Any suggestions...

What do you do when a close friend is comitting crimes against fashion? One of my gfs in "real" life has recently gained weight. She's beautiful, the weight doesn't matter...what does matter is she's still trying to squirm her size 12/13 into a 7/8 and she looks ridiculous. Should I say something or keep my mouth shut? What do I say?

My husband has been urging me to say something before someone else tells her about it in a mean way. He's like, "Mary tell her about it coz she's gonna go out one night and some drunk is gonna say, 'Hey, you look like 20 pounds of shit in a 5 pound bag!'" :rolleyes: He says she'd rather hear it nicely from a friend than be pointed to and laughed at by a stranger.

you dont do anything, because its up to her, and people should be told how to dress and look

or you could slap her and say "LOOK IN THE MIRROR, YOU GODDAM TROLL!!"

either way is good :)

Just tell her there's a fine line between self confidence and public decency.

I am with you on the tragicness of such fashion sense but on the other hand unless she asks for your personal opinion you should not say anything. She is your friend and if she is comfortable it shouldn't make any difference.

That was the ethical side of me. Now the other side of me says damn I would probably be mortified goin out with her (I know that is shallow). If some how she could see that clothes that fit are more flattering than looking like strung roast. Some sort of enlarged photo of her in the offending outfit.....
How did that get there :confused: ? you would say

Suggest to go shopping with her? But I guess if she still picks out the 7/8 size clothes she must be in denial? Come on every women has a pair of "fat jeans" lol

see, you can get away with saying such things to her MJM. you yourself are a woman (right? thats what I thought) and as such you are safe from the 'you think I look fat?' situations us men have to deal with. but seriously, she's not likely to be comfortable in the tight clothing, right? I sure as hell wouldn't be...simply suggest that she might not be so constricted in clothing that fits properly. and she also wouldn't look quite so fat...I much prefer my wife telling me before we go out that I have an hole in the ass of my pants big enough to escape from, rather than find out as I take my seat at the symphony and cause the old lady behind me to faint.

Try imitating her for a day or maybe make a comment about someone else who does the same thing.

Ok, for the most part, everyone seems to agree that I need to say/do something to stop her madness. I've already made comments about "other ppl" (strangers) but she doesn't get the hint. She's trying to draw attention to her chest but the tight clothing is also showing all of her extra weight. I don't know how she breathes or sits down without being sliced in half by her own jeans. Well, I'll say something, I'll just have to find a nice way to put it. First, I think I'll buy her something to wear for Christmas in a bigger size, so maybe I can still skate out of having to say something and risk hurt feelings.

kick her if she moves KICK HER AGAIN

for once im not sure what to say:0. I do agree with ur hubby that it would be better commin from u then a stranger, but thinkin about how u would say it is a hard one. i think u have the right idea with gettin her sumthing for christmas in a bigger size. then make sure u reasure her that it looks so much better and she looks slimer;) that works well.lol. other then that im not sure what else u can do :s!! sry babe wish i could help more.