First time I feel in love.

During the holidays I went to a campsite right by St malo,in France.

The first night I got there I decided that id go out and attempt to meet some people so that I wouldn't bore my brains out.
I met a 14yr old dutch kid who introduced me to his sister who is 18, I asked her for a cigarette and she asked me my age(14).

The next day i hanged out with her and got to meet her and here little brother a little brother a little better.
The third night we hanged out till 3 in the morning and i started to really like her but we weren't going out our anything.She was extremely pretty and kind,the sad thing was she was leaving in ONE DAY.

the last night I got a lot of beer and got very drunk and realised that i was in love with her i attempted to kiss her and got refused.

Basically i'm highly in love with someone who lives in holland and doesn't love me.It's been 3 dayq since she left and i still feel like shit! I think about her all the time and promised myself to go and see her once i'm 18 .

My question is basically:For how long will i feel like shit?
i've never felt this way in my life.

dammy dam, red light district, 50 euros, suck and fuck

For how long will i feel like shit? for the ammount of time it takes u to get to Dammy Dam (45mins from uk woot)

:hippy:

itll pass smoke some weed

How can you be sure its love man? I believe love is something that grows and you have to know someone (inside out, or at least pretty well) before you can say that you have those kind of feelings for a person.

What your feeling is most likely infatuation, lust.. you are attracted to her because of her looks and good personality, but would you do anything for her? would you kill for her? would you die for her? would you do absolutely anything in the world to make her happy? Ask yourself those questions because I dont know the answer but i doubt it.

Well when i was young around your age i've been in this position before where i seriously thought i was in love after having a little holiday romance, because at that time in your life its a good memory and really special to you, but trust me you will get over it in a few months and when you get older you will look back on this and realise it was just puppy love.

When you get older you'll realise that in love, the "feeling of shit" you have now is NOTHING, it can be a million times worse, but on the flip side the good feelings will be better aswell.

Just dont worry about it mate you will get over her ok. :)

its probably lust

2 weeks- 5 months

your case is probably less than a month

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Originally Posted by cannabis campbell

How can you be sure its love man? I believe love is something that grows and you have to know someone (inside out, or at least pretty well) before you can say that you have those kind of feelings for a person.

What your feeling is most likely infatuation, lust.. you are attracted to her because of her looks and good personality, but would you do anything for her? would you kill for her? would you die for her? would you do absolutely anything in the world to make her happy? Ask yourself those questions because I dont know the answer but i doubt it.

Well when i was young around your age i've been in this position before where i seriously thought i was in love after having a little holiday romance, because at that time in your life its a good memory and really special to you, but trust me you will get over it in a few months and when you get older you will look back on this and realise it was just puppy love.

When you get older you'll realise that in love, the "feeling of shit" you have now is NOTHING, it can be a million times worse, but on the flip side the good feelings will be better aswell.

Just dont worry about it mate you will get over her ok. :)

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I can't be sure it's love,but nobody can.

I don't believe you have to know somebody inside out to love them.Love is not something you ask for it just happens,you have no choice.
I can't stop thinking about her constantly,I try to distract my brain with other things but it doesn't work.

The first day she left i cried all day and was unable to have any fun whatsoever and felt like throwing up at times.

I agree with you,Love can probably be a lot more intense then in this case but that doesn't hide the fact that it's love.

The feelings I have for her are very strong,I keep imagining I have kids with her and have a family with her...
Am I abnormal?

I don't want to cure this by smoking weed,I beleive i should be able to get through my problems without weed and use weed as a tool to have fun.:rastasmoke:

If i where to see her in 4 years, is there a bigger chance that i fall in love with her(again) than if i had never met her?

Thanks for the responses everybody they honestly help

I fell in love in Jamaica, but I got over it as soon as I got home. It was a fling, we clicked, we fooled around and left that shit in Jamaica man. I dunno, you're very young and you hardly know the girl. I'm sorry, I know it sucks..and I feel ya, but don't limit yourself to just that one random girl yanno? <3

When it is love you will "know" its hard to describe but you will just be so sure of it.

Fair enough if you dont believe that you have to know someone that well to love them which is probably true, but answer my question, would you die for her? would you do anything to make that girl happy?

Ok so your saying that you dont really have to know someone to love them which is true but.. what do you really know about her you haven't known her that long you might no have much in common, do you know when her birthday is her favourite foods and things like that or what type of guys she goes for, what turns her on/off or anything about her past, i mean you dont really know much about her or her personality because you didnt know her that long and that what loves all about man i think the chances are you just fell for her because of her looks and you were just infatuated by her.

Man, you just have the jollies for a hot ass dutch chick. I can't blame you for one bit for being overdramatic, they're so beautiful. Plus when their tongues roll when they speak too fast :p

You're young. You'll find someone else and forget about this girl soon enough. I hate to be a cynic but it doesn't look like I'm the only one.

just a crush maajn

jerk off

I will get over her but in a way i don't want to.

Yes,I believe i would die for her and do a lot of things to make her happy.

The fact that i don't know her so well might explain the reason for which i'm in love with her.I've never seen any negative aspects of her personality which makes me think she is perfect.
She responded to my Emails which makes me feel a little better.
I've had a lot of problems in my life lately and i think that when i was with her i forgot all about them,Now there all hitting me all at once and i think that's part of w<hat makes me in love with this girl.

I've promised myself to go and see her when I'm 18.

14 -18 get ova it lust not love

You will get over it pretty fast I would think. It proberly wasnt love you just thought it was. Ive done this shit. When you think back about it in a couple of years it seems pretty funny.

I forgot to add that the night before she left i didn't sleep at all.

I may be 14 but i look 18-19 .
Love doesn't have to go both ways!
You can love someone that hates your guts.

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Originally Posted by youwontcatchme

During the holidays I went to a campsite right by St malo,in France.

The first night I got there I decided that id go out and attempt to meet some people so that I wouldn't bore my brains out.
I met a 14yr old dutch kid who introduced me to his sister who is 18, I asked her for a cigarette and she asked me my age(14).

The next day i hanged out with her and got to meet her and here little brother a little brother a little better.
The third night we hanged out till 3 in the morning and i started to really like her but we weren't going out our anything.She was extremely pretty and kind,the sad thing was she was leaving in ONE DAY.

the last night I got a lot of beer and got very drunk and realised that i was in love with her i attempted to kiss her and got refused.

Basically i'm highly in love with someone who lives in holland and doesn't love me.It's been 3 dayq since she left and i still feel like shit! I think about her all the time and promised myself to go and see her once i'm 18 .

My question is basically:For how long will i feel like shit?
i've never felt this way in my life.

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you just had what looks liek your first crush, It'll hurt for a week, maybe 2 at the most.

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Originally Posted by Mike23artist

jerk off

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woops

Are you telling me to "jerk off" or that I am a "jerk off"?

What does jerking off have to do with falling in love anyways?

In that case what's the difference between having a crush on someone and being in love?

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Originally Posted by youwontcatchme

I will get over her but in a way i don't want to.

Yes,I believe i would die for her and do a lot of things to make her happy.

The fact that i don't know her so well might explain the reason for which i'm in love with her.I've never seen any negative aspects of her personality which makes me think she is perfect.
She responded to my Emails which makes me feel a little better.
I've had a lot of problems in my life lately and i think that when i was with her i forgot all about them,Now there all hitting me all at once and i think that's part of w<hat makes me in love with this girl.

I've promised myself to go and see her when I'm 18.

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Well by that time i doubt you still still even remember her or be bothered to see her but if you keep her in your thoughts for 4 years until your 18 then it might be love..

you're only 14 dude, forget about love and go have as much sex with as many girls as you can...

"love is suicide" - billy corgan

Hey dude. Youre 14. You aint in love man, believe me. Especially after 3 or 4 days.

What's this idea that if you're 14 you can't fall in love?

Who said you had to be totaly developped to have strong feelings for somebody?

Look bro, I'm in a similar situation like you. I had a crush on an intern, a beautiful petite French girl. For the longest time I didn't know she felt the same for me. I asked her out. These last few days has been heaven for me, we are very much in love.

However, you gotta look at the reality. You are continents away. The best you can do is remain in contact with her. If it works out, it works out. But don't be disappointed if it doesn't. Time does some strange things. Memories start to fade.

I'm hoping for the best. I'm going to visit her at some point, but if she ends up finding someone else, I'm not going to be upset. She's the coolest chick I ever met. She saw things in me I never saw in myself. Just use the experience, and just live man.

That's all you can do.

Well the girl allready in holland so...

When I'm 18...

When I was younger in middle school right around your age, I had a huge crush on this girl , and we both liked the same band. She was a jerk, but I couldn't stop obsessing over her for several years.

Whether it's that kind of crush or something smaller, it will defenitely pass. That fact that she was foreigner probably was very diferent and mysterious and attractive to you, just like all foreign women are to men.

Here is my personal advice. Childhood and youth are vanity. If you get involved with women now, you'll be even worse than if you wait. Girls your age are not ready for a man and you're too young to do anything long term. Not only that, but you have to really be patient and look long and hard to find someone with the kind of integrity that's right to be around. So do you just want a shallow short term relationship, or an immature little girl to break your heart and not take you seriously?

Now is the time for you to seek your purpose in life, to examine your morals, to search out for God if he exists, to build integrity and maturity and keep quiet stay out of trouble and study. Maybe you think that now is the time for you to enjoy life because you're young, but it's really the opposite. Your enjoyment, fulfillment, success in life depends upon the foundation you build now when you're young. That includes everything, not just education to get a good job.

As a last note, I believe that God is the best friend you could ever have, and you don't have to wait. And you don't have to go to Holland to be with him. If God exists, nothing is more important to seek out than him.

And don't smoke too much weed if any because your growing kid. Let your mind and body grow. It's no joke.

That's my personal advice.

I was just re-reading your orginal post and It dawned on me from what you said that you had this realization of love as you call it, when you were DRUNK .

I can only imagine how strong feelings your having, or have had, but please don't scar yourself. Avoid the mental anguish and let it go.