Mom found an 1/8 of bud...

My parents found out that I have been smoking, as they found about 1/8 of swag in my drawer.

My mom was more sad then anything.

I had a brother who died at birth, who would have been a big brother to me. My mom brought up how myself and my sister are her world - and she doesn't want anything bad to happen to me, like my big brother. Basically she cares about me a lot and is very worried. I have about a 2.5 GPA, and my mom worries about me making it in life and what not.

Like you guys, I realize her severe misconception of Marijuana, but I do realize that I don't want to become a hardcore stoner who smokes every day. How do I get the message through to my mom that there is nothing wrong with the casual bud smoker maybe once a week or so as recreational use, or maybe even just make her feel better?

sit down and just talk to her about it, tell her its not afecting your school work, tell her how you feel about it.

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Originally Posted by tokinballer

sit down and just talk to her about it, tell her its not afecting your school work, tell her how you feel about it.

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For sure :thumbsup: Just level with her. Tell her you don't use it everyday, stress the occasional use. Maybe even work a little harder at school so that she knows you can handle both? :)

Dude, I was in a very similar situation in high school. My parents discovered that I use cannabis regularly and were pretty disappointed by it. You wanna know how I eventually got them to shut the fuck up? WELL!? DO YOU?!

I graduated highscool with a 3.5+ GPA and went on to a challenging private university. Considering that neither of my nuclear parents have a college degree, they couldn't say shit about me being a 'lazy stoner'. And I smoke EVERYDAY, at least once.

The fact that you have a low GPA and show no sings of being successfull is a legitimate reason for concern for your mother. I realize that she probably has a warped perception of MJ and that is unfortunate. But it doesn't help the situation when you do nothing to proactively change her views on pot. Do us all a favor:

Get a job, join a club, fucking study for all I care. But do SOMETHING positive to show her that you can be productive AND be high as fuck all day. If you can't do that, then hang yourself with a piano string because your slacking is giving us all a bad name.

Hey first off how old are you? Me myself I think if youâ??re under 18 you shouldnâ??t smoke..... Second if you are under 18 listen to your mom/dad/ parents. If you truly love your mom and dad you would respectfully talk to your parents explain if it helps, how it helps, explain why you smoke. If you take this sit. and talk to them as a mature adult even if they tell you not to smoke they will prob. respect you more in the long run and they will see that you guys can talk as mature adults...... but most of all if your 18 then do what you want but be respectful about it theirs no need to be a dick about the sit.. Talking is the best thing.... because worse comes to worse they can call the cops on you and have you arrested

Current and former marijuana use: preliminary findings of a longitudinal study of effects on IQ in young adults -- Fried et al. 166 (7): 887 -- Canadian Medical Association Journal
Current and former marijuana use: preliminary findings of a longitudinal study of effects on IQ in young adults

It says that MODERATE (weekend) use RAISES your IQ! (You kids should print out a copy of this- just in case!)

Granny:hippy:

shit man...did she give it back? lol

you should just explain to her about how it's not dangerous and how more people die each year from getting kicked in the head by a donkey than from marijuana use.

and really. DO YOUR DAMN HOMEWORK! lol shit man, as long as you can keep your grades at/above a 3.0, i don't think anybody can classify you as a lazy stoner.

and if she's cool with you smoking after all that has happened...

proceed to roll one up and offer her a hit!

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Originally Posted by Just1n

Dude, I was in a very similar situation in high school. My parents discovered that I use cannabis regularly and were pretty disappointed by it. You wanna know how I eventually got them to shut the fuck up? WELL!? DO YOU?!

I graduated highscool with a 3.5+ GPA and went on to a challenging private university. Considering that neither of my nuclear parents have a college degree, they couldn't say shit about me being a 'lazy stoner'. And I smoke EVERYDAY, at least once.

The fact that you have a low GPA and show no sings of being successfull is a legitimate reason for concern for your mother. I realize that she probably has a warped perception of MJ and that is unfortunate. But it doesn't help the situation when you do nothing to proactively change her views on pot. Do us all a favor:

Get a job, join a club, fucking study for all I care. But do SOMETHING positive to show her that you can be productive AND be high as fuck all day. If you can't do that, then hang yourself with a piano string because your slacking is giving us all a bad name.

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Very true. Actions speak louder than words. Continue to smoke if you want, keep it secret from your parents, and get your shit together. Get a job and get As. I realize how meaningless high school grades are, but trust me, it will help. The best way to prove you're not a lazy stoner is to not to be one.

Other than that, sit her down and talk to her. Ask her why she doesn't want you to smoke, and refute every negative thing she says. May want to read up on weed a bit. Erowid is a nice source. Bring up the positives as well.

Good luck.

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Originally Posted by Just1n

Do us all a favor:

Get a job, join a club, fucking study for all I care. But do SOMETHING positive to show her that you can be productive AND be high as fuck all day. If you can't do that, then hang yourself with a piano string because your slacking is giving us all a bad name.

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Damn Just1n, that's too harsh. Seriously. He obviously cares about this issue or he wouldn't have started the thread to begin with. He was being completely open and honest and asking for help. You can get your point across in a positive manner, and doing so would mean he would be more apt to actually follow your advice.

My parents found out a week ago. They were disappointed and I told them I wouldnt do it again...I smoked a blunt this morning :D

Im gonna keep it a secret from them...theres nothing I could do to change there minds and Im 1 year away from turning 18 and thats when I move out :D (I have $15,000 saved up and a good job)

Well good luck and keep toking.

First, I have a job and work enough to not be called lazy.
Second, any discussion on me saying how I feel might make the situation more sad for them because I want to smoke.
Third, any additional tips on how to smoke and have your parents not know?

Pumpkin, get a vaporizer! NO SMELL to speak of and it is MUCH better for your lungs! - Granny:hippy:

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Originally Posted by Storm Crow

Current and former marijuana use: preliminary findings of a longitudinal study of effects on IQ in young adults -- Fried et al. 166 (7): 887 -- Canadian Medical Association Journal
Current and former marijuana use: preliminary findings of a longitudinal study of effects on IQ in young adults

It says that MODERATE (weekend) use RAISES your IQ! (You kids should print out a copy of this- just in case!)

Granny:hippy:

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wow is that a legit site?
that's amazing!

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Originally Posted by Storm Crow

Pumpkin, get a vaporizer! NO SMELL to speak of and it is MUCH better for your lungs! - Granny:hippy:

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Deffinatley. Plus the high is niceee.

CHARTS AND GRAPHS!! :)

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Originally Posted by tokinballer

sit down and just talk to her about it, tell her its not afecting your school work, tell her how you feel about it.

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do you think a mom would wanna here if i smoke maryjane and get good grades can i still smoke....hek no

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Originally Posted by Storm Crow

It says that MODERATE (weekend) use RAISES your IQ!

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well... once i did an IQ test while stoned, and scored 10 point HIGHER than the last time i did one, sober.

my advice is to tell her that it isnt running (or ruining) your life. ask her if she would rather you drink. point out that you could be out there robbing stores, or smoking crack and giving BJ's for that next rock (ok, that is an example, dont use it, come up with your own.). show her the negatives you COULD be doing, but arnt.

Try this: tell her you're going to come home randomly one night out of the next month blazed off your ass. And once drunk off your ass. If she even notices when you come home high, it'll be because you down a bag of chips and laugh extra hard at a comedy or something. Come home drunk, piss on the couch, take off your shirt and hang it on a plant, kiss the door and pass out in the hallway. "Hey mom, a bunch of people are out getting sloshed right now and all I'm doing is smiling and giggling. Is this really harmful?"

And you said it would make your parents sadder because you "want to smoke"... why the fuck do you think they think you smoked in the first place? If they *actually* think it's some demon that controls your actions they need to step into the twentyfirst century. It's a choice. The same way alcohol is a choice (one you're hopefully not making *shrug* personal preference)

Meh just don't let them know you smoke be stealthier about it.

it occurs to me you must find a common ground figure out something she does thats just plain weird or odd...ie bondage and tell her you wont tell her mom if shes quiet.....this reminds me of the time i caught my dad smoking herb in my garage at thanksgiving dinner ... i was on my way out there to do the same shit he had a fattie so did i it turned into a very nice father son experience.... i love my pappy

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Originally Posted by slpntrx5

you should just explain to her about how it's not dangerous and how more people die each year from getting kicked in the head by a donkey than from marijuana use.

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yeh but you've got to remember that to some people drugs is drugs no matter how hard a drug it is it doesnt matter to them.

And the fact is people can get mental health issues from smoking it, i don't know what the chances are but it can happen, so she would look at it from that point of veiw and not the fact that can't die from it.

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Originally Posted by bluntblaze

yeh but you've got to remember that to some people drugs is drugs no matter how hard a drug it is it doesnt matter to them.

And the fact is people can get mental health issues from smoking it, i don't know what the chances are but it can happen, so she would look at it from that point of veiw and not the fact that can't die from it.

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The actual numbers are roughly *1 in 10,000, but it's never been proven that cannabis is the cause. Cannabis appears to make underlying problems arise, and then get's the blame, when really, it's doing everyone a favour, because once you know theres something wrong it can be dealt with if needed.

* in UK.

u can do the vaporizor...but i think they are worthless....u can get a small bowl or something tiny....keep ur stash 20-30$ worth and hid it somewhere better then in a drawer...ive been smoking 2 years in my house and no one knows...still...

Its like anything, you know?

If your mom caught you with a case of beer in your room would she still get sad and worry about you making it far now that she knows you're into getting a little fucked up here and there?

Mine would have. Wouldn't have mattered if it were me passed out with an emty needle sticking in my arm or if she caught me with an empty beer can. She'd get worried that I'd care more about getting fucked up than I would ever about getting anywhere fabulous in life. Especially after shit she had seen and done and the times in her life when a buzz was more important than anything for her at certain points and she'd go on to tell me how much she had given up for those buzzes and how much she could have had if she never experienced it in the first place, and had put that effort into anything she wanted to. Of course, she used to be a very hard-drug abuser before I popped out. She knew the danger of finding anything inebriating, because she went down the road of caring more about being fucked up than graduating school or respecting loved ones that are dead and now she has to live with all those regrets, even to this day when I am a once-in-a-great-while part of her life and she doesn't have to guard me anymore. Just because I've grown up and kept jobs and have houses and had careers doesn't change the fact for her that she did what she did. A lot of people, even your mother, have seen the kind of hold inebriating substances can have on people. She's probably seen a life or two destroyed by them.

Talk to her about how your life matters more than any buzz and mean it. That may help her out.

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Originally Posted by MetalGuru

Vapes are chill. Blunts are chiller.

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Blunts are in no way chiller than vapes if you're getting caught from the smell of them.

Luckily for me, my parents (specifically, my father) smoke just as much if not more weed than I do. They don't like me doing it, but they don't throw a fit if the living room smells like cannabis either. So long as I keep my bud (and any bought accessories) in a safe location, I can do what I please.

fortunately we live in an era where the younger generations are smart enough not to fall for the same anti-MJ propaganda that most of our parents and grandparents did.

tell her that it is just weed... no biggies,... my mom used to smoke with me and im 17 no job atm she even let me borrow her money to buy weed....

Whats wrong with ppl that smoke everyday

get better grades to show her bud doesnt make you stupid:thumbsup:

Get those grades up and show her that you care about your future before you try talking to her about the negatives and positives about smoking weed.