Interracial (serious)relationships/marriages

My cousin is having severe problems with his.
Most interracial marriages I know of end up divorced.
On the same page, most same-race marriages divorce also. lol So I'm just curious, don't throw stones at me:hippy:

I've had serious relationships will ALL kinds of races. And I usually get comments from the girl saying her parents love me and have never met someone as well-mannered and respectful. So I've never really had a problem with the parents of the girls dating(in a serious relationship)a latino, I just had to deal with haters in public.:(

As for marriage, I want my child to have the same values I was raised with. So, for now, I plan on marrying a Colombian girl. But who knows, love's crazy!


What's your prior expierence, your opinions, and views on Interracial dating and marriage?

this is too hot of a topic for me to get too deep with...do I think black guys should marry white girls? hell no. that's me.

I've honestly seen a lot of hispanics together with white girls and do nothing except get them pregnant over and over..then eventually leave..

It's all a matter of how you feel really..

I've never been in a serious relationship with anyone of my race and I will probably marry the girl I'm with now who is Mexican. I don't really think interracial relationships are any different, people are people, some are different colors, but whats going on in their head is what counts.....and besides I couldnt give up my Mexican girls beautiful ass :thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by Markass

this is too hot of a topic for me to get too deep with...do I think black guys should marry white girls? hell no. that's me.

I've honestly seen a lot of hispanics together with white girls and do nothing except get them pregnant over and over..then eventually leave..

It's all a matter of how you feel really..

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oh, I agree with you.. I was just being "diplomatic";)

but let's not make "broad" statements about any race cause that will just lead to people getting offended.
every race has scumbags and normal, productive people.

My brother is happily married to a woman of another race and they have no problems. Her parents seemed reluctant to accept him at first- likely worried that he and his family would not have the same cultural values- but after meeting all of us they seem to have decided that we all came out all right and their daughter was in good hands, lol.
Come to think of it though, he did mention that when they were in the Carolinas recently, when they went out for meals they got ignored by waitstaff and stared at by other customers... people are so fucking shallow and rude.

yeh shallow, and rude...but also racist pigs.

pity.

I didn't do real well with my first 2 wives, I don't know that I want to get married again. Maybe if I could just lease for a while?? I don't care what the color of somebody's skin is. Its whats on the inside that counts.

I think you should marry someone because you love who the person is, not what they are. Theres no denying that those relationships will encounter more problems socially. Some people just cant accept love between two "different" people.

Something I have experience with.............well, I am "white" (I have a hard time with the term, because who really knows ALL what is in their heritage after slavery, with slaves being raped and such) and I know that we also have Cherokee Indian and Portuguese in my family. In the neighborhood we recently moved in, people asked my fiancee if I was Hispanic. It doesn't offend me, that they assume that, it offends me that they care enought to ask what race I am. I mean really, who cares? But I do have darker skin than the average "white" person. It's like I have a tan year-round, with no need for tanning beds, lol. My mother has a very similar complexion, (and she has a pic of her and a "real" native American at the Cherokee reserve, she looks like she could be his daughter) but my father has a very pale skin coloring, and sunburns easily. My fiancee is black, and we have one daughter, 8. I have dated both white and black men, (not in a long time, though, as my fiancee and I have been together for 10 years) I never judged anyone by their race, but this is who I ended up with. We have a good relationship, and you may ask, "if it's so good, why aren't you married" but I am still in college, and our wonderful US gov't. will not give me financial aid if we have to count his income with mine--so when I finish school, we'll do that. I'm kinda like Bill Maher on marriage anyway, I know I'm with him, he knows he's with me, so who needs a piece of paper. But my point is, I've had good white boyfriends and I've had bad white boyfriends. I've had good black boyfriends and I've had bad black boyfriends. People are people. Now I think I would be offended if someone had a relationship with their horse, or cat, or bird. That might be an issue for me, but we're all people, so what's the big deal? I live in NC (the south) so sometimes people will glare at us, but it's really not that common anymore. In fact, I had an elderly white lady approach us the other day at Golden Corral and tell me my daughter was beautiful, I should send her pic to some modeling agency in Greensboro. My parents (well my dad, my mom didn't care, but she didn't back me up either) did not like this idea, and I had some hard teenage years, but eventually they realized it was not a phase, and came around. They love my daughter and my fiancee. He has always held a job since my daughter was born, (even when I didn't) which disrupted his sterotype that "all black people are lazy" And I think even my dad realizes I could have done worse, he only has to look as far as my sister's boyfriend, who is white, and a real sucker.

I've seen lots of happy interracial marriages and about the same amount of unhappy ones. Just like I've seen lost of happy same-race marriages and about the same amount of unhappy ones.

I think people ought to marry who they fall in love with, frankly, and who they feel sympatico with. If it's someone of the same racial origins, great. And if it's not, great. Live and let live.

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Originally Posted by Spoken Word

What's your prior expierence, your opinions, and views on Interracial dating and marriage?

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Experience-Personality counts the most.:thumbsup:
Opinion - I promised my (racist) dad at age 15 that I would NEVER marry a white guy. (Technically, my family's white, by skin color, but for heritage, we have Creek Indian & Spanish & European & who knows what else)
View-I don't care as long as they love me & I love them & we make beautiful children. :D

I think the last thread like this went over-board and got semi-racist, but I am a mutt. My mom is peruvian, my dad is born and raised in SoCal....so I see them working.

^It doesn't have to get racist. I could have "barked" at Markass's comment about hispanics but it seems like something stereo-typical so I accepted that it might be true. People who start bitching at everything are weak minded.

Besides, I know his comment is not COMPLETELY true, I know plenty of females(all races) that prefer hispanics. They tell me that hispanics are the only ones that know how to treat women right. What an ignorant thing to say, huh.

but yea, you all are right.
But it's a hot topic so I'm sure some people are holding back.
I've never really been in love but from what I hear, it has no race.

It's just that, if anyone is from a STRONG and DEEP, to the root-type culture(background) than you definatly see race and it's pro's and con's. It's true.

I'm sure I wouldn't deny myself the happiness of being with someone just because of race but when it comes to my kids, home and family values? If it aint broke, don't fix it. lol

thanks for all your replies and yea... let's not disrespect anyone's race.

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Originally Posted by Matt the Funk

.... I am a mutt. My mom is peruvian, my dad is born and raised in SoCal

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So from which side did your inherent funkiness descend? :D

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Originally Posted by stinkyattic

So from which side did your inherent funkiness descend? :D

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Lol it actually comes from both of them put together. Two oddball parents= a funky child.

Well I dont have any experience with interacial relationships but I certainly wouldnt have a problume with one. I find lots of women of many different colors attractive. My dads side of the family are all rednecks and pretty racist, and All tho I am a redneck too I dont like to be racist. I could see some heat coming from my iggnorant family If I were to date outside my heritage.

I don't have anything against interracial marriages or relationships, but I do not believe that children should be brought into the world that are a mixture of two races such as black/white, Chinese/white, etc. I have nothing whatsoever against people of diverse backgrounds, but they are frequently discriminated against from all sides which can make their lives very difficult. Hell, the world is so screwed up I didn't want to have kids at all, and I don't have one single regret about making that decision.

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Originally Posted by ceecee79

Something I have experience with.............well, I am "white" (I have a hard time with the term, because who really knows ALL what is in their heritage after slavery, with slaves being raped and such) and I know that we also have Cherokee Indian and Portuguese in my family.

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I know exactly what my racial heritage is after slavery: 100% Indo-European. I had a DNA test. It gives you the percentages of East Asian, Indo-European, Native American, and African from your genetic sample. If you're curious, get tested.

I always thought race was different than color.
In colombia; they have blacks, whites, and natives. And of course a mix of three.... infact, most people are a mix of the three. I know I am.

I'm talkin more.....backgroud/culture

for example....two black people get married but one is jamaican and the other is haitian.

or a philipino getting married with a korean.

a german marrying a russian.

not exactly color of skin

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Originally Posted by Breukelen advocaat

Hell, the world is so screwed up I didn't want to have kids at all

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Me too. And it's a shame a lot of children are being born under ridiculous circumstances. Anything that helps "certain" people avoid birth is great to me.

i dont hvae a problem with others having interracial marriages, but its not for me. i've never dated or slept with any girl outside of my race, and there is a very good chance i never will. but to each his own...what others do is really none of my business.

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Originally Posted by higher4hockey

to each his own...what others do is really none of my business.

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And I'm sure most would agree with you. I know I do. I just made the thread for discussion, not for any personal reason.

love comes in many shapes and sizes, and colors.. who cares we are all people in the end.. different skin color should not effect anyones decision UNLESS you are just not attracted to that person, and why do some people hate when their are interracial couples? How are they effecting you? They are just people who have fallen in love. and for the guy who started the thread.. not only interracial couples fall apart.. every race of marriage fall apart either the person is ment for you or not.. its all about the individual in the end.. not the color of your skin..

I grew up with skin heads, and they have read me the bible they worship and sang me their songs. But they will never take me to their side. i do not believe in a one person nation. its takes many to keep this nation standing.

...a black chick and I hooked up in 1983 and we was as lost and confused in 1989 as we were the the first day we met....I split...I was chasing a lost cause...and she was looking for a future...

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Originally Posted by BlAzInIt4:20

and for the guy who started the thread.. not only interracial couples fall apart.. every race of marriage fall apart either the person is ment for you or not..

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Originally Posted by Spoken Word

On the same page, most same-race marriages divorce also. lol So I'm just curious, don't throw stones at me:hippy:

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And why do people keep insisting I am talking about the color of skin?. lol

I'm sorry, it seems this discussion was misunderstood.

I was leaning towards the child aspect, the family values....the "home"

not the colors or races.:mad:

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Originally Posted by Spoken Word

And why do people keep insisting I am talking about the color of skin?. lol

I'm sorry, it seems this discussion was misunderstood.

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It seems that "misunderstanding" must have occurred because of your use of the term "interracial" in your title. You were referring to races and didn't specify that you meant people of different backgrounds or cultures.

As far as mixed-heritage children are concerned, I think the blending of cultures and races and the resulting children are what will ultimatley get rid of the last vestiges of racial discrimination. Those kids are everyplace now, and unless they're in particularly unevolved parts of the country or world, they do just fine. This is almost 2008, not 1958. There will always be stanch believers in racial purity, just like there'll always be Nazis and skinheads and others uninformed types who kid themselves that we're not all a mix of something. But when the older generations die out and increasingly we see people who were raised after civil rights and equality were givens, that's when widespread acceptance of diversity will reign. Blended-race (or "culture") kids and interracial marriages are helping hasten that process even as we speak. Which is, the way I see it, a very good thing.

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

It seems that "misunderstanding" must have occurred because of your use of the term "interracial" in your title. You were referring to races and didn't specify that you meant people of different backgrounds or cultures.

As far as mixed-heritage children are concerned, I think the blending of cultures and races and the resulting children are what will ultimatley get rid of the last vestiges of racial discrimination. Those kids are everyplace now, and unless they're in particularly unevolved parts of the country or world, they do just fine. This is almost 2008, not 1958. There will always be stanch believers in racial purity, just like there'll always be Nazis and skinheads and others uninformed types who kid themselves that we're not all a mix of something. But when the older generations die out and increasingly we see people who were raised after civil rights and equality were givens, that's when widespread acceptance of diversity will reign. Blended-race (or "culture") kids and interracial marriages are helping hasten that process even as we speak. Which is, the way I see it, a very good thing.

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You're absolutely right.

I'm not arguing that "racial purity" is right nor wrong.
I should have used "different ethinic/background marriages".
I just figured people didn't see "race" as black or white.

There are multiple white, black, asian(and many other) races.
but I sense I'm being percieved as racist... or someone against diversity so....nevermind....sorry I brought it up.

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Originally Posted by Spoken Word

oh, I agree with you.. I was just being "diplomatic";)

but let's not make "broad" statements about any race cause that will just lead to people getting offended.
every race has scumbags and normal, productive people.

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You fuckin disgust me.:thumbsup:

i dated a black girl once it was a pretty good relationship, untill she went a joined a cult and broke up with me to date jesus. stick to your own kind and stay away from all religious black people

The first black woman (technically a girl but i was a boy then so it's all good) I dated I had to break up with because she refused to tell her racist dad about me. The first black woman I slept with was a hooker when I was on leave from the marines. The third black woman I knew I wanted to marry but it was a long distance thing and didn't work out. From these women I have learned one thing....THEY ARE WOMEN! WTF does race or color have to do with it? Who cares what other people (gawkers) think? Does that person make your heart sing?
Seems to me we are all going to end up a brownish grey in a few more generations anyway.

- Slow -

The master plan is to mix till we all look the same...

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Originally Posted by big smoke07

You fuckin disgust me.:thumbsup:

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Imma consider that a really big joke.

Personally, being a preferance utilitarian, I prefer to go out with/have sexual contact/intercourse with women of my own race, as i find them the most attractive and i feel i can relate to them more then any other race when it comes to common interests and personality traits. I am white. I've kissed a mixed race girl before, i would've gone out with her but nothing ever happened. I am more then happy with my white girlfriend or future white girlfriend if it comes to it. Notice i said prefer.

My g/f told me a story yesterday how she was out with her ex b/f who is black and a group of white people told her to drop the monkey or something. Fucking disgusting people. Each to their own really, i would never shout abuse at anyone's interracial relationship, however too many people still do in 2007 and this is sad.

I have no problem with it at all. Im white and I dated a black girl for like 3 months. We broke up cuz she was a cheating slut. At the same time lots of girls are that way so I consider it a female thing not a color thing. If you love the person fuck what others may say.

I live in the carolinas, and have a white girlfriend. I am a black albino. We dont have any problems getting served, but some people do stare. I remind my lady that a black albino man, especially when I had dreadlocks, is a rare sight. Plus, I am 6'3" 260# so I get noticed coming into a room. Now add that she is 5'11" and 400 pounds, and people WILL stare, but fuck em! We do our thang, other folks need to do theirs, whatever it is.

Peace,
White Wolf

Yup. In west palm beach some people are terrorizing an interracial couple and I think it is VERY wrong. people should be just left alone.
good luck with your girlfriend(i mean), it sounds like you two are happy and that's whats important.

(I'm white) I've been with a black guy for a little over 7 months. The only comments we get are "You two are gonna make the most gorgeous babies", "You guys are so cute together!", ect. The only negative comments I've gotten were from my mom who just warns me over and over again that *some* people won't approve of our relationship...but so far it's been an easy ride. knock on wood.

I am a black albino guy, and have dated alot of white women. I have also dated black women, puerto rican and an arab woman who was very cool.

WW

whats it matter were all pink on the inside