Gay freind!!what do i do?

Ok so i'm experiencing a big problem and of course i can't talk about with
anybody except to the internet!
Ok so i had this freind for a long time but one day i was sleeping aver at his place and he was all weird(litteraly gay) i told him that he was being weird...

But then i thought that i was imagining it but now i'm tottaly certain of it:He's gay.
I'd only talked about it to my best freind who said he felt the same way so now i'm sure.
Now the problem starts:I was with a grouyp of freinds nd we were smoking a couple of joints and while i was high i told everybody about him being gay and everything...But now it's been leaked to the school and he knows(my freind that was gay)that i told everybody...I feel really shitty about doing this because i'm really not homophobic but i was high...
I've got a girlfreind and he's started going to see her and saying weird stuff like "has he left you yet...".
He's now got a new group of freinds and everyhting but if ever he would want to be freeinds with me again... what would i, do how would i reject him,not because he's gay but because he wants to be gay with me!
I certain about my sexuality and i'm no gay so what the fucjk do i do?

I guess having a smoke is the best solution :rastasmoke::rastasmoke::rastasmoke::rastasmoke::s toned::rasta:

If anybody intrested in y age i'm 14.

yo you from america?

this is why you never open your mouth man. because if you cant keep that little shit to yourself no tellin what the hell you would say under pressure.

I've been under reeseure to say things tons of times and i've ket my mouth shut .but this was different i needed to express myself but i wass high too.

well man im not here to judge you im just sayin gotta keep shit to yourself no matter if your drunk or high

yeah you're right!!!


I ate about 3 gr of hash when will i fell the effect(i ate it raw)

Bad move on your part..only way to make it right is if you turn gay and have a friend tell the whole school :thumbsup:

ok, uhh

1) why would you tell that to a sewing circle of guys in the first place, thats fucked up on your part i dont care how high you were.

2) you say your not homophobic but you would reject being friends with him because you think he likes you. i am fairly certain that IF he wanted to be friends with you again he wouldnt like you like that because you fucked him over so hardcore.

did he even tell you he was gay? do you really know for certain? well even if he is, you still shafted him hardcore.

Who gives a shit!

I am a raging Lezbo! There i said it. I feel so liberated!

I like girls....I prefer girls over boys!

Tell him you aren't interested him in that way.

I been hit on by so many gays, it'd make your head spin. If you keep giving him ideas by not saying anything, well, he'll keep being interested in you.

A firm "NO" will do it and ensure he never hits on you again.

Listen to the advice in this thread, accept your friend for who he is, and quit using "I was high" as an excuse. That's an excuse for why you left the fridge open or why you ate a dozen tacos, not why you disrespected your friend like that. It's no excuse for that.

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Originally Posted by Pudge

Listen to the advice in this thread, accept your friend for who he is, and quit using "I was high" as an excuse. That's an excuse for why you left the fridge open or why you ate a dozen tacos, not why you disrespected your friend like that. It's no excuse for that.

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That's right. No excuses. If you can't respect your friends high, you shouldn't get high.

He was your friend and if your friendship ever had any merit to begin with he will respect that you are just FRIENDS.... of course, since you disrespected HIM... he owes you um... nothing! You should go say you're sorry. No excuses.

That's your fault buddy, if you really are a friend you shouldn't give a fuck about how he lives his life.

Best to keep your nose out if he is gay he will tell you when he is ready to and at that time give him your support, if he ever comes on to you tell him politely that you are not interested. As for the rumour you started tell everyone it was a mistake that you were stoned when you started it and it is not true.

Cheers
NCM

Buddy dont sleep at his place ever agian!!!! Fire pon a chi-chi

1. grow up. if you cant keep thoughs to your self whilst stoned, dont smoke.
2. if he's never told you he was gay you had no base to say anything anyways.
3. get off thinking he wants to be with you. after that dick move you pulled, i'm pretty certain if he ever did want to get with you (which im sure he DIDNT) he's probabley so over it you can kiss even a friendship goodbye.

as for the other kid,
i feel bad for him, thats pretty messed up, and dont hide behind weed.... you probabley were dying for an exucse to say something.


and don't say your not homophobic when clearly his sexuality is your biggest cause for concern. though i have no statistical evidence in my experience, it's the homophobes who are certain every gay person has a crush on them.
from a gay person (me!)
we dont.


nobody likes jerks

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Originally Posted by sailboat

and don't say your not homophobic ..... it's the homophobes who are certain every gay person has a crush on them.

we don't

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Oh my goodness I absolutely LOVE this quote!!!

Dude u really shuldent care, apologize to him.

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Originally Posted by sailboat

1. grow up. if you cant keep thoughs to your self whilst stoned, dont smoke.
2. if he's never told you he was gay you had no base to say anything anyways.
3. get off thinking he wants to be with you. after that dick move you pulled, i'm pretty certain if he ever did want to get with you (which im sure he DIDNT) he's probabley so over it you can kiss even a friendship goodbye.

as for the other kid,
i feel bad for him, thats pretty messed up, and dont hide behind weed.... you probabley were dying for an exucse to say something.


and don't say your not homophobic when clearly his sexuality is your biggest cause for concern. though i have no statistical evidence in my experience, it's the homophobes who are certain every gay person has a crush on them.
from a gay person (me!)
we dont.


nobody likes jerks

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Nuff said. :pimp:

Child, you blew it! A person's sexual preference is their own business. You don't need to be blabbing it around. Being high is a piss-poor excuse! Every gay I've known, has been willing to take no for an answer (in prison, it might be another story). I have had several friends who were gay, both male and female. I don't claim to understand being gay, but there is something wrong when loving someone is wrong, a sin, immoral, etc (as long as they are adults, or at least of similar ages, anyway).

Your friend, if he forgives you, is still your friend. What he does in bed has little to do with you, once you make YOUR preference known. 99% of what a person is, has NOTHING to do with who (or what) they fuck. Are you willing to lose a friend over that 1%? It's sad if you are willing to do that over something as trivial as sexual preference.

Lighten up, child, and accept others as they are. The world is NOT run according to your perceptions. - Granny:hippy:

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Originally Posted by Storm Crow

Lighten up, child, and accept others as they are. The world is NOT run according to your perceptions. - Granny:hippy:

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thank you.

you have to eiather stab him in the heart with somthing made of wood or cut off the head

hmm.... maybe i'm wrong in saying, but i think you should just suck it up and deal with it, it's kidna fucked up to tell people that, whether you trust whoever you're telling or not... that's teh type of shit that can ruin lives... i've seen it happen, my best friend is gay, and when he came out in high school his life was living hell for a good while....

doesn't get much shit now adays, but back then he was at the point of suicide...

you literally may very well have wrecked the dude's life... i think you need to tell him you're sorry at the very least and it was never your intention for the outcome that happened... then spend the rest of your life making it up to him.. it's not like breaking a bowl or soemthing that you can just replace, everyone knows now and the damage is done... it's time for you to step up and start trying to make restitution...

you really fucked up. there is probably no good end to the situation now, you cant be friends with him again, not the same, you telling everyone he was gay before he even said as much to you let alone the entire school isnt something that will blow over in a day. my advice is this. you are fourteen, move on, apologize, thats really all that can be done on your end.

seriously though, I was friends with a gay person, he said it was hard being just friends with an attractive guy..i never really cared about the fact that he was gay. As far as telling other people hes gay, that should'nt matter, people have to find out sometime..if hes offended by you stating facts than thats his problem. If you become friends with him again just make it clear that you are 100% strait.

Why would you tell?! Im sure if he wanted people to know he would have told. At your age he'll be torn up in public school. Thats horrible. You could have ruined his whole school life now. What a schmuck.

When your young being gay is a big thing, but when u mature you learn it aint such a big problem.... But if i was your it would be really hard to rebuild your relationship with ur friend... i would watch my gurl and get a new bro man.

yea who cares dude, you may have just lost a really good friend due to your immatureness. I dont know why when people see gay people they always think OMG THEIR GONNA HIT ON ME EWW, WTF why would we want to hit on you???? you really think we would try to get with straight people , why would we set ourself up for that kind of failure? come on now... and you know if he tryed to be ur friend again i feel bad for him its only cuz hes lonely. But if you were any kind of a friend you would apologize and try to get past it. FUNNY how their was no conflict before and all of a sudden you find out hes gay.. haha and you try to say your not homophobic .. come on now.. be real with yourself..


im female.. and i prefer females over males any day.. BUT if theirs that hot man oh man i cant say no lol:thumbsup::stoned::stoned:

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Originally Posted by sailboat

1. grow up. if you cant keep thoughs to your self whilst stoned, dont smoke.
2. if he's never told you he was gay you had no base to say anything anyways.
3. get off thinking he wants to be with you. after that dick move you pulled, i'm pretty certain if he ever did want to get with you (which im sure he DIDNT) he's probabley so over it you can kiss even a friendship goodbye.

as for the other kid,
i feel bad for him, thats pretty messed up, and dont hide behind weed.... you probabley were dying for an exucse to say something.


and don't say your not homophobic when clearly his sexuality is your biggest cause for concern. though i have no statistical evidence in my experience, it's the homophobes who are certain every gay person has a crush on them.
from a gay person (me!)
we dont.


nobody likes jerks

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I'm not going to lie to any of you cause there is no point.
I'm in no way homophobic(if that's how you write it)but i'm sorry to say that i don' want to hang out with a gay person who's attracted to me.
And yes i do have a bases to saying he's gay but i'm not going to get into detail.
I'm truly going to say that i know i made a bad move...
I live in france and not everybody at school knows.Quite a few people know but not everybody!
The reasoning for me rejecting him, if ever he wanted to be freinds with me again,goes further than him being gay.
He's never going to get pushed around at school cause he aint a pushoverand he has got freinds he's not alone he's just not my freind.
tRUE I DO NEED TO GROWUP and i'm aware of it and i made a big mistake but apart from apolagizing there is no soulution.
Peace and love:rastasmoke:

that's the only thing i don't like about gay-right freedom (again, my best friend is gay) if you choose not to hang out with someone that is obviously attracted to you (so you say, i can't know for sure o.0) you get accused by everyoen of being homophobic...

my best friend has been 'in love' with me for years upon years....

with all that being said, i still hung out with him, he stillw as my best friend, he just had no hope of it progressing, which did cause problems at points... but now he's with someone and has been for like 4 years nearly, and i'm married nad have a kid....

it shouldn't really bother you if he finds you attractive, he can't help that, just when he incestiantly bugs you or crosses the no touching boundry...

but agian, that's your choice to make and you shouldn't be ridiculed... it can be a strain on both people if one is attracted and the other is not... kidna like pouring salt in an open wound...

luckily for us things are 'normal' now and we're just purely bestfriends now...

I think the only way to make this right is to blow your buddy at the 50 yard line at the half time of your schools football game.

Just kidding. Everyone fucks up at 14. You dropped the ball. Hopefully you learned an important life lesson. Be a man, appologize to him, and move on.

- Slow -

I told people that im bi, but i was worried bout nothing cos where i am no one really cares.. theres alot of them out there, males and females... :jointsmile:

hash raw?

so your friend is gay, let him suck you off and close your eyes. your little head has no conscience or cares.
if you didnt know and you slept over at his house and woke up with a sore ass would you question it?
now that you know you can be at the very east be aware.
I am glad i am not a personal friend of yours as it would seem that I or anyone else for that matter would have to CONFORM to your jaded views on life.

You are young, you're going to do dumb stuff. But learn from it, dude. Learn to keep your mouth shut and to think more than 5 minutes ahead and you won't wind up here again, ya know.

Apologize profusely and do not use being high as an excuse.
And it wouldn't hurt to learn more about what it means and (more importantly) doesn't mean to be gay.

I'm gay, im "out" but still I would be horrified if I found out a friend of mine had gone and told people to whom it was no concern. I would seriously be pissed off. There is no need for some people to know. People who are close to you work things out eventually.

You must know what it's like to have feelings you can't control, when you are young you experiment....all you had to do was say you wern't interested and that you don't care if he's gay, but it's not for you.

You should be there for him as a friend if he needs someone to chat to or some help. I hope you sort things out between you.

lol it will pass just like everything else in your life. it doesnt really matter the outcome of this because its insignifigant, but itd be nice if you apologised to him and didnt repeat it..

*accidents happen, moods are different with different people, so are mindsets, dont even worry about it because most likely youll end up being friends again.

Have your friend cook you dinner.

smoke him up