One-night stands

I don't sleep around much but I did have a one night stand a few days ago with a 20 year old College girl. I'm 21. We met at a party my friend invited me too. She had the hots for me right out of the gate. We started talked and ended up having some protected sex. It was great. I thought we had something going here maybe atleast a friendship with benefits.

The next few days pass and I still cannot get her out of my mind.. I'm starting to really like this girl. I end up seeing her again and she totally flips on me. "We shouldn't of had sex, I really like you but I'm seeing someone right now."

Which is fine, I didnt expect anything from her but I'm kickin' myself for falling for her and getting the heartache that comes along with it.

how many one night stands have you had?

how do I have a one night stand with a hot girl and NOT get attached mentally?

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Originally Posted by LazySmoking420

I don't sleep around much but I did have a one night stand a few days ago with a 20 year old College girl. I'm 21. We met at a party my friend invited me too. She had the hots for me right out of the gate. We started talked and ended up having some protected sex. It was great. I thought we had something going here maybe atleast a friendship with benefits.

The next few days pass and I still cannot get her out of my mind.. I'm starting to really like this girl. I end up seeing her again and she totally flips on me. "We shouldn't of had sex, I really like you but I'm seeing someone right now."

Which is fine, I didnt expect anything from her but I'm kickin' myself for falling for her and getting the heartache that comes along with it.

how many one night stands have you had?

how do I have a one night stand with a hot girl and NOT get attached mentally?

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Prepare yourself mentally before-hand. Just make sure you dont try and kid yourself like everybody in the world thinks they can do. If you start feelin for her after the fact, slap yourself, drop the thought forcefully and occupy your mind with something else. Immerse yourself in a movie or the internet, go to the gym, hang out with friends.. but dont, for the love of God, let yourself fall for a one-night-stand again. If you dont think you can fuck like that without catching feelings, I would advise against going through with it.

I had a one night stand once when I was super fucked up. Then I left for college, so I didn't have time to get mentally attached.

most of the time, you should NOT try to pursue a girl that you met through a one-night-stand. like the grazi said, you shouldn't even be thinking about it at all.

relationships are non persuable with one night stands...........i've had 5 or 6, and i just wanted sex, they wanted sex, and that's what it was, bust my nut and leave..........end of story, and if you do run into them again there's always a chance for a re-sex lol it's rare but the first girl i saw again like twice and beat it....then she got faithful with her boyfriend and that was it for the fun lol

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Originally Posted by LazySmoking420

how do I have a one night stand with a hot girl and NOT get attached mentally?

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Just echoing the sentiment already sprinkled throughout this thread. If you like a girl, don't label it a one night stand and try to kid yourself into thinking that it actually is a one night stand.

If you truly want a one night stand, find someone you're either impartial to (ie, someone who doesn't interest you at all) or one that you can't stand at all, someone you see many flaws in their personality. You probably won't get attached :)

*edit* 400th post, woot.

20 more until 420 ;)

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Originally Posted by jdub61

most of the time, you should NOT try to pursue a girl that you met through a one-night-stand. like the grazi said, you shouldn't even be thinking about it at all.

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What happens if she is worth it?

if she is not committed to her boyfriend, then you have a shot, but if she is all about him then why is a cheater worth it?

maybe you should have stated before hand you want a long term relationship.
its just sex its not love... there s a differance.
a booty call is all it is.

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Originally Posted by LazySmoking420

how do I have a one night stand with a hot girl and NOT get attached mentally?

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Go out and have another one night stand. You might feel yourself falling for her since she has told you that you shouldn't have had sex so she has become "forbidden fruit." You want what you can't have.

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Originally Posted by LazySmoking420

What happens if she is worth it?

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then you're going about this all wrong and you shouldn't have fucked her if you're looking for a long-term relationship. nothing wrong with one-night-stands, but that's all they are, bubba.

and like fakeboobsrule said, just go out again this weekend and by the end of the night you'll have forgotten all about her. :thumbsup:

how do you not get attached to a one night stand? practice.

Well LazySmoking420,

Every time you get a new piece bang like you'll never get it again. But what do I know?

Loco

I've had one, one night stand and that's all it was. I was baked beyond belief and he was drunk out of his mind. I was on a cruise, I hardly knew him, I think his name was Adam..or Alex..

I dunno, one night stands suck. I felt dirty as hell when that was over with, I don't even know how it happened.

How to not get attached? Don't ask her name. Hahah. No but seriously, go into the sex thinking "this is just sex" and stop all the emotions in the beginning.

I'm sorry that she flipped on you, she shouldn't be sleeping around if she's "seeing someone".

another thing to think about mate, is if she's giving it up on the first night, would you really want to date her? i dont date girls that i sleep with within the first few hours of knowing.

I'm not sure if the ones I had actually count or not. Both of them are like exactly the same ... first time was with this kid i went out with at the end of 9th grade, i was obssessed with him and he ended up breaking up with me for this complete skank whore, no one understood it she is trashy, ugly and rude, Im not being cocky but I am far from any of those descriptions. Now im working myself up and it was like 4 years ago ahaha .... um so he ended up cheating on her with me a bunch of times (bc idk how he would want to have sex with her, and i had no respect for myself at the time) and all we did was have oral. but then one night after we hadnt hooked up for like 6 months or so i was drunk and called him over and we fucked. he lasted two minutes lol ... so that was done. the other one, was when i cheated on my bf :-( we used to go out --the summer after 9th grade when i was broken up with the other kid -- and we've been friends, and i havent hooked up with him since then, and we got drunk together and i slept with him. he keeps trying to do it again, but i have a bf and he has a gf so thats not going to happen.
would those count? bc i only slept with each of them once, and we didnt hook up for months before or after? hmmm

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Originally Posted by jdub61

then you're going about this all wrong and you shouldn't have fucked her if you're looking for a long-term relationship. nothing wrong with one-night-stands, but that's all they are, bubba.

and like fakeboobsrule said, just go out again this weekend and by the end of the night you'll have forgotten all about her. :thumbsup:

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:thumbsup: yessss Don not have a one night stand if thas what you want. i do it too, i think if a guy sleeps with me he will want to be with me forever, but really it just makes them not respect me, and makes them think they can get it and only it whenever they want.

Personally, Ive had girls and women throw themselves at me for all of my adult, and most of my life before as well. Its not as enjoyable as I once thought it would be. Men want what they cant have, true, and if its so easy that all I have to do is say "yes" to somebody who is asking me to have sex with them, whats the enjoyment in that? I want sex that is meaningful, its more than just a physical act for me. If I want to bust a nut I can beat off.

I want a woman to make me chase her, while showing interest at the same time. If I say something slightly randy and I havent known you that long, feign mock offense.. be classy.. make me wait. It will be worth it to me, and lord have mercy will it be worth it to her.

However, Im beginning to think that this is the wrong point in my life for a relationship. I think Ill just keep doing what I have been doing lately.. rolling along into the lives of whatever female or females need me at the time, then moving along when my work is done. I dont think sex would be a good idea though.. they will catch feelings and I dont want to break hearts.

Wait.. did I just hijack a thread??? I dont know where Im going with this or even where it came from lol

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Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420

:thumbsup: yessss Don not have a one night stand if thas what you want. i do it too, i think if a guy sleeps with me he will want to be with me forever, but really it just makes them not respect me, and makes them think they can get it and only it whenever they want.

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yep, because you have to ask yourself... if i have sex with the person i'm supposedly gonna date for a long time on the first night that i meet him/her... where's the relationship gonna go from there?

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Originally Posted by LazySmoking420

I don't sleep around much but I did have a one night stand a few days ago with a 20 year old College girl. I'm 21. We met at a party my friend invited me too. She had the hots for me right out of the gate. We started talked and ended up having some protected sex. It was great. I thought we had something going here maybe atleast a friendship with benefits.

The next few days pass and I still cannot get her out of my mind.. I'm starting to really like this girl. I end up seeing her again and she totally flips on me. "We shouldn't of had sex, I really like you but I'm seeing someone right now."

Which is fine, I didnt expect anything from her but I'm kickin' myself for falling for her and getting the heartache that comes along with it.

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This is exactly why I plan on not ever doing a one-night stand. My conscience wouldn't let me forget it, and I'd probably end up falling for the girl anyways. I'm easily confused when it comes to love.

In the end, GraziLovesMary says the truth:

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I want sex that is meaningful, its more than just a physical act for me. If I want to bust a nut I can beat off.

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Speaking of which, it's been a couple of days. Cheers! :jointsmile:

after me and my gf of 3 years broke up, i slept with a bunch of randoms. the first couple of times is a rush. but when you wake up again and again next to someone you don't know it gets lonely. specially if u don't know/care their name or the beer googles where in over drive.
the worst is when they wont leave and want to talk deep and meaningful

but it did teach me the value of meaingful and being with someone you really care for. so im glad, not all were munters either ;)

peace and progress
snowblind

Some women will knowingly have sex with a guy, and then afterwards, make him think that he used her. She's trying to make it your fault and clearing her conscience for sleeping around, and now (ok im guessing) you want her more because she rejected you.

Next time say exactly what that girl said to you before she does, or I was drunk why did you use me or something :D

I've had several. 85% percent of them were with a condom, most said they were on the pill.
It's usually really good sex. lol my last sex session was a one night stand. that was like 9 or 10 months ago.

Honestly, I don't consider any of my one night stands dirty or "loose".
Quite the opposite, I respect them for being human enough not to deny their sexuality.
if that made any sense.

[edit] don't get me wrong, I would MUCH rather have sex with someone I care about. most of my one-night stands involve clubs and some drinks lol

One night stands are both good and bad... Usually for me the only reason they happen is because I'am wasted. I have had about 8 and a couple were repeats... Call me a dirty dogg?? I dont care..LOL they were all 6's and above..Now I'am back in a happy relationship so that wont be happening anytime soon...;)

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one night stands is one of the only ways to get laid here, unless you wana instan family or drama

This thread reminds me of last Sunday's Entourage.

their not that bad, just make sure you don't get caught up with emotions... it can take a toll on you once you end up really liking them...

iv only had one..