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So i have always been pretty much an independent person. I mean im not a shut in by no means, i hang out with friends all the time. I just wanted to know, is it bad to be a loner. Not want companionship a gf/bf or whatever. I mean ive had gfs before and yes ive had sex quite a few times. But i just dont feel the need for a girl friend, i just like hanging with friends and being by myself. Is their somthing wrong with this?
I feel the same way at times
I am in every detail of your post an exact opposite of you.
It's beneficial to have meaningful social relationships in your life. If you feel fulfilled with a few close friends thats fine, but don't alienate yourself from the world and the possibility of making new friends.
I ask myself the same question everyday. So you aren't alone.Quote:
Originally Posted by Third_Eye
While others are out there with the desire that they must have a g/f, I don't particulary care. Sometimes I feel alone and wish I could have that companionship, but I need a perfect blend of mental and physical stimulation to feel a true sense of attraction. I'm tired of trying, the girls I come across are either to boring, or lack the mindset I desire. The sad thing is physical attractiveness is not at all important to me, so this should be easy to find the one, but it's not :(
well one thing we all have in common is water...
so im blaming the god dam h20
I am also a loner, I have a couple really good friends but most people i just cant stand usually because they make extreamly false perceptions of me and I end up just fucking them up in the head because they cant understand me no matter how much they want to.
I feel like this year I went through a big loner faze. I think I was just turned off by people for a while and lately I have been talking to some of my old friends and trying to be more social agian. It's wierd in 11ths grade I was out every night with a lot of people then a lot of bad shit happened and I just wanted to be by myself.
It's normal, while now, if I found a boyfriend, that'd be great. But now in life, I need to be alone and get my life straight. Then after I can have a chance at happiness.
I'm a loner myself and really shy. I am not totally anti-social, but I get depressed when I am out with people sometimes. If I go out, I try my best not to go out with more than 2 or 3 people.
Hell for me would be going out to a bar with people. I just can't stand big crowds, let alone ones at a bar. I guess my high vibrations do not resonate with their lower vibrations.
I don't date either. It's ironic because I do know and talk to a lot of good looking women.
I mean I'm cool, but I just prefer to be by myself.
I consider most people to be ignorant. Deep down I feel kind of superior to most people. I feel like I stand out. The closest place I would feel to actually belonging would probably be some kind of temple or church. Maybe this contributes to my shyness.
It's only bad when you are plotting to kill people, but other than that, I see nothing wrong with being alone. Think of it this way...you won't catch their germs.
I am really laid back so I pretty much just hang out with people for laughs
You dont need to be anti social just be yourself and GOOF THE FUCK OFF when your out with friends, no awkward silences if your all goofing around, your young just out and do whatever you want.
yeah man i was on drug probation and wrecked two cars and went through the exact same thing this past senior year without a car :(Quote:
Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
Third Eye:
I have not read all the replies yet, but you sound pretty sane to me.
I worry about the people who have to be in a relationship to be happy.
Don't question who you are. If the right relationship comes around you will know it. Until then just enjoy life.
Always remember when you find that someone special that there is a 50% chance that they will tear out your heart and take half of everything you own and hate you for the rest of your life.
But at least you will be rid of them and can do your own thing.
Thoughts like that keep me warm at night. But I am just a romantic fool.
Do whatever feels right hun. There are no "rules" for relationships. As long as you dont end up being the uni-bomber I think your fine.
Ive been aloner all my life. I was a poor kid in my early years never had friends, Had a few friends in highschool but I dont comunicate normal so....I smoked a lot of weed for fun. Still a loner, but getting money.
Not to sound like a dick, as I know alot of people who are loners, but maybe it will help if you dont smoke so much weed. Just cut it down a bit and see how it goes, as weed is a very anti-motivational drug, at least with certain people