College relationships

Since I treat the people of cannbis.com like my shrinks heres another thing I need some advice on ... My bf and I havent been toegther very long its been about 3 months (not counting the time we were together the previous year but it was strictly a sexual relationship) but things have changed since then, we have been through some rocky shit but we have something between us we always go back to, and recently things have been really good between us ... thanks to the advice of some people on here I have been able to communicate with him better and it has really made us closer. Me and him aren't really ones to think about tomarrow and it has recently hit me that I have less than a month to be with him. I have spent a lot of time and put in a lot of effort to this relationship and I'm not ready for it to be over. I always assumed that when he went away (a college about 5 hours away) we would be done because he has expressed that he's not the commited type. So last night he is asking me if I was going to persue a relationship after he leaves, I said yeah because I didn;t want to lie, and he said some stuff that made me really happy but confused, about how he wants to still be toegther and he doesnt want me ebing with other guys (he has never said anything like that b4) and that he is probably going to a college right in the city im living in. (Im not going to college just yet I just got an apartment and Im not really sure if im going to go or not)
so basically have any of you had a realtionship work out while the other was away? could you be exculsive?
I was thinking that it could be a dont ask dont tell sort of thing, but im not one for one night stands and I dont want a STD from him. Ahhhh what the hell should I do I really like this guy, and I'm more than ready to be faithful and serious with him. and advice is greatly appriciated.
thanks agian guys :rastasmoke:

I'd try it if I were you. It may not work....but how are you going to know unless you try? As for an STD....of course you use protection so that's NOT EVEN A QUESTION IS IT YOUNG LADY. :wtf:

Seriously, everyone puts their butt on the line in a relationship....IF they want to improve or make it better. It's the only way relationships grow....REALLY grow.....
You need to decide if you are willing to put the work in yourself and see if the boy can walk the walk. There are no guarantees.

Good luck. :)

Me and my girlfriend had been together for about 1 1/2 years before I went off to college ( Shes younger and was still in H.S. ). My college was about 8 hours away, but we managed to do it the whole year ( I saw her about a weekend a month). We recently went seperate ways because we didn't see eye to eye on things that i don't think we ever would of . But it worked out great, as long as you got trust thats all you need.

it's worth a shot, but i wouldn't put all my eggs in one basket... and why you worried about std... is he dirty?

If it's going to be a long-term relationship I don't know if I'd pursue it, but if you're going to be in the same city you might as well. It sounds like you really like the guy, so I say go for it. :thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by HighTillIDie

it's worth a shot, but i wouldn't put all my eggs in one basket... and why you worried about std... is he dirty?

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No not at all, he always used a condum with me until we had been with each other for awhile and knew one another was clean, so i kno i wouldnt get one from him, i shouldnt have sed that i just dont like the thought of him getting with other girls. but it really doesnt bother me that much just because i know he will come back to me at the end of the day, and as long as he doesnt care about the other girls it wouldnt bother me.
i am going to stick with it because im not ready for it to be over yet, but i am not going to shut out the idea of having a relationship with anyone else. i think im going to go on dates, while hes going to go to his parites, and see what happens, see who i like more and where things are going. thanks for adivice from everyone i appriciate it, and i wont kno unless i try so well se what happens

If you really see a future with this guy stick with it and DON'T go on dates with other guys, cause if he finds out your relationship will probably be over. If you don't see a real future with him then forget all the work you put into the relationship because it really doesn't matter.

You have to make a tough choice, and it depends on your inner strength. You have to be honest with yourself.

You'll be surrounded by all kind of good looking guys. The temptation is there. Many good people with strong morality fail to resist. It requires trust, and at times blind faith.

It's your choice. However, you indicated you wanted to go on dates, which is a sign of you want to enjoy your youth and explore. Don't hurt the guy if you really like him. I think the guy is starting to emotionally brace himself, just something you should consider.

Its college! He's going to be banging everything in a 10 mile radius.lol
Maybe not but he's young and male and the hormons are running rampant.If there's an opportunity he's going to jump on it.
If he's ugly 4 foot tall and 300 lbs you got nothing to worry about.

lol shhhh blindman, there are some lessons, only life can teach

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Originally Posted by Blindman0v0

Its college! He's going to be banging everything in a 10 mile radius.lol
Maybe not but he's young and male and the hormons are running rampant.If there's an opportunity he's going to jump on it.
If he's ugly 4 foot tall and 300 lbs you got nothing to worry about.

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That's my answer too

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Originally Posted by Blindman0v0

Its college! He's going to be banging everything in a 10 mile radius.lol
Maybe not but he's young and male and the hormons are running rampant.If there's an opportunity he's going to jump on it.
If he's ugly 4 foot tall and 300 lbs you got nothing to worry about.

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Damn thats what I was afraid of, and no hes 6 1 and really good looking anddddd he has a good game, b4 me he was kind of a slut, but hes grown up a little and changed, and i hope he stays that way.
This is so confusing because on one hand I'm worried that he just wants me to stick around because he knows I will and he knows I wont get mad at him for having a good time, Like who wouldnt want to have a gf at home waiting to fuck them everytime he comes back for visists. And I wouldnt want him to call me randomly one day and be like it's over, and I would have been sitting around without a boyfriend when I could have been out looking for anew one. I mean I'm really young and all but I don't want to waste time missing him for nothing. And if I was to go out on dates I would be honest with him about it, because I'm not stupid and I know he is going to hook up with other girls, and I will be ok with it as long as he tells me and assures me it wasn't anything deeper. Ahhhh I'm going to just try and make it work, see how it goes.

ummm you say youre okay with it now but i think once this guy actally starts fucking other girls you'll be hurt and angry. If you say 'no' youre lying because you obviously care enough to come here and ask for advice abot making this relationship work.

Him fucking other girls = relationship not working too well.

Just sit down and talk to this guy, that and giving it a go is the only way you'll ever figure anything out.

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Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420

Damn thats what I was afraid of, and no hes 6 1 and really good looking anddddd he has a good game, b4 me he was kind of a slut, but hes grown up a little and changed, and i hope he stays that way.
This is so confusing because on one hand I'm worried that he just wants me to stick around because he knows I will and he knows I wont get mad at him for having a good time, Like who wouldnt want to have a gf at home waiting to fuck them everytime he comes back for visists. And I wouldnt want him to call me randomly one day and be like it's over, and I would have been sitting around without a boyfriend when I could have been out looking for anew one. I mean I'm really young and all but I don't want to waste time missing him for nothing. And if I was to go out on dates I would be honest with him about it, because I'm not stupid and I know he is going to hook up with other girls, and I will be ok with it as long as he tells me and assures me it wasn't anything deeper. Ahhhh I'm going to just try and make it work, see how it goes.

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In all seriousness here Miss 420 if he likes rooting around like a dog in heat while just keeping you at home for back up you need to take a hard look at the relationship.Have some respect for yourself.If he was hosing girls before you met he'll be hosing girls after you leave. Just be sure and look after your self first and if you think your getting something positive out of this relationship then stay,but if he's just using you for sperm depository move on.I'm sure there are lots of guys that would like to spend some time with you.