Being a nice guy.......

I am a "nice guy" in it's true meaning. Not a hopeless nice guy though. I will stand up for myself, it's just that I:
- seek the approval of others
- I avoid conflict
- I have a difficulty asking for help

Maybe, I've just had it too easy my entire life. I've always gotten what I wanted very easily. I never needed help from anyone, and I got to where I am with little effort.

If someone looked at my position, they'd say it's near perfect, but I'm not happy.

I'm starting to think being a "nice guy" sucks....

What's everyone's opinions?

I used to be a nice guy. I grew out of it.

Being a Security Officer in the ghettos of Downtown Toronto has jaded me a lot. Not so much as that I am not a nice guy anymore, but I do have a lot less sympathy for people who aren't willing to hack it in life, as well as becoming wiser to the ways of people who make a living off of deception and guile.

That being said, I have been taken advantage of a lot by women... wait, girls... when I was in high school because of my 'nice guy' image. It also led one of the football players to pull a knife on me and mug me for a half quarter one day after school. That was 2 years ago, when I weighed 135 and was all skin and bones. I'm 190 lbs now, and I _will not_ let a girl walk all over me again, similarly, I won't hesitate to beat the piss out of some fool who tries to pull a shank on me.

Being a nice guy doesn't mean avoid confrontation, or being happy with simply getting along with everyone, because there are people who will take advantage of you.

Like Rocky said: "The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody isn't gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward."

Be a nice guy, because its a good thing to be an easy-going, enjoyable, smart person to be around.

Don't be a nice guy for the sake of being a nice guy.

Being a nice guy does indeed SUCK. You're always "the friend" when you're the nice guy.

I'm a nice guy, and while I hold down my aggression for people who are rude and inconsiderate, my only solution is to maintain a positive attitude and move forward. The unfortunate part is that I have put up with this my whole life. Bullying in school wasn't much of a problem, however, I kept my distance from people that didn't have many positive things to say. What's even more unfortunate is that I've put up with this behavior from many of my own friends, and I'm speaking about separate people throughout the stages of my life. Mind you it is about a majority, the rest were actually bright people.

Learning from my observations, people's obnoxiousness and crave for the center of attention are half-witted acts that even I have grown enough to understand. I'm all about progression, so I will be nice guy for the sake of man even still if I lose all but the slightest sense of hope.

yeah being the nice guy fucking sucks. i always try really hard to make sure no one gets pissed at me at all, but then somehow i get fucked everytime!

If you are interested in picking up young immature chicks, or just getting a quick lay, then being a nice guy isnt in your interest.

When you start dealing with older women, its a bit better to be a nice guy, but that doesnt mean being a little insecure pussy either, as that turns off most girls.

Its a balancing act really.

Last night, after a rave I met a chick who goes to UCSD (my school). The entire time I was with her I made it obvious to not seem like a "nice guy."
.....long story short......
she asked for my number when we were parting.

As a nice guy, things like this rarely happen.

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Originally Posted by THClord

Last night, after a rave I met a chick who goes to UCSD (my school). The entire time I was with her I made it obvious to not seem like a "nice guy."
.....long story short......
she asked for my number when we were parting.

As a nice guy, things like this rarely happen.

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It's nice to know it worked out for you! Congrats!

How exactly did you change your behavior?

Good for you! Finally you realized being "a nice guy" is only part of who you are.

Like mentioned above, once you learn to balance everything out, things will start to unfold as they should. ~