"Love"

Ok well first off id rather no one argue you in this thread, this thread is open to suggest opions(i cant spell) and views. Well i just wanna know what everyones defition of "love" is. Here is the dictionarys defition
Love
A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.

Sexual passion.
Sexual intercourse.
A love affair.
An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.

A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language.
The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love.
Love Mythology. Eros or Cupid.
often Love Christianity. Charity.
Sports. A zero score in tennis.

ok well yup i agree with what they say, but i think love is just like really wanting to be with someone, always showing it no matter what. I dont know this thread i really posted because i have this gf right? i like her a lot(i dont wanna say love because well i feel as tho i do but that word is thrown around too much) and well i mean when its just me and her its like were a couple but then we get around anyone else and its like she doesnt even know me, she tells me its because shes afraid to make her friends uncomfortable. But i mean ahh i cant stand it sry, i had to vent. But back to the point of this thread, what do you think the defition of love is?

love is laying on the wet patch after you've made live....

Dear StonedPenguin,

My best friend has spent two decades of his professional life studying human mating. In that time, he documented phenomena ranging from what men and women desire in a mate to the most diabolical forms of sexual treachery. I've peer reviewed most of the data and have discovered the astonishingly creative ways in which men and women deceive and manipulate each other. The studies include mate poachers, obsessed stalkers, sexual predators and spouse murderers. But throughout this exploration of the dark dimensions of human mating, I've remained unwavering in my belief in true love.

While love is common, true love is rare, and I believe that few people are fortunate enough to experience it. The roads of regular love are well traveled and their markers are well understood by many - the mesmerizing attraction, the ideational obsession, the sexual afterglow, profound self-sacrifice and the desire to combine DNA. But true love takes its own course through uncharted territory. It knows no fences, has no barriers or boundaries. It's difficult to define, eludes modern measurement and seems scientifically woolly. But I know true love exists. I just can't prove it.

Love is patient and kind
Love is not jealous or boastful
Love dos not insist on it's own way
It is not irritable or resentful
It does not rejoice at wrong
But rejoices in the right
Love bears all things
Hopes all things
Endures all things.

Not my words, but I love the sentiment and the ideal :)

'cept he forgot about the fizzy-tummy thing :p and that's really important ;)

Yay! A thread about love! Yay! :D


I agree with Blisterize about there being true love (though rare) but I also believe in love at first site. Not lust at first site, as some may argue, but actual love at first site. Where true love is concerned, two ppl do not need to be together for it to last. It goes on and on even if you meet once and never see each other gain. I don't think love in itself can stand the test of being apart forever...that love will eventually fade, but TRUE love is endless. :)

i know this is kinda controversial, but you hear about places being haunted. a lot of those ghost stories behind them are related to a love story. mabe if those stories are true, then true love does last forever. i dont know. any girl ive liked and asked out, has never really seemed interested in me. i mean its kinda like they like me as a person and feel comfortable around me, but are not interested in going out. i know that im not ugly or mean at all, but it really fucks with my ego. especially when they flirt with you and pretty much say they want u to ask them out only to find out she has a bf behind your back. to be honest, i dont really like being the nice guy i am because most girls dont like the nice guys (i mean that indirectly). i think im going to not be that nice guy i am now and just be like all the other asshole guys that just wanna get into girls pants. becasuse.....nice guys finish last. sorry about ramblin on about my problems, i just feel better gettin them out to someone.

I was once in love with a woman (not my wife).
One day, I started thinking about this very phenomena that we call 'Love'; I wanted to be sure of my emotions, and try to define my feelings for this woman.
"I love you", is an oft-used phrase which has lost it's true value - better to be honest, and just say "I lust for you."
After much thought and word play, I arrived at the definitive answer.
It was amazingly simple, and yet in encapsulated my inner most regard for this woman.

I told her this:

"I can find nothing about you, which is unacceptable to me."

I doubt very much that I will be able to say those words to anyone, ever again - she was someone very special.

Love is just a word, it's what that word means to you, that is important.
Res...

"love is another word for regret" - New Found Glory


I was in love once, the girl screwed with me head and changed me. It was the hardest thing to deal with when we broke up because i knew she was wrong for me, but it took me so long to find out. it took me 2 years, 6 months of being totally insane and having a battle with myself to end up stoned and at a friends small party. Thats where i met the girl of my dreams. I belive this is true love with the girl i met. I belive it was fate. Love has funny ways of finding you

I'm so glad so many ppl believe in true love, so many men, especially. :D The person that I consider my true love I met in January of 1991, I remember all the bits and pieces of that first year because they are all still engraved in my mind. After years of on and off dating, we broke up (once and for all) in 1995. We still talk but I haven't seen him in almost a year. I still feel about him the way I felt about him when we were 16! I have pics of us two that would crack your asses up! Him with his weird curly mullet and numberous concert t-shirts. Me and big blonde bangs and straight leg jeans with zippers and lace on the ankles!!!

My point in all of this endless rambling is that sometimes even true love doesn't work out but it is still there. Sometimes two ppl need to live different lives to be happy. In a perfect world he would've wanted what I wanted: to stay here and have a family. But he would've been miserable! He needs corporate life in a city, travel, and to be single. Five minutes with my kids and he'd be running for the first exit out of the room.

I've fallen in love again (obviously, I'm married) and I know he's loved other women but not the same way we love each other. We've accepted the way things have worked out but it has not changed our feelings for each other.

to throw in my 2 cents

I belive that true love for me shall exist, or at least the dream of it. The last woman i had a relationship i thought i loved, and if she was still here i probably would too, but since she moved ive figured out that i can live my life without thinking of her and when we were going out id change somethings about myself for her( i did them on my own she didnt tell me to or anything).

The girl i just got to know probably a week ago ive kinda knew, but not much thought she was mildly atractive. Well i became friends with one of her friends. and once me and her started talking over christmas break( and by talk i mean we friggen talked for about 4 hours a day) and i can say that i love her, her personality i love her as a person if u take away all things related to sex i would still want to spend my day with her, some things i cant even explain. before i met this girl it was more if i thought a girl was hot then that was the most important thing. but beings im working toward even a better relationship with this girl im going to belive in love, just so i have something to explain what i feel :)

Love there is so many kinds of it.
stoned peng I didn't say I love you to my bf untill I was sure. I would think about it and it would be on the tip of my tounge but I never said it untill I was sure. Like alot of you I think that the I love you phrase is overly missused.
And these people that cheat I can't believe that. I mean yes you have to admitt that you have been tempted I was but then I turned around the next couple of days and talked about it with my boyfriend. It was hard.
I think that true love is when you can tell the person your with anything and I mean anything!! and you won't feel like your judged and they will still love and accept you as you are.
You have to have the sexual spark to (if it's that sort of love)
I consider love sort of a friendship too
It is so hard to pinpoint.

love is when she laughs every time you fart....
that may sound like a joke, but that level of similarity is bliss.
i guess its only similarity when you laugh too, though.
and i do.

If I could define love, maybe I wouldn't be where I am not ;)

I'm a little disillusioned with the whole concept of true love right now... at this point, I'm just not too sure it's worth the risk...

:rolleyes:

love is bullshit... no no.. just kidding.. in my opinion love is indisscribeable( you can't describe it.. i kjnow i spelled that wrong).. love is a feeling that you can only feel and not describe, in my opinion... remember thats my opinion!!

4thpower... it is deffinetly worth the risk... its a learning experience that EVERYONE should go through...but after reading your post a second time i am guessing that you have had the down side of love... if thats the case remember that you will never find real love without looking for it....

I dont think you would ever be able to split up with or seperate from your true love. That's the way I see it. I've had quite a few girlfriends, but only ever though I was in love once, but then after we split up, I realised that if I had loved her as much as I thought, and she had loved me as much as she thought (or said she did =/) then we never would have split up. When people get married its because of love, but then they bget divorved, so it cant have been true love. I know when/if I find my true love (if she exists), that i'll know she's my true love, because nothing will split us up... Til then, it wont really be true love, just glorified lust. Just how I see it

glorified lust!!! haha,,, very true...

Ghost, you're true love won't necessarally match up with what real life has in store. It doesn't mean that you will stay together. Glorified lust is sex, it has nothing to do with love. Who's to say you won't meet the love of your life and she won't be married already? Or maybe you will be? Hopefully, you'll find her while you're both still young and unattached and all life circumstances will be in your favor. Then, there's always the possibility that you will not meet her until later in life.

If we all could stay with the one we love the most, it would be a perfect world. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you when you do find her, my friend. :) The hardest part of all is realizing true love while you have it and not later on.

Exactly right, MJM, and very well put, if I may say so :)

I would say that I have met my 'true-love'...but it wasn't to be :(

The problem that I have now, is how the heck is the next girl gonna measure up!
Lmao...do I settle for second-best, when I've already sampled the best?
If my sights were set high then, you can imagine the problem that I have now lol

But there ya go, maybe there's such a thing as 'two-of-a-kind'...
:D

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Originally Posted by maryjanemama

Ghost, you're true love won't necessarally match up with what real life has in store. It doesn't mean that you will stay together. Glorified lust is sex, it has nothing to do with love. Who's to say you won't meet the love of your life and she won't be married already? Or maybe you will be? Hopefully, you'll find her while you're both still young and unattached and all life circumstances will be in your favor. Then, there's always the possibility that you will not meet her until later in life.

If we all could stay with the one we love the most, it would be a perfect world. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you when you do find her, my friend. :) The hardest part of all is realizing true love while you have it and not later on.

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Well, thats my point, MJM.. I could meet the person that I think is the love of my life, and she could be married, so probably nothing will come of it.. If that happens, then i'll know that she wasnt the love of my life. As much as I dont believe in fate and destiny and anything that cant be proved, there is one thing that I believe in - That your 'true love' is the person you're 'destined' (for want of a better word) to be together, and because of that, your true love wont be married, and you will stay together.. Anyone else you get with up until that point isnt really your true-love, no matter how much you thought it was.. Do you see what im saying?

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Originally Posted by RESiNATE

Exactly right, MJM, and very well put, if I may say so :)

I would say that I have met my 'true-love'...but it wasn't to be :(

The problem that I have now, is how the heck is the next girl gonna measure up!
Lmao...do I settle for second-best, when I've already sampled the best?
If my sights were set high then, you can imagine the problem that I have now lol

But there ya go, maybe there's such a thing as 'two-of-a-kind'...
:D

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My advice - Wait until you find someone, and under no circumstances should you compare her to your ex-wife, or to your relationship with your ex-wife.. Just enjoy the moment :)

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Originally Posted by RESiNATE

Exactly right, MJM, and very well put, if I may say so :)

I would say that I have met my 'true-love'...but it wasn't to be :(

The problem that I have now, is how the heck is the next girl gonna measure up!
Lmao...do I settle for second-best, when I've already sampled the best?
If my sights were set high then, you can imagine the problem that I have now lol

But there ya go, maybe there's such a thing as 'two-of-a-kind'...
:D

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sounds like you have the same problem that I have... any other girls I know or meet are completely boring to me. It doesn't seem that any other girl can measure up...

Ghost, I see your point but I don't agree with it. I know what I know from my own experience. I am glad that you believe in true love, though, since I know you don't believe in much of anything that can't be proven. :)

Hey, Res, why don't you look that girl up and see if she's still available? That's what I would do. Hopefully, all those bridges haven't been burned.

If only it were that simple, MJM :o
*sighs*

Some things are just not meant to be...

Love taught me how to lie ;)

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Originally Posted by dog420

Love taught me how to lie ;)

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life taught me to die? :)

. Hmmm, I'm no authourity on love, to put it simply. But heres my 2 cents.

People change, if you continue to grow, what was once best for you will no longer be whats best for the future/present you. Perhaps you will meet somone who can better compliment the future you?

I'm not really going to define love, who truely can? Is all love not different, with each person & thing? I for one can love someone or something without a problem, love is easy.........However like is a harder thing to achieve for me, or even hang onto once I have achieved it.

Example. I was with the same guy from 15-23 and I loved him but I learned I didn't like him...get it or am I really fucked up right now? :confused:

IMO.....If you can like the person you love, you have it made!