Is it a feeling? Or are there certain changes you find in yourself that let you know it's for real?
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Is it a feeling? Or are there certain changes you find in yourself that let you know it's for real?
how do you know you're in love? when you dont have to ask.
When these words pop into your head:
"Thinkin' of you's workin' up my appetite / Looking forward to a little afternoon delight / Rubbin' sticks and stones together makes the sparks ignite / And the thought of lovin' you is getting so exciting." Then you're in love.
But in all seriousness, you will just know. You will suddenly realize, "I love this person. I just love them." You will want to hold them more than ever.
Are you talking about general love or love and sexuality? I think as far as just generally loving someone, most people know when that happens esp. because they put forth an effort to do that. If you love someone just because you have common tastes or similar interests like baseball or baking cookies that's not really love. Love doesn't have partiality.
The whole idea of "falling in love" is flawed from the start. Love requires both parties to put forth an effort to love the other person and express love through words and actions. It's true though that you can feel love for someone because of honorable traits such as courage or honesty or humility.
That's not to say that being sexually attracted to someone else is wrong, but that's not the basis of love at all. It shouldn't ever be the prime consideration in whether you love someone or whether you want to love someone. Relationships that recognise the attractiveness of the body as part of the character of another human being are superficial and will ultimately fail. It's irrelevant. It's an extra bonus that we really shouldn't put too much emphasis on.
The love we have for others should be the same way we would want to be loved. Deeply, sincerely, faithfully, willing to take sacrafices and spend time and energy to love another and show them you care. After all, it's greater to give than receive.
So I think instead of asking that question you should be asking these questions : What are honorable traits that I find lovable in another human being? What can I do to love another and grow a better relationship?
Hope that helps.
Im not asking for me Im very aware Im not in love. Im just asking how others tell.Quote:
Originally Posted by higher4hockey
Hmmm... well personally that answer has morphed and evolved over the years and the past few relationships, to mean something totally different for me. However, with significant relationships in my past, I knew I was in love when I couldnt stop thinking about that person. Every person and every stupid thing I saw would somehow remind me of her in all sorts of cheesy ways lol. I would be overwhelmed by the desire to completely devote myself to this person and ensure that their quality of life was regally supreme. All the little idiosyncracies that she considered flaws, or that others might, I was madly in love with. She was perfect in my eyes. ... Thats how I knew.
Now... those intense feelings are kind of dispersed over the majority of the female population, until such time that a woman manages to metaphorically tackle my ass, pin me down and make me cry uncle. Then the majority of those feelings will coallesce upon her once again. Bonus points if she can physically tackle my ass and pin me down lol, I might marry her on the spot :p
^i kno wut u mean wen u say you don't see there flaws ... its like kissing a guy with bad breath, I would care and get grossed out if it was some random guy I was hooking up with, but if it's my boyfriend with morning breath after a night of tacos and beer I couldn't care less
last time i fell in "love", took me almost a year of dating him, i knew i was in "lust", i just wondered if i would ever "love" him. Then one day, much to my surprise, he was fixing the car, some part would not come undone, and instead of kicking the car, the dog or me, he just put the thing back together and said he would fix it later, when he had the right tool. I stood in that doorway watching him and it dawned on me almost like a blanket comming over me, I love this man....i love everything about him. Glad that car needed fixing, cause i had just started wondering if i would ever "fall in love" with him and should i move on? I have been married to him for seven years, and with him for 14. I will never forget that day....realizing i did indeed love him. It took time that time, and i was old enough to know the difference between love and lust. And lucky enough that he put up with me for that year doing some really stupid things trying to drive him away from me, not wanting to be hurt again.. He knew before i did, i guess. Big smiles here just remembering that day, watching him not kick the car or the dog or me.
hehe exactly... its like you even get used to their bad breath and dont even notice it as such anymore... how intriguing..Quote:
Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
awwww tender storyQuote:
Originally Posted by inbud
yeah bad breath used to be the one thing i didnt like about sleep overs, and i used to get up b4 he did so i could brush my teeth -- to be seemingly perfect right. hahaha fuck that now though idc i wait until after my breakfastQuote:
Originally Posted by GraziLovesMary
God damn right!Quote:
Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
I'm 40 years old, and never knew the answer to your question until lately. I just hope I can find it again.
It feels like the bottom drops out of your soul and you can experience everything much more vividly.
You know when your hair falls out, large open sores form over your flesh and your gums start bleeding... No Wait .. Thats radiation poisoning ... Close Enough....