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And you are pretty much happy and in love.
Do you wonder what it's like to be with someone else? Like you see someone on the street, and sorta wonder hmmm...that person is cute, I wonder what it'll be like to go out with them on a date? Not acting upon it at all....
those are bad thoughts. a power drill will rid your head of such demons.
I have been with my husband a long time. Long enough that I've pondered that very question.
My conclusion is the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. It just looks greener from where your standing. Once you jump that fence, you will find it needs watered and mowed and fertilized just as much, and quite possibly more, than the lawn you've just abandoned. I say more because it takes a while to develop a trusting relationship. You'd have to start that all over again. Not an easy task. I know it's very simple terms, but hey I'm a stoner. Sometimes I need simple terms!
There are obvious deal breakers, but just weigh your options very carefully. Once you cross that line, you may not be able to get back.
Just my personal experience, and my :twocents::thumbsup:
yeah i'd say so... :p (as in am i happy)
Nope, never. In fact, I rarely even find other guys attractive. I am really happy in my relationship. Sure it's not all happy and great all the time, we have our issues, as we all do-but we always know we can work through anything.Quote:
Originally Posted by thcbongman
I feel the longer we have been together the easier it is to work through things. The longer we are together the easier and better our relationship gets.
I look at other people and appreciate my boyfriend more, as I know he is a great guy and I am very very grateful for him.
Its like being in a reastraunt and you order a hamburger. Well there is nothing wrong with admiring another mans steak, Just remember what you ordered.
As for me I have learned this the hard way, I have screwed up several times in my marriage and it almost cost me the woman I love. Never again will this happen, You cant act on your emotions if you have been in a long relationship let alone a marriage. Im now a one woman kind of guy.
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I am lucky enough to have found the perfect woman for me.
Why would I want to screw that up?
I consider myself happy and in love with my husband. But I also know that those thoughts do occur fairly naturally. Curious, imaginative minds work that way, and it doesn't necessarily mean that those thoughts have to be acted upon.
word, just because u have thoughts doesnt mean u will act upon them. i hate when bible beaters tell me thinking about sinning is the same as actually sinning.Quote:
Originally Posted by birdgirl73
It's completely natural to wonder about those kind of things bongman. No worries, part of being a human.
That's all I wanted to know.
I'm just so in love with someone, it's a type of love I never felt before. No matter that's she apart right now, the love I have for her energizes me, she's the one that's in my dreams. When I see a girl that's smokin' hot, I kinda wonder, but I want the focus to be solely on her. I simply don't want to screw that up, not that I'll act upon it. I would never hurt anyone like that.
You bet I have those thoughts. Tho id never asct on them.
yes most everyone finds others attractive. the thing is when we do we even talk about it. we are together but we really went for someone who really wouldnt be our "type" go figure.
Yeah when I was with my ex I was perfectly happy with the idea of spending the rest of my life with her, but my ever calculating and imaginative mind couldnt help but wonder what it would be like with various different people. I never would have acted on it though, just like most people here.
I have been married for going on 3 years so we are still in that newlywed state, but I woud do George Clooney if the opportunity arose. I am fair though I would let my husband do Jessica Alba, other than that I do not wonder
No i don't wonder what it's like to be with someone else. I don't waste my time thinking about other girls in that way. I'm very happy and grateful to be with the girl i'm with. I would be the biggest idiot in the world to cheat on her. I've never cheated on a girl and i never will.
When I get feelings like that I just remember all the good times and good conversations I have had with my girl and it makes me forget other attractive women I see. Sure I could probably leave my girlfriend and go try to have sex with someone who might look better but how likely is it that they are a perfect fit for me and have all the same ideas about rasing kids and have the same goals as me. And in the end everyone is all wrinkled and old so why not get someone who will sit on the porch and talk with you for hours.
I feel I have to add, that although I would have thoughts about what it would be like with other people, that doesnt mean I WANTED to be with those other people. My mind just cant help calculating future event horizons in ANY format it seems. Just something to do to pass the time lol.
I WISH I was in a committed relationship. I've had my share of meaningless sex and I'm positive I was born for a committed relationship. im a romantic, just like my father. that's why i have high standards.
If any of you are in one, cherish it. Cause people like me are waiting for you to mess up;) lol... just kidding..............
Everyone has those thoughts from time and time again... We are only human,, And our natural instinct is to Create Life...
Well at least from a Male side anyways...
their Fantasys. And from what I understand are totally natural.
Now thats just a sexual thing,, but yeah I've had thought of others and some that I know, some I have never meet etc. But I know,, THE GRASS ONLY LOOKS Better It really isn't.
The one time in my life when I decided to jump the fence and go to the Supposed greener grass.. I was welcomed,,, but I found out that it wasn't greener,,, then got slammed and found my self with No grass at all in the end.... The lesson was learned..... I was a college student at the time but I will never forget that....
So in short everyone has thoughts and Fantasys but yeha acting on them Is terribly wrong.
If you lie to your partner,, Only you get hurt in the end... because some times the partner will never find out about it but you have to live with the lie every day.....
kd
I will look at guys on the streets and think they are cute because hey just because you ordered doesnt mean you cant look at the menue. but the thought of dating them only came into my head recently when i realized i need to run from the man im with . god i hope i meet someone new soon!
but when i am in a good (well as good as its been for me) relationship, i dont see the point of wanting to date around, because if your wanting that then you need to just end it.
yes that is why for some reason it wouldnt (Well i say this with out really knowing) upset me too much if a guy cheated on me as long as it was purely physical because i feel like guys are programmed to want to spread there seeds, and women are bread to be the nuturing ones.Quote:
Originally Posted by kdspecial
ah but fuck that I would feel totally worthless if i was cheated on. it makes sence to me on a non-emotional level if that makes any sense
Nah dont subscribe to that nonsense. You deserve more than that... dont accept any bullshit, if a dude cheats on you, ditch his pathetic ass. There are people out there who would make an excellent boyfriend, that would have NO desire to cheat on you....Quote:
Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420