillin. Getting high and geeking. Laying back, thinking and relaxing.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
ohh. ok. i thought you were implying with the quotes that cannabis smokers aren't peaceful.
but you were actually trying to say that it's not the ONLY way to be peaceful, yeah? well, i don't see any reason to argue with THAT.
the hippie remark was supposed to be ironic. people tell me that i sound like a damn hippie all the time. let's not argue.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
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Originally Posted by lemonhead
sheesh. that blows. i'd probably be madly scraping at my pipe.
i thought about lurking, but people seem less scary-angry here than usual (...i wonder why) so it wasn't too traumatizing to post
Scary-angry? Is that what we are to you? lol!
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
Wow, all men who lay their hands on girls should be demoted to a sub-species.
How I learned to stop worrying and love the bud
Hi my dear, welcome to the boards. You were SO right to dump that loser! Female tokers are a rare breed! (We are out-numbered on the boards about 5 to one.)
So honey, you need to realize you are unique and in demand! We get around a thread a month here asking "Where are the female tokers/growers?" And 99.9% of the dudes here are FAR superior to your ex when it comes to how to treat a lady! I'm sure a bunch of them will be chiming in soon to welcome you.
Don't feel nervous about posting, we are friendly (and usually stoned) here! :jointsmile:
Granny:hippy:
