Flirting

I've checked online guides and downloaded dozens of e-books, and the art of flirting still remains much a mystery to me. So, if any of you all have pondered good flirting, please share your invaluable insights.

Do you guys remember that scene in 40-year Old Virgin, in which he goes into the bookstore and gets the blonde's phone number? Well, I think there is a lot to be learned about the mystery of flirting in that very scene. For example, he was very cool and cooperative. He didn't really do much other than play off her words.

"Can I help you?"
"I don't know. Can you help me?"

Of course, when you're watching you think, "that's lame" or at least I did...I'm a little sleepy folks, so my brain is thinking at full capacity. Am I missing something or that really all there is to it?

All I really know is to seem interesting cause who wants to be bored while trying to meet someone new.

And be mysterious cause who wants to know everything about someone right away.


How to do that? I dunno. Plus there has to be a ton more to it.

Alcohol usually helps though. Not saying that as a joke, it really does.

it's always good to be yourself- if you aren't then the person will become attracted to someone you are not.

also- don't get nervous, people see right through that. Be confident, relaxed. And yes, a little mystery is always appreciated.

and remember, practice makes perfect so flirt with EVERYONE even the creepy gas station attendant- because then you won't screw it up when someone you are actually attracted to comes along.

good call redhotstoner practice does make perfect, it never hurts to flirt, i find myself pushing game on girls that i would never even hang out with let along date, sometimes its just fun to flirt haha

I didn't think it was that serious. Really. I thought harmless flirting was just means to earn a date. You know...show your interest, gain their attraction, give your attention and BAM! You got the digits.

THEN...
After a while, you call and arrange a date...isn't that how it works?Not all flirt initiations end with sex on the first encounter.

Al you have to do to flirt is be who you are....cheesy lines usually get a roll from eyes and a groan of "oh no....." :) A nice smile and a wink are good.Joking around and a "hey sweetheart' get my attention too.:thumbsup::thumbsup: You don't have to come up with lines....it makes you think too hard about when to use them and overthink if you do use 'em.

I was the type who never really attracted girls and I was kinda standoffish but as soon as I started to flirt and spit some game at girls all my girl troubles changed. I guess its not so much as flirting but more that you dont know if someone likes you unless you talk to them and show them a little attraction first. Cant really expect girls to just walk up and make the move on you....unless your like some sexy male model guy that walks in the room and the panties drop.

Flirting is something that gets easier if you know the person a little, even if you've only talked to them once or twice. But generally playing off what they say, or teasing them a little (this one works better and is alot easier if you know them a little, so you don't go to far) works fairly well.

I was the same as not_the_kitty when it came to attracting people, and it changed in the same way as it did for him.

I've actually found I'm really good at flirting, but I don't even know how.. I guess it's just something that some are good at, others not. Maybe with practice..

Confidence and smiling are key. Be funny and be yourself. Alcohol does help.