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fuck normal.
as long as you dont have mother issues. none of that "a boy's best friend is his mother" stuff...as long as its not that...its normal.
You'll find her one day. :) Save it for her, you'll know her when you meet her.
maybe you should consider his online name
Indeed.Quote:
Originally Posted by snowblind
3 words
hookerz
we hav ea 22 year old virgin here...
don't let other guys or movies or shows pressure you dude.... maybe it's just cuz i'm not wired like the typical male, but sex is not everything.... in fact, it's far from it.... i always wanted to do it... but when i did, it wasn't that much better then just jerking it... which lead me to the belief alot of sex in young people, is not cuz of hormones, just simply trying ot keep up with/match others...
and if you ask me... being a virgin that long is an admirable trait... it means you're not a horndog, it also means you have control of yourself....
having sex just cuz some chick's ass looks good in those certain pair of jeans is a bad trait....
do it when you're ready or it comes naturally...
i'ts not just girls who constantly remember 'their first'.... you can be 70 yerasold and married for 50.... you're still gonna remember that first person and it will effect you...
the ONLY reason i think sex might be best only when you're married/serious to the person is becuase that person will be on your mind for ever.... literally... it should really be someone special.... not some chick you hooked up with at the bar..
im not saying there aint nothing wrong with being a virgin, its just u know sex is realatively easy to find. its the rest that takes a little while. it depends wether you are looking to fall in love or just get laid. if u wanna get laid, go to a club and hit on a chunky girl whose drunk.
the latter well that takes time and a decent connection, but u dont wanna force it.
there are hookers i guess. not really my cup of tea
if u got the cash theres a virign school in amsterdam, which is like an escort service with motherly benefits. it was on telly in the uk a while ago. the guy basically paid to fuck his mum. he was erm 25 26. but he lived in his room and watched too much star trek and buffy. i aint stereotyping, but he didnt really live in reality
peace and progress
snowblind
Dont assume whats normal and whats not. Do whats right for you. You'll now when its time. Dont rush it.
Also currently a twenty-one year old virgin. Also used to have poor social skills. I think the wait was probably good for me - I know who I am, and I know what I want, which means I'm not going to waste a lot of time bouncing from girl to girl trying to find the one that's "right for me". I don't think there's really a limitation on one single girl who'll be "right" though - people change, chances are after a few years we'll move on to other people. Who knows, I haven't even held hands with a girl so I'm basically talking out of my ass on this.
A few people I know who screwed around a lot have said that it's good that I'm waiting for someone special. Of course, when I asked if they'd change their past if they could, they said no. Mixed messages and double standards don't do much for me.Quote:
Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho
Hm, I'm cynical tonight.
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Who cares lol? Gonna die and be forgotten anyways.
I was 20 when I lost mine. Im 22 now and have had 4 under the belt. It should be much higher, I have a very nice Physique.
I would say you are Abnormal for not having sex yet, so was I. I knew it. I was ashamed of it. But then again, take your own time.
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I completely disagree.
it should be with someone special, and that can only be determined through time
there's no need to rush into something like this
it'll make everything a lot better when its with that right person rather than having the memory of someone else
take your time
not to downplay the 'someone special' thing, b/c it definitely is important to have sex for the right reasons. but my advice would be don't get TOO caught up on finding that precisely right person. what i mean to say is... my first time was with a female, my girlfriend of 3 years (though i don't remember at what point in those 3 years when we first had sex...) and we had a good sex life.
Since her I've had several other girlfriends, and, to the surprise of many people around me, a boyfriend. And the thing about that FIRST person I slept with is that, even though it was a very nice memory, and even though it was a very good experience (i thiiiiiiiiink i lost it on Valentines Day?) i don't look back on that 1 first time and decide that it dominates my sex-life after that.
Perhaps my view is different because I don't tend to have one-night stands. I usually only screw around with people Im dating, but to be honest I remember the one-nighters as well.
So basically what I'm here to say is, don't fret over it. but don't make too big of a deal about it. Just let it happen when your body and mind are ready for it. In the meantime, maybe try finding yourself a girlfriend.
i would like to point out that most relationship books and magazines say that the first person you have sex with you aren't likely to end up with. this definately isn't true for everyone, but i took this advice and it served me well. I also recommend only losing your virginity to ONLY another virgin.
the virgin thing is interesting, if you know the person well and have built up a good relationship with them then it is the best way, its how i lost mine (16) yet if its someone you are just with just because they are a virgin, then it might just double the erm awkwardness. i dont think the previous person sexual history should matter, cus we all have pasts. she might be a little dissapointed if she doesnt know before hand, but then if she knows then she can help and make sure you are at ease. plus then she gets the added bonus of moulding you into a decent lover. not just a wham bang theres you lot love, kinda kuy.
the only reason you give to being a virgin is your social skills. well thats probably where you want to start. get a hobby, join a club volunteree. meet some new people and improve them. social skills are just that, they take a bit of pratise for some people. but u will get better with time. but just dont feel like you have to get on with everyone or be a door mat if u feel indebted to people.
be yourself and enjoy yourself
the rest will come
peace and progress
snowblind
lol now you sound like a Female. Trust me, fuck someone Insignificant so that when you have sex with a girl that you like not only physically or mentally, you can rock her socks off.Quote:
Originally Posted by Candnloveweed420
Theres nothing special about your first time, its not magical, Its sweaty, sticky and fun all at once, fuck the romance.
You have the rest of your life to be Romantic with your wife, just get er done :rastasmoke:
I was a 21 year old virgin, but out of choice. I actually lost it about a month ago to my current g/f of 2 months. I have had other oppurtunities, but I really care about my gf, and thats what really matters. fuck people with their "It aint special", but also fuck people that make too big of a deal. Your first time will be fun, but not amazing. Dont hold out forever, but dont rush into it. pace yourself, and when you find a girl you care about, go for the gold.
There's alot of virgins at that age. Some of my friends are. It's nothing abnormal about it. You are just shy =)
I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19. Take your time, and find someone special to do it the first time.
whoa says its abnormal to not have sex when you're 21, is it against some rule that you can't? i lost mine at 18, i never felt the pressure or need to lose it any earlier. it just happened when i knew it would. let it come to you, no need to rush anything, you're not going to be looked down upon becase you havent had sex, what a silly thing .
There's nothing wrong with that at all. My boyfriend was that age, and in the same situation...and then we met and it changed. Sure, it's not going to be a marathon...but don't be nervous. A good girl will have no problem if you barely even get in there before you're done. She will wait, and be patient and you will learn and get better and better.
On a side note, I maintain that guys who are still virgins..no matter what their age...are the nicest guys you could find. They are still pure. Not looking for the hottest young ass to walk by.
Don't feel bad....I'm 26 and still a virgin. Chalk that up to the fact that im a big guy and women don't like big guys.....and also my extreme shyness.
You can always change the "big guy" part of you, all it takes is effort. Shyness is harder to change, and I personally suffer from that horrible affliction as well. However, there is no "right" age to lose it, it is whenever you feel comfortable losing it. good luck, and happy hunting.
That's the spirit! Thanks for the laugh, even if it wasn't intentional. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by User Name Here
you could get a hooker
rape someone
become a hooker
rape a moose
become a pimp and have your hookers for free
groom people on the internet and bust em out
audition for a porn movie and just bang her
met someone you like tell them and take it from there
buy a flesh tunnel
become a preist
castrate yourself
go to a swingers party
masturbate for he rest of your life
get a blow up doll
remove a few ribs
theres loads of options in the rich tapestry of sexual satisfaction
get eeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrr done:DQuote:
Originally Posted by whoreable
it's whatever you want it to be, there are guys out there that lived 90 years and never had sex. just consider yourself lucky not to be them lol it'll come......
it's ok.....there alot of virgins that are 21 or older
:thumbsup:
I need to find one of those over 21 virgins so that when i do her she will have nothing to compare me with.....therefore i will be the best she's ever had! LMAO!
Your not getting any younger.
Who's the right person? The one you like that says yes. That's the special someone.
normal
everyone has a differnt opinion on whats norml
no probs... look how many threads similar to this there are. It really doesnt matter how old you are when a virgin.. .if you find somebody that means alot to you they wont care. If you wanna lose your virginity before that, there are alot of people of either sex that would be GLAD to help you out (breaking a virgin). So... if you are proactive enough, you will achieve whatever ends you are searching for. Nuff said.
Now that you are older, some women think of it as a challenge to sleep with you. That is unless you don't take care of your body, then that's a totally different story and you should go to bunnyranch.com or something and get some
This may not help with the main topic and all but I was 13 when I lost mine but I really do regret it but I think if I had the chance I would do it all over again because it got me ready when I got back with a girl who I had knew for 8 years and we decided to have sex. I ended up giving her the first orgasm she had ever been given (She had been with like 2 other guys) which I attribute to my first experience, I was taught plenty. Anyways it always got better.
Guess what I'm trying to say is that its always good to wait and don't ever be ashamed.
There isn't anything wrong with being a virgin. I was 30 when I married my husband and I was still a virgin. Thanks to my dad who was fantastic at discussing the pros of guns when ever guys came to see me.
I agree man, get er done!Quote:
Originally Posted by whoreable
Life is too short, you're only going to be full of so much energy for so long. You're in your prime. In another 10 years you'll be tied down and more then likely you won't be able to have as much fun.
I'm 19 and I was a late starter, I lost my virginity a few months ago to my ex, she wasn't a virgin. I deff recommend banging a girl that isn't a virgin, because she will know what to do and will help you and you will feel more comfrontable.
The 1st time is nothing special, matter of fact the first couple of times kinda aren't all that special, its only gets better though.
Find a girl thats a whore, but not a real whore! lol
Certain girls will be easier to get in bed and thats what you want, because you don't want to be pressured and feel stressed when you're with a girl that you really love and wanna impress.
My ex told me that she only had one orgasm before she was with me and in the two months we were together we had sex a couple of times a day and I gave her many orgasms. So as a newb, I wasn't too bad.
So what I'm saying is sex isn't hard, and its definitely not rocket science.
Just do your thing bro and go to it when you feel like you're ready :jointsmile:
yeah ive heard of ppl past 21 that are still virgins, didnt happen to me, but just hang in there and like in 40 yr old virgin, get ya bout 30-40 "hood rats" then when u get with someone you care about ull be grand
Hmm.. i dunno about all that. My mother is my best friend. always was and always will be. and that has never affected my relationships. infact, all my girlfriends have had a STRONG relationship with her. it's kind of annoying actually.Quote:
Originally Posted by TallCoolOne
towards the OP.
man, certain girls love that shit. they cream for virgins because to them, you are clean and you can be "trained" sexually.
I don't think they would believe you, honestly.
all you have to do, if you want, is start socializing. please don't think your looks or your style of dress has ANYTHING to do with your social skills.
it seems hard now but once you realize that females are just as nervous, if not MORE....it's easy.
read around this forum.. there is plenty of good advice.. im sure someone else has given you great advice in this thread.
but in my opinion... your virginity can be useful. to honest girls.
of course if you are going after a sexually talented female, she wants a man that knows what he's doing. but i'd steer away from those types of girls, they are trouble. lol