Will it ever be the same?

Ok, well I DIDNT take anyones advise and tried to get my girlfriend back when she broke up with me a few days ago.

She said she will be with me again which makes me soo happy

but for my first question...she said she just wants some space..

We were fighting a lot when we were together but Ive done a lot of thinking and I know exactly how to cut down fighting...

anyways...what exactly does she mean by that? It makes me sad because it feels like she doesnt want to be with me a lot. But at the same time, im sure she has a reason? right?

Second question...Ive noticed she has been hesitant to say "I love you"

I swear to God 2 days before we broke up she was hugging me and kissing me like we'd be together forever...

Now she is being kind of distant....

Will it ever be how it used to?

Is there anything I can do?

Im so depressed right now, I just want everything to be like it used to be.

SAME THING HAPPEND 2 ME...SHE LIKES U AND STUFF BUT SHE GOT BORED/TIRED OF U OR BEING WITH U

the brutal truth is, probably not. But, if you're willing to go for it, and make of it what you will, then who knows? If you think it's worth trying for, then do it.

I couldn't tell you for sure(if it will ever be the same) but I really don't think so.
I'm going to be honest with you. I think you should start thinking about life without her.
This problem happends to a lot of people.
Start letting go of her, little by little.
I know it seems hard but by the looks of it, the relationship is running on empty.
She might start getting annoyed or start looking for stuff in other places, if she hasn't already.

One of the great things about love and heartbreak is that, with time, it heals itself. And then when you meet your next partner, it starts all over:jointsmile:

sad...

I asked her the same question...

and she said "Well duh"

That made me feel better, but I hope she is not just saying that

For your emotional well-being, I'd leave, unless you find the strength to give each other some space.

well duh?

lol she seems... distant.

What is it with the guys? Do you just turn on a light switch, slap each others butts, do a high five and everything is "the same again"

Dude...I find this amazing. I asked her back. She said yes. Now I'm so depressed because its not the way I want it. Absolutely nowhere in this thread did anyone talk about how SHE might have been affected by all this. Sensitive new-world men....my ass!!!

Yeah, speaking as a woman.......I'd be distant too. Sounds like you two need to sit down and have a serious talk and guess what.....you should start. You want her to trust you again? Better start giving her a reason.

I've changed my act.

Im kind of one of those hippy people who criticize everything about everyone else, not because I want to be better...but because I dont like material shit...

anyways...Im trying to change...

Im trying to keep my thoughts to myself, because all the comments aren't really necessary to begin with..

Im just trying to be a nicer person in general

Im not saying she is perfect and needs no improvement on her personality...

but honestly, im too scared to ask because I dont want her to get mad at me...

and I've learned to deal with it anyways....

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anyways...what exactly does she mean by that? It makes me sad because it feels like she doesnt want to be with me a lot. But at the same time, im sure she has a reason? right?

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Weedhound,

I am very concerned about how she feels about it

She has to have forgiveness in her heart. No matter what you do, unless she truly forgives you, nothing can progress.

But nothing will come of it if you don't have a real talk with her. Miscommunication is causing a lot of problems. You gotta say how you feel, and make it clear.

Usually when people say they "want space" it means they are reconsidering their options. You say you're afraid to ask and you don't want her mad at you. (smart thought btw) so that puts you in the position of "wait and see." At this point she may not really know HOW she feels about you. This can be both good and bad....starting "semi" over can be good for a relationship if everyone has learned from it but it can also be a thorn in future arguments (you guys fight alot you said) The most you can do here is be supportive and float around in the wings without invading her "space." She'll notice.....believe me. ;)

Good luck. ;)



Good luck. ;)

what do you want us to tell you? we gave you the best advice and you went against it anyways... even tho pretty much everyone agreed to the same conclusion...

what does it matter what we tell you now? if we say no, you're probably just gonna stay with her anyways hoping we're wrong, yet again.

i warned you dude... you're in for an even longer harsher road this way... just mark my words and watch...

shoulda listened to us the first time, honestly.

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what do you want us to tell you? we gave you the best advice and you went against it anyways... even tho pretty much everyone agreed to the same conclusion...

what does it matter what we tell you now? if we say no, you're probably just gonna stay with her anyways hoping we're wrong, yet again.

i warned you dude... you're in for an even longer harsher road this way... just mark my words and watch...

shoulda listened to us the first time, honestly.

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Just think of it this way, it's not gonna get any easier, if not harder to end it so why don't you just do it now so you can get rid of the pain sooner?

Well as they say.. "absence makes the heart grow fonder" so i guess theres nothing you can do but give her the space she wants and just see how things go.

nothing in life thats worth it isnt hard

yeah girls huh cant live with out em, good luck main

Dude it sounds like me n my ex... We dated on and off from about 6th grade to my sophmore year and college... I was the stupid ass who always took her back after she would break up with me.. And i got hurt worse and worse everytime. I was madly in love with her. And i know she loved/still has love for me but this is becuz we have been best friends since 6th grade pretty much.. Its not worth in the long run she is either getting annoyed or bored. My suggestions would to be move on.. I dont really know your whole situation but in mine I woulda of been better to just move on.. Women can really get to your head, i know from experience i swear she made me a lil crazy. And once you start experiencing other girls youll think so much different about her.. good luck bro,, and keep ya head up

Thanks bat man...

I know she was getting annoyed at how I act...and Ive definately learned how to fix that...

but if shes bored, I guess im screwed...

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If she wants some "space", she probably already has somebody else in mind. If she ain't riding him, she's already got him cut from the herd. Time to cut your losses and look somewhere else.

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What Steve said.

If your relationship ends up working Ill suck your dick.

But dont call me in like 2 weeks sayin "hey its goin swimmingly!" Because thats just gay.

Lol Im trying to put some comic relief into this because the harsh reality is that you have doomed yourself to even more pain. Sorry dude, but if it makes you feel any better I wish the best for you and hope it really does turn out well. Except for the fact that I said Id suck your dick.. ewww :(

Me and my boyfriend have broke up before.
Not just once though, like 50 million times.
Like I tell everyone who breaks up and gets back together, you're only going to break up again and again because "it's okay" since you've done it before until one of you gets fed up and says fuck it and leaves for good. Do you really want to go thru that?

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Ok, well I DIDNT take anyones advise and tried to get my girlfriend back when she broke up with me a few days ago.
She said she will be with me again which makes me soo happy

but for my first question...she said she just wants some space..

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She isn't feelin' you. You are still feelin' her. Sucks. There's nothing you can do about it.

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Second question...Ive noticed she has been hesitant to say "I love you"

I swear to God 2 days before we broke up she was hugging me and kissing me like we'd be together forever...

Now she is being kind of distant....

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Sounds like she met another dude to me.

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Will it ever be how it used to?

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No.

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Is there anything I can do?

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No.

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Im so depressed right now, I just want everything to be like it used to be.

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Forget about her. Be your own best friend. The only person that's gonna be there, for you, for sure, forever, is you.

You'll find another girl. Where are you from? small town? city? west coast? midwest? It doesn't matter. Be fresh. Be confident. Don't be cocky.

Men get lonely. Squares get their hearts broke.

Do it movin'. Move on. Do YOUR thing now. Just imagine,.......a new girl.