Yup! caught my BF cheating :mad: Do you think " once a cheater always a cheater?"
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Yup! caught my BF cheating :mad: Do you think " once a cheater always a cheater?"
Dump his ass. No joke.
Oh no...I'm so sorry. What a jerk!!
I definetly believe that if he's capable of cheating on you once, he'll most likely do it again.
You deserve so much better. Get rid of that loser!:thumbsup:
Yup, that dog needs to get gone, with his tail between his legs.
still haven't met one that wasn't.Quote:
Originally Posted by damnwhatsmyname
yup he's definately not worth your time.
Well no i wouldn't say dump him actually it depends was he drunk or what..
Also how long have you been together?
How did you catch him?
Do you think hes genuinely sorry?
Men don't change. Trust me, I know, I'm a man.
Alright, we do change, but chances are if he's gotten away with it once he won't be afraid to try it again. Dump his ass.
^^ no one changes unless they really want to.
and like cc said what were the circumstances?
Does that even matter?Quote:
Originally Posted by damnwhatsmyname
Either you're in a committed relationship (which means being honest about your actions and not screwing other people), or you're just fucking around.
If you're ok with just fucking around with a dude who's OK with lying to you, then don't dump the scumbag.
P.S.
You get what you settle for.
If you deserve more than this fool is capable of giving, dump his ass and move on.
If my man cheated on me while drunk, I'd never trust him drinking again... he'd have to quit entirely for me to MAYBE trust him, if that was his sorry ass excuse for betraying me. Good relationships are based on trust and good decisions. If you can't handle yourself in certain situations, don't put yourself there. Simple.
They cheat, they're gone.
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Originally Posted by psteve
EXACTLY! Why does it matter if hes sorry? He broke your trust, and relationships are about two things, love AND TRUST. He broke one, which means the other must be void.
I am a man, and if he cheated you where not doing something right if he needs to go on to another women. It would help if you posted the whole story and what lead up to this? You probably had a rocky relationship and things where never 'good'. But, hey he could just be an asshole and did it anyways :P
Hmmm.Quote:
Originally Posted by Justinrg
I've put up with a lot of shit in my relationship but cheating is something I would never tolerate. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater..I've seen my best friends go thru relationships where their partner has cheated and nothing goes back to normal once they take ther significant other back..there is always trust issues and fighting. I've also seen my cheating friends continuously cheat on their partner..so from both perspectives..dump his sorry ass and find a REAL MAN!
p.s
I'm curious as to what the circumstances are here..
Dont dump him ... chop off his cock. That will stop him cheating.
If thy penis offend thee, cut it off, eh?Quote:
Originally Posted by dean0000
Wow, you're saying it was her fault that he screwed around? That's pretty uncalled-for, given that we don't know the circumstances.Quote:
Originally Posted by Justinrg
Did you read the last sentence of my post? Let me bold it for you
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Originally Posted by Justinrg
^^I mostly agree, but damn, you're having problems if you're desperate enough to go to a prostitute. Thats what men evolved hands for! There was no black obelisk rising above our monkey ancestors as we developed tools! Our hands were created for our tools </sarcasm> :thumbsup:
English please?Quote:
Originally Posted by TallCoolOne
I can't form an opinion, because you haven't given us enough information. What were the circumstances? Who was it with? Did he care about her, or was it a fuck? Was it once or many times?
...and even if what he did was very wrong, one of my least favourite phrases is "Once a cheater, always a cheater." That is complete and utter BULLSHIT. For some people, yes; others grow and evolve, or had a momentary lapse.
Also, don't forget, monogomy is biologically unnatural for men, and instincts must be fought to conform to the society ideal of a relationship.
It's been my experience yes,once a cheater always a cheater....as to leaving...depends on you...are you willing to put up with it or not? And for how long.I'm very sorry.That really sucks and hurts like hell.I hope it gets better soon and good luck to you on whatever decision you make.:1baa:
Dude what planet are you from....I've had absolutely NOTHING wrong got along great always laughing and having fun....then the night I told him I was pregnant he screwed someone else.....It was his baby (had to prove that too) so don't be layin the blame of someone elses actions on the girl.If he was that unhappy....he should've left first....period.Cheating is BULL shit!! No reason to play games on anyone's heart. What I don't get is the guys that say "I love you with all my heart" then go out on you anyway,when there are no problems..It doesn't make sense.That tells me they obviously don't have a heart and don't know what love really is.... Love is trust and honesty and faithfulness.If you really love someone then you don't SEE anyone else and others should see couples as extensions of each person.My friends boyfriends and husbands are extensions of them and I have the hardest time even judging cuteness of them(when asked...).I don't see individuals....anyway, that's my 2 cents on it...Quote:
Originally Posted by Justinrg
Why didn't you weara condom? What gives you the right to lay down the pregnant thing on him so suddenly? Women act like all men fucking owe them something if the got mistreated by one man, and then blaming all men for being stupid and cheaters. I for one have never cheated just because if I don't like a bitch I tell her. Simple as that. Why let the relationship go any further?
Men cheat when they don't want to be in a serious relationship. It is human nature to mess things up so you don't have to commit so again if you didn't know this what fucking planet are you from?
That is english!!! LMAO!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by dean0000
Figured it out the hard way....as far as blaming all men...I blame HIM....I bought condoms and he refused to wear them and refused to pull out....again,I don't understand what his problem was....He knew I could get pregnant...when I brought it up he said" we'll cross that bridge when we come to it"....well yeah he crossed it right out the door....;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Justinrg
Thank you all for your advice. He is gone. It took all day but it is done.
I don't need that shit im my life!
Time to get high!!!!
I have to say, if you let him not wear a condom (as in giving your consent, even if grudgingly) you are just as responsible as he is for the pregnancy, though I absolutly agree he is a douchebag for the way he reacted to the news. I am sorry to hear about all you are going through, I wish you luck. I also urge you to refrain from smoking (though I know it is truthfully none of my business.) while pregnant.
Though there are no proven negative consiquences, it still isnt a risk you should take. Is 9 months worth of smoking really worth risking the baby's health?
I really wish you the best, and urge you to keep in touch with the father, if only for the sake of the child. It really is important.
Dump him... My ex gf cheated, and there was after break up sex, but then summer came and it was amazing to get away from them and fine someone else. move onto someone better.
I'm a guy and the simple fact is that men want many women to satisfy there one need and women want one guy to satisfy their many needs. Which is fine, but if he wasn't upfront with you about that from the start then he cheated and you should dump him.
You can't blame him for wanting to sleep with other women. He wanted what he wanted. That's how you see a good relationship, many men don't see it that way. What you can blame him for is the fact that made a promise to you to give up all those other women for a relationship with you, then broke that promise.Quote:
Originally Posted by DarkHairedSativa
Fuck that shit.
Well seeing as you already made your decision this post doesn't really matter, but I'll post it anyways.Quote:
Originally Posted by damnwhatsmyname
People will tell you a lot of different things about what you should do, just look at this thread. But know that everyone is different. Some people will change, some people will not, and all people can change. That's life though. You can't judge him on other peoples' experiences. You need to decide for yourself whether he deserves another chance or not.
I would say, think of every reason you would give him a chance. And decide whether you think he will change. If you're drawing blanks on why he should have another chance and/or if you don't think he will change for you, then it's over.
But remember, it's you alone who has to make the decision for yourself.
Yeah screw him, you deserve better. Cut that fucker off like the cancerous limb he is. Once a cheater al,ways a cheater
I can honestly say I have never intentionally cheated on any of my past girlfriends, in most cases it was my girlfriends friends who made the first and second moves when I would drive them home from a party or something they would be all over my ass, a guy can only take so much rubbin and touchin:D
Well Cahenz,
I like the way you think. You put it all out there in plain English for the world to see but we are still misunderstood. Women with their fucking fairy tales of princes and perfect gentleman.
Partcleguy have you ever smoked a joint with a dutch man in the Red Light District? Well, I have had the pleasure multiple times. The dutch are rich from oldl money and masters at exploitation in any form. Now they have hundreds of women to please them on the way to or from work from all over the world. They have no problem stopping for a smoke a suck and fuck then a pleasant dinner with the wife. It's a different mindset.
Then again for them to put a brothel in the International Airport is different. But what do I know? I'm just another fucking retard.
Loco
I agree... there are definately things to account for b4 you make your decision.. my b/f cheated on me about a year ago and he was on drugs and drunk.. doesnt make it ok or make it not hurt... but i lovr him and forgave him and since we have been awesome! i didnt catch him tho... he came running to me and told me what he had done.. i gave him a lil leeway for the honesty.. anyways my point is no one can make the right decision for you only you know your b/f and not all men are the same as not all women are the same.... you should make the decision on your ownQuote:
Originally Posted by cannabis campbell