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I've been smoking pretty regularly for a couple years now, and I've been dating this girl for a while. I recently told her i quit and only smoke occasionally now, she's really against it, and thinks it changes me and would ruin our relationship. When i used to smoke and we were dating i wouldn't talk to her because I'd be smoking with my buddies, i cant convince her that its ok, doesn't change me, and wouldn't effect our relationship. What should i do?
All you can do is tell her how you feel and see what happens. If she is still adamant about her disapproval, and you aren't willing to quit for her it may mean the end of your relationship. I hope things work out for you both.
id just tell her that it doesnt change you... and has she done it before...? if not id ask her how does she know it changes you?
if it comes down to it... its only pot right? if you really like her fuck pot! u just gotta decide whats more important.
actually ive had a similar experience.. when ive been with a girl that was really against pot. from the begining i was upfront about it. i told her that i smoke it ocassionally (every 2nd week or so and that i used to do it regularly) which is true... she didnt like it much but but she liked me enough that she could deal with it... however if i smoked up regularly i dont think she ever wudda put up with it.
I'm the opersite, I say fuck her! There are plenty more chicks who are at least a little open minded.Quote:
Originally Posted by Canadian_Cron
MY SOLUTION TO YOUR PROBLEM~
Get her to try it, then if she gets into it, slowly let her in to your buddies, and she how she acts and what they think of her. CUZ guys they are always right when it comes to girls like that. If they like her, then its like you can get to have the best of both worlds, knowing you will take her back to your place and make love then say bye and then do what you please. SEE you get to make her happy because you are spending time together, and you can still smoke pot with your buddies.
THEN END
I don't think it was a good idea lying in the first place.
You gotta be honest about yourself, and if she really likes you she'll accept you for who you are.
Definitely better to be honest about your habits. I was with someone who didn't smoke and it was a big issue.
I agree with thcbongman.:)
Personally I have to be with someone that at least tokes up now and then. Just my 2 cents..:cool:
1.First Mistake-You recently told her you quit....Never Lie to make yourself look better to someone you care about?Quote:
Originally Posted by matthiasj
2.Second mistake- You Are dating someone who HATES POT... PErsonally someone who smokes and a non-smoker is just asking for problems
So in my opinion its already shot...
But anyways try and tell her as nicely as you can "Dont knock it till you try it" ya know?
If that doesnt work get really pissed and get her angry then have makeup sex when you lie to her and tell her you will quit for her.
Or just dont follow any of the shitty advice I just posted.
Make it last as long as possible because it aint gonna last forever. Don't change yourself for ANYONE but YOU. Don't be pussy whipped. If you wanna smoke cannabis, then do it.
well i like her and i love pot. she's cool and would be cool with me smoking possibly if she thought it wouldn't make me not want to be with her (she thinks it makes me want to ignore her and not talk to her) no she has never smoked and says she'd rather pop pills than smoke a joint, she things its harmful to your health, and i know its illegal but you gotta be careful. i'm not really willing to quit, i dont see a problem with it, my goal is to get her to be cool with it.