today would have been my daughters 13th birthday, but she died at 5 days old due to a premature birth, my wife is allways really upset and i find it hard to comfort her it will be like this for the next week, i hate this time of year.
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today would have been my daughters 13th birthday, but she died at 5 days old due to a premature birth, my wife is allways really upset and i find it hard to comfort her it will be like this for the next week, i hate this time of year.
I don't know what to say. I'm sorry.
Music is the best medicine(other than weed). So the only thing I can recommend is "tears in heaven" by eric clapton
key words "i don't belong in heaven"
whatever you take from that.....
again, im sorry.
she had lung and heart probs first then got brain damage and when they told me that i prayed for her to die, she would have had a terrible life if she had survived,
Heartfelt sorrow for you and yours, weedmaster. Hang in there. :(
i'm sorry man... i really don't know what to say... only that i can some extent possibly understand some of the pain.. i'd of had an older brother if it weren't for the same thing =/
but it's your daughter... i can't even picture the thought of losing my son...
the thought of hating this time of year tho.. well that kinda makes it even worse.... that makes it some ritual.... i wish ihad some magical words of wisdom to offer but i really don't...
only thing i can think of is maybe some day yal can move on... moving on don't have to be forgetting tho... i dunno if that really makes since =/
again i'm sorry and wish i knew what to say.
that's hard stuff to deal with weedmaster, im sorry to hear that, i hope you and your wife can find comfort in the tough situation somehow
Man I feel for you...To lose a child at any age would effect you for the rest of your life Thats so sad I would dread the day too!:(
or think about this one bro... she would be turning 13.... what starts happening to the oppiste sex at 13(talking about the males...) also think about the drugs in the world right now... when i was 13... maybe 14... is right around when i found alot of drugs... im just saying....
but thats all i can think of to comfort you
^??????? umm k...
just go be with ur wife
agreedQuote:
Originally Posted by Billionfold
.....losing a child is the most unnatural thing a parent can go through....i have a 2 year old and i know i would flip the fuck out is something was to happen to her
thought about chiming in with mines age and agreeing to the flipping out part (cuz i honestly would) but on 2nd thought... that might make it worse on him/her... i dunno....Quote:
Originally Posted by indicagrower
either way, i think the couple who said some 'off' things meant well... they're just looking for anyway possible to make weedmaster feel better.... which is an entirely natural response... just their method wasn't quite 'right'... just before anyone tries to go off on them...
I'm so sorry to hear that mate. I really am. If you ever need a chat give me a shout mate. I'm never that far away from you. Take care mate.
Im v sorry to hear that. Ive never had anything thing like that happen to me so I cant imagine what you feel. Peace.
My heart goes out to ya my friend. I got a buddy that goes through this every year also; he lost his daughter when she was just a baby. :(
Have a good one!:jointsmile:
Im sorry to hear that dude.. Cant inagine how uz are feeling just now.. Hope uz get through it ok..
Maybe, you can take a trip to somewhere that you would've brought a thirteen year-old girl to. And enjoy all the life, including the trees.
thanks everyone, reading this has been really uplifting for me after a day of feeling ripped apart.
i'm just wondering, and you don't have to answer if you are uncomfortable, but have you and your wife had other children since then? if you haven't, your wife's deep and incredible pain is understandable, and will probably never completely diminish. my grandma had a baby die days after its birth and my cousin had a miscarriage, and both of them said they felt the deepest pain they'd ever felt, pretty much every day until they had another child.
but even if you do have other children, i can imagine the loss still feeling very intense around this time of year. not to downplay the pain you're feeling, but i know many women would feel a totally indescribable sense of loss in the wake of their young baby's death... who had already been developing a deeply psychological bond with the baby growing inside her for nine months. not that i've been pregnant, but i'm trying to offer a female's perspective.
i'm sorry, i wish i could say more comforting things.
Skinks sends love and respect....
yes vingt. we have 2 other kids , but my problem is we only got to hold her after she died and she looked like a little old lady all shrivvelled up and she was a greyish green color, didn't look like a baby at all, more like something from a horror film, thats how i remember her its a image i wish i could erase from my memory i think thats why i find it hard and also knowing my wife is still hurting after all these years doesn't help, on her birthday and on the 4th july when she died this image keeps running around my head.